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21 January 2011: I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
All I want for christmas...
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16 December 2010: I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
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23 February 2010: Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
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24 November 2009: So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
Becoming more than FWB
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15 September 2009: I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
The reality of being a teen mum
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20 August 2009: I see a lot of young girls on here who want to become mothers so I thought I'd share a few thoughts on the reality of becoming a teenage mum. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, my boyfriend 18. I'd just finished my GCSE's and planned to go back to schoo...
Being yourself :)
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6 July 2009: I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
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Has anyone ever lived with a schizophrenic?
Q. My aunt suffers from schizophrenia, she is on medication and has been for over three decades. i recently spoke with her psychiatrist who is requesting that we seek alternative approaches to her illness. she refuses, and that's putting it mildly to ...
A. 9 July 2009: I haven't lived with a schizophrenic but my sisters dad (who has always been like a dad to me too) has paranoid schizophrenia and I've helper take care of him. I'm not sure how much I can help you because your aunt sounds like she's very different ... (read in full...)
Being yourself :)
Q. I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
A. 9 July 2009: Yeah I agree it's important to ask yourself what you want but when you're persuing someone or in a relationship it's not just about what you want is it? You need to think about what he wants too and I'm saying you should figure that out by asking ... (read in full...)
Do you need to talk to each other about becoming serious?
Q. Is it fairly universally accepted that to get serious with someone you're dating, you need to have a conversation with each other and agree to it? I'm assuming that's the case, but sometimes I get the feeling that the man I'm seeing might be ...
A. 8 July 2009: I agree with quirklady, it's only been a month and that's not a very long time. There's no need to have a talk about becoming serious just yet, it's early days and you're still getting to know each other right? If you discover you both really like ... (read in full...)
My guy is under a lot of stress and I want to comfort him
Q. My boyfriend is having a big birthday coming up on July 12th. He has had a lot of pressure lately and he has been really down. I know I help to bring his spirits up usually but I just really want to do something incredibly special for him. I've ...
A. 8 July 2009: That sounds really great, I'm sure he's gonna love it! Why not use Legioness' advice and present it to him after a walk and a picnic? Good idea though :) x... (read in full...)
How can I get over this fear of living as a single mum?
Q. Ever since my ex husband walked out of our then apartment, I have been unable to live on my own with my child. Instead I pay rent for an apartment I don't live. I stay with my mother. I don't understand myself. I wish I could live my beautiful newly ...
A. 3 July 2009: Hun, firstly you need to stop beating yourself up about this. The more you do the more stressed you'll feel and it's a vicious circle. I'm a single mum myself, I had my daughter at 17 and became a single mum when she was 5, she has ADHD so she's al... (read in full...)
How does the small stuff determine whether a relationship is worth investing in or not?
Q. Hey everyone. I wrote about a week ago. Guess I need a bit more feedback :-) So, for 2 weeks my boyfriend of 3 months had suddenly changed his behavior from loving to quite indifferent so I was close to the conclusion that he was trying to break up ...
A. 3 July 2009: If he didn't care about you then he wouldn't go to all this trouble, sending you emails and messages to explain his behaviour, and if he wanted to break up with you then I'm sure he would've jumped at the chance when you weren't speaking to him for ... (read in full...)
My guy is under a lot of stress and I want to comfort him
Q. My boyfriend is having a big birthday coming up on July 12th. He has had a lot of pressure lately and he has been really down. I know I help to bring his spirits up usually but I just really want to do something incredibly special for him. I've ...
A. 3 July 2009: I'm not sure about something he could use but if he likes pictures why not make and frame a huge collage that will remind him of you whenever he looks at it? take all the things on your list and write them on seperate pieces of paper, or a few on ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, Should I wait to have a child with my 17 year old boyfriend?
Q. my boyfriend and i want to have a baby. we are both in our teens (im 13 he is 17) and unsure if we should wait??? please help...
A. 16 June 2009: It's not unusual to want a baby at your age, lots of girls go through the same feelings, but you really shouldn't act on them. You say you're positive that your boyfriend will stick around so surely that gives you all the time in the world to have a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with alot of people!
Q. I recently got out of a six year relationship, this guy was the first only person ive ever slept with. Im a single mom of two, now and am trying to move on. I am old fashioned, had my ex been a better man I would've been happy having only 1 sex ...
A. 16 June 2009: You should stick by your morals and values, if a man doesn't like them then that's his problem and he obviously wasn't the right one. When you meet someone who really likes you for you, he will respect your beliefs. Good luck x... (read in full...)
Is it common to comment on looks when meeting someone new?
Q. I met a great deal of new people this weekend, mostly friends of my mother's, and each person commented on how "beautiful" i was. not how nice it was to finally meet me. Are they doing this to flatter me, or to be nice to my mother, or what? I ...
A. 15 June 2009: I don't think they were just trying to flatter you, they probably didn't realise you'd be offended either. I'm sure they thought how nice a person you were too but they didn't know that when they first met you did they? I always think it's lovely to ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and a virgin. Is it true older women are attracted to young men?
Q. I'm 17 and a virgin.I'm looking to lose my virginity and heard that MILFs are very suitable for and attracted to the average young man.Is this true? I am overweight and not very socially experienced with women and quite anxious hence my virgini...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't agree that being overweight will affect your chances because everybody is different with their individual views on what beauty is. Which also means of course that not all older women find younger men attractive. Plenty of fish is a pretty ... (read in full...)
I don't like it when he touches me and I don't want sex!
Q. I'm dating this guy A (27) but only because I was pressured into it. See, I live with him (We have seperate rooms). We've been together for about 3 weeks. He says he loves me, and keeps talking about our future together. I feel very uncomfortable ...
A. 11 June 2009: B's suden appearance in your life shouldn't mean so much to you if you were only friends with benefits, if it's bothering you so much you should ask yourself if you really do like him more than you're willing to admit. You should never date someone ... (read in full...)
Parenting question: how to potty train a little girl?
Q. Ok my dad wants to get my sister off dipers she was potty trained but with dippers she dosent want underware she wates and holds it and pees her pants if she has to what do we do ...
A. 8 June 2009: So she just doesn't like underwear? Take her shopping and let het choose some for herself, she might be more than happy to wear them if they have pictures of her favourite tv characters on. Also you could try a reward chart and making a huge fuss of ... (read in full...)
What can I do, to feel more secure when talking to adults?
Q. How can i get better at talking to adults? i always feel so awkward or intimidated... whether it's a teacher, tutor, or a friend's parent. when they start talking to me, i kind of freak. i feel like they're older and wiser and i don't want to sound...
A. 7 June 2009: I couldn't believe it when I read your question because I used to be exactly the same way! You will grow out of this hun, of course there will always be people in life that we find intimidating but you will learn to deal with that. You're an adult ... (read in full...)
At what point does one go from dating someone who is also a friend, to being a relationship?
Q. I refer you to: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-gift-would-be-fun-and.html I think this young lady is something special. She isn't the first I have liked, or the one who I have liked the longest. Nonetheless I feel strongly for ...
A. 7 June 2009: I think you should definitly ask her out again. Cinema is maybe not a great idea as you can't really talk to each other and get to know each other better. A date can be anything as long as it's something you both enjoy and you're having fun. As for ... (read in full...)
Can guys get turned on by someone they are not attracted to?
Q. Hello I have a question about sex. Can men get turned on if they are with someone they are not attracted to? When I kiss my boyfriend , he has his eyes closed and also and when I pleasure him orally he will sometimes close his eyes or look...
A. 7 June 2009: Going by what a male friend told me, yes men can get aroused by women they don't even find attractive but I don't think that's what's happening here. Nearly everyone closes their eyes when they kiss and just because he closes his eyes or looks past ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to younger girls and wonder where it will go?
Q. I find myself looking at younger girls from about 8 onwards in a sexual way. This disturbs me. I am 25. I know that I can't do anything. And feel that I will have the strength to avoid doing anything to a girl. But I fear that one day I might weak...
A. 7 June 2009: You really need to get some help with this. You know it would be wrong to do anything with a young girl but you're already wondering if you might give into your feelings which is seriously worrying, if you're really as nice a person as you say you ... (read in full...)
I regret losing my virginity, had intimate problems and her past is haunting me
Q. hey im 17,male and lost my virginity about a week ago. ive been having trouble getting over my girlfriends past because i had vivid images of her and her ex in my head and she seems tainted somehow. he USED her for many sexual activities i was...
A. 4 June 2009: Everyone has baggage and everyone has history, that's something you're going to need to deal with in every relationship you have, but this girl isn't treating you right. It's not a healthy relationship if she treats you like dirt in front of other ... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating but can't!
Q. I'm 29 years old and I have been masturbating like 3 times a day since I was 12. I don't think a day has ever gone by without doing it at least once. Even right after having sex with a woman I masturbate some of them don't mind and while some feel ...
A. 4 June 2009: You don't need to stop altogether, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing but masturbating when you've just slept with a woman is insensitive to her. That's the thing you need to stop doing because most women would obviously think that they ... (read in full...)
Comments or opinions on planned teen pregnancy
Q. My bf and I have been together for about 11 months. He is 17, and I'm 16. Ever since my cousin got pregnant at 18 I've wanted to be a young mum. This came up in conversation with my bf and he has said he wants to be a young dad as well, which I ...
A. 3 June 2009: Being a young mum is great (I had my daughter at 17) and you do sound very mature but it's not all fun. If you're really set on having a baby then you'll do it no matter what anybody says but you need to really think about all the things you're ... (read in full...)
Are girls not attracted to me because I am a ladies man?
Q. I've been single for about a year now, i took some time off from girl becuase i had exams and thing, and now i cant seem to get one, girl i like dont like me, and i dont know any girls that do. I'm not ugly, i'm funny, and have lots of female f...
A. 20 May 2009: Most girls love flirty guys and they especially like funny guys so you're not going wrong there! What exactly do you mean by 'ladies man'? If you mean you've had a lot of girlfriends then yeah, that could be putting girls off as they won't want to ... (read in full...)
Cracking sound, pain in shoulder, anyone have any ideas?
Q. I'm 14 years old and have recently been doing many pushups(every other day of course). I read the best way to increase pushups is to increase both strength(Few Reps with heavy weight) and endurance(high reps). I've been using a 35 lb backpack to do ...
A. 20 May 2009: You really need to see a doctor about this, it would be irresponsible for somebody on here to tell you whats wrong without being medically trained. ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel so lustful but I don't want to lose my virginity!
Q. I have a lovely boyfriend ... hes my first proper boyfriend and everything is going well but he makes me feel very lustful. I don't want to have sex yet and he doesn't pressure me into it but sometimes when we are caught up in the moment I feel like ...
A. 19 May 2009: It's only natural to feel the way you do. There's plenty you can do to satisfy both yourself and your boyfriend without loosing your virginity. Well done on waiting until you're ready, not easy is it?! You don't need to finish with him over this, ... (read in full...)
I want to be a woman for the day!
Q. How can I convince my wife to let me dress up as a woman for a day and take me up the ass with a strap-on?...
A. 18 May 2009: Have you actually asked your wife? because you can't 'convince' her of anything, if she say's no don't force the issue. If she says yes then great! x... (read in full...)
He has two children, am I being selfish and can this relationship ever work?
Q. Ok im 22 nearly 23, and just started dating a new guy who's 29, 30 next year....we got on so great then we had a heart to heart and i found out he has two kids from his last relationship aged 6 and 10.....im confused now! How could this ever wor...
A. 18 May 2009: His relationship with his children says a lot about a man. He obviously loves them a lot and supports them and there are many men who don't face up to their responsibilities like that. He sounds like a good man but you'll have to ask yourself ... (read in full...)
I didn't think I wanted children, but now I'm rushing into relationships because my friend has a baby!
Q. im 21 and ive only really been in one serious relationship, when i was in that relationship (from i was 14 to i was 18) we had talked about having children and i really wanted kids because i was settled and living in my own home with my partner but ...
A. 18 May 2009: You can still be a young enough mum to make the most of your kids lives. Most women get broody when their friends have babies, it's lovely to watch that mother/child relationship but that isn't all there is to it. Would you be so envious of the ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if I fantasize about having a relationship with someone else?
Q. I masturbate often thinking about Mariah Carey. I guess you could say that Mariah is my fantasy girlfriend. Is it cheating if I fantasize about having a relationship with a woman other than my wife?...
A. 18 May 2009: This isn't cheating, everyone does it from time to time, not just men! x... (read in full...)
Thinking about changing myself so I can get him back
Q. ok, last time i asked this i dont think i got enough answers, i need to hear everyones opinion, cuz im really stuck and madley stupidly in loveee me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. and during a break in these 2 years i had sex ...
A. 18 May 2009: Do you think you're too controlling? If you do then there's no harm in changing that. But, if you don't believe that, you won't be able to change because you won't think you need to. Does he want to change other things about you? If so, he should ... (read in full...)
He's breaking my heart all over again
Q. Hi, I am hurting so much inside because about l7 years ago, when I was engaged to my ex fiance', I fell in love with a married man and he means the world to me but he would never leave his wife for me even though he is living in hell with her. He ...
A. 17 May 2009: I really feel for you hun. There's a man that I always go running back to at a snap of his fingers even though I know he'll only hurt me and let me down. We haven't shared as much history as you have with this man though and it couldn't have come at ... (read in full...)
Best friend and I like the same boy
Q. My best friend and I both like the same boy. He goes to our school and is in the same year. But the thing is, I love someone else aswell, and so does she. I found out on Friday that she liked him, but she doesn't know I like him aswell. I don...
A. 17 May 2009: No, neither of those things are wrong, you can't help how you feel. You should tell your friend that you like this boy too so that you can both agree to stay away from him. If you both like other people too then you should concentrate on them ... (read in full...)
Every time we get into a fight I wind up hitting him!
Q. I REALLY don't know what to do @ this point. I'd been w/ my boyfriend for about 6 months, and everything was great the first couple of months, and than we started fighting constantly because he thought I cheated on him w/ a friend of mine w...
A. 17 May 2009: Firstly it's up to you wheather or not you choose to be with this man, not your friends. Having a break could be the best thing for you both, so that you can work out your seperate issues before working on the ones you have together. He needs to get ... (read in full...)
I really think there could be something there if given another chance
Q. Please help me...I really need advice on how to re-connect with this guy I met. All advice is accepted and appreciated! Ok here goes, I met this guy on a social networking site. He gave me his messenger screename and I we had two conversations. I...
A. 17 May 2009: It sounds to me like he enjoyed flirting with you online but when it actually came to meeting he got a little nervous! I don't think the way he's behaved is very respectful to you, but if you really believe that you could have something special with ... (read in full...)
Why isn't sex such a big factor now?
Q. So me and my boyfriend havent had sex in a while(since last month)and we have talked about how we want to whenever it is were away or miss each other. i love him and obviously our relationship isnt just about sex which is good. but what confuses me ...
A. 17 May 2009: It's possible he's feeling exactly the same as you. Talk to him like you said, keep the conversation light so he doesn't feel pressured, just ask him what's going on and explain that you want to get back to that kind of closeness. Or, you could make ... (read in full...)
I'm so easily aroused! Is something wrong with me?
Q. hi im a bi-guy ....and i dont have an account here..so im using my friends account.. so im really 17-18, not 14-15 so any ways...im not a virgin and i regret it..i lost it at 15 and i wished i hadent....but my problem is..i dont know ...
A. 17 May 2009: There's nothing wrong with you hun, a lot of guys your age (and a lot of older men too) feel exactly the same as you do. Don't worry about it x... (read in full...)
We think my friend may be pregnant, but we're not sure what to do
Q. I need help and i dont know what to do. Im a 13 year old girl and my best friend(who is 13 too) had sex with her boyfriend and she hasnt had her period in about, a month n two weeks. She cant eat and she throws up all the time. We(me n our o...
A. 17 May 2009: It does sound like she might be pregnant. She really needs her parents support here. Yes they'll probably be mad and a little shocked and upset but they'll want to help her through this. If she really doesn't want to talk to her parents yet, get her ... (read in full...)
Why do people stare at me wherever I go?
Q. When I go out with family or by myself, people look and stare at me like i'm an museum exhibit. This really irritates, upsets, and angers me. They stare at me for more than 3 seconds. When i'm at a restaurant with my family people just stare at me ...
A. 17 May 2009: They're probably staring because you're beautifel, and I'm not kidding! My sister looks like a model, she's flawless and people stare at her EVERYWHERE she goes. Most of the time she doesn't mind so much but some guys think they can come up and ... (read in full...)
Do I need proffesional help?
Q. this sounds pretty silly, but i think i need help. i've tried explaining to my mum how i feel about things and i said to her that i need to speak with someone proffesionaly but she just laughed and said i was a teenager and that i would feel like i ...
A. 16 May 2009: Yes all teenagers go through this but if you're feeling like this everyday and drinking all the time then it's quite possible that you do need help. A lot of young people in your situation refuse to accept that there is even anything wrong with ... (read in full...)
Is there something up there that could be broken? I cant even sit down without pain!
Q. hey. well im seventeen years old, so before i say this, i am legal. ive been with my boyfriend now for almost two years, we didnt want to start having sex before we were legal and in love. well i went on the pill and we started havin sex about 8 ...
A. 16 May 2009: This happened to someone I know and she phoned a health line, they told her to get to a doctor immediatly so that's what you really need to do. Don't be embarassed. they've seen it all before. Good luck x... (read in full...)
He says I have insecurities but I don't!?
Q. I been seeing this guy for 5 months now, we saw alot of each other in the beginning but now he seems to forget to call, i have spoken with him and sometimes when he cant get me right away and we have plans he goes and does something else. he said ...
A. 16 May 2009: Don't put up with this a moment longer. He's telling you that you have insecurities to make you feel guilty for questioning him when he cancels on you. He is so not worth bothering about, go out there and find somebody who deserves you! x... (read in full...)
Problem prone life. What shall I do?
Q. I feel really down all th time due to many things. i flucuate with my weight and either am happy coz i get to eat what i want but hate it coz i feel fat or am on a scrict diet where iam losing weight but am unhappy because im not eating what i want. ...
A. 16 May 2009: Babe, you're the only one that can help you. If you're really feeling that down you should see a doctor in case you're suffering from depression. I think you should start making a change in your life by getting rid of this boyfriend of yours. Of ... (read in full...)
Flakey friends
Q. Often my friends flake on me, sometimes they don't stick to their word or suddenly something comes up and they can't stay with their commitments. This is causing me real problems and upsets me because I feel like I can't rely on them or sometimes ...
A. 16 May 2009: I had this same problem with my group of friends but I was younger than you at the time, in my teens. They'll never change. Fair enough, sometimes life gets in the way as we get older and we have more commitments but you shouldn't expect your ... (read in full...)
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