My bad depressing 2006 is spilling over into 2007...
Q. hi all, im not sure where to start, i had a real bad year last year , so far this year is not too bad.. but i cant seem to keep my head high and a smile on my face, ive been depressed before but it doesnt feel the same..just wishing something good ...
A. 8 January 2007: I think you've got yourself in to a mind set of feeling down and depressed and have forgotten how to enjoy yourself.
You need to see your GP maybe there's something that has happend? and you might benefit from some kind of therepy? be honest with... (read in full...)
My holiday hasn't even started and I'm in tears from missing my bf. Is it normal to feel this way?
Q. Hey guys, i'm going on holiday at half past 5 tomorrow morning to America (currently in England) i'll be there for two weeks and it has only been 3 days since I said goodbye to my boyfriend but I already miss him so much that I end up in tears ...
A. 8 January 2007: Yes it's normal but relax and enjoy your holiday! he isn't going to go off you in a couple of weeks! Some time apart might be nice imagine the fun you can have when you get back. "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and it's good sometimes to have ... (read in full...)
I do have savings right now. Is it smarter to rent for now or buy a house?
Q. My boyfriend and I both decided to live together very soon. He used to have a high paying job, but he has decided to go back to school for 4 years. I still live at home right now. My boyfriend said he might not be able to help with money while he's ...
A. 8 January 2007: I would carry on living at home save up some money so that you can put a deposit down to make your repayments lower and to buy nice things for your new home! By little things for your home together so he still knows your committed. If you really ... (read in full...)
We hugged for the first time and I said he was 'comfortable' - wrong thing to say?
Q. hi my new bf an i hugged yesterday for the first time and i said "y are u so comfortable" while hugging him lol! it just came out, i didnt mean to say that, i wasnt thinking lol. i just thought he was really comfortable and i was almost falling a...
A. 8 January 2007: I doubt he's even thinking about it! If he mentions it just say you felt comfortable hugging him, he doesn't have to know what you were thinking! Relax he doesn't need to know! :-)... (read in full...)
Last boyfriend broke up with me because I had pubic hair. What should I do?
Q. i was in a relationship recently and the guy broke up with me because i have pubic hair. it has downed my confidence. what should i do? how do i get rid of the hair without it coming in a rash. do guys hate pubic hair that much? please help me! i ...
A. 8 January 2007: Maybe he had never seen anyone with pubic hair before? It is natural and normal and there for a reason. If you feel you have more pubic hair than you'd like, either trim it with scissors (be careful!) or get some hair removal cream, read the ... (read in full...)
I keep getting waves of sickness and dizziness, could this mean i am pregnant?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom split...its way too late for emergency contraception now and we both tried our hardest top get some but we were refused and the doctors had no free appointments. We always use condoms but this time it ...
A. 8 January 2007: You need to take a pregnancy test and find out for sure, get one that indicates early whether you are pregnant or not.
It could be that you've picked up a stomach bug, having a period doesn't mean yout not pregnant so i wouldn't think that. What... (read in full...)
I'm at the point where either he trusts, loves and respects me or he moves on. Am I right in thinking this?
Q. Please, I do need advice I'm 32 and have been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months. He is living with me, and we started out getting along fine, however more recently I have been noticing some serious problems (or what I perceive to be)....
A. 8 January 2007: He seems to be reasurring you that he loves you so I don't think thats the problem, I think the problem is you feel taken advantage of, and that makes you feel resentful. He doesn't have a job right now and that can really lower someones spirits ... (read in full...)
Why is he enjoying the sensation of sex and i'm not?
Q. I want some other womens views about how sex is for them, please. I'm in a happy, long term relationship but I'm getting bored of sex! I know that women don't have to have an orgasm to make a baby so it's not as easy as it is for a guy but surely it ...
A. 8 January 2007: I think lilly223 has told you all the things you need to think about!
Try to relax and remember sex isn't just for baby making!... (read in full...)
Husband can't control his own finances so he leaches off mine and lies about it! Please someone give me advice on what to do.
Q. My husband had a heart attack in September followed by quadrupple bypass surgery. While I have suspected serious financial difficulties - my suspicions weren't nearly as monumental as what I found while he was in the hospital. When I went to clean ...
A. 8 January 2007: I can understand why your annoyed! but stop for 1 second and think - your husband has not long had major surgery, he knows he's not been paying his taxes and you have found out, he probably feels pretty stupid and worthless right now, I can ... (read in full...)
She needs compliments 'all the time' and it's draining me! Any advice?
Q. please someone help! i think my gf is crazy. she thinks i look at other girls all the time but i dont and is really self concious. like for instance shes getting at me because i apparantly call her hot and not gd looking and so she thinks she isnt ...
A. 6 January 2007: Hmmm you need to sit her down and explain to her how you feel, but also say to her that you think she over reacts sometimes, boost her confidence a little and reasure her that there's no one else for you. Say that you don't feel you have to tell how ... (read in full...)
Im only 13 and watching porn sites. Is this normal?
Q. I need some help. I've been looking at porn sites, but i'm only 13. i do it almost everyday, but a few weeks ago i stopped. Just last week i' starting to view them again. is this normal?...
A. 6 January 2007: It is normal to be interested in sex at your age,intersted in positions and techniques. I don't think that porn will give you these for 2 reasons.
If you tried to use porn techniques on a guy of your age i think he would be shocked that you appe... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he doesn't want to sleep with me!
Q. hi, i wrote about this problem i have a while ago and while i got some answers im still confused so i thought id ask again! rite. iv been going out with my boyfriend for around three years. he is a really nice guy and we get on really well toge...
A. 6 January 2007: Well i think you have already made your decision that you are not happy with your boyfriend, nagging him about the lack of sex is not helpful. He may have a low sex drive in which case you need to decide if sex is more important than you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's brother and might be pregnant! I have no idea what to do!
Q. Im a 16 yrs old and Im in love with my best friends brother who is 25. Im so scared because I lost my virginity to him. I am freaking out. I think Im pregnant. I cant talk to my mom or dad because it will hurt them that I had sex with a 25 year old. ...
A. 6 January 2007: First things first, get your self a home pregnancy kit and see if you are actually pregnant, then get youself to your GP to see if you have a infection or worse. Even as young as you are you must by now understand the risks if you don't use ... (read in full...)
We just got together for sex, but he said he likes me! I like him too, but should I just get out?
Q. Please help me!I recently started university, had a one night stand with a guy two years older, it was great!so he came back a couple more times. We text each other in the day quite a lot too, Plus he always rings me when he is drunk, even if we are ...
A. 6 January 2007: I think this guy is just having fun. He may well like you but not enough to stop him sleeping with another girl. I would ask him if he wanted to go out for a drink, and before you have to much to drink ask him if he would like to go out with you ... (read in full...)
My ex and our baby are living w/ me. I've found new love, but my ex says she'll move out and never let me see the baby again!
Q. a year ago i had a baby with my now ex partner.we split up.After a while she had no where to live so i agreed that they could both live with me till she got somewhere else as i would never see my child on the streets. I have now found new love but ...
A. 6 January 2007: This is serious blackmail! she can not stop you seeing your chid as long as you pay financially. She's probably panicking and secretly doesn't want you to move on. Explain to her that you would never see her on the streets but you have moved on and ... (read in full...)
He found out I was unfaithful in a past relationship..is this why he's gone cool?
Q. hi I have been in my current job now since the summer, which is not a permanent fixture. There is this guy who works there who i have fancy alot, and is ten years older than me, im 21 and he is 31, and we are both single. He is everything i cou...
A. 6 January 2007: Stop messing around! ask this guy out! you don't firt with someone for 6 months, if your single, if your not interested!
ask him out for a drink after work, it maybe that he's alittle shy or unsure about how you feel about him, and like you, does... (read in full...)
I'm not confident with guys and worried..I am way out of his league! How do I deal with this?
Q. hey, um ok so i like this guy and he likes me, he loves partying and having a drink, he has had a lot of girlfriends in the past- some quite serious relationships too. the thing is that i dont drink, hardly ever go out, not very confident with guys ...
A. 6 January 2007: He seems to like you for who you are I wouldn't worry too much how others see you.Try going out a bit more don't complain if he wants to go out and you don't just let him go on his own!
It can work, loosen up abit and enjoy yourself!... (read in full...)
Is she going to end it with me or should I just ask her whats wrong?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend now for a litle over a month, we met at work but since then I no longer work there. I love being with her so much and I have very strong feelings for her. I have met her parents and a few of her friends (and ...
A. 6 January 2007: Listen to farris thats very sound advice :-)... (read in full...)
After 5 years I am still completely crazy about him. Do I ust forget him?
Q. With pain and in tears I'm writing this, feeling like my world has been torn to pieces. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are both young (20 and 21), probably too youngh but it did work out well, we both love each other deeply and we ...
A. 6 January 2007: Ouch we all know the pain your going through. You are both young and I think that your boyfriend was being honest with you about wanting to experience other girls and to be honest at your age I think that is natural. But not if he is supposed to be ... (read in full...)
Have been unable to lose my virginity to my husband...
Q. I've been married for a few months now and I can't lose my virginity I feel like it is something so traumatic that I cry. And I love my husband very much please help....
A. 6 January 2007: I could suggest all the usual things about relaxing and getting used to each others touch etc, etc.
I would go and see your GP and ask them to check you out physically, and if this comes back all clear with I think it will, then set up a ther... (read in full...)
I feel like he's only staying with me to spare my feelings... so should I break with him?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 5 years, and we've been long-distance that entire time - he is in the UK, I am in the US. In the beginning, we decided that the only way the relationship would work is if we planned at what point we would be ...
A. 6 January 2007: 5 Years you 2 have lasted at a very long distance relationship. I would suggest being a little patient with him, it is a huge move to make to leave all his family and friends behind, he as anyone would will be very nervous about doing this and that ... (read in full...)
Should I back off? Should I send her flowers? What should I do!?
Q. I need you guys' help. I am 30 and my girlfriend who recently dumped me is 20. Don't ask me why but we just hit it off. Recently we have been arguing a lot lately and she has changed a lot over the last month and a half. Total time we have dated ...
A. 6 January 2007: You sounded like you did nothing wrong here. But she is trying to tell you that she's not interested in you. Sorry I don't mean to be blunt. When your 20 someone who's 30 seems fun and interesting, but maybe she needed someone more her age?
I woul... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets in a mood if I don't act super excited about what she's talking about! It's annoying putting on an act, though. Advice?
Q. I feel most of the time when im with my girlfriend (of 1 year) I have too put on an act. Im not a loud hyperactive speaking person and just say it as it is. But my girlfriend is the opposite and when im not jumping up and down over somthing she is ...
A. 6 January 2007: By "high maintenance" i just meant she didn't sound very easy going, as for the pajama thing it's good that she feels comfortable enough to do that. Maybe suggest days where one time you plan something to do and another time she plans something, ... (read in full...)
Away in Iraq, he grew tired of my constant need for re-assurance and ended it... where do I go from here?
Q. In april of this year I met a guy online who i got chatting to. It wasn't even remotely romantic to begin with and at the time was very into someone else. Usually if i logged off and cut the conversation short i would return to a message saying he ...
A. 6 January 2007: Maybe you could just drop him a text asking him if he's ok and how has he been. Doesn't need to be anyhing serious.
If he answers then keep everything nice and chatty if he doesn't answer after a week and move on and try to be strong if he cont... (read in full...)
Away in Iraq, he grew tired of my constant need for re-assurance and ended it... where do I go from here?
Q. In april of this year I met a guy online who i got chatting to. It wasn't even remotely romantic to begin with and at the time was very into someone else. Usually if i logged off and cut the conversation short i would return to a message saying he ...
A. 5 January 2007: I think this guy seems to like you and I can fully understand why he wanted to keep a distance why he was in Iraq. Being with someone in the armed forces is hard sometimes but not as hard as what they are going through. You were the one who went ... (read in full...)
Away in Iraq, he grew tired of my constant need for re-assurance and ended it... where do I go from here?
Q. In april of this year I met a guy online who i got chatting to. It wasn't even remotely romantic to begin with and at the time was very into someone else. Usually if i logged off and cut the conversation short i would return to a message saying he ...
A. 5 January 2007: I think this guy seems to like you and I can fully understand why he wanted to keep a distance why he was in Iraq. Being with someone in the armed forces is hard sometimes but not as hard as what they are going through. You were the one who went ... (read in full...)
Away in Iraq, he grew tired of my constant need for re-assurance and ended it... where do I go from here?
Q. In april of this year I met a guy online who i got chatting to. It wasn't even remotely romantic to begin with and at the time was very into someone else. Usually if i logged off and cut the conversation short i would return to a message saying he ...
A. 5 January 2007: I think this guy seems to like you and I can fully understand why he wanted to keep a distance why he was in Iraq. Being with someone in the armed forces is hard sometimes but not as hard as what they are going through. You were the one who went ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex, I think I'm obsessed, help!
Q. i cant get over my ex!im 18 and hes 25. and its been 6 weeks! even when im out with my friends i try my best not to think about him but i cant help it! i cant but think how much i wana be with him! when we were together it was amazing! and now its ...
A. 5 January 2007: Oh dear yeah we have all been there. Time is a great healer no matter how tacky it sounds!
Give yourself time at bed time to remember him and have a little cry but refuse to let it get you down all day long. Push it too the back of your mind and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my negative boyfriend?
Q. Ok. I have been seeing someone who I see good in but all I ever get back is negativity. He never tells me how he feels but when I ask he says ' well, I am with you aren't I?'. I am a very positive person and I came out of a very long and controll...
A. 5 January 2007: This guy is obviously not used to talking about his problems or things that are on his mind.I think maybe your moody with him because you don't feel he's giving you much attention. Just because he's moody doesn't mean it's aimed at you. Try to be ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm only second best in my man's life. I feel he'll never see things for what they could be. What should I do?
Q. i have been seeing a guy on and off for about 10 years.he says he loves me and i care a lot about him.but he thinks i should be happy with things the way they are.he lives with a woman they share nothing together but the home they made many years ...
A. 5 January 2007: Why would this guy change your giving him everything he wants. Has you for loving moments and his other woman to wash his socks.
After 10 years this man is never going to change you will never have the life you want and deserve with this man. You ... (read in full...)
Does he want to break up with me?
Q. I want to know if my boyfriend wants to break up with me? We went away for xmas - we had a huge fight - the first big one. We have been together for a year. The fight was that i received a text on my mobile phone from a male friend and told my ...
A. 5 January 2007: Give him some space. you should of been honest, but you know that now, we all make mistakes. Just think how you would react if this had happened to you.
Send him a text telling him your are sorry, you love him very much, and you will gve him some... (read in full...)
My bf gets jealous and yells at my guy friends when I talk to them! I've lost friends and am embarrassed and ashamed.
Q. My boyfriend gets insanely jealous when I talk about other guys who HONESTLY think of me as a friend. He spazzes out of them and says things like 'hey, why don't you back the f*** off?'...It embarasses me, and they don't talk to me anymore because ...
A. 5 January 2007: I would be very concerned about this, you may love your boyfriend, and he may have reason to be a bit jealous but the way he is treating you is UNACCEPTABLE. He is not only trying to push all your friends away he is also making a fool of you. You ... (read in full...)
How do I get dates aged 42?
Q. I want to date again... but I don't know how. I'm 42 but everyone tells me I look much younger. I've been divorced 8 years and am I full-time working single mom, so I haven't dated because I've been working on loving myself again... and being a ...
A. 5 January 2007: Firsty I want to say well done you!
for taking time out and spending time on yourself and on being a mum.
Your ready to meet someone and one day he will come along.
Try asking a friend to go out with you for a couple of drinks maye once a week ... (read in full...)
She is sexually experienced, I wasn't!
Q. I am an 19 year old college student and have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. We are very serious and I love her to death, but I have a problem getting over her past. She is 21 and has had sex with 5 guys between age 18 and 21 (lost her ...
A. 5 January 2007: You very into this girl, but everyone has a past and wether you agree with it or not it has happened and there's no way of changing it.
She hasn't done anything wrong to you and while she is faithful and loves you then I would keep your thou... (read in full...)
He's everything I've ever wanted... except for these negatives
Q. my boyfriend ignores my fone calls is allways late to meet me and sometimes stands me up i get told he's cheating and find texts on his fone from girls he allways has an excuse but when were together its perfect he's everything i ever wanted i love ...
A. 5 January 2007: talk talk talk!
Is the only way out of this one, you are beating yourself up about things that MIGHT be happening!
If he refuses to talk then you have to question your relationship with him, because you don't have everything you want/need in this ... (read in full...)
I told my friend I like him, but she kissed him in front of me! She's seeing two other guys, too. I'm so confused about what to do!
Q. I have what I think is a major problem. You see we hang out in a group of about six people me and my best friend Rachel are the only girls and I've been friends with one of the guys (Justin) for about 2 years now but we all started hanging out ...
A. 5 January 2007: Oh dear, I don't think your friend would be too upset if you and this guy were to become more than friends. You 2 seem to like each other. Although your friends pride maybe dented!
Just keep talking to this guy and being his friend, spend some time... (read in full...)
My bf goes out all night w/ his friends. I get nervous thinking he might still do this if we have a family - any advice?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years we are both 26 live together and have a great life. The one thing which is stopping it being perfect is the way i am when he says he is going out. He goes out twice a week at most with his friends to ...
A. 5 January 2007: You 2 need to talk about this, explain your fears to him calmly and rationally.
You are thinking about the worst thing that could happen, that he goes out with his mates and cheats.
It could just be that he goes to the pub and has a few drinks a... (read in full...)
He broke up w/ me and I feel he still cares but is too proud to admit his mistake. Can I get him back?
Q. Bf and i split 8 mths ago. I was devastated. We're still very close. Slept with him in aug and dec. He bought my shopping over when ill 3wks ago. He came for dinner on 1st jan. I hoped he'd stay. He didn't. He left my place of wk yest. We never said ...
A. 5 January 2007: This is a silly game your both playing. Just call him ask him if he wants to try again. The worst he can say is no and if he does then move on.... (read in full...)
My bf broke up with me out of the blue! What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend borke up with me on new years eve via sms, one minute he sends me I love you, the next we should break up, we havent spoken face to face yet, I dont understand why he broke up with me, there was no signs nor fights! What shall I do?...
A. 5 January 2007: I would leave it a couple of weeks see if he gets in touch.
If he doesn't then I would move on with your life and try to forget about him.
He doesn't seem to care about you too much if he can break up by sms.... (read in full...)
He isn't being straight about his feelings towards me - what's going on?
Q. So, i got dumped 8 months ago, he said he didnt know what he wanted. then came back to me took me out planned to go on holiday then i got rid of him ( fedup of not knowing where i stood) he then went back to his ex, went on holiday with her. Then...
A. 5 January 2007: He wants to have it all and to keep you dangling on a string!
Move on and meet someone else, this guy is not good for your emotions.
He wants you when he can be bothered, get out of it and have some fun!... (read in full...)
After four years, my divorced ex tracked me down. He's my soulmate, but under the circumstances I'm very confused about what to do!
Q. I have been dating a man on and off for approx. 10yrs. The first time we broke up it was so he could move due to the fact that he missed his child who lived several states away. The second time we broke up because the ex he dumped shortly before we ...
A. 5 January 2007: To be honest I think he wants you when nothing else is on offer, you seem very sweet and maybe he takes advantage of your good nature because you make him feel good about himself. I would be very very wary of giving yourself to this man again.
I... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets in a mood if I don't act super excited about what she's talking about! It's annoying putting on an act, though. Advice?
Q. I feel most of the time when im with my girlfriend (of 1 year) I have too put on an act. Im not a loud hyperactive speaking person and just say it as it is. But my girlfriend is the opposite and when im not jumping up and down over somthing she is ...
A. 5 January 2007: You 2 seem pretty incompatable.
She seems to demand a lot of attention from you and thats not fun for either of you.
She is what some people would call "high maintenance" which after a year and can understand why it's getting weary.
Try to en... (read in full...)
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