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21 January 2011: I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
All I want for christmas...
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16 December 2010: I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
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23 February 2010: Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
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24 November 2009: So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
Becoming more than FWB
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15 September 2009: I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
The reality of being a teen mum
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20 August 2009: I see a lot of young girls on here who want to become mothers so I thought I'd share a few thoughts on the reality of becoming a teenage mum. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, my boyfriend 18. I'd just finished my GCSE's and planned to go back to schoo...
Being yourself :)
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6 July 2009: I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
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Flakey friends
Q. Often my friends flake on me, sometimes they don't stick to their word or suddenly something comes up and they can't stay with their commitments. This is causing me real problems and upsets me because I feel like I can't rely on them or sometimes ...
A. 16 May 2009: I had this same problem with my group of friends but I was younger than you at the time, in my teens. They'll never change. Fair enough, sometimes life gets in the way as we get older and we have more commitments but you shouldn't expect your ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him now and is not talking to me, what do I do to change this?
Q. At first it was just my little group of freinds who knew I fancied him, then my English teacher (who likes to think she's cool!) decided to ask what the latest gossip was. Then somewhow, it ended up with my teacher quizzing all my friends; trying t...
A. 16 May 2009: Your english teacher really should've kept her nose out of this. If people are telling you he liked you then maybe he just feels shy around you now he knows you feel the same and isn't sure what to say? You've got mutual friends so try asking them ... (read in full...)
I think he wants me to make the first move and I don't know how!
Q. i go out with the boy i really like and he really likes me too, we don't speak that much but i think he's wants me to make the first move but i don't know how to start the conversation. what subjects should i speak about? we're not in any of each ...
A. 16 May 2009: You could still talk about school, ask him about the subjects he's studying, if he enjoys them etc. You could chat about anything really, ask him what his interests are, what music he's into. You only need one thing to start talking and after that ... (read in full...)
I told him how I felt...now how do I face him?
Q. I have a friend in year 11 (I'm a year 9) who I really like, he has helped me through rough times. We talk regularly online and say hello to each other whenever we see each other around school. Over time, I have really fallen for him. He said ...
A. 15 May 2009: He sounds like a really sweet guy and I don't think he'll go telling all his friends about this. He was really nice in saying that he doesn't mind and that you can still talk so it's really unlikely he thinks of you as a silly little girl. He ... (read in full...)
Is it just my period? Or maybe something different?
Q. I've been having sex with my long-term boyfriend for about 7months now, and I've always been careful about taking the right precautons, but last tuesday I was due on my period; which i did, first thing as soon as I woke up and I've never experienced ...
A. 15 May 2009: If you've always been careful when having sex then I would assume this is just a period. If this continues though, please go and see a doctor as it could be something more. Don't feel embarassed, they see problems like this everyday and it's better ... (read in full...)
I want to get out and live!!!
Q. Ever since I was about 14 I have always been in serious relationships! when I was 15 I got into a relationship that lasted 3 years and I got engaged! I finaly left him due to problems that had been going on for a while and had, had enough of it! but ...
A. 15 May 2009: Well I completely understand where you're coming from as I was in a serious relationship just after my 16th birthday until last year. Also my best friends was in a relationship from the age of 15, she married him and they divorced in less than 2 ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him sometimes because of past experiences
Q. Hello everyone. I have been in a long-term, off-and-on relationship with a man for going on 4 years now. Of course I cannot possibly tell the whole entire journey but I will basically tell the most important issues I have. I am 21 years old and he...
A. 15 May 2009: Well firstly you really don't want to even be thinking about marriage or kids. Having kids puts a huge strain on even the strongest relationships. I think you know you're in an unhealthy situation here but you want someone to confirm it and give you ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around women but my friends do!
Q. I don't know how to act around women. When I go to a club, I see my friends casually walk past girls in clubs, rub up against them/touch them up a little and then carry on walking as if nothing happened. Other times it'll happen when they're ...
A. 15 May 2009: God it sounds like such a cliche but being yourself is all you can be! For every girl that likes guys to come up and put his hands all over, there'll be twice as many that would be glad to meet a guy like you that wants to chat and get to know her ... (read in full...)
Help me to be thin!
Q. hello. i have a problem. please help as best you can. well i am 14, 5'4'' and weigh 9 st 9 lbs. i am really fat. i want to weigh 8 st 7 lbs so i am going to do a pro-ana diet and lots of exercise etc. now someone told me that ana can make you pu...
A. 15 May 2009: Oh babe, please please forget about the pro ana diets. When you starve yourself your body doesn't know when it will get it's next meal and so it actually begins to store fat. It sounds so boring but a healthy diet and exercise really is the best way ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that I am in love
Q. Hi everyone,i am in luv with girl who is 2yrs older than me,we melt when she came to my store almost lost i offer her my phone to call the person she is looking for,since then we are friends how do i tell her that i am in love with her ...
A. 15 May 2009: Have you been dating this girl or just chatting to her in your store? If you've never been out socially with her then you really don't want to tell her you love her as there's a good chance that you'll scare her away. If this is the case then just ... (read in full...)
I hate waiting and am wondering if he's doing the 3 day rule?
Q. I had a date on Tuesday and we got on really well... at the end of the date we kissed and had some heavy petting. I texted him (know I prob shouldn't have next day, saying 'you are lovely, and we were very naughty'. He texted back saying 'so ...
A. 15 May 2009: I think you're probably right about the 3 day rule thing. It's horrible not knowing though isn't it?! Don't text him just yet, wait for a few days.But, If you don't hear anything and you really like this man then you don't want to let pride stop you ... (read in full...)
Why am I so bothered he is moving back in with his mother?
Q. Hi, here it goes. I really dont know whats wrong with me. See, my best male friend, which is really very close to me is moving back to his mom's house. She cant afford to pay the place and still manage everything by herself. So he decided to move ...
A. 13 May 2009: It's completely understandable that you would feel upset by this. You're very close and been through a lot together, of course you don't want this to change. When you have been spending so much time together it's not just his life that will change ... (read in full...)
Sexy but romantic birthday treat?
Q. It's my boyfriends birthday next week and I really want to make it a memorable one for him. The only thing is I don't know what to do. I want it to be something quite sexy but I want it to be something romantic as well. And the other thing is I...
A. 13 May 2009: Ok, if you just want to wear nice lingerie and not an outfit that's fine, whatever you feel comfortable in-I'm sure he'll love it just the same. As for the massage, buy some nice oils or lotions whichever you prefer, run him a bath then be waiting ... (read in full...)
I'm co-dependent, what can I do about it?
Q. i'm codependent. my mom is, too -- it's why she puts up with my dad's bs -- i guess that's where i picked it up. i've read the articles online, and i have no doubt about it -- they describe me and my problems (and the comments everyone closest to ...
A. 13 May 2009: As soon as you start to do anything on your own your confidence will come on rapidly, as will your self esteem. I was in a serious relationship from the age of 16 until I was 23. I was happy for my partner to take the lead and I became more and more ... (read in full...)
His "bedroom talk" really confused me and now he doesn't contact me
Q. ive been kind of seeing this guy since january i found that he really liked me and made the mistake of sleeping with him the first night.He started talking about would i have anymore kids and marriage and i freaked and later on i told him i wouldnt ...
A. 13 May 2009: He might have said he was happy for you to date other guys because he was too proud to say otherwise. Trying to make someone jelous to see how they really feel is never the way to go bacause you always run the risk of getting the opposite ... (read in full...)
How do I help my friend clear her name up? They had sex in the school park & everyone is talking about it
Q. Hello cupids, ok so my friend and her boyfriend (now her ex) has had sex in a school park..so while they were having sex this one girl claimed that she seen them.so now the girl who have seen them been going around our whole school telling ppl what ...
A. 13 May 2009: Yes, this will eventually blow over on it's own. I know it probably doesn't seem like that now and it can feel like a lifetime when you're the subject of gossip. Your friend is lucky, she's got you looking out for her so keep it up and be there for ... (read in full...)
He stopped talking to me because people gossip all the time
Q. I have guy friend he stop talking to me b cause people gossiping about us he never respond to my call I'm 5 years older than him we love each other I don't why he hate me now .he never had a girlfriend before. Should I keep calling him cause I ...
A. 13 May 2009: If he's not answering your calls then maybe you should try sending him a letter? Put down everything you want to say to him, hopefully he'll reply and give you some answers. Do you have any mutual friends who'd be willing to find out what's going on ... (read in full...)
8 years together and he's leaving me, but I still love him!
Q. i want to know , how do i get over a man i loved for 8 years . he broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying he just wanted to be friends,we have built a life and family together , 3 children,buying a house...we sometimes would fight like most people do ...
A. 13 May 2009: This is such an awful situation to be in, especially with children involved. I was with my partner for 7 years and we had one child together when he left. I admit, I didn't feel about him the way you do about your husband but I know how difficult it ... (read in full...)
Should I keep our baby? Please help me...
Q. I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I'm almost 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I just recently found out i am pregnant, my boyfriend says he doesn't feel he's ready to be a dad and feels i should abort but says it's my decision, he'll be there no matter ...
A. 12 May 2009: I can really relate to your problem. I was 16 when I fell pregnant and completely overwhelmed. Even though I felt this way I was sure I wanted to keep my baby. If this is what you really want then go for it. I'm not gonna lie and tell you it's easy ... (read in full...)
Staying together for the kids....
Q. I haven't been in love with my girlfriend for a long time. We have just had our 6th anniversary, we have 2 kids, 5 and 4 years old. We were friends for many years before we got together. We are not married but have lived together and shared ...
A. 12 May 2009: This is an awful situation but if you don't love her anymore then there's nothing to work at. I've been here myself and unhappy parents makes for unhappy children. You may even find that your kids problems improve over time when they see that both ... (read in full...)
Do I wait until he asks to see me or do I ask to see him?
Q. after meeting a week ago the most amazing guy i have seen him 3 times we are now into the 2nd week and we have not made any plans to get together again yet but i do know he has a busy week ahead. so the question is do i just wait until he asks to ...
A. 12 May 2009: This is always a tricky one, we've all been here right?! I would say, no don't always be available, you want him to see you've got your own life with your own interests. Wait a couple of days then call or text him and just say that you have a free ... (read in full...)
Having doubts and want to end the relationship
Q. I have been going out with a guy for over a month now, but for the past 3 weeks I've been having doubts about the relationship and decided I want to end it. We started going out 5days before half term, and during the half term break I had no c...
A. 12 May 2009: Try to get this boy alone. He won't appreciate you getting a friend to do it. If you really can't get him on his own then yeah, a note would be a good idea. Good luck... (read in full...)
How effective is the morning after pill?
Q. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT. Last night my boyfriend was at a party and got drunk. I was in my house with my friend. [i live with my boyfriend.] My friend and I had some alcohol too, so i was drunk. My friend left when my boyfriend got home. W...
A. 12 May 2009: Hi hun, just want to start by saying that nobody should be judging you for drinking etc, we all do it when we're young. I had to take the morning after pill when I was your age and You've done the right thing. You need to wait a while before taking ... (read in full...)
Sexy but romantic birthday treat?
Q. It's my boyfriends birthday next week and I really want to make it a memorable one for him. The only thing is I don't know what to do. I want it to be something quite sexy but I want it to be something romantic as well. And the other thing is I...
A. 12 May 2009: Hi, I think I can help you out on this one! Start with the romance, a nice bath followed by a sexy massage with you wearing some lovely lingerie. Keep it going for as long as you can and when he's telling you how gorgeous you are and how much he's ... (read in full...)
Broken-hearted 15 year old daughter who lost her virginity to a guy she "loved"
Q. I am the mother of a 15 year old daughter (soon to be 16). Her boyfriend broke up with her suddenly after going out for 6 months. He claimed he "loved her" even up until the night before her broke up with her. His reason for ending the ...
A. 12 May 2009: The fact that your daughter didn't wait is not really of importance anymore-it's done so there's no point worrying about it any longer. You say you don't know how to get her to wait longer next time but I don't think you'll need to. She will have ... (read in full...)
I havent seen him in 12 years but I still have feelings for him
Q. Hi. I got together with a wonderful man 12 years ago. It didnt last long,maybe 2 months but it was blissfull. Sadly though I listened to my well meaning friends and left him. He had a bad track record with women and had been to prison for driving ...
A. 12 May 2009: I recently got back in touch with an old flame that I haven't seen for 8 years. My friends didn't like him at the time and they warned me to stay away this time. I didn't listen and got caught up in the memories. I've never believed it when people ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to act like a pornstar?
Q. About a month ago my boyfriend asked me if we could have sex in a different position (just to make things a little different) i'd already been on top, so he said why not face the other way? I instantly felt uncomfortable and said no. I asked why he ...
A. 12 May 2009: It's not stupid to think as you do, everyone is different. I don't think your boyfriend was trying to make you act like the girls in these films but at the same time you were right not to do something you feel uncomfortable with. If he wants to ... (read in full...)
How likely is it that I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi, my period came today, but I've been worried about pregnancy. I'm on the pill and use condoms, but I heard today about someone who was on the pill and had periods as normal, but discovered at 4 months that she was pregnant. This as a result has ...
A. 12 May 2009: I think it's really unlikely you're pregnant seeing as you've been so careful and you just got your period. If you're really worried why not do a test just to put your mind at ease?... (read in full...)
How can I make myself prettier??? I want to WOW him.
Q. im looking for advice on how i can make myself prettier. please not i am NOT looking for answers of people telling me beauty is on the inside, or its about confidence or anything like that. i want advice about physical thing i can do. My boyfr...
A. 12 May 2009: Heres something subtle, things that men look out for without even knowing it (or so i read!) keep your hair a little wavy and not too 'perfect' and wear your eyeshadow with a brighter colour on the outsides, makes your eyes look ever so slightly ... (read in full...)
You think he likes me or is he a complete idiot that I should cut out of my life?
Q. Hi everyone, plz help with this. I had a drunken 1 nigth stand in uni with the guy who lives in the building opposite. We decided it was a mistake but decided to remain friends. We txt over Easter and when I arrived bk 2 uni after Easter he was wait...
A. 12 May 2009: This is a really tricky one. I think he maybe does like you deep down but is afraid of his feelings. Even if he does really like you though, that's no reason to be with him. He's abusive when drunk and you don't want to have to deal with that. He ... (read in full...)
He broke up but wants to be friends and I want more!
Q. Hi! My bf and I just broke up in this past week. We have been best friends for quite a while, and were really in love (yes, I'm 15--I know you're going to say we aren't in love, but let's move on from that). We broke up because we were too busy and...
A. 12 May 2009: Hi, I totally get what you're saying and I don't think people should dismiss your love because you are 15, it's just as real and just as painful as when you're 24! I had a similar experience and although I don't think it's morally wrong that you ... (read in full...)
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