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21 January 2011: I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
All I want for christmas...
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16 December 2010: I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
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23 February 2010: Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
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24 November 2009: So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
Becoming more than FWB
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15 September 2009: I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
The reality of being a teen mum
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20 August 2009: I see a lot of young girls on here who want to become mothers so I thought I'd share a few thoughts on the reality of becoming a teenage mum. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, my boyfriend 18. I'd just finished my GCSE's and planned to go back to schoo...
Being yourself :)
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6 July 2009: I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
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All I want for christmas...
Q. I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
A. 18 December 2010: oh yeah I completely agree about seeing other peoples faces light up! I love that part more than anything because I try to make every gift personal to that person and put a lot of thought in.
Merry christmas :) hope it's a special time x... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend getting too involved???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and living with him for nearly 1. He's a very caring person and goes out of his way to help other people, it's his second nature almost. Usually I don't have a problem with this (as I'm pretty much ...
A. 17 December 2010: Yes I think you're right, he is too involved with this womans life. It will be hard for him to see though because he's grown so close to her. It's as though his friendship with her is more important than his relationship with you and it's wrong to ... (read in full...)
He was talking about another girl's vagina!
Q. Ok my boyfriend (both 26 years old) and I have been together a few years. We have a daughter together and I recently found out we are expecting again. Last night he had a friend over and they got drunk and I went to go to sleep. I could hear the...
A. 17 December 2010: It's not petty. It's a bit disrespectful on his part to be honest, especially considering you told him you heard what he said and he didn't even explain or apologise!
I'm not suggesting you make a big deal out of this because it doesn't mean he woul... (read in full...)
Can my wife actually lose the weight?
Q. What is a person supposed to do when they are no longer attracted to there spouse? My wife and I have been together now for 13 years, 8 of which we have been married. She is awesome in many aspects which is why I love her so much. She has ...
A. 17 December 2010: You already have moved forward. There's no going back for a relationship with no love. It would be cruel to give her hope where there is none.... (read in full...)
I hate being normal!
Q. I hate being normal. I've noticed that no matter how many times people say that looks don't matter, hey, THEY DO! I've noticed how my male friends treat girls differently based on looks more than personality. I'm not the most attractive girl, I'm ...
A. 17 December 2010: So just coz one guy told you you're only average smart you're going to believe him rather than believeing what you know to be true...that you're actually very intelligent.
You do have something special. You're unique, there will only ever be one ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him so he can leave me alone?
Q. Somebody plz help me. I made a stupid decision that can cost me my marriage. I'm ashamed,embarrassed, and feel like crap. I got myself involved with a man at my job who liked to do phone sex. He is older than I and married. It was fun at first ...
A. 17 December 2010: Even if you did sleep with this man he wouldn't leave you alone. He's enjoying the hold he has over you. Don't make the situation worse by giving him what he wants.
You got yourself into a mess and you realise now how reckless you were, maybe it's... (read in full...)
Maybe this relationship isn't that perfect.
Q. What do you do when you're in a relationship with someone who should be perfect for you. They're pretty much your own age, clever, funny and just generally lovely, but it's not enough, and you find yourself completely falling for someone else you ...
A. 17 December 2010: well I think you know what you should do!
There's no such thing as 'should be perfect for you' he either is or he isn't and clearly it's the latter.
Obviously you don't want to hurt him but it's no kinder to keep stringing him along. Let him go s... (read in full...)
Are my feelings normal?
Q. Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I'm feeling a lot of pressure to do things, you know the kind of thing, like touching etc. We've done some things that I wouldn't normally consider appropriate for my age, but I feel our ...
A. 17 December 2010: You seem to have your head screwed on and it's great that you're aware of what you are and aren't willing to do.
Don't listen to what other people say...just because your peers say they've done things doesn't necessarily mean they have. Think abou... (read in full...)
How picky are you when it comes to dating?
Q. i want a boyfriend really i do. but i'm just too picky :( i just want to know if theres anyone who is picky about anything in particular about the kind of person he or she would date....
A. 17 December 2010: Being picky isn't a bad thing. Why should you have to be with just anyone just for the sake of having a boyfriend? When I was single I used to think I'd never meet anyone because my standards were too high, my friends would even tell me the same ... (read in full...)
Have you ever tried pole dancing lessons? Should I go for it?
Q. I'd like to take some dance classes next year, but i haven't done any dancing at all recently, and i've never been trained. I went to some dance lessons as a child, but they were just fun classes, not really professional. I'd like to try ballroom ...
A. 17 December 2010: I have a friend who does pole dancing classes. It's physically demanding and she's always covered in bruises from the moves but she loves it! Another friend of mine did ballroom for years and won all kinds of trophys. It's great exercise and will ... (read in full...)
I just want to fall in love again, I don't want to be alone!
Q. Ive recently posted about ex boyfriends and current boyfriends and rebounds and I broke up with the current boy who was a rebound (or so I think) however now Im even more unhappy, I've found I dont like being alone and all I want now is to fall in ...
A. 17 December 2010: If you really want to learn to be happy alone then jumping into another relationship is not the answer. Yes it's scary right now, it's normal to feel that way but I promise you that in no time at all you will start to feel better and see the ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much even though he's not her biological father?
Q. I have a boyfriend I have been dating long distance for a year. He has a strick job and a boss that refers him self as the devil... I tell him to get a new job but it seems like he's stuck... I have a two year old daughter who does not know her real ...
A. 17 December 2010: It's definitly a tricky one. A year isn't a long time at all for your daughter to be calling your bf dada but then she is very young so I can kind of understand it.
You are right in saying that if he wants the name he should take the resp... (read in full...)
Not getting enough sex, would you involve a third person?
Q. What would you do in this situation? I am married now for 9 years and I do love my wife, but I think we are more of friends than lovers. We had a strong sexual relationship before we got married, having sex 4-5 times per week, many time...
A. 16 December 2010: I can understand your frustrations and I don't think you're being unreasonable for wanting more intimacy from your wife. Sex in a marriage is so important, not just for your own gratifiation but to keep that closeness between the two of you so I ... (read in full...)
He got really demanding when I was giving him oral, has he been watching too much porn?
Q. when my bf and i had sex the other day he asked me for a bj and i accepted but he got really demanding. i think he watches too much porn he says he doesn't but i have seen him download it before. What should i do?...
A. 16 December 2010: It's probably nothing to do with porn, chnces are he got carried away in the moment and was only thinking of his pleasure. You don't say what he actually did or said but I suggest you talk to him and tell him how uncomfortable it made you feel. I'm ... (read in full...)
What cologne should I get my boyfriend for christmas?
Q. Not really a relationship question as such but something most people will have an opinion on I hope. I want to get my boyfriend some cologne as part of his xmas present, but I'm completely clueless when it's comes to male fragrance and was hoping ...
A. 23 November 2010: I love it when my partner wears armarni gio. It smells gorgeous!... (read in full...)
What makes someone a 'Soul Mate'?
Q. How would you classify the terms "Soulmate"? What does it mean to you, do you think you can have more than one?...
A. 20 November 2010: This is such an interesting question and I hope there are many answers as I've often thought about this myself. I'm not sure I believe in the idea that there is one perfect person for everyone so I love odds answer that your soul mate is made not ... (read in full...)
Why is my gf so moody or is it me??
Q. Hello dearcupid and everyone else on it. I've just been having some girlfriend issues lately and was wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.. See, there's my girlfriend; She's really, really hypersensitive and when I like to...
A. 20 November 2010: It's not you, you've done everything to help her and she's done nothing but throw it back in your face. She has problems that she needs to work through alone or with professional help, I understand you want to be there for her but it clearly isn't ... (read in full...)
Couldn't ask for anything more.
Q. I had just recently broke up with my boyfriend and the man who is now my husband had recently broken up with his fiance. I spoke to him when i saw him at the local night club, but never thought anything about it. So one night i ordered some take-out ...
A. 18 November 2010: This made me smile, what a sweet story :) ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my friends about a threesome?
Q. i want to bring up the topic of a threesome with some friends of mine (they're the couple), but don't know how to go about it. i wanted to know, hopefully from couples who've done this sort of thing before, what would be the best way to open the ...
A. 12 November 2010: Have they given you any indication that this is something they'd be interested in? If not then you'd be crazy to bring it up! There's a chance that they'd be up for it but if they're not then you are going to ruin the freindship you have with them.... (read in full...)
Do some men just have some kind of attraction around them or something?
Q. Do some guys just have the mojo? like austin powers? My question is for the women out there, do some men just have some kind of attraction around them or something. Something that just makes a women want to have sex with them? If a guy was to hav...
A. 12 November 2010: The only way he'd be seen as a player is if that's what he is! and as for settling down or not, that's an individual choice.
This 'mojo' you're talking about...I think women are instinctivly attracted to a man who looks confident and not like he's... (read in full...)
I told my best friend what her husband had said, and now her husband and my boyfriend have turned against me!
Q. Drama! Drama! Drama! My boyfriend, my best friend and her husband and i aré really cool.. We text or call each other all the time.. Well my boyfriend and her husband were friends before they met us and she and i were friends before we met them... ...
A. 12 November 2010: Well your friends husband should definitly have talked to his wife about it rather than broadcasting it to others first but unfortunately for you, people often shoot the messenger as you've discovered. Contact your friend, let her know you only had ... (read in full...)
One man's whore is another man's virgin. Why is this?
Q. why does a woman, in essence, make herself a "porn star" for one man, and not another? I find this to be the case with my female fiends when they reveal that they suck and screw one partner they know won't be around in their future in every way ...
A. 11 November 2010: I think this is quite a stereotypical view of women! I think I'll speak for quite a few women on here when I say it's not the way my life goes! so maybe I'm not the best person to be answering your question but it was so interesting I can't help ... (read in full...)
B cup size, will they get any bigger?
Q. Well, thisnis kinda embarrassing but I'm 13 years old and I want to know if my breasts will get bigger. Cause they are like a B now but I would like them to be a little bigger. What do you think???...
A. 11 November 2010: okay your boobs probably WILL grow but it's wrong of people to be assuring you that they definitly will because that isn't always the case! I was a B cup at 13, I'm 25 now and still a B cup so there are no garuntees. However, I don't think you ... (read in full...)
Having trouble satisfying my girlfriend.
Q. Hi, I'm a freshman in college, and my current girlfriend and I have been going out for about a month. This is the first time I've been in a relationship, and things are, for the most part, going really well. This has also been the first o...
A. 11 November 2010: First of all don't beat yourself up thinking about the other guys she's been with...you're the only one she wants now. Anyway, she's probably thinking you're an amazing lover because there aren't many men that are so selfless and dedicated to their ... (read in full...)
He leaves after we just had sex!
Q. right i am seeing a man nearly 9 weeks and i am very confusing about him . we had great sex but all he text me about sex and on sites . he never takes me out to make them know i am his girlfriend at all . i only see him oone or 2 times a week at ...
A. 11 November 2010: search the articles on here, there's one that you may find answers your question quite well...... (read in full...)
How do you know......
Q. How do you know if he/she is "The One?"...
A. 11 November 2010: seeingstars is spot on, people change and after a long time together you may find that the person you are with is no longer the same person you fell in love with. Live for the moment, love the one you're with. If anybody had the answer to your ... (read in full...)
Boyfried said he found a skinny celebrity 'hot' and now I feel insecure. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. OK i need help here. When it comes to looks I'll admit it im not happy with how i look (well im not happy about one thing and thats my weight, Im a UK size 22) Anyways I was with my bf the other day and I dont remember how the convo came about...
A. 11 November 2010: viv acious makes an excellant point, think about the guys you fancy. Would you rather be with them than your bf? Do you fancy your bf any less for not looking like them? I'm willing to bet your answer is a no on both accounts!
But, let me tell ya, ... (read in full...)
I still suck my thumb!
Q. I'm 19. It's pathetic but I still suck my thumb...a lot. The only time I won't is when my boyfriend helps me sleep, tells me stories or sings. But, when I feel too embarassed to ask or he's too tired and goes to sleep first, I do it and I get ...
A. 11 November 2010: Do you only do it at night? If so, I'm sure your bf won't care too much, just make a joke of it and tell him first, everyone has their little quirks and he should love everything about you :) I suck my little finger quite often at night and my man ... (read in full...)
It feels like 'his' house rather than a home....
Q. Hi there, I think this site is wonderful, it has helped me so much being able to share my problems and getting feedback. I was wondering if anyone else shared this problem. I live with my partner in his house. Up until I moved in with him, I ...
A. 11 November 2010: I can kind of understand your situation although it's the other way round for me...it's my house and my partner moved in. I knew something wasn't right when he still kept refering to it as 'your house' etc. When I asked him about it he said that it ... (read in full...)
Internet Dating: We know it's rubbish, so why do we do it?
Q. So, they are both at it again. Who's at it? My two best female mates and they are doing what they both said they would NEVER do. They are both internet dating...again. Why? I sobbed, looking up at the ceiling in hope of some divine guidance ...
A. 11 November 2010: I loved this article! well written, funny and true! It's not all horror stories, my mum is now engaged to a lovely man she met on a dating site. However, after her success I thought I'd give it a try and unfortunately have now formed the same ideas ... (read in full...)
How can I spice up my sex life?
Q. What can I do to get my wife more intrested in sex? we have sex like a scheduled event and would like to spice things up sometimes...
A. 5 November 2010: Search the web, there's so much advice out there. She may be feeling the same way as you. I can pretty much assure you that if you make her feel special, sexy and womanly then that will spice things up. Take her away somewhere, a change of scene ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for receiving oral and never giving it back!
Q. My girlfriend is always asking for oral... politely, and she respects it when I decline, but I feel bad for receiving and not giving back, its just I'm inexperienced.... can anyone help me out? ...
A. 5 November 2010: You'll learn pretty quickly what works for her and what doesn't, believe me she'll let you know! Better to get over those nerves and learn rather than carry on taking without giving. ... (read in full...)
Is this pharmacy trying to rip me off?
Q. Its been a year since i have noticed that i have got some fungus growing on my skin. at first i did not take it into consideration thinking that it will go away. A relative told me that he too got this sort of problem and it was due to exposure ...
A. 5 November 2010: I don't think anyone on here can give you an answer to a medical problem. If you don't want to be ripped off then see a dostor and determine what it is once and for all.... (read in full...)
Help! I've just been told that I am amazingly stubborn
Q. Help! I've just been told that I am amazingly stubborn and will fight my corner if I see someone I don't like or have had a big argument with. I know what they mean by this I do get very protective of myself when I see one of my ex's who I had a ve...
A. 5 November 2010: This isn't being stubborn, what you're describing is anger and anxiety. It's natural to be protective of yourself and your feelings, some people more so than others due to bad experiences but I think what you need to learn is how to get over things ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there is something like weird about me physically.
Q. My boyfriend says there is something like weird about me like physically. But idk if he is being serious and it is really starting to like freak me out. Because i do have quite a low self esteem when it come to people making fun of my body. And i ...
A. 5 November 2010: Even if he's joking it's a horrible thing to do, especially as you already suffer low self esteem and he must know this as your bf.
I would say he's not worth bothering with but if you insist on staying with this insensitive boy then you need to p... (read in full...)
He has the final say about everything in our marriage, and I cant even get him to talk about our problems!
Q. i have been married to my husband for 27 years. ever since we married he has the say in our marraige, i was married for ten years before we had our son he never helps me around the house he works hard and is a good provider. we have not had a ...
A. 4 November 2010: You've allowed him to get away with this behaviour for 27 years so it will be very difficult to get him to change now. Why have you put up with it for so long? If you genuinlly feel he can change then you need to MAKE him listen to you. If he ... (read in full...)
I think I'm wasting both of our time because I love her but am not in love and don't think I ever will be
Q. Please take a minute and help me try to find an answer to this insanity I feel I am living in. I have been dating a gal for a little over 6 months. She is 28, I will be 32 next month. We had been online friends for nearly 5 years before we started ...
A. 4 November 2010: It seems to me the only reason you haven't called things off with this woman already is because of your fear of what other people will think. You can't live your life like that, it's your decision what you do, you're the only one in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Quick sex, no Frenching
Q. Why does my husband like quick sex but does not like to french kiss. Only to have his few minutes of fun and that is it. ...
A. 30 October 2010: Do you mean every single time? I sure hope not because every woman deserves more than that! If you haven't already spoken to him about it then do it sooner rather than later. I'm sure when he realises how much it's upsetting you he'll change his ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I am afraid to have sex?
Q. how do i tell my boyfriend i am afraid to have sex because: 1. i am afraid of getting pregnant 2. im still a virgin. we have been together for almost a year and i trust him. he means the world to me. also i did get to meet his brother and he w...
A. 28 October 2010: If you're not ready then be completely honest with your bf. There's no point putting it off or, even worse, going along with it just to please him because you'll only end up resenting him. If he loves you and cares for you then he will want to wait ... (read in full...)
How do I get their father to take an interest?
Q. I got married and had two kids with my husband. After five years i quit due to some misunderstandings with my husband. I left with my two kids whom i am still taking care of all by myself.My peers and relatives advices me to fall in love again an...
A. 27 October 2010: You can't avoid talking to him about this situation although I think you already know what the outcome will be. If he was any kind of father he would've been asking for contact by now. I understand exactly how difficult it is and drawing on support ... (read in full...)
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
Q. Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
A. 25 October 2010: well kittenpaws you certainly gave me something to think about! I honestly didn't see it that way and you make an excellant point!... (read in full...)
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