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21 January 2011: I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
All I want for christmas...
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16 December 2010: I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
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23 February 2010: Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
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24 November 2009: So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
Becoming more than FWB
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15 September 2009: I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
The reality of being a teen mum
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20 August 2009: I see a lot of young girls on here who want to become mothers so I thought I'd share a few thoughts on the reality of becoming a teenage mum. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, my boyfriend 18. I'd just finished my GCSE's and planned to go back to schoo...
Being yourself :)
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6 July 2009: I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
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Mother in law interference....
Q. Hi. My mother in law is so controlling. She wants to tell me how to give her money, when to phone her and how many times. She practically wants to run every facet of my life. How i am raising my children. Apparently i am staying with two of her ...
A. 29 September 2011: Your husband should be standing up for you and telling her that her behaviour is unacceptable. If he won't then you need to speak to her yourself. Next time she tells you how you should be doing something just kindly but firmly tell her that while ... (read in full...)
I have a secret ultimatum.
Q. I've given myself a timeline that if he doesn't propose to me by then, I'm going to focus my life on something new. Ive been with him for a few years, and last year October he mentioned he was going to propose in Feburary... its now nearly October ...
A. 29 September 2011: You should have an honest talk with him about how important marriage is to you but I'd advise you not to mention the time frame you have set in your mind. If you do this he will either propose simply because of your emotional blackmail or panic and ... (read in full...)
G/f says she cant have sex due to "girl issues", but she's not on her period. What else could it be?
Q. My girlfreind says she cant have sex due to girl issues.But shes not on her period.What else could it be?...
A. 29 September 2011: Why don't you ask her to explain what she means? If she doesn't want to then spare her the embarasment and just be patient.... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at how ugly I look in our home-made porn film
Q. I know this will sound like a stupid problem, but here it goes. My boyfriend had an idea last weekend, to record ourselves having sex with his phone. He sent me the videos, because he said they were a huge turn on and that he loved them. But I ...
A. 28 September 2011: You're not alone on this one. Most women feel under constant pressure to look like we just stepped out of the pages of cosmo but in reality it isn't like that.
I guarantee other people don't see what you do. We are always ultra critical of ours... (read in full...)
Who has been cheated on? Reply here please.
Q. Has anyone overcome the pain of being cheated on? What can you say about that journey to trusting men again and loving someone new? Before your recovery, how did you treat seemingly genuine men that came along who attempted to court you? Wo...
A. 24 September 2011: I was cheated on by my previous partner after we had been together 7 years and had a child together. It causes a world of pain but I'm definitly someone to look for the positive in every situation and it makes you a whole lot stronger!
I think I wa... (read in full...)
Does this guy want more than a FWB relationship?
Q. Hi evryone I know there are a lot of these types of questions but I really need some good answers not sarcasm I met this man in march I really like him we see each other once or twice every two or three weeks cos he is always busy and so am I I ...
A. 17 September 2011: wordlywise is right, it's not usually what happens in fwb situations and he has already said that he doesn't want anything more.
However, I was in the same situation as you and also began to have suspicions the guy liked me as more than than fwb ... (read in full...)
Do gay teen boys have more boys or more girls as friends?
Q. hi im a 15 teen boy i was wondering would you find that gay teen boys will have more boys or girls as friends...
A. 17 September 2011: Depends on the individual guy but my best friend is a gay male and he has always had mostly female friends. A couple of guy friends but his close circle are all girls.... (read in full...)
I deleted this hot girls number and now I regret it! Should I ask for her number again?
Q. Hi, I need help I made a mistake by deleting the numbers of some hot girl who lives nearby my place.. What happened was when she gave me her numbers that day she was handling her phone call, when I asked who was it she said it was her boyfriend, ...
A. 16 September 2011: You were right to delete her number. She has a boyfriend. Take a step back and ask yourself if you'd really want to be with a girl who will readily give her number out to guys she doesn't know anyway even while she's with someone.
If the two of y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I don't enjoy sex because I never cum
Q. i am 21 years old and i have never enjoyed sex or an orgasm but i would really love to. my boyfriend thinks i dont love him because i dont enjoy sex with him. sometimes during sex i feel alot of pain im only comfortable in missionary positions. what ...
A. 16 September 2011: Okay, 3 things. First tell your man to look past his male ego and realise that when you say you love him you mean it. Not enjoying sex has nothing to do with the feelings you may have for someone.
Secondly, sex should not be painful. It's not norm... (read in full...)
I fantasize a lot about my gf kissing and having sex with other men, anything wrong with me?
Q. I'm 26 and she's 23. We've been together for almost 2 years now. Our relationship is great, we love each other and are serious. In fact I think she's the one. Thing is that early in our sex life I found out that imagining her having sex with other ...
A. 16 September 2011: Fantasies are often best left as just that. Just because you like thinking about your gf with another man, actually seeing that happen in reality would probably be quite a different matter. You can still use this fantasy to spice things up by ... (read in full...)
Becoming more than FWB
Q. I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
A. 16 September 2011: Thanks for taking the time to read and reply so long after I wrote this! I really hope things work out for you. My bf and I have been together nearly 2 1/2 years now so there is hope, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I wish you lots of luck ... (read in full...)
Becoming more than FWB
Q. I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
A. 16 September 2011: Thanks for taking the time to read and reply so long after I wrote this! I really hope things work out for you. My bf and I have been together nearly 2 1/2 years now so there is hope, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I wish you lots of luck ... (read in full...)
34 and single: Did I miss my chance to marry?
Q. I feel like I've missed the marriage boat and I'm starting to panic. I'm going to be 34 years old tomorrow. Objectively, I am good looking; better than average, smart, successful, have a good career, own my own apartment, etc. All my best fri...
A. 16 September 2011: It's amazing how peer pressure happens not just in the playground but throughout our lives too.
The only reason you're wanting to get married so badly is because it seems everyone else is. You feel it's something you 'should' have done by now. It's... (read in full...)
Can you love someone but not be suited?
Q. Can you love and like someone but not be suited? I know this is long-winded but it's really bugging me and I can't get my head around this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 mths now. We both love and like each other very much. We ha...
A. 15 September 2011: Your question certainly made me think. It must be the case that there are some people who love each other very much but just aren't compatible, but I think you and your partner clearly care about each other a great deal. As you said, there have been ... (read in full...)
I don't want a bad breakup but I want to end things
Q. I feel like a jerk because I want to break it off with my girlfriend of 8 months. I'm separated from my wife and while there is no going back, I am just not attracted to my girlfriend anymore. She's a great girl and I don't want to hurt her, but I ...
A. 15 September 2011: As you said, she's going to be hurt however you tell her. The longer you hang around trying to make up your mind when/how you should do it, the more hurt she'll be.
Stress the fact that the problem lies with you not being ready to commit. After such... (read in full...)
Wife cant take her eyes of other men
Q. I have questions about my wife looking at other men. As an example, we went to a family event and my wife could not take her eyes of one of the other fathers. The guy was tall and more muscular than average. I know people look, but this was ...
A. 15 September 2011: Well it's one thing to look but to be so caught up in watching other guys that she's ignoring you is taking it to extremes. Have you actually sat her down and spoken to her about it? I think she'd feel pretty bad if you explained to her the way you ... (read in full...)
How to keep a cheating husband interested
Q. hello and im so happy to meet you my name is blondie im 48 years old im a mother and a grandmother i have 11 grand children now iv been in my marrige now for ten years but from the word get go i've always known there was something very wrong bu...
A. 15 September 2011: You say you're a strong woman and that you won't let a man walk all over you but isn't that precisely what you're doing by allowing this man to have his cake and eat it?
You certainly don't sound like the kind of woman to stand for that so I'm surp... (read in full...)
Friends wife exposing herself in window!
Q. How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she ...
A. 15 September 2011: Seeing as she is married to your friend I suggest you close your own blinds! Don't message her, don't watch her. You don't even know if she's doing this intentionally, if not she'd probably be horrified to know you've been looking at her in this ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about history repeating itself. Should I tell my partner I feel insecure?
Q. My ex left me when we were at our prime time in the relationship (marriage). We were buying a house, we both got new jobs, we'd just bought a new car and he threw all that away to go with someone he met at the new job. I've been with my current ...
A. 15 September 2011: That's what a relationship is about, when you're feeling low and need a little reassurance I'm sure your partner is happy to offer you that. Talking to him honestly about your feelings is so much better than keeping it all bottled up - that only ... (read in full...)
Am I a part of his life? Is this how it's meant to be? he does not allow me to express myself.
Q. please help me out here..i am with a male 56 years old...who takes care of me like no one ever has...he does everything and the sex is great...but he does not allow me..to express my self at all..if i feel like i am not a part of his life he ...
A. 15 September 2011: I found this quite confusing. You say he does everything, takes care of you like no one ever has etc...and then say he doesn't appreciate women.
How long have you been with this man? How well do you really know him. If you're honest with your... (read in full...)
Sticky "love triangle" If she doesn't know, should I tell her? That her ex is bi? That he asked me out?
Q. ok so im gay, been out for a while now so short story: a bi guy "came out" to me i guess last year long: This guy would come to my school to visit his girlfriend, but we'd socialize to (i didnt know him before he'd come to visit her, nor did I eve...
A. 15 September 2011: Well I don't think you should tell his ex anything that he has told you in confidence. If he wanted her to know he would have told her and sharing this information about him without his permission could actually make the situation a whole lot ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my wife, but I am having a hard time forgiving and forgetting her cheating
Q. I was a virgin when I met my wife. She wasn't. She had had about 6-10 other lovers before me. I have never been with anyone else, but I found out recently that she has not been faithful. She didn't have any emotional attachment to anyone, but she ...
A. 15 September 2011: Firstly you need to forget about the men she has slept with before you. Everyone has a past and you can't hold it against her that she had a love life before you came on the scene.
You're right to feel angry and hurt. Who wouldn't? I don't thin... (read in full...)
How to keep a cheating husband interested
Q. hello and im so happy to meet you my name is blondie im 48 years old im a mother and a grandmother i have 11 grand children now iv been in my marrige now for ten years but from the word get go i've always known there was something very wrong bu...
A. 15 September 2011: I think it's rather sad that you say no matter what you look like, men will always cheat. It's quite a contradiction that you seem to have resigned yourself to this fact as a way of life while at the same time telling women to put themselves first ... (read in full...)
She never gets upset after we fight... does that mean she doesn't care?
Q. Hi, I know a girl who I am close to. I have thought about her as a romantic interest but one thing makes me wonder about her feelings about me: whenever we fight I become very nervous, very upset and it lasts the whole day as I replay the whole ...
A. 16 February 2011: It may be that she's probably just not as emotional as you. Or maybe she just hides it better? Having a row with someone doesn't mean that you should sit around miserable all day and not update your twitter! Try not to read so much into it, maybe ... (read in full...)
If I insist that my daughter complete her Scholarship studies against her will, will this damage her and her mental health long term, or will it teach her to become stronger and more resilient for her future years?
Q. Hi readers. My daughter won a Scolarship at the Catholic Agricultural School in Bindoon. She has been there for 2 weeks and wants to come home already. She says that she is trying to stick it out but she wants to know that if she wants to that sh...
A. 15 February 2011: 2 weeks is a very short time and certainly not long enough for her to adjust. At the moment she won't just be having difficulty with adapting to her new school and finding new friends but also being away from home.
You say she was spending much of h... (read in full...)
Why do people think teenage romances can never grow?
Q. I just want to understand. Why do some people think teenage relationships can never grow till the two in love are old? I know that some teenagers are just dating, going through drama, but you're doing a childish thing setting a stereo-type on a...
A. 15 February 2011: You sound so defensive and yet nobody is arguing your point, rather we are agreeing with what you say for the most part.
With all due respect it's all very well to say that you don't feel a relationship will change with age but that's not real... (read in full...)
How do I swallow without upchucking?
Q. Hi all, Okay, here goes, I need advice about a sexual thiing, so I will get to the point! My partner is offended that I don't swallow and says if I loved him I would (it would mean a lot to him) but I just cannot do it, it makes me want to reach...
A. 15 February 2011: 'my boyfriend says if I loved him I'd do it' Is your age group actually correct because your bf sounds about 16!
Never fails to amaze me that there are women out there who will do something they really don't enjoy just because of pressure from... (read in full...)
Should I surprise my wife with a sex toy?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 20+ years. Our sex life is fine, but I'm looking for ways to spice things up a bit. Here's my question: Do you think it would be wise for me to surprise her with a sex toy (we've never used them before, and have ...
A. 15 February 2011: Ok so there's no fun in asking her but there's no fun in putting her on the spot and potentially offending her either! you don't have to spoil the 'surprise' by asking he outright if she'd like you to buy some sex toys but you could casually mention ... (read in full...)
Do girls remember their ex's penis?
Q. Do girls remember the penises of their exes? If they do, do they compare them with their current boyfriends? ...
A. 15 February 2011: I don't remember...but then I've never given it any thought. I don't want to think about past lovers when I'm with someone new!
I agree with dirtball, we're much more likely to compare more important parts of the relationship such as if you're trea... (read in full...)
I broke off the affair with an older women but now I feel badly
Q. Dear Cupid, I had an affair with 40+ married woman. I'm 20+ and single. After getting great advices from this forum, I realized it's not right. Then, I broke up with her. I stayed silent and keep away form her with no sms, no call. I even d...
A. 15 February 2011: You did the right thing. It's natural you feel bad about ignoring her on valentines day but she is a married woman and it's her who should feel bad for constantly getting in touch with you even though you've done the right thing.
It's never easy... (read in full...)
Every holidays is a disappointment! Husband is so cheap!
Q. So I'm pushing twenty one, my hubby is pushing twenty three, and we've been together since I was 15. I know what you may be thinking, but we seem to be mature for our ages, both have l careers and all in all are genuinely happy with who each of us ...
A. 15 February 2011: His attitude to finances is really selfish. If you were on a similar wage or only a casual relationship it may be acceptable but seeing as you're married it's a little worrying that he doesn't want to help you out a bit more.
But seeing as you'... (read in full...)
I've never done oral, any advice?
Q. I've never given head before. I really want to try it with my boyfriend because he keeps dropping hints to me. I also want to be able to pleasure him in a new way. So, do you guys have any tips or tricks? I would be really greatful. Thanks....
A. 15 February 2011: Theres pretty much no such thing as a bad blowjob...as long as there's no teeth of course!
keep it wet, swirl your tongue around the tip of his penis and get your hands involved aswell.
Search the cosmo website, they always have plenty of tips and... (read in full...)
Is this married guy worth it? Or just get out?
Q. So, I met this married man one night out at a place I always go and hang out. I had seen him maybe twice before with a girl, but he never wore a ring. This is a place where everyone knows each other and if you ever need to scoop on anyone, all you ...
A. 15 February 2011: If it's hard to break contact with this man now then think how much harder it's going to be if you leave it any longer.
He is married. No matter weather he says he's unhappy I'm sure you're intelligent enough to realise that if he was that unha... (read in full...)
I want to be completely smooth down there!
Q. alright, i need tips on how i should shave my pubic area! i know you gals out there know your stuff and i'd love to know your secrets. how do you get it completely smooth? what products do you use? i'm avoiding waxing since it's pricey and would ...
A. 15 February 2011: make sure you go for the best shaving gel you can afford to create a nice thick barrier. Gel, not mousse and one that's designed for sensitive skin.
Always use a new razor each time and rinse between every stroke. Shave in the same direction of h... (read in full...)
Why do people think teenage romances can never grow?
Q. I just want to understand. Why do some people think teenage relationships can never grow till the two in love are old? I know that some teenagers are just dating, going through drama, but you're doing a childish thing setting a stereo-type on a...
A. 15 February 2011: I don't think it's the opinion of many adults that teenagers can't handle a relationship. There are very few who will stereo type and say you're all immature.
Actually the teenage years are very important to how you learn what kind of role you play... (read in full...)
I am afraid to receive oral sex.... Is this normal?
Q. It might sound a little strange but I'm afraid to receive oral. My boyfriend and I will be having sex for the first time very soon (we're both virgins) and I told him that I was afraid of receiving oral, he giggled at it... It's not that I'm afr...
A. 12 February 2011: Fear of the unknown. We read a lot about how amazing oral sex is for a woman but some women really just don't like it. You won't know until you try though right?
I think that with time you'll feel comfortable enough to experiment with your bf. Wait... (read in full...)
Should I let my family back in my life?
Q. My father died before I was born and I've never met any of his family. I was an only child and was brought up by a loving mother, who passed away when I was 21. Strong and no nonsense woman as she was, she was the pillar of our family. Their si...
A. 11 February 2011: You are not obliged to have any contact with your family if you really don't want it. However you do sound as though you want to but you're understandably afraid of what the consequences may be.
Do you miss them as people or do you just miss the ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else felt unhappy about being pregnant? Will these feelings go away?
Q. Last week I found out I am pregnant with my boyfriend of 3 and a half year's baby. He is delighted at the news and cannot wait to become a father. I am struggling to be excited or even feel happy about being pregnant, is this normal? I have never ...
A. 10 February 2011: Have you felt like this since you found out? If you have had moments of feeling happy and then coming down again then that's normal and occasionally can be antinatal depression (not as commonly recognised as postnatal depression)
However if all you'... (read in full...)
Are man boobs a deal breaker or not?
Q. hi girls if you met a guy who you found attractive and he done it for you in all ways but you take off his shirt and see small man boobs(i had a picture but the mods wont let me link them) ala the size of a teens early breast growth,you can only ...
A. 9 February 2011: Please don't feel that you should resort to surgery over this! While I appreciate that may be an option for some people I really think it's a desperate last resort.
Putting your time and effort into learning to love your body would be a much bett... (read in full...)
Cheating runs in the family!???
Q. My inlaws have been married for 50 years. I recently became aware that she had cheated on him about 30 years ago. They have been looking to move house and after an argument, she said to him to take his girlfriend and move out to his block of land. ...
A. 9 February 2011: It wasn't naive of you to think your husband would be faithful. that's what we all want (and expect) isn't it? Or none of us would ever take a leap of faith and commit ourselves to someone for life.
Your husband may have cheated anyway, we are all ... (read in full...)
Are man boobs a deal breaker or not?
Q. hi girls if you met a guy who you found attractive and he done it for you in all ways but you take off his shirt and see small man boobs(i had a picture but the mods wont let me link them) ala the size of a teens early breast growth,you can only ...
A. 9 February 2011: Wouldn't bother me. If you like a guy enough to be taking his clothes of then you sure as hell aren't going to care about a minor detail like this! :)... (read in full...)
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