I touched something inside her.... is she still a virgin ?
Q. hey.. i have a girlfriend and were still together like more than 2 years and shes worried because i put entered my finger in her thing..and it was about 3.5 inches..and i felt something its hard to explain what but it was a little deep and i hardly...
A. 28 March 2007: She is still a virgin because she hasn't had sex! The hymen when it breaks can vary on how much it bleeds. Just because this has broken does not mean she's not a virgin. There is a chance you could of broken it, or she could of broken it along time ... (read in full...)
He left me and our little daughter! I'm a mess..how do I cope?
Q. hi my partner has just left me after 4 years together we have a 2 year old daughter as well.. i just cant seem to cope im lonly i love him so much and i would do any thing to have him back he rang the other nite saying he regrets it and wants to ...
A. 28 March 2007: Oh well done you!
Take control of your own life and it will all fall into place.
you will hurt for a while but in time you'll have a huge smile on your face you should be proud of yourself :-)... (read in full...)
Im depressed all the time, I think my relationship could be the problem, what can I do ?
Q. i feel really depressed at the moment i just cant seem to snap out of it.ive not woked for a while and that is getting me down tho i should be starting a new job in a few weeks. my relationship is not going well as i feel my boyf of just over year ...
A. 28 March 2007: Oh well done you!
I'm glad you spoke to him and now maybe you don't feel so alone.
Good luck in the new job, this is certainly a turning point and things can only get better!
... (read in full...)
He left me and our little daughter! I'm a mess..how do I cope?
Q. hi my partner has just left me after 4 years together we have a 2 year old daughter as well.. i just cant seem to cope im lonly i love him so much and i would do any thing to have him back he rang the other nite saying he regrets it and wants to ...
A. 27 March 2007: Stop right now what you are doing!
You need to eat and sleep and take care of you and your child, no man is worth that. I know you think everything sucks and life is incredibly unfair right now. Please don't do anything silly your child needs you,... (read in full...)
Im so confused! Do I try to get back with my ex fiance or go for this new guy who's 47!
Q. I'm 17 and was with my boyfriend for 3 years, we even got engaged. I was having trouble coming to terms with my mums death and he thought sex was more important than my feelings. We then went on a break for a week and he moved into his mums. Then 5 ...
A. 27 March 2007: Oh dear your very confused. Take a deep breath.
your ex boyfriend doesn't seem to have much respect for you, going through a death of a parent is one of the hardest things and he didn't sound like he was very supportive. I wouldn't try and get back... (read in full...)
My lover wants me to leave my bf! What should I do?
Q. Im in a relationship with a guy for 7 yrs, and I just started having an affair. Now my lover wants me to leave the guy Ive been with. Can you please help?...
A. 27 March 2007: Well things in your relationship that aren't quite right need to be resolved. Are things rocky in your relationship? What needs to be worked on? Or have you simply become bored?
Try taking into account that you and your bf have been together for ... (read in full...)
Married and I was his 'first' everything! Now porn has made problems in our marriage! What should I do?
Q. I am glad i found this site and hope for some helpful advice. I cant talk to friends or family because I FEEL like an idiot! I have been married for 11 years to a man i thought and everyone else thought was terrific, till Jan of this year, when i f...
A. 27 March 2007: I'm not suprised you feel like your losing your mind, I think anyone in your position would feel the same. Although looking st some porn I think is quite normal but he seems to have been looking at quite alot of it, and as you said he knew you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with my best friend, how could they do this to me, Im so hurt!!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for close to four years. We lived together and planned on marrying. A month ago I went on a trip for a week, when I returned my bf and I talked and decided that we both needed some time to make sure we still wanted the same ...
A. 27 March 2007: Unfortunatly there seems like there was cracks in your relationship before you went away. He obviously thought he could get away with it, or he didn't care enough to stop it, incase he was found out.
Your hurt and it's red raw right now, the only... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said she would never get back with me, so why does she still contact me!?
Q. My girlfriend said she would never get back with me!! I wrote an email, i love you but we have to move on now. take care. So why does she still phone me????? Seems that when she is lonely and things go wrong in her life she comes to me Plea...
A. 27 March 2007: Because she can have her cake and eat it! You either decide that you will be just friends with her, and listen to her problems and help her as a friend would. Or you tell her to stop calling you and that you have both moved on. She can't have you to ... (read in full...)
I ended up having sex with the wrong number guy! All I wanted was a friend should I stay in contact ?
Q. Ilive with my boyfriend,but the relationship is a mess.My love for him is fading day by day,he makes no effort to express his love.I met this guy who mistakenly called my mobile and we clicked straight away,what amazed me is that he got the same ...
A. 27 March 2007: You know what you should do and you know what you want to do. You need to sort out your relationship with your boyfriend and see if you can make that work. I think you would be fooling yourself if you thought you could see this other guy with out ... (read in full...)
I touched something inside her.... is she still a virgin ?
Q. hey.. i have a girlfriend and were still together like more than 2 years and shes worried because i put entered my finger in her thing..and it was about 3.5 inches..and i felt something its hard to explain what but it was a little deep and i hardly...
A. 27 March 2007: Normally the skin that breaks when a girl loses her virginity is further up her vagina, but this could of happened, but splitting the skin can happen easily through such things as horse riding, or riding a bike.
If she has started her periods the ... (read in full...)
My wife has just lost her dad, I really want to support and help her through this but she wont let me in, what can I do ?
Q. Ok, hope many of you can help here.Me and my wife are ahppily married and have been for sometime we normally are very open with each other and can tell each other anything but since last Thursday shes been finding life very hard. She lost her dad ...
A. 27 March 2007: You both feel scared and angry, especially your wife. She will not be in control of her emotions right now, so if she lashes out just be there for her, of course you feel uncomfortable round her because your scared of saying the wrong thing and ... (read in full...)
Im depressed all the time, I think my relationship could be the problem, what can I do ?
Q. i feel really depressed at the moment i just cant seem to snap out of it.ive not woked for a while and that is getting me down tho i should be starting a new job in a few weeks. my relationship is not going well as i feel my boyf of just over year ...
A. 27 March 2007: Oh dear you seem to be a bit stuck in a rut right now. Firstly you don't seem that bothered about your boyfriend and to be honest he's not doing much for your self asteem. I think you should think about finishing things with him you need someone in ... (read in full...)
Is he just getting with me on the rebound ?
Q. me and my boyfriend may be getting back together. he broke up with his girlfriend just over a week ago and we have been getting closer ever since, he was with his ex girlfriend for over a year, she fancies someone else and he fancies me, i am just ...
A. 27 March 2007: The answer to this is easy do everything slowly. Tell this guy that you like him but you want to move slow with him, enjoy your time with him and see how things progress don't rush into doing anything!
Good Luck... (read in full...)
My husband is not willing to change things to make his future more secure. Why is he this way?
Q. I have been married now for eleven years. It's not a bad marriage, but we have our problems like everybody else. My husband has always worked in factories as an unskilled labourer. He is concerned that this may not be a long-term job option for ...
A. 27 March 2007: I think your husband has a confidence problem with finding alternative jobs.
If this has become a a big issue between you, maybe you need to not talk about it for a while.
Because he has a "unskilled" job doesn't mean there's not lots of other op... (read in full...)
How long should I expect the break to last while she gets her business sorted out!?
Q. Hi, I posted a few weeks ago about my girlfriend who wants a break to concentrate on her business because its failing. She said she loved me and it wasn't a permanent break and that she'd contact me, she just needed to sort her business. It'...
A. 27 March 2007: "If you love someone let them go"
Which is exactly what you have done, it's hard giving people space when your missing them so much, but when she has finished working on her buisness I'm sure she'll be grateful of the space you have given her.... (read in full...)
She has lack of interest in being intimate as she feels unattractive, this causes rows and now our relationship is in danger!!
Q. As of recently my girlfriend and i have had a problem with being intimate (lack of sex , no prolonged kissing etc..) , when we talk about it , she says its the fact that she has no sexual desire whatsoever , because she says she doesnt feel sexy ...
A. 27 March 2007: I think so many women can relate to this. Also because she knows you want sex and she doesn't have the confidence to, will make her feel guilty and alot worse.
You do need to resolve this. There are a couple of ways you could help, because the fact... (read in full...)
Why do I want to run the other way, when I find out a guy likes me?
Q. whenever I like a guy and I find out he likes me to I want to run a mile! I dont like the thought of other people knowing my feelings. what does this mean and how can I get around it? Because im fed up of being alone and i really want to get over my ...
A. 27 March 2007: This is a trust issue. Someone somewhere has let you down bady and now your afraid to show how you feel. Alot of people feel like this more than you would probably realise.
When you meet the right person you will feel your able to open up to him ... (read in full...)
Husband thinks an old bf is seeing me and now I worry, he'll stray on me! Any advice?
Q. Me and my husband we don't talk to each other, because of the email he found in my cellphone from ex-boyfriend telling me how much he love me. My husband he thinks that I still see the guy somewhere.I don't know what to say to him to make him beli...
A. 27 March 2007: You and your husband need to talk it's as simple as that!
Explain what happend and tell him about your worries. There doesn't seem to be much trust in your marriage, you need to learn to trust each other, maybe you should try some marriage ther... (read in full...)
Torn between 2 men! Is chemistry more important than a stable relationship and a good future?
Q. hi all! i'm sorry this is quite a long question and any answers i get will not influence the chioce i've already made but i would really like everyones opinion on "chemistry" Heres the thing, about a year and a half ago i met this guy (he was a co...
A. 27 March 2007: Chemistry is exciting and can make your heart beat like mad! usually this does fizzle out and fade in time. The you will be in the stable relationship anyway. Also you can end up going from one relationship to another just to keep the "chemisty" ... (read in full...)
Relationship is fizzling and I don't know why! How can we save this?
Q. our relationship is on the rocks, it feels as though its just fizzling out. nothing major has happened to cause this, its just happening over time. is there anything we can do to save it??? ...
A. 27 March 2007: You don't really go into any detail, but talk to him ask him if he is happy, if he's noticed that things are fizzeling out between you. You won't be able to save anything on your own, your partner needs to recognise that he needs to work on it too, ... (read in full...)
He left me and our little daughter! I'm a mess..how do I cope?
Q. hi my partner has just left me after 4 years together we have a 2 year old daughter as well.. i just cant seem to cope im lonly i love him so much and i would do any thing to have him back he rang the other nite saying he regrets it and wants to ...
A. 27 March 2007: Don't be so hard on yourself, relationships are hard when they end and things seem like they will never get better, they will it just takes time.
Your partner seems confused right now, and doesn't seem to know what he wants. I suggest right now you ... (read in full...)
She wants to move on and I'm finding it hard to accept..what should I do?
Q. Hi I have just broken up with my girlfriend after 3 and a half years together. Recently we have been fighting over really stupid little things and are both to stubborn to say sorry and so let things get out of control.I feel that a major part of our ...
A. 27 March 2007: Some times as much as you love someone, you just can't have any sort of relationship with them. Your ex girlfriend has come to a choice that is right for her and maybe in time you will see it's right for you too.
The only thing you can do is try ... (read in full...)
Why cant I have 2 wives if both women love me!?
Q. why i cant have 2 wifes if both woman loves me and i love them , and who made that law for us and what is the sense of it? as we all know that woman get another kind of feelings and therefor man and woman fall in love and make a new life and they ...
A. 27 March 2007: Depends on your beliefs I suppose. From where I stand 1 husband is as much as I want, why have 2 when you can have all you want and need from 1 loving person as long as it's the right one. Plus 2 husbands would be twice the headache! You seemed to ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to talk to me and be honest with me about what she is feeling?
Q. My gf of 6 years and I have been havin a lot of problems and have split up twice now this year. We have 3 young kids together. We split up for around 2 weeks in Jan, during this time we spoke about all our problems and said that we both loved ea...
A. 27 March 2007: Unfortunatly it seems this relationship has broken down and she doesn't feel the same way about you anymore. She still cares about you, this could be why she is finding it hard to say things are over, maybe she doesn't want to think of you not being ... (read in full...)
How can I ask her out again so she GOES this time?
Q. i asked this girl out 3months ago. we didn't know each other so she said she doesn't feel the same and just wants to be friends. well suprisingly after i asked her she continued to talk to me on msn a lot. We are planning to go out in group of ...
A. 27 March 2007: You can't make any one do anything they don't want to. This girl is being sensible, ahe doesn't really know you or any of the others that are going to meet up.
Your getting slightly carried away and maybe your coming on too strong?
You need to ... (read in full...)
I want to so bad but how about if he doesn't feel the same back? Should I tell him?
Q. Well I met this boy online. He's 17 and I'm 14. When I talk to him I get butterflies. And he's told me constantly how beautiful I am and how he loves me. I love him so much too. But we always just flirt. He doesn't know that I reallllyyy do love ...
A. 27 March 2007: No don't tell him anything personal about yourself. You have to be very careful about people you meet online no matter how much you talk and how honest he appears to be.
Some people online can try to make you do and feel things so they can take adva... (read in full...)
How can we make penetration easier?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend tryed to have sex the other night. but he couldnt get his penis in me, he found it sore because i was to tight. but i am not a virgin, its been 4 months since i had sex with someone else and it wasnt as difficult , how ...
A. 27 March 2007: You won't have got tighter because you haven't had sex for 4 months.
Relax the more you worry the more uptight your going to be. Next time you decide to have sex relax, make sure your in a safe place and nothing is going to disturb you, then begi... (read in full...)
Does he think we are boyfriend/girlfriend or what? I am too shy to ask him.
Q. Ive recently been seeing this boy for over a week now. hes still not ask the question, " will you go out with me" but the other night i said to him .. " how long have we been seeing each other for" and he replied " over a week but seems like we ...
A. 27 March 2007: You don't need to know really do you? It wouldn't change anything. Wait and I'm sure he'll ask you, your both still getting to know each other, just relax and have fun, and then if he does ask you it will feel so much nicer!... (read in full...)
Things arent has romantic as they were, Will he fall back in love with me ?
Q. I have this strange relationship with a 34 year old man who lives in NYC(I am 22 and I live in Mexico), we see each other at least each month. At first it was all romantic, but he turned now to be distant, he is not dating with any other guys, and ...
A. 27 March 2007: Long distance relationships are hard, and only the totally devoted manage to keep things together for any amount of time.
You need to talk to this guy and ask him how he feels about you, if he see's a future for you both.
It sounds to be like he ... (read in full...)
She says I'm smothering her and needs time apart! Will time heal this relationship ?
Q. My relationship of 18 months has been fading for several months. I am as committed as I was in the beginning but she says that I am smothering her and needs time apart. There has been a tremendous lack of intimacy and she is unable to explain why? ...
A. 27 March 2007: I think you 2 have grown apart, I think she isn't content in this relationship, maybe she feels she's missing out on something?
The only way to decide whether to make or break this relationship is to talk.
You need to ask her to be honest with you... (read in full...)
Am I getting my wires crossed and making the situation confusing ?
Q. A few weeks ago I was talking to my boyfriend about how stressful it is still living at home and about how my job is pretty much the same ( I work with my downed syndrome brother, which I mostly do the job to help my mom because she's been through a ...
A. 27 March 2007: Firstly your parents shouldn't be making you feel like you have to stay at home. I think your probably ready for your own space, even if it is for 2 nights a week. You seem to be stuck in a position of trying to do what everyone else wants and ... (read in full...)
Are these good or bad ways to flirt ?
Q. OK so i like this girl and asked her out. I dont really know how to flirt... but i do all this childishj stuff to her.. Like when she is gone ill take her bag and books and she will act silly and try to take them back and one day my friends wanted ...
A. 27 March 2007: Sounds like your doing ok, you sure got her attention!
Try to get her attention though by talking to her try and get her on her own and make her laugh and show her what fun you can be.
Try to just be nicer to her, other wise she may she you as a... (read in full...)
Is his searching for a job all over the place, in other states, his way of escaping commitment ?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last year and a half, when we first starting seeing each other he was still married, although he was working away from home, since then he and his wife are getting a divorce. We get along well most of the time, ...
A. 27 March 2007: The Phrase "if you love someone let them go" comes to mind now. I don't mean forever but maybe your guy needs to discover somethings about himself, maybe he needs a little bit of freedom before he settles into a long term commitment. I doubt this ... (read in full...)
I feel she's too young to have as a gf - how do I handle this?
Q. 16 year old in love with me? I'm 26! Hi, I need help on one particular and delicate issue. I'm 26 years old. A girl of 16 seems to have fallen in love with me - These feelings are cannot be reciprocated since I am 26. An age gap...
A. 22 January 2007: Can't you be together? I think maybe not, the age gap is already a problem and your not even dating!
You seem a nice guy, try and be sensitive to her feelings, as you say you know how it feels.
Explain your reasons and hope she understands you can'... (read in full...)
I feel she's too young to have as a gf - how do I handle this?
Q. 16 year old in love with me? I'm 26! Hi, I need help on one particular and delicate issue. I'm 26 years old. A girl of 16 seems to have fallen in love with me - These feelings are cannot be reciprocated since I am 26. An age gap...
A. 22 January 2007: Can't you be together? I think maybe not, the age gap is already a problem and your not even dating!
You seem a nice guy, try and be sensitive to her feelings, as you say you know how it feels.
Explain your reasons and hope she understands you can'... (read in full...)
My friend tells my secrets so I stopped sharing them w/ her. Now she's angry about it!
Q. Well I have a bit of friend trouble!! I've got a friend called "Mary" and i cant trust her!! If I have a secret or something thta I dont want anyone to know and I tell her and tell her not to tell anyone! The first thing she does after is tell ...
A. 22 January 2007: Just tell her that you trusted her and she told your secrets, so now you don't feel you can trust her anymore.
Tell her if she wants you to tell her things then she has to prove you can trust her again.
Good Luck... (read in full...)
Girls aren't attracted to my friend b/c of his beard - he has it for religious reasons. What advice can I give him??
Q. im asking on behalf of a mate simply cos i dunno the answer to his problem. he is an 18 year old male with a beard. he believes he cannot attract gals simply cos of the beard. he doesnt want to shave the beard off cos its against his religious be...
A. 22 January 2007: All i can say if he met some one from the same religion then they are bound to understand. Also if they liked him his beard wouldn't be an issue, You don't say how ong his beard is maybe he can trim it a little, some women finds beards very ... (read in full...)
Ashamed of my sexual past and he insists on knowing it all! Plus he calls me ugly names! What should I do?
Q. OBSESSION ABOUT SEXUAL PAST? I became involved with a married man 7 years ago. He was divorced in summer ‘06; separated in spring ‘05. 5 1/2 years of the 7 years was long-distance and he often sent mixed signals (duh, he was married.) The a...
A. 22 January 2007: This is a bit of a toughie, I want to say firstly well done you should be so proud of yourself. You seem to have very litle self esteam and i think your partner in someways has been very unfair on you and very pushy and controlling, although maybe ... (read in full...)
My Mother called me a 'waste of space ' and a 'failure'! What can I do?
Q. I am fed up at home. I am 16 so take my GCSE's in the summer and have just done my mocks. The problem is that my mum's expectations for me are huge. apparently I have always been very bright etc. but I am under a lot of pressure with my gcse's. ...
A. 22 January 2007: Your stressed and angry with your Mum. Right now I think the best thing for you to do is to stay with your mum for a while, until you finish your GCSE's you can only do your best and the pressure your mum is putting on you is unfair, bit believe me ... (read in full...)
I'm not gay and I date a female, so have I developed feelings for my male teacher?
Q. I am a 16 year old student at an all boys school. But I have developed feelings for one of my male teachers and don't know what to do. I have had these feelings for him for coming up to 2 years now. They started off as just thoughts and now I ...
A. 22 January 2007: Sometimes when your young and your hormones are all over the place. You meet people that you really admire that you think about a lot and make you clumsey when your near them. This doesn't mean you gay. I remember a few women that i felt like that ... (read in full...)
After not seeing me for a while, my ld gf told me she doesn't feel the same. What do I do?
Q. What do I do? Im involved with this girl over a long distance relationship. We've never been togther at the same place for more then a week at a time but its now a year and 3 months and I never thought things were better. But after a painful ...
A. 22 January 2007: I think the root of this problem is the distance. Long distance relationships can work but you both have to be on the same page and you both need to put the same amount of effort in. This girl does seem to care about you, but maybe you've come on a ... (read in full...)
What is it about me, that men do not like? It has me discouraged!
Q. What is it about me, that men do not like? I am late 40's, female..blonde, told I am pretty *blushing here* and I know I am a very, very nice modest person. I treat others with kindeness, respect but I do get prickly when people are rude, selfish ...
A. 15 January 2007: You sound a strong, independant and tough woman and while there is nothing wrong with this, men sometimes want to see the gentle side. I think you are just pretty well organised, and most men like to feel like they have some say or contribution into ... (read in full...)
We can never finish doing things b/c I can't come - what can I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 3 months now. we couldnt be happier and we havent gone all of the way yet but are doing things. but everytime we do, i can never come. or at least, i cant take alot, but because of this we never finish thi...
A. 15 January 2007: I'm not sure what you mean by "i can never take alot" It takes practice to find out what turns you on, and you 2 have only been together for 3 months. Take things slower and build things up gradually, try touching yourself as this is the best way to ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my bf's best friend who is dating *my* best friend! Plus I'm totally ugly! Help!
Q. Hey people!! I love my bf alot but im actually attracted to his best friend (who is going out with MY Best friend) more then i am to him. My boyfriend never seems to want to properly kiss me. I never kiss him properly cos he doesnt seem to w...
A. 15 January 2007: Most be people of your age feel like this and I'm sure you are not ugly, it sounds like you wear alot of make up, try wearing a little less like no foundation at least that will give you one less thing to worry about if your not wearing any, as it ... (read in full...)
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