I'm attracted to my bf's best friend who is dating *my* best friend! Plus I'm totally ugly! Help!
Q. Hey people!! I love my bf alot but im actually attracted to his best friend (who is going out with MY Best friend) more then i am to him. My boyfriend never seems to want to properly kiss me. I never kiss him properly cos he doesnt seem to w...
A. 15 January 2007: Most be people of your age feel like this and I'm sure you are not ugly, it sounds like you wear alot of make up, try wearing a little less like no foundation at least that will give you one less thing to worry about if your not wearing any, as it ... (read in full...)
She used me as a stepping stone and became abusive - I feel hate and love so what should I do?
Q. please help me on this... It is a long story, but I get to the point quick. I was with my partner for 2 years, on thoes early months things were great. I really thought she is the one for me, I loved her, cared for her, and went beyond my ways t...
A. 15 January 2007: You want and need someone in your life that will love and support you, like you do with them. Any relationship is about give and take and to be honest this woman sounds all take, and not willing to give anything back. I know you still feel like you ... (read in full...)
We broke up 6 weeks ago and the phone bill says they've been talking over 4 months! Should I confront her?
Q. Me and my g/f of 11 years broke up about up 6 weeks ago, said she didnt love me anymore, needed some space etc. all this came out of the blue. We still talk about once a week, just as normal. she has had her hair dyed a different colour since. ...
A. 15 January 2007: This depends on whether you think you are going to get back with your ex. I wouldn't jump to conclusions, if this is going to bother you and your going to keep thinking about it then i would ask her about, after she seems to of made the decison that ... (read in full...)
He likes his beer, he doesn't take my calls and I love him! What can I do, to win him over?
Q. am monique am in love with a handsome but poor boy i love him so much but has has a separated wife with a kid he says he loves me but is very busy its me who told him that i fell in love with him but he does not help me in anything unfortunately he ...
A. 13 January 2007: You can not win his love. He either wants to be with you or he doesn't and I'm afraid he's he doesn't. You need to stop thinking about this man and be with someone who does want you.... (read in full...)
I feel that I can never have a good relationship because of my poor body image! Any advice for me?
Q. Well, I suffer huge self confidence issues. I hate my body which I feel is not as slim as I would like it to be and what’s more is also scarred with hideous stretch marks after a fairly chubby me had lost weight when I entered high school and ...
A. 13 January 2007: Hun, i know how you feel i think most people have experienced something like this. I am sure you are beautiful and have you ever thought that people look at you because of this?!
You say you've never had a bf or been kissed I think that it's prob... (read in full...)
I feel that I can never have a good relationship because of my poor body image! Any advice for me?
Q. Well, I suffer huge self confidence issues. I hate my body which I feel is not as slim as I would like it to be and what’s more is also scarred with hideous stretch marks after a fairly chubby me had lost weight when I entered high school and ...
A. 13 January 2007: Hun, i know how you feel i think most people have experienced something like this. I am sure you are beautiful and have you ever thought that people look at you because of this?!
You say you've never had a bf or been kissed I think that it's prob... (read in full...)
Will he think I'm not a worthy' gf if I don't want to tongue him, when we kiss?
Q. hello i have been going out wiv my b/f for a week and 2 days. we kissed for the first time yesterday and i think he tried to put his tougue in my mouth, but i had my lips closed so we didnt get off wiv eachother. im really not read...
A. 13 January 2007: Don't do anything you don't want to. He should respect what you feel comfortable in doing. If he tries to push it you can just say I'm not ready to do that yet, if he likes you for you then he'll wait til your ready. If he doesn't then move on and ... (read in full...)
In the last month..we barely talk now! I am deeply upset...what is going on with this guy?
Q. I writing here for help because i so badly need it. I feel like I'm lost in a never ending situation. I can't find ANYONE who can help me. I have even tried help lines and all that where you speak to actual counsellors but after talking to them for ...
A. 13 January 2007: I'm to give this too you straight. Every day people move away from close friends and unfortunatly it is a fact of life that after a while you don't tend to contact each other as much, but this doesn't mean your still not good friends. He maybe busy ... (read in full...)
My parents found out I am having sex-now they won't speak to me! What should I do?
Q. My mom and dad found out about me havin sex, now they are not talkin to me, when i try to, they ignore me..i just cant cope with it no more, i thought that they wud understand..but i guess not=(.. help me plz!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxx...
A. 13 January 2007: Well very parent likes to think of their children being innocent, and you are young and shouldn't be having sex anyway, but you have done it now, you don't say if this is with one guy or different guys. I thin they are shocked and upset. You need to ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Not sure what this guy's true feelings are...any advice?
Q. I'm in love with this guy but I dont know if he likes me. He's constantly blowing hot and cold on me and I dont know how he really feels. We go to University together and we've just had our christmas break. I didnt see him for a month and in this ...
A. 13 January 2007: Hmmm this is quite tricky.
I think he enjoyed that night and he probably did miss you. Although you don't say what you have texted him and how much you have texted him, I think maybe he has got the idea that you like him, and maybe he's a bit conf... (read in full...)
Gave up the swinger's lifestyle but my partner hasn't! How do I convince him to?
Q. Dear Cupid, My partner and I have been together for 11 yrs (we're both in our mid-40's). We had a somewhat open relationship from the very beginning (i.e, group sex or occassionally hooking up individually with other guys)...a few years ago I made...
A. 13 January 2007: You 2 have been together along time, and it's hard when you have lived your life a certain way and something that gives you pleasure, has to come to an end. I think that you came to a point where all the sex partying just wasn't fun any more, so you ... (read in full...)
After no contact from him for awhile, he texts me! Should I not bother replying, or give this a day or two? What on earth do I do?
Q. Your thoughts please... (this is a follow up question to a previous dilemma)! We went on 2 dates in the space of 1 week - both driven by him. Of course, he seems keen to get me into bed, but I'm not ready until I get to know him / know what he's a...
A. 13 January 2007: He seems a busy guy, I would text him back but make it jokey such as "oh hello how are you, you had a busy past few days?" well something like that but obviously your own words! Yes it's early days and I wouldn't worry so much and I wouldn't limit ... (read in full...)
Troubled by my inverted nipples!
Q. Hiya, I have inverted nipples and it courses me so much embarrassment that i have never taken my top off, even in front of my long term boyfriend. hes very understanding but i havent even told him why. i really think its time to face this problem, ...
A. 13 January 2007: You can get cups (like little thimbles) that gently suck the nipple out, if it's bothering you this much then go to your doctor and see if they have any advice.
But most importantly I don't think your boyfriend will give 2 hoots! He'll probably be g... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage and does it actually affect a relationship?
Q. Does the relationship change when you get married? I've been with my partner for 7 years now, of which we've lived together for 4 years. We're not considering children at this point in time and I don't know if we ever will. I'm in my mid-twenties ...
A. 10 January 2007: i don't see the big deal in marriage myself but i think for me it would just be the extra commitment thing. I'm not religous and i'm not bothered about what social acceptance i think it's all down to the individual and what they want and if being ... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage and does it actually affect a relationship?
Q. Does the relationship change when you get married? I've been with my partner for 7 years now, of which we've lived together for 4 years. We're not considering children at this point in time and I don't know if we ever will. I'm in my mid-twenties ...
A. 10 January 2007: i don't see the big deal in marriage myself but i think for me it would just be the extra commitment thing. I'm not religous and i'm not bothered about what social acceptance i think it's all down to the individual and what they want and if being ... (read in full...)
We split, but I still love him. I think he may love me - what should I do?
Q. I love Michael with all of my heart and I have never felt this way about someone. I have been married twice but when I see any problem or argument I give up or move on. I can find men very easily, I am not conceited it just happens. Michael and ...
A. 10 January 2007: meet up with and ask him whether he would like to try again you don't say why you broke up. Maybe he couldn't handle the attention you recieve from other men? Ask him how he feels and whether he wants to sort things out between you. You won't know ... (read in full...)
He asks me to spend the night, but I usually say no. Then he gets angry! What should I say or do?
Q. here it goes....my boyfriend and i have been together for five months....he lives at home right now and he always asks me to spend the night...i have a couple times but for the most part i usually say maybe not tonight.....i guess im just scared for ...
A. 10 January 2007: whats the problem with spending the night? until you figure this out then you won't be able to solve it. I can understand him being a bit annoyed as he probably wants to sleep in the same bed as you and wake up with you in the moning. If he gets ... (read in full...)
He's stopped drinking at the furry cup!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now. The thing is, he has completely stopped giving me oral, which i absolutely love and dont think i want a relationship where theres no chance of it. He did right at the beginning of when we ...
A. 10 January 2007: The only way your going to find out is to ask him. Maybe he doesn't like doing it, maybe he feels he doesn't do it very well? could be many reasons and if you don't ask you won't know!... (read in full...)
My bf still visits his old in-laws! I'm not happy about it. Should I tell him to stop?
Q. I have been with my b.f for 3 1/2 years. He was previously married for 20years and he still visits his ex in laws etc. Im not to happy about this should i tell him to stop seeing them or should i have to put up with it as he has known them for such ...
A. 10 January 2007: I wouldn't make a big deal out of this. I still see an ex's mum about once a week, we have always got on really well. Even though I have split up with my ex for 4 years ago and i never see him now I have a good friendship with his mum and i would ... (read in full...)
It's our first time meeting up together - how should I represent myself?
Q. Hello there i have a question There is a guy i know but he does not know me i have asked him to get to know him and he has agreed with great interest. I really want him to enjoy my company and want to see me again so should i tell him everyth...
A. 10 January 2007: Be yourself! talk about your interests, he liked you enough the first time to want to meet up again! enjoy yourself these are the best days when you first meet someone! Good Luck!... (read in full...)
She said she wants to meet w/ her ex and I went through the roof! I feel cheated and deceived.
Q. Am I right to be concerned? We have been engaged for 2 years, lived together for nearly 3 years, and have known each other for several years before we started our relationship. I was previously involved in a 23 year relationship that ended with ...
A. 10 January 2007: If you are not careful this could blow up in your face. She knows you wouldn't be happy about it which is why she waited until she definatly knew they were going to meet. Let her go and enjoy herself she will probably go and come back thinking I'm ... (read in full...)
After walking by me, he stared and made eye contact. Does he like me?
Q. When a fella walks past you and makes a point of not looking at you but then when hes furthur away stares (without fail), and makes eye contact odes that mean he likes you?...
A. 10 January 2007: It sounds like he likes you! If he does it again give him a big smile! :-)... (read in full...)
He wanted a divorce before we met. I've fallen for him, but I'm not sure what to do!
Q. I've known this guy for about 5 months now, we work together and he caught my eye straight away! Ever since day one we got along like a house on fire. Just before christmas we went out for a drink with work and he walked me home, he then confessed ...
A. 10 January 2007: Do what you are doing. Even if this man no longer wants to be with his wife divorce is a very hard and emotional time. He's already told you he likes you so relax, but I'm afraid you might have to be patient, be there to have a good chat with and ... (read in full...)
After proposing, she started ignoring me so I broke it off. I want her back but she refuses! I'm so confused.
Q. I need some advice from a womans point of view I met this woman almost 2 years ago, the first year we became very good friends. After the first year we became very close and fell deeply in love. and for the past year everything was perfect. ...
A. 10 January 2007: You don't say how long you haven't spoken to her for, but she sounds pretty angry. Get married is a big commitment, maybe you were a bit full on with how youfelt about her nad maybe she needed a little space to think things through. Your angry at ... (read in full...)
What is the point to relationships if they always end in tragedy?
Q. I'm 20 and might be starting to date women. You'll probably notice the "might be". The reason why is that I would like to have a relationship with a women, yet everywhere I look it just ends in catastrophe. People getting divorces, people having ...
A. 10 January 2007: Ah your cynical and so was i for a long time, i went through a few relationships, some serious, most weren't. Until I met my boyfriend that I'm with now, and then I realised that i had gone through other relationships to gain experience and i think ... (read in full...)
Will our flirty friendship develop into something more?
Q. Hi Got a bit of a problem, see what u think! Ive known this guy for a few years now, we were friends from day one of college and connected straight away. He had a girl friend at the time so when i told him that i liked him. he said he was flat...
A. 10 January 2007: There's only one way to find out isn't there! Ask him! You seem to enjoy each others company so i don't see why this guy wouldn't be interested in you. Next time he says on the net come round say something like "I'd really like to but i don't know ... (read in full...)
My long-distance fiance is in Amsterdam and hung up when he heard my voice! What's going on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we met in England. But my visa ran out so i had to come back home, he said he would come with me once he got his visa. Just before i left he proposed to me. It's been a month and a half since ...
A. 10 January 2007: I don't think he meant to hang up on you. Usually with a mobile the caller ID shows so if he didn't want to speak to you he wouldn't of answered. Wait a few days I'm sure he'll get in touch and you will wonder what you were so worried about! ... (read in full...)
When I was 12 he proposed to me and I said no but now I'm 13 he wants me back!
Q. ok over the summer 06 i had a boyfriend and he kind of got serious and asked me so many ?s that i couldnt answer. I was 12 and now im 13 and i think i should answer them so heres the story: He asks me out and i say yes because i liked him and then...
A. 10 January 2007: Whoooo! slow down! your 13 years old, and yes you may have strong feelings for him and care for him alot, but there's no hurry, in getting married.
Enjoy the relationship you have with him, concentrate on your friends, school, family and having fun,... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old virgin and I freak out and stop whenever I'm about to lose it!
Q. im nearly 18! and still a virgin and every1 thinks that i am not cause of the way i come over (but i havnt told them i am a virgin 2 be honest) anywayss i have been in the situation many times!! but some how it always doesnt happen! i always stop! ...
A. 10 January 2007: Relax! Don't be in such a rush to lose your virginity.
When you find the right person, you will know and you'll feel you'll be able to tell him and open up to him about how you feel, I'm sure he'll be gentle and take things slowly. Then they'll be n... (read in full...)
I feel trapped that I cannot go out with anyone else. What should I do?
Q. I have a girlfriend i been with for 3 years. we have split up for six month but have been back together for a yr. I love her but i met this girl recently who i have been really fond with. I am only 19 yrs old and i feel trapped that i cant go out ...
A. 10 January 2007: I think you have answered this question yourself. If you are feeling the way you are right now then you are not ready for a full on relationship. Your a young guy and although it maybe hard I think you should end your relationship with your ... (read in full...)
We have a great relationship but just one thing..he still hurts from a past relationship. How do I help him?
Q. dear agony aunts, right now i am in an amazing relationship with a guy who i love very much. he and i have a near perfect relationship, but occassionally he shows he is still scarred from his ex (they ended about a year ago). i am his best friend a...
A. 10 January 2007: You are more lucky than you think!
Your guy is talking to you about whats on his mind, and as much as it's annoying and maybe hurtful, he is getting the thoughts and emotions out by talking to you.I think within time - and it might take a whil... (read in full...)
How can I stop my insecurites over his porn viewing, even to the extent I cant bare him seeing women on the TV!
Q. Im driving myself insane and probably ruining my relationship in the process! HELP! Ive posted on here before about my struggle to deal with finding that my boyf of nearly 4 yrs masturbates occasionally over page 3 girls and that I found a small ...
A. 9 January 2007: I think maybe your over reacting a little, maybe it's your hormones running away with you!
What he is doing is pretty harmless and most guys whether their partners know or not do similar things. Just because he looks at women in a magazine does... (read in full...)
He loves being on the phone but should I call him!?
Q. i have a guy who always stays home, is always on the phone because being on the phone is his hobbie. He love the phone but he doesnt like to call people. should i call him everyday or does that mean he got mr under control because im always the one ...
A. 9 January 2007: Being on the phone is his hobby? I wouldn't bother calling him, I would go out and have some fun. Who wants to sit inside and chat on the phone all day?... (read in full...)
If I could change him, things would be great...
Q. My ex moved in w/ me 5 mos. ago so I could pay for school/living expenses. We don't have sex, but have fooled around twice since then. I know he loves me, but he's almost 20 yrs. older and acts like a kid. If I could change him things would be ...
A. 9 January 2007: You have answered all that yourself!
I don't think this guy is going to change, he has everything his own way. As soon as you can I would move out and end the relationship with this guy. I'm sure it will fell like a breath of fresh air when you do! ... (read in full...)
I try to make my wife happy... but she doesn't do the same for me!
Q. I'm at odds with my wife. I tell her my problems but she dismisses them. She says she will change things and sometimes promises to. She doesn't keep those promises and when I get upset about it, she refuses to take responsibility or apologize. I ...
A. 9 January 2007: You don't really go into enough detail, but maybe you need to talk to her calmly and rationally. Sometimes people take out other stresses on the people they care about the most, it could be that she has a lot on her plate, you don't say if you have ... (read in full...)
My sex drive has disappeared since I found out he was cheating... will it ever return?
Q. My current boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now. I've never felt more complete or safe with anyone but him my entire life. I could say I trusted him 100%. A 1 1/2 into the relationship, I found out that he had been cheating on ...
A. 9 January 2007: Yes it will return but what your man put you through must of hurt badly and although you have managed to patch things up with him you still can't be intimate with him, which is because deep down there are some issues which you haven't solved yet. If ... (read in full...)
Why do I still have these feelings for my ex? Please help
Q. i am in a stable loving relationship with my boyfriend of nearly two years but i cant seem to forget my ex. we had a very rocky relationship of three years at one stage he hit me. i was the one too break it off but when ever i hear people saying his ...
A. 8 January 2007: Your Ex when you were with him took alot of your time emotonally because it was such a difficult relationship. Sometimes these can be harder to get over or forget about. You now how a good healthy relationship, please don't ruin it thinking about an ... (read in full...)
She dumped me and I'm a living wreck. Please help!
Q. My girl friend broke up with me about the begining of november and i am a living wreck. i feel empty in side i just need her back and i dont know how to let her see that what really matters to her is right in front of her. We was once together for ...
A. 8 January 2007: When you in love with someone and they choose to end it, it is normal to feel the way you do I think most of us have been there. I don't think though that this girl wants you back, try to move on by going out for a drink with your mates, and having ... (read in full...)
He stopped having sex with me and I found out why..he started an affair! Any advice?
Q. This is so typical that it almost hurts to write it, but pain propels my fingers. He starts an affair behind my back, but then believing he should only have sex with one person at a time, still hangs out with me, but stops the sex (with me), b...
A. 8 January 2007: I think you should leave this guy, he seems to think he can have you both. He doesn't respect you enough to tell you why it's "comlicated" that's just so he doesn't have to talk about it. You deserve to have someone in your life that's committed to ... (read in full...)
What does the term soulmate mean?
Q. im cnfused wat does the term soulmate mean?what is love?recently i have had 2 think it over a tadd, hi my name is skittles , i have had this best mate ,lets call him red, my whole life and not many people can say that but its true i new him from the ...
A. 8 January 2007: Firstly don't feel bad, if you genuinely don't have "love" feelings for this guy then you can't make yourself feel something you don't. Unfortunatly we don't have any control over our emotions! This guy obviously feels alot for you and it could be ... (read in full...)
My bad depressing 2006 is spilling over into 2007...
Q. hi all, im not sure where to start, i had a real bad year last year , so far this year is not too bad.. but i cant seem to keep my head high and a smile on my face, ive been depressed before but it doesnt feel the same..just wishing something good ...
A. 8 January 2007: I think you've got yourself in to a mind set of feeling down and depressed and have forgotten how to enjoy yourself.
You need to see your GP maybe there's something that has happend? and you might benefit from some kind of therepy? be honest with... (read in full...)
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