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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:HiMy and me bf are together for an year. We are in LDR for a month and my bf says we need to take a break for couple of months and see what happens after that. i.e no Phone, Email, or IM chat anything. totally cut from each other for 2 months. I said i am not ready for that, but he is not listening. He promised me that he wont see anyone on that few months break and i believe him on that.Please advice me how do i convince him that taking a break for few months is not a really good idea. I dont want to lose him, scared that after this break he wont come back to me at all.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 You're right to be concerned, I think it's a terrible idea! One of the most important things in any relationship is to keep the lines of communication open at all times. This is especially important considering the two of you are apart at the moment, you should be talking whenever you can.You didn't say why he wants to take a break. Did you row? Is he finding it too painful to have to say goodbye to you on the phone knowing that he won't see you for a long time? I think the reason he wants this break will play a big part in finding a solution. Have a proper heart to heart with him and tell him this is something you really don't want to do, explain how unhappy it's making you. He should be considering your point of view on something this important, not just making all the decisions himself! There's plenty of literature out there written by experts, stressing the importance of constant communication so find some, be it in a magazine or online, and show him. If he really won't budbe then you'll have to decide if it's something you are willing to actually go along with or if it's time to call it a day for good.
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