A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi all, im not sure where to start, i had a real bad year last year , so far this year is not too bad.. but i cant seem to keep my head high and a smile on my face, ive been depressed before but it doesnt feel the same..just wishing something good would happen to keep my faith going..feeling sad a lot of the time i have my sister coming to visit me in a few weeks and im going home in a 3 months to visit my family so i should be happy and lucky..i have someone who loves me tho its complicated but were both happy..just when i have time to myself im always down and cant seem to stop crying and wishing things were different or that i could go to sleep and wake up feeling different to how i do..any help or advice would be great thank you x
View related questions:
depressed Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, AngelofLove +, writes (9 January 2007):
 Depression is not something you can brush aside or give up in the start of new year. If only was that easy.
You can supress it for a while but you cannot ignore it forever.
It does not happen overnight and how long til recovery depends on personal circumstances and the person affected.
Staying away stressful environment and having someone that loves you of course it helps but the most powerful tool to fight depression is You!
When you find yourself on your own, allow yourself to cry. It is good to cry sometimes, shedding tears is releasing tension and this is good for you. Cry your eyes out for about 10 minutes, then STOP!
Then get up, and think about what you are going to do next that is constructive and positive. Something, anything that you can physically change that is achievable. You must alow yourself to do this.
Remember that life is full of complications and some we cannot do anything about. These is not so easy to accept.
However the secret of happiness is what you make out of we have.
It might help to understand why you feel this way, councelling might be route you may wish to consider.
Yes, you should allow yourself to feel happy and lucky but not because people expect you to but because you deserve.
Work on the areas of your life that you can improve and embrace life to the full.
Get a hobby to keep you focused and busy to avoid feeling down. Indulge into subjects that make you feel good to reinforce positive thinking.
Different methods work for different people, you just need to find your own path.
Never give up and be strong.
Lots of hugs
A
female
reader, LISAG +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Feeling depressed is not something I'm too familiar with, off days maybe or the blues, not proper depresssion. And actually the start of your message really made me laugh - not in a horrible way, but the fact you wrote "this year is not too bad so far" - well we've only had 8 days of it - so thanks for making me chuckle ! You made someone smile today ! :-) Sounds like you could use something to take up your time more, if the days are dragging like that !? This place is also brilliant, there's nothing like reading other people's problems for you to realise that sometimes your life is not THAT bad ! But as said above you do need to try to create your own happiness - happiness doesn't just decide to visit you one day - quite the opposite I would say - misery loves company more like. Happy people seem to have happy things happening to them alot ? Or do I imagine this ? I don't think so, things just seem to bounce off them don't they ?
If you don't sort out your feelings it sounds like it's all going to get worse for you, especially if you are sitting wishing for something good to happen - make it happen - get in charge of your own happiness however you can, even if this does have to start with help from a doctor. Let's hope he might turn you away and think that you're just suffering a bought of the blues - very common at this time of year. But as all the above people say, you must sit down and think of what makes you happy, actually write down what makes you happy - not just people, past times whatever the hell it is get in down on paper first, pin it where you'll see it each day and make an effort to try to do those things. If you're down about a past love, try to be grateful that you had the chance to love, you may have lost but you still have fond memories. Things will get better in time and especially if you take responsibility for your happiness, you will be pleased with yourself which in turn will lift your spirits and I hope you may start to spiral upwards again and keep it going somehow ! Good Luck ! We will all be waiting to hear how you're doing ! xx
...............................
A
male
reader, cherub +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Hi
Really empathise with how you are feeling.Although I cannot share your sadness,I do understand as I have worked in mental health for a long long time and seen many sufferers of depression and thankfully it is very treatable.
You mentioned last year was bad,was it due to the depression or there were circumstances that caused your bad year?If so maybe then there are unresolved issues you will need to look into hopefully with the help of a therapist,it really is a good thing to talk.There are different therapies on offer and you can go for the one that you feel suit you best.Your doctor can refer you to a therapist.
If there are no particular reason you can think of that cause you to feel depressed then again see your doctor.You are young,if you are older,you could be lacking in thyroxine or vitamins B complex,both can easily be check out via blood test and treat accordingly easily.If not a course of antidepressant will help.There are lots of different types in the market.Although there are possible side effects of taking any drugs,in my experiences majority don't and if those that do it is usually transient and minor.Otherwise,if your depression is mild you could try St Johns Wort,it can be bought from health food shop and it can help mild depression especially if you are not on any other type of medication.
Like the other writers here,there's no need to suffer in silence and there are a lot of other people suffer from it.
Best wishes.You can eamil me if you like.
...............................
A
female
reader, Reebe +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think you've got yourself in to a mind set of feeling down and depressed and have forgotten how to enjoy yourself.
You need to see your GP maybe there's something that has happend? and you might benefit from some kind of therepy? be honest with your GP and tell them how your feeling they will know the best method of treatment for you.
Remind yourself that even when things seem really bad there is usually something that can make you smile, you say your relationship is complicated, maybe this bothers you more than you think? Make that appointment with your GP and take things from there, things can only get better.
Good Luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, Big boy +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Life is all about living and being alive and making the best of your self, you don’t need to be depressed, because you have your family and people who really care about you, and they don’t like to see you un happy, be happy because you are able to see your loved one’s that are alive, and able to see the beauty of the world. Yes we know life is harsh sometimes but always be on the bright side of life see the joy of living and spreading the love not depression. Come on it’s a new year, am happy to be here to see it you do the same. ok
...............................
A
male
reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 You should see a therapist/doctor and try to get some help. Depression is treatable. There's no need to suffer in silence.
Good luck.
...............................
|
