I called the guy I love and I don't know if I should believe in what he says?
Q. I have deep feelings for a guy I met a year ago. We met in person but is one of those cases where you wish it could been more if it wasn't b/c he had to leave shortly since he is an active duty airman. So, we communicate via email. What started a...
A. 3 November 2008: I don't think anything "is going on" I think he's being straight with you. He sounds like he genuinely cares for you and I would try to meet him as soon as you can that, I think, Would let you know if anything can/will happen between you :-) Good L... (read in full...)
Why didnt he just do it? I really wanted him to !!!
Q. ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half now. and the other night while fooling around we started talking about our first night together.. i told him i was ready but i just wasnt sure. so the next day we both we knew we were gonna be ...
A. 1 November 2008: I don't think it's you, most men have a moment like this.
He might like you alot and as you said he'd been thinking about it all day, you might not have put any pressure on him but he might have been worried about pleasing you, and making sure he g... (read in full...)
Who is right ???
Q. me and the guy i sit next to in my english class were arguing about this today... and i just wanted some opinions as to who was right. i was wondering if guys consider it awkward when girls ask them out, instead of the guy asking the girl out. ...
A. 1 November 2008: Take a deep breath and ask him..... what do you have to lose? He might even say yes!
Be casual ask him if he fancies a coffee or something. There's nothing wrong with letting someone know you like them.... (read in full...)
I have developed a serious crush on my co-worker, but am not sure if he likes me back
Q. So, I have developed a serious crush on my co-worker, but am not sure if he likes me back or even what I should do about it. We make eye contact a lot, he writes on my facebook wall, we've joked around some at work and he makes me laugh a lot. But i ...
A. 1 November 2008: Relax! Your doing all the right things. Do you know if he has a girl friend already?
If you not continue as you are, or maybe ask him if he fancies a drink after work one night, if that feels a bit too much, then ask a few other people along.
He mi... (read in full...)
I don't want just sex !!
Q. Okay maybe someone can help me with my dillema, I'm 21 and gay, open about it. Now whenever it comes to relationships I always hit a wall. Most guys approach me and compliment me on my good looks and appearance and then immediately ask me for a ...
A. 1 November 2008: Sounds like your a good looking guy, and unfortunatly, gay or straight, you will get offers like this. Good for you for having the self confidence and respect for yourself to say no.
The right person will come along, and will want what you want you ... (read in full...)
Does he actually like me and what should I do?
Q. I like my best friend a lot. He knows how I feel and nothing had been done. I am afraid that he doesn't like me like that. But we have shared a kiss. He said he thought he was kissing his ex-wife thats why he kissed me. During that kiss we cuddled. ...
A. 1 November 2008: I think this guy is just getting you to kiss him etc because he fancies a kiss not because it's you. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but he is not treating you with much respect and your letting him.
Don't let yourself kiss him or anything else agai... (read in full...)
She's so CLINGY I can't stand it! Should I break up or tell her I need some space?
Q. alright well iv been dating this girl for like only 2 weeks now...and we both live in a residence at our college. Well pretty much since the first day we met she is soooo clingy..we always have to be holding hands, hugging, rubbing or whatever the ...
A. 1 November 2008: You know the answer to this, you seem pretty fed up with it all. After 2 weeks she does seem a bit full on.
Talk to her and tell her that you feel a bit smothered and you need time on your own to do your homework, study and spend time with you mate... (read in full...)
I think my friends have stolen the sex tape I recorded with my girlfriend, I'm freaked out!
Q. My girlfriend and me made a sex tape (we mainly just make out in it with our clothes off) for my birthday. Well my friends came over randomly when I was watching. They (I didn't let them watch it with me cause I promise her it would between us) ask ...
A. 1 November 2008: I would say they have taken it. Speak to them and tell them it's private and you want the tape back.
I think if you value your relationship your going to have to tell her that they took it, because you run the risk of one of your mates telling her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his colleague and I had a threesome, now I'm hyperworried about the time he spends at work!...
Q. hi,went on a business trip with my boyfriend of 2 years,he always talked about the young girl at work and it bothered me,this was the second time i met her ,her and i became drunk and began kissing which later ended up in bed,we did nothing more ...
A. 1 November 2008: This is the problem when you bring other people in to your relationship. You need to speak with him and ask him what his intentions are and if they're planning on doing anything. Explain to him that your worried and tell him that you wouldn'tbe ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go out with her and realise I don't like her!
Q. Hello Ive recently started to like this girl and i have only started to realise this when we were apart on half term from school. Ive missed her and havent been able to go to sleep because ive been thinking about her. Now as quickly as that ...
A. 1 November 2008: Just because you like this girl doesn't mean you have to date her.
Just try being friends and see how it goes, it would be wrong to take things further when your not sure.
Feelings change and maybe your just supposed to be great mates!... (read in full...)
Do you think I blew my chances with this guy I like so much by calling him?
Q. Yesterday, I had the chance of calling this guy I have feelings for but haven't seen for a year and a half ago. He's military and just came back from deployment so I called him to check on him. I was so excited and nervous I mostly did all the talk...
A. 1 November 2008: I'm sure it didn't change his opinion of you. Delete the recorded message, he's probably not even thinking any thing of it!... (read in full...)
Has anyone out there ever been with a person they thought was their soul mate and they leave you...?
Q. Just so I can gain some strength and hope.... Has anyone out there ever been with a person they thought was their soul mate, best friend and the love of their life... only for them to leave you to go back to their ex wife or husband?... Yet you have ...
A. 31 October 2008: Some times you can not make sense of things, but you have to accept he has made a decision, and it sounds like it was a hard one.
You don't say if him and his ex have any kids? If they do then that could be why.
Do not chase him, do not send him... (read in full...)
Do you think I blew my chances with this guy I like so much by calling him?
Q. Yesterday, I had the chance of calling this guy I have feelings for but haven't seen for a year and a half ago. He's military and just came back from deployment so I called him to check on him. I was so excited and nervous I mostly did all the talk...
A. 31 October 2008: I think you should take some deep breaths and calm down. Men don't normally say it's good to hear from you etc if they don't mean it.
Although you are just friends and you hadn't spoken for a while he was probably suprised and unsure what to say.... (read in full...)
My friend and I have had a sort of a tiff!
Q. Me and a really close friend who have been talking for a while are in a sort of tiff... I have no idea what to do... I need help :( I have been told by one of my friends that I'm being a bit clingy and I should leave him a while but I'm finding ...
A. 31 October 2008: Was he with friends that don't know that he's gay? Maybe he was worried someone would get his phone and find out?
Maybe he was just chilling out and relaxing?
Just because he couldn't text you there and then doesn't really mean anything.
Relax wit... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for forgiving him for everything he did?????
Q. hey this may sound crazy but i could really use ur help!!!!!!! a couple of years ago i was friends with this guy and then he told me he hated me and wished i was dead!!!!! now even more things have happened between us. Last night i ran into him and ...
A. 31 October 2008: You have both grown up a bit since back then, if it was me I would probably forgive him, as in the end your only hurting and annoying yourself.
Although I probably wouldn't be friends with him, unless you feel you can sit down and talk to him and ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating?
Q. Hello Okay, i am incredibly obessed with my girlfriend and we have dated almost 3 years already and we've been breaking up and hooking up again every few weeks but there are still stuff that are still bothering me? Last year me and my frien...
A. 31 October 2008: You need to talk to her and ask her what she wants. If she says she doesn't know, then say to her you'll give her space until she makes her mind up, but then DO give her space!
If this goes on for more than a couple of weeks I would probably thin... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend went to a strip club, got a lap dance...
Q. Long Term BF went to a strip club, got a lap dance (2 actually) sat around chatting with the strippers and says it's harmless. Let me give a bit of background, both divorced, in a ltr of 3 years, we've got a great relationship, very direct and ...
A. 31 October 2008: I don't think you have anything to worry about, he's been honest and has told you all about it. It would be a worry if he hadn't and you'd found out.
For him it probably was a turn on, but given the option he'd chose you everytime.
Try and relax a ... (read in full...)
Is friendship all that's on offer here?
Q. Hey, I've met this girl I really like at my college. I've liked her since we first met and I really really want to be with her, but I can't tell if she likes me the same way or not. One day she practically ignores me but the next she'll ask me if I ...
A. 31 October 2008: There's only one way to find out! Ask her out! You never know she might even say yes!... (read in full...)
I don't want sex
Q. me and my fiance and had a baby 1 year ago and since then i havent wanted to have sex or do anything sexual at all! i can count the amount of times we have slept together on 1 hand! my partner was understanding at first but now i can see hes star...
A. 31 October 2008: I can only say what I would do.
I know it's hard with a small baby, but sex is important in a relationship, he needs to know you still find him sexy and attractive.
Explain to him that you know you haven't been intersted in sex, and it isn't an... (read in full...)
The man I am dating he had made clear that he doesn't want a commitment.
Q. The man i am dating he had made clear that he doesn't want a commitment. Although i don't agree with him i see him because he is interested and i like to spend time with him. When i meet him i develop feelings for him but i try to hide them as he ...
A. 31 October 2008: This guy has told you he doesn't want a relationship. You can either enjoy it for what it is, or if you want something more serious you need to move on.
Be grateful he's been honest, and hasn't led you a merry dance!
You'll find some one who is l... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating?
Q. Hello Okay, i am incredibly obessed with my girlfriend and we have dated almost 3 years already and we've been breaking up and hooking up again every few weeks but there are still stuff that are still bothering me? Last year me and my frien...
A. 31 October 2008: The only way to know for sure is for one of them to tell you. If you have asked your girlfriend and she has said nothing is going on, and you don't believe her then you obviously don't trust her.
I think they are close, but whether she is chea... (read in full...)
Please help!!! Do you think its too late to save us???
Q. ok here goes.. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months. when i first met him, i think we rushed into the relationship a bit soon because i had only just come out of a long term relationship myself.but he was too good to let slip...
A. 31 October 2008: Hmmm tricky. I think you need a few days apart, explain to him that you both need some time to think and then you should get together and talk about everything that has happened. Be honest with each other, and try and talk things through.
You get ... (read in full...)
Does this make me a lesbian?
Q. This is gonna be one long winded question, so yeah! Anyway, I'm currently seventeen. I've been dating my current boyfriend for 3 years. When I was young (about 9-10) I used to have the biggest crushes on boys, and it's been that way forever. ...
A. 31 October 2008: Hi, your young and your hormones are all over the place! Don't try and put yourself in a box and label yourself. You might be straight, gay or bisexual.
Try and relax a bit about the whole thing, sometimes you do fancy or see something that turn... (read in full...)
Cheated on by my boyfriend, how do I get on with my life?
Q. I'm a 26 year old gay man, just coem out of a 7 year relationship because my partner had been cheating on me. Going through a messy break up as we have joint mortgage and were married last year. Just wondered how everyone else copes/has coped ...
A. 18 January 2008: I'm going through a similar break up, (although no one cheated)
and there's no quick fix, the next few months will be stressful in regards to your mortgage, but that will soon sort it's self out.
The only thing you can try to do is be strong a... (read in full...)
Is it really, all over between us?
Q. ok so my boyfriend and i got into a real heated argument on monday.. he said things like i want to be single and its over ... usually when we fight we talk like right after but it has been 3 days... I called him and left him message ..... but no ...
A. 18 January 2008: You don't say how serious your argument was, but if your arguing alot maybe he needed a break from it.
I would maybe send him 1 more message asking him if he was sure he made the right choice in finshing things.
If he doesn't reply or answers ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and Mum hasn't helped me. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I am a virgin in my twenties.I was suffering from anxiety for an year or so. This was due to working continually for night shifts in my job.I could not get out of it.My health had gone down.I remained away from friends and work. I am close...
A. 18 January 2008: Your mum shouldn't of done this to you, you need to speak to her and tell you didn't like it and not to do anything like that again.
being a virgin and having sex is not a huge deal, when you meet the right person it will happen.
Your putting ... (read in full...)
I've pushed him away in the past but now I need a crystal ball!
Q. I've known "john" for 8 years. We both live in a small farm town, and he happens to live only about a half a mile from my house. Everyday up until 3 months ago we were together. John had always been in love with me and I knew this, but for some ...
A. 18 January 2008: You lucky thing you! This guy (John) obviously likes you alot and maybe even loves you. He waited around for you for a long time and watching you date other men couldn't of been good for him, and so he eventually decided that he needed to try and ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade her that sex is not repulsive?
Q. There is a major problem with my relationship. My partner thinks sex is repulsive. We have not engaged in any physical acts other that kissing and such but nothing sexual in nature. She was brought up very conservatively and strictly on the nature ...
A. 18 January 2008: Firstly don't take this personally I'm sure she fancies you she just finds it hard to let go. Try not to feel neglected.
Try to build up her self esteem give her lots of little kisses and hugs with out it going any further, tell she looks beau... (read in full...)
Was he doing it for longer than he admitted to?
Q. Hi this time last year I had learnt that my boyfriend now my fiance had been making calls to sex lines. I was drinking a lot and he had just lost his Nan and we had a lot of money toubles. At the time I was cut up however after a lot of thought and ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi
You tried to block out your feelings with alcohol and your bf tried to do it with sex lines.
You were both going through a tough time and instead of pulling together you found other ways of dealing with what was going on.
Although I don't cond... (read in full...)
How can I get along with his mother?
Q. Okay so here's the deal.. I'm having family problems at home, and i'm about to move 250 miles away from everything, it's going to be hard to start a new life as i don't have any qualifications or a job (yet). So i'm going to live with my boyfri...
A. 17 January 2008: You need to speak to your bf and ask him to have a word with her. You don't seem to be doing anything wrong, just as you say remember your manners and be clean.
Sometimes though unfortunatly some women are never good enough for their "little boys... (read in full...)
My family broke up, now they're all back. It's causing me big problems. How do I cope with this?
Q. I'm sorry, this might be a bit long... A few years ago, when I was 13, my family started breaking up, slowly but surely. I didn't know it at the time, but my parents were having problems as my dad kept getting us into debt and lying about it. Thei...
A. 17 January 2008: Your not being irrational I can understand how you feel.
Yes your parents split up but now it seems they have sorted their differences and are back together, which is a good thing, it just means your having to adjust again to a new way of life. No o... (read in full...)
This 23 year-old guy gave me my first orgasm - I'm 38 and married. Should I move out to India to be with him?
Q. If anyone out there can help ME GET MY HEAD STRAIGHT please do. At the end of Dec 2007 I met the most lovely, handsome and charming Indian man - problem is he is 23yrs old - 15yrs younger than me and I am married,I have always been faithful to...
A. 17 January 2008: I think realistically you'd be insane to go to India to be this guy, you should try and fix the problems within your marriage, there must be some or you wouldn't of cheated.... (read in full...)
Do I still love my ex?
Q. When I was 14 I dated "jerome"... this lasted about a year and a half on and off ALOT.. it was an awful relationship but we had our good emotional times. We both understand eachother more then anyone in the world.. I coudl never be more comfortable ...
A. 17 January 2008: You have history with your ex, and only spending time with him again is going to tell you whether you still love him - some people you never get over.
Although spending time with him could be risky, your current bf won't like it, which you can unde... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this spot?
Q. I am thinking of mayb takin it further with my boyfriend. I am ready to have sex but there is one thing that is pulling me back and that is i have a stubble down below. Is there anyway i can get a clean shave with out waxing as i am allergic to the ...
A. 17 January 2008: I wouldn't worry to much, I'm sure he's not going to notice!
Keep an eye on it though if it doesn't go you should get it checked by a doctor.... (read in full...)
Contraceptive questions - any Doctors out there to answer?
Q. Hii well i just wanted 2 ask everyone, especially the doctors on this site.. im on the contraceptive implant and i will be coming off it in september.. I dont have regular periods and when i do have a period it could last a month etc.. I will go ...
A. 10 January 2008: i can't answer your conraceptive questions but please think twice about having a child so young, whats the rush if your going to spend your whole lives together?
Think twice - good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I stop him sending pictures on his phone?
Q. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps texting other girls. He has pictures of them and dirty messages which he sends and they send. He does not know I have seen them.....this time. I confronted him few months ago about them and he promised he would stop ...
A. 10 January 2008: I feel for you, your mixed up enough with the pregnancy with out this. Tell him you know he's doing it again and tell him he should have mre respect for you, ask him how you would feel if you did the same thing with other men.
Unfortunatly you can'... (read in full...)
Engagement in South Africa. Is this true?
Q. I am from the United States and my boyfriend is from South Africa. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married in 2 to 3 1/2 years because at this point in time, we are financially unable to get married at this point. He says that in South ...
A. 10 January 2008: I dated a SA guy once and he never mentioned this, but SA guys do tend to be very respectful if their families.
Maybe he doesn't want to rush into anything, and thats fair enough, maybe he said it that way because he didn't want to hurt your feel... (read in full...)
What did his gesture mean?
Q. I don't know if i am being paranoid, that's why i need you guys to help me out please!! I was chilling out with my boyfriend at his friend's place. At one point i was playing with the dog when i heard my guy tell his friend, 'I had a----- that's why ...
A. 10 January 2008: I think he means he had been touching himself, nothing wrong in that, just ask him and have a laugh about it... (read in full...)
I dumped him over his smoking. Was I being too harsh?
Q. My boyfriend made a big song and dance about quitting smoking because i'm very anti it. He said things along the lines of: you're my inspiration for quitting, i quit for you, etc. All lovey dovey stuff. But then a few weeks later we're at his mate's ...
A. 10 January 2008: It's not about him smoking it's about that he made you feel and look, any guy who tries to make you look stupid in front of other people really isn't worth it.... (read in full...)
Should I ask this other girl out now that my current relationship is ending??
Q. There is this girl which i like and im pretty sure she likes me as well, but theres a problem with this. I have a girlfriend....sort of. Me and my girlfriend are together right now, its nearing the end, we are talking about where we are going an...
A. 10 January 2008: I sounds like your relationship is over, so there's no harm in asking this girl out for a drink or something - please be a gentleman and finish with your gf first!
Even if this girl you like says no (which she might not!)you haven't lost anyt... (read in full...)
How can I get her back once shes cleared her head??
Q. My girlfriend of several months has decided to take a break and needs some space. I was a rebound guy and we moved pretty fast, so this makes sense to me. But I am still interested, and wonder what I should do in the intern and how I might get her ...
A. 10 January 2008: The answer really is you don't try and get her back.
Send her a message and say that you hope she's ok and to get in touch when she's ready.
Then wait for her to get in touch with you - just don't put your life on hold waiting for her.... (read in full...)
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