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writes:My boyfriend won't say "I love you".We've been together almost 2 years now. He's 20 and I'm 18. We're even planning on moving in together next summer.When we started going out he just got out of a long relationship about a year ago. This one lasted 2 years and he gave his virginity to her.I gave my virginity to him. I love him so much to trust him with this. He's even told me that he wishes he waited and gave it to me.He calls me his "love", "babe" all that stuff and always tells me he "loveS me" BUT NEVER I LOVE YOU!Why won't he say it?Should I say it first?Does he love me?
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reader, dijoyful  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Has he given any reason for you to believe he doesn't love you? From what you have said he is showing you in all the things that he says and does that he loves you very much. Why are you doubting him, he even tells you that he 'Loves you' what else does this mean apart from HE LOVES YOU, all because he is not making a big statement out of it, (which many men find hard). Enjoy what you have together, don't let your insecuritires spoil things. As far as i see it, you have nothing at all to worry about. If you want to tell him 'I Love You' go ahead if you mean it and say it with feeling, but dont expecet him to say it back, maybe he will maybe he wont, but please dont get hung up on trying to make him. Just relax and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Do not look too deeply into it. Do his actions show that he loves you? Does he respect you, does he put you first and does he support you in whatever you do ? If yes, then he does love you, but sometimes some people and I find that men especially have a hard time with saying those three little words.
Speak to him about it. Tell him that you will feel good if you got some verbal affection from him.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Do you say it to him? If not then make the first move but remember you should never say I love you just to be expecting to hear it back, it should just be you expressing your emotions.
Sometimes though it's not the words that matter it's the actions. If he acts as though he loves you, respects you and makes you feel special then don't worry about what he says or doesn't say. If you're happy then it's all good!
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Yes he most likely does, I mean everything you wrote points to that, what more proof do you need that the fact he's planning his future with you:) I think it's just hard for some people to say it, it's probably because of the way he was raised, maybe he would feel awkward saying it so that's why he never does - the important thing is that his actions speak louder than words and it's a lot more valuable and genuine than having a bf who keeps telling you he loves you but treats you like crap. Seems like you're in a solid and loving relationship so stop worrying about it and simply enjoy yourself!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 You could try saying it first. To be honest, I think he is waiting to be sure that it truly is love. Was his past relationship a bad one? Did it affect him strongly?
He probably wants to say it, he just isn't sure OR maybe he is in a similar situation as you. You could try saying it first. Good luck
I hope that helps.
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