A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?!Ive been texting a guy i met in a nightclub, he lives in another town almost 3 hours away. He came across shy and awkward, but he was nice. He did explain he really likes me but that he is super shy.This was 2 months ago, he has not tried to ring me he just sends text messages and everytime we make plans to go on a date he cancels or the battery in his phone had to be charged so he would not get my messages,always an excuse, yeah i didn't really buy it anyway. First time yes I gave him the benefit of the doubt second time, not so sure, but third time Im not buying it. I know for a fact this guy is single,and that he rarely socialises in nightclubs. He constantly sends me messages, but no date or phonecalls after 2 months.Can he really be this shy? or is he just not that into me?
View related questions:
shy, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): Op: we agreed on having lunch it was just something casual, as i myself do not want to rush things. We met at a nightclub but we were not talking for long, then he asked me for my number, he seemed nice so i gave it to him. Im unsure whether to maintain contact with him as it does not seem to be going anywhere. I do like him very much and our personalities click. This is the only problem i have as i do think he is a good guy really. Thank you all for your comments.
A
female
reader, hannah76 +, writes (21 June 2011):
 He needed to do a lot of things to further something with you but he didn't. He needed to accept a date, call you but he didn't. I don't think it is worth waiting too much longer here. There is not a lot you can do. Move on or try one more text for luck.
...............................
A
male
reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 yeah move on
...............................
A
female
reader, Fate100percent +, writes (21 June 2011):
Just out of interest, where were you making plans to meet? At another nightclub? (Just 'cause you said he wasn't into night clubs).
I'm not convinced anyone is that shy to be honest.
Perhaps it is the distance? Or maybe an ex or something has re-appeared? (Has he just got out of a relationship or anything)? Or maybe he does like you, but only as a friend and thinks your dates would be perceived as more? Or he could just be a bit of coward and doesn't want to say he's changed his mind?
Why not just text him and say something like 'everytime we make plans you break them, and if you don't want to meet up, that's fine, I just want to know the score?'
If he doesn't answer, you can just move on then.
...............................
A
male
reader, jass  +, writes (21 June 2011):
Many people in this beautiful world are of shy nature some open up early some a bit late, but at d same time u both have not spend much time together,so I suggest spend some more time together either by messages or meeting try to explore more of him, if he is interested u 'll come to know soon. All the best!
...............................
A
male
reader, Drew21  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 See, i've heard of people being that shy BEFORE you actually meet someone, but if you met in a night club, and thus have already SPOKEN in person? That's weird.
3 hours away is a fair ways away. That may factor into things a bit, but... Yeah, at this stage i think my patience would be wearing thin.
I think i might be moving on and looking at other prospects, ya know?
He had his shot. You can't wait forever.
...............................
|
