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Hey all you lovely people :D i'm Becky, from Hertfordshire in England. I'm currently in college working toward a diploma in childcare and education. I have an amazing fiance and amazing future step son.

what qualifies me to help? Well, i've been through alot in my life, literally probably every kind of situation you could imagine.

i've had it all when it comes to relationships, i've had one boyfriend in prison, i've done long distance several times, i've cheated and been cheated on, i've been in love, i've had my heart broken. I've had sex with far too many people for my age, I started out early and regret it.

other than that my lifes been generally rather messed up in all honesty. But i've come out as a much better person than what anyone ever expected me to be.

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I'm too old to get pregnant at 39, right?

Q.   I thought i already post last 2 days ago and i cant find my post so here i am again writing again. Hello to all, i just wanna ask something. I am 39 years old. 4 days after my days i took a pills. But then i realize i am already old so i stop my...

A.   17 September 2010: Of course you can still get pregnant, you're fertile until you go through the menopause.... (read in full...)

How do you get over someone who was so good to you?

Q.   I was with my partner for 5 years. We talked about marriage and spending our lives together. However, over the last year we noticed that we wanted different things. I wanted to wait to get married, did not want to rush, I wanted to do a phd, become ...

A.   16 September 2010: You've both made the right decision, as you've said yourself, you most likely wouldn't have a truely happy future ahead of you so you've done the right thing and that really takes some strengths! It's most definately going to be tough to move on ... (read in full...)

12 year old boy caught "in the act"

Q.   hi, im a single father and i have a question is it ok is my 12 year old son jacks off. I caught him in"the act" yesterday.i need help please help me....

A.   16 September 2010: Of course it's ok, most lads discover masterbation at that age- it's puberty! ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend parties hard and it bothers me!

Q.   How can I avoid feeling so bothered and upset when my boyfriend drinks? I don't have a problem with drinking. I do have a problem when the girls at these parties take off their clothes or he starts doing something stupid. I'm not a party person, and ...

A.   12 September 2010: I know how you feel kind of, my fiance doesn't party as such, but at the weekends he'll happily spend the whole of it drinking, even when he's just sat at home which is 90% of the time. I also have a reason to be concerned- my parents are ... (read in full...)

He's hurt me so much, but I still love him!

Q.   I been with my ex four years. He have hurt me soo much pain but I still love him. He knows the fact that I love him and he take advantage of that. We have been broke up for 5 months and my feelings keeping getting stronger. I think about him every ...

A.   12 September 2010: I know it's cleché, but everything gets better in time.. Try and distract yourself- take up a hobby, go out with friends, generally keep yourself busy and all will heal in time and you'll be glad that you didn't go back! Just imagine if you did go ... (read in full...)

He can't take my virginity until he breaks up with his girlfriend!

Q.   Me and this boy ive known for years likes eachother problem is that he has a girl,see im a virgin and i wana lose my virginty to him. i really like him. we have fun and everything. i told him he cant take it til he breaks up with her but its ...

A.   12 September 2010: I think you should ditch that guy and persue the other that you met at the mall! It's never a good thing to get together with someone who's made you their bit on the side, chances are they'll do the same to you. Would you really want to lose it to a ... (read in full...)

Both men love me and know I deeply love both of them. I am so confused!

Q.   Long story semi-short. I am in love with 2 men. The first I lived with 4 years and while it was a wonderful relationship filled with love, he was not ready to get married like I wanted and needed. I moved out and purchased my own home and we keep ...

A.   6 July 2010: We can't tell you what to do, you have to figure this out on your own as it's such a life changing thing. All I can say is to look deep inside your heart and find whom it lies with, weigh up the pro's and cons and open your mind, day dream a litt... (read in full...)

He doesn't love me but he is crazy in love with me!!!

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 4 months, it a man who's more mature than me. Last night he said "I love you so much" in french, then he said he didn't mean it. After when we back home, he said he doesn't love me but he is crazy in love with me. ...

A.   1 July 2010: When telling someone that you are crazy in love with them you are implying that you are mad about them and love them so much your heart could explode lol. It's a good thing, it's like an upgrade from being just plain 'in love'.... (read in full...)

Why do guys not show feelings?

Q.   I was wondering why is it that guys do not show feelings. They act cold and like they could care less. Me and my boyfriend recently broke up 2 months ago. We spent a lot of time together and got close. We had a lot of good times together. I know I ...

A.   23 June 2010: Alot of men are actually quite open and sensitive.. At the moment he may just be distracting himself from the fact that you've split up, or he may be over it (well at least over the shock) as he had seen it coming for a while.... (read in full...)

Are these signs my shy boyfriend reciprocates my cravings?

Q.   I can't hold in my feelings for my boyfriend any longer. These dreams I'm having are obviously uncontrolable...and these dreams are also causing my feelings for him to grow stronger! I'm having, like, sudden "cravings" to kiss him and cuddle w...

A.   23 June 2010: If you're already together I say just do it girl! It's what couples do, and once you begin to do it he'll begin to feel more comfortable with it and eventually start initiating it himself, he just needs that push of you initiating, to make him feel ... (read in full...)

How do I stop period cramps?

Q.   Wot can one do to stop period cramps....

A.   23 June 2010: I know of alot of friends who are on the pill, implant, or other hormone based birth control, who are on it purely because it apparently eases up period pains 90%... I can't personally vouch for this though as I wouldn't touch that type of ... (read in full...)

My bf and I have been together for three years but we're different religions...which my parents don't like

Q.   Hi everyone..! I need help.Me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years. But the thing is we're different religion. I don't eat pork he dose. I don't go to church he dose. and stuff like that. Now we try to live together. I don't know I have to ...

A.   23 June 2010: Don't change anything, don't ditch him or your religion. It may seem like the all important factor to your family but it's honestly not. I don't believe in religion being honest, I think it's just a security blanket for people, I don't believe in G... (read in full...)

Does having your nose pierced hurt?

Q.   I know this aint a relationhsip question or anything but i need some advice. do nose pericings hurt? Ive always wanted it doing since i was at school, im now 19 and i really want it doing. some people say its so quick you cant feel it and othe...

A.   21 June 2010: You could always get a numbing cream? I done this before getting a tattoo done, and that is one hell of a pain compared to any piercing! (trust, i have a few!) and i barely felt a thing! I can't see what country you're from but if it's the UK you ... (read in full...)

I like her but I'm also friends with her b/f

Q.   Well I've got a massive proble i've really really liked this girl for about 4 months but she's going out with this guy but I'm quite good friends with him. I keep spending loads of time with her and stuff and she knows I like her, and her boyfriend ...

A.   21 June 2010: Vicious circle then isn't it..? Do whatever feels right for you... (read in full...)

I like her but I'm also friends with her b/f

Q.   Well I've got a massive proble i've really really liked this girl for about 4 months but she's going out with this guy but I'm quite good friends with him. I keep spending loads of time with her and stuff and she knows I like her, and her boyfriend ...

A.   10 June 2010: Don't go there love, she's already got a boyfriend. It doesn't make a difference whether he's cheated on her or not, at the end of the day it's immoral and you'll find this out for yourself in later years.. Just be a friend to her, despite your ... (read in full...)

Has anyone got any tips on how to get your boyfriend really horny?

Q.   So, i'm a virgin and my boyfriends not. i know it's usually the other way around and all, but not in this situation. he's ate me out, fingered me, and we dryhump all the time. the thing is, i wanna make him really horny. what are some really good ...

A.   30 April 2010: Try a sexy lapdance, with lots of teasing!... (read in full...)

Is there a way to make my hair grow faster?

Q.   I'm 13 and have no penis hair or under arm hair is there a way to grow my hair faster?? Plz help....

A.   30 April 2010: I don't think there is.. But you're hitting puberty so don't worry, those hairs will show up soon! ... (read in full...)

I've tried everything to make my wife happy but she hates me, what should I do?

Q.   Hi every one, I'm a 45 year old man. I'm extremely sad and depressed since last 4 years, when I lost my job, I sold out all my properties to meet the life expenses. but the most tragic incident happened to me was that my wife got changed, she ...

A.   30 April 2010: At the end of the day if you want to keep your children content and happy, staying with their mother is not doing it. It must really upset them seeing what's happening to yours and your wifes relationship, the bitterness and the hate.. If you were ... (read in full...)

Terrible pain when trying to finger myself

Q.   I'm a virgin 16 year old girl and when I try to finger my vagina I can't because IT HURTS A LOT.I can't even stick my entire finger in my vagina,I have tried but I can't,I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 years old(when I ...

A.   19 April 2010: Just a thought, do you have long nails?... (read in full...)

Since I cheated on her, she won't say that she loves me! What can I do?

Q.   ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I ...

A.   7 April 2010: She probably wants you to feel as unloved as she must have when she found out you had cheated on her. I'd do it too if someone done that to me. ... (read in full...)

He says he has to get off MSN - but then I see him there 20 minutes later. Is it just an excuse not to talk to me?

Q.   i like this guy i thought he liked me but i think he is shy we chat on msn alot nt much in person cuz he is shy i think when he goes of msn he say he has 2 go and says bye then he dnt sign out till like 20 mins later does this mean he is only sayin ...

A.   5 April 2010: Maybe he forgot to sign out or just closed the window without signing out, I do it all the time lol.. I guess you could always ask him if you really wanted to know that bad, but don't accuse him of not wanting to talk to you :) ... (read in full...)

I am getting back pains after sex. Is doing it daily too often?

Q.   Hello all ! I want to ask you that is it good to have sex daily or it cause problem for health? I get back pain after sex. We usually have sex whole night but i desire it more n more is this so much sex drive cause back pain for me? Plz help me how ...

A.   21 March 2010: I guess it all depends on which positions you use.. Try going for positions that don't strain your back, or that bend your spine in an unnatural way. It shouldn't matter how many times you have sex, just be careful of the position of your spine :) ... (read in full...)

How do I contribute as a wife and step mum and still throw myself into my career as I want?

Q.   Hi there, I'm 23 years old and I need some advice. I meet my UK partner about three years ago. I am from NZ. We fell in love and after six months got engaged and were married by the end of the year. After we were engaged I moved to the UK and ha...

A.   2 March 2010: That's the way life goes really, you have to learn to juggle things. Being organised and having a routine is important.. Have you considered perhaps looking into a job that you can use your skills with in your area? The first thing that sprung to ... (read in full...)

How do I achieve big but sexy eyes with eye make up?

Q.   How do I achieve big but sexy eyes with eye make up? ...

A.   25 February 2010: Silver or white eye shadow on the inner corners of the upper lid make your eyes look bigger.. Also when using liner on top lids flick it out and up a tiny bit at the end (outer lid).. It works! :) i'd recommend a liquid or gel eyeliner for this.. ... (read in full...)

How do I achieve bigger boobs without surgery?

Q.   I'm really want to attract someone I like but I have small boobs and although I know there's nothing wrong with that and so forth, I do want to feel confident and attractive. I would like to boost them a little, make them appear fuller and bigger. ...

A.   25 February 2010: I heard somewhere that breast massage can naturally increase breast size. You'll have to look it up though cos i can't remember much about it, but tis an idea :)... (read in full...)

Could we be brother and sister???

Q.   Hi there, im only 15 and ive become really close to my friend and we are like big bro and sister. I've been told that my mum cheated with his dad before i was born and i want to know if he is my brother. my mum wont tell me and his dad wont tell him ...

A.   16 February 2010: Something definately smells fishy considering neither of them will give you a straight answer.. Agreed on the seeing doctor and getting a DNA test done. Good luck :) ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant when you have a period?

Q.   hii, i know most people call it dirty, but can you get pregnant if your on your period?,...

A.   16 February 2010: It is possible.. Some women have a rather unusual pattern of ovulation, which means it's possible for a woman to begin ovulation during her period and fall pregnant... (read in full...)

What do I get my boyfriend for Valentines Day?

Q.   little bit early,but i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for valentines day! we have been dating for over 6 months now,will be 7 months by valentines day,do you think i should get him something romantic, or something else like ..dvds or cds? eee ...

A.   1 February 2010: Well i got my fella some joop aftershave and a cute little photo frame what has a heart with 'Love you' wrote on the bottom, and i'm gonna be printing off a lovely pic of us from my phone to put in it :D if i didnt leave it so late i was going to ... (read in full...)

Is anal sex painful?

Q.   hello all! i was just in a curious mood about anal sex. i have not tried it , but i want to. any tips? how much will it hurt?? (i can handle pain in general) will i need a lube? what does the guy feel during anal? is it like a vagina wet and ...

A.   16 January 2010: The first time I done it, it didn't really hurt, it was just uncomfortable.. Now me and my fiance do it quite regularly, sometimes I still get the uncomfortable feeling but I think really, it depends on the position, I find laying on my side in a ... (read in full...)

Can a labia majora be docked?

Q.   my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......

A.   11 January 2010: Woah, that doesn't sound at all good.. Tell her to see a doctor and the possibilities of getting it surgically reduced.. She should by no means be trying to do this herself.... (read in full...)

Do tattoos hurt?

Q.   ok so i just have a little question, could anyone tell me if getting a tattoo or piercing is sorer? i had amy tragus pierced back in june and it was sore, not to forget i have a terrible fear of needles but really want a small tattoo thanks...

A.   11 January 2010: What was getting your tragus done like? I really want that done.. I got the top of my ear done a few months ago and it just seemed to get sorer for about a month before it started to get better :s and i've got a small tattoo on my wrist, it only ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is 15, I am three years older, we are considering sex

Q.   I am 18, and my new girlfriend is 15. I have don't plan to have sex any time soon, but you never know. I am wondering about the legalities if I were to have sex now; is it still statutory rape because i am 18 and shes 15, if for what ever reason...

A.   6 December 2009: Well it's illegal so if anyone were to find out, such as her parents or any other relatives, they could report you to the police and it would be classed as statutory rape, which is when the act of sex is consented but still underage. I guess it's ... (read in full...)

She wants me to shave her legs

Q.   My girlfriend wants me to shave her legs. I've never done this before, never even heard of it since her meantioning (to be completely honest) I just want to know other's opinions, experiences etc just so there is some kind of clarification. Thanks...

A.   6 December 2009: If you feel comfortable about the idea of doing it, then do it :)... (read in full...)

Is it too late to hook up again?

Q.   Hey, me and this guy dated last year, we were really good together however i moved away so couldnt see him anymore because we both admitted that a LDR wouldnt be that good. well i have actually moved back to my old place now and have found out...

A.   27 November 2009: Aw thank you,.. I hope all goes well for you hun :) x ... (read in full...)

What type of skin colour do girls prefer?

Q.   hi. my skin colour is quite fair comparing to the people of my country. recently i read two women's interview in newspaper and they both said they will prefere less fair skin coloured guys. my cousin also says like that. here in , south asian ...

A.   26 November 2009: I personally only find white men (from any country) attractive, that's just me though :)... (read in full...)

Is it too late to hook up again?

Q.   Hey, me and this guy dated last year, we were really good together however i moved away so couldnt see him anymore because we both admitted that a LDR wouldnt be that good. well i have actually moved back to my old place now and have found out...

A.   26 November 2009: Well if you want to, go for it and see what happens! let me tell you a little story, me and this guy always had a thing for eachother, so not long after I ended it with my boyfriend at the time (cos he was a possessive idiot) we started casu... (read in full...)

A little blood..too much sex? Sex too hard?

Q.   Okay so here's the issue, today is November 24th. On the 22nd (2 days ago) When I went to the restroom I noticed a little blood on the toilet paper [sorry TMI], it was a bright red I believe, but it never came out enough to make me need pad, all ...

A.   25 November 2009: Implantation bleeding varies from person to person, alot of people don't even get it. I'd suggest taking a test to be sure. Also, do you know when you've been ovulating? This is the few days of your cycle when you're most likely to conceive, thus if ... (read in full...)

A little blood..too much sex? Sex too hard?

Q.   Okay so here's the issue, today is November 24th. On the 22nd (2 days ago) When I went to the restroom I noticed a little blood on the toilet paper [sorry TMI], it was a bright red I believe, but it never came out enough to make me need pad, all ...

A.   25 November 2009: Are you on any form of birth controll at all? If not, then it could well be implantation bleeding, which would result from pregnancy. It's just a thought, but something you should look into just incase!... (read in full...)

I feel called to love this girl... Should I wait or take the chance?

Q.   My general dilemma is if I should wait or take the chance with a close friend of mine who recently came out of a relationship. Though you need to know some background for the full story. The friend and I have been friends for about a year now...

A.   15 November 2009: Since no ones answered on this yet i'll throw in my two cents.. Since she's just come out of a relationship just be there for her as a friend, nothing more, once she's a little more settled, and yes it could take some time, then maybe hint towards ... (read in full...)

Do you think he's comfortable enough to meet me alone instead of with mutual friends?

Q.   I hope you dont think im totally stupid for this but ive got a problem wanting to meet up with a friend of mine, we;ve been friends for two years now and i still cant bring myself to ask him to go for a drink one daytime alone. Dont get me wrong ...

A.   15 November 2009: Right, this questions been lingering here ages, so wo may not find this of much help but hopefully somewhat useful... You don't get if you don't ask. Ask him out for a drink on a one on one basis, be sure to say in the first place that It'll just ... (read in full...)

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