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writes: I need some help. I've been looking at porn sites, but i'm only 13. i do it almost everyday, but a few weeks ago i stopped. Just last week i' starting to view them again. is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): OMG!!!!!!! im 13 and i do the same thing!!!!! omg! its sorta embarrasing! but its sooooo gud! i mastubate at the same time!
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reader, xx-miss-cupid-xx  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hey x
It's perfectly normal for girls of your age to be curious about this sort of thing! However, some of it is extremely explicit and not very appropriate.
Try not to watch it as often, and find a more subtle way of learning about it. Porn sites are an addiction and can give you a bad view of sex.
As someone else said, if you try out the positions you have seen on a boy, it may earn you a bad reputation because you know so much.
Try to find other things to do, such as go out with friends, and generally socialise.
Good luck!
Cara -x-
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reader, lena +, writes (11 January 2007):
 hiya hunny, its tottaly normal for you to be interested in sex and look at it. lets put it this way its better that you watch it than do it at 13.
watch it by all means but don't let it become an obsesion. it may make you feel good to watch porn and arouse you, this is also normal. you will probably start exploring your body more at this age, don't be embarrassed that you watch porn or be worried. if you don't want your parents to know then just delete the website you have viewed off the history. a porn site you may be interested in is www.89.com it also has information on sex etc...i go on it sometimes, i'm not affraid of people knowing i view porn lol
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reader, fairhalflin  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 dont worry about it...
its normal...
just try not to get in trouble.
be careful on the internet.
there are some weirdos out there...
teehee...
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Hey, girly! Don't worry, a lot of girls (myself included) have viewed pornography eiter on purpose or on accident. It's completely normal and natural to be curious about sex. I viewed it to get a grasp on what it really looks like and what it might be like for me...But when I got into my first sexual relationship (the one I'm in now), I realized I could have gone with out them. Sure, they're exciting to watch sometimes, and maybe your partner would like them, but it's really not neccesary as you get older and find other interests. I'm quite certain that if you put down the remote when you felt like it was being a problem and you went outside to hang out with your friends, you'd grow apart from your computer sex-life. Take it in small steps if you're serious to stop. I'm pretty sure you're not interested in becoming one of the many young women and men in the world that sit in front of thier computers getting aroused and entertained by other people when you could be out making friends, having fun, and meeting real boys. I'm reminding of the book 'The Summer of '42', which you might watch sometime. The quote goes, 'Hermie's eyes fluttered with painful realization. What he forever doomed to be a observer and not a participant? Was he truly doomed to be a sexual timebomb ticking in limbo until the day he could tick no more, at which time he'd simply explode, a glob of Herm and sperm on some reformitory wall?'
In addition to what other people have said about sex not being portrayed realistically, it is in a certain sense, and isn't in others. The actors are paid to over-act (fake a lot of those hot, steamy sounds), and the girls tend to get a bad rep from society today (go figure, huh?)...Also, no one seems to practice safe sex, and that's NOT OKAY. You can get SERIOUSLY sick from STDs like Herpes (which can NEVER be cured, and consists of highly contagious sores of the eyes, mouth, vagina, penis, or all of them). I really would hate for you to get sick, so when you decide to take that huge step in a physical relationship, make sure your partner uses a condom EVERY TIME!
Good luck, sweetheart, and enjoy your life!! -Your gal pal Carrie
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007):
Its normal.
But I think you have to be cautioned about what you are seeing in porn. Its probably 90% inaccurate as far as how real sex goes, so in that sense it will totally skew your sense of what couples do together.
It is driven by a need to be visual and to appeal to people in to fetishes. Real couple sex involves a lot more kissing and backrubs to be an interesting filmable subject. And there arent nearly so many threesomes and a*nl.
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reader, cussinggus +, writes (7 January 2007):
 porn is absolute exploitation...don't pollute your perception of sex by associating natural impulses of attraction these prompted, orchestrated performances. all additions begin as curiosities and end in tragedy!
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reader, Nikita +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Hiya, its normal for you to be interested in sex and curious about it all but these porn sites will give you a distorted view of sex. They can be addictive as you have discovered and they are not really healthy for you especially as you are such a tender age. My advice would be to try and stop looking at them before it becomes too difficult to stop. You could be out meeting boys instead of watching this stuff. When you do get a bf, you'll discover that sex in a relationship is nothing like porn. Its much better. Porn is just a way to get a cheap thrill while sex with somone you love is completely different.Stop looking at these sites and find something else to occupy your time. Good luckx
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reader, swan +, writes (7 January 2007):
I watch porn quite often tbh but I find I can go without watching it.... If you can't go without watching it then you have a problem... as much as not being able to stop smoking is a problem etc.
Although the "long-term" damage is dependant on how you use it/ if you respect it as something different to love/ and you're mature about it... I watched porn at your age and I feel I have no problems with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): hey, i used to be in the same position as you, but once i got a boyfriend and we started having a sexual relationship. You dont find the need to !!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (6 January 2007):
 It is normal to be interested in sex at your age,intersted in positions and techniques. I don't think that porn will give you these for 2 reasons.
If you tried to use porn techniques on a guy of your age i think he would be shocked that you appeared to know so much, which could give you a bad reputation even if it's not deserved.
secondly in porn films it doesn't tell you about safe sex or loving relationships, and gives you a unrealistic view about sex. sex is fun and exciting but that doubles when your in a good relationship.
I'd stop watching porn if i was you it can be addictive as you have found out, and it's much more fun to find someone you love instead and try things first hand safely of course.
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reader, DeeDoc +, writes (6 January 2007):
 First of all, you are entirely too young to watch these "paid" ACTORS perform these certain acts. This is not what love and sex are about. It is very natural to be curious. But, don't go to these sites sweetie. The damage might be long-term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): I think it is normal to be curious about sex at your age, I think it is an unhealthy habit to get into and if your parents knew about it, I am sure they would not approve.
What do you check when those sites ask you if you are 18? Duh, I guess you know that it is illegal for you to be watching them, but the cops are not going to come to your door and take away your computer, but where the heck are your parents anyway?
You need to stop this, as it will become an addiction for you and that is a pretty lame way to waste your day.
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