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writes:My dad is marrying a gal with 2 boys and 1 girl, she is pregnant with my half brother.I am in love with my stepbrother but my other little stepbrother and stepsister have caught us together and now they threaten to tell my dad. It would destroy my family if they knew, but i love him. Please what should i do when i'm in love with my step brother??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sexified226 +, writes (9 July 2011):
I did this.. My dad kicked me out of the house for it along with my "step brother" but he makes me happy and we have Ben together longer than they have been married and that's just who I am and if the can't accept it well I guess they just lost their kids but either way I'm happier this way but I do miss my dad but he just dosnt understand my little step sister caught us many times but never told on us but I'd rather be happy the hard way then easy the miserable way so if that's what makes you happy be with him because there's nothing wrong with being happy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011):
I think you are receiving very poor advice here. I have three step-sisters from my mom's first marriage and a biological brother. It would be just as gross and disgusting for me to hook up with my step-sisters as with a "real" sister. That is not something people do within a family. I would tell your dad and have him set you straight right away.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (24 June 2011):
I agree with the readers who said your not related so go for it, there cant be anything illegal about it and as the reader said americans are very puritanical. its not like you both grew up together, then it would be more complicated, you only knew each other the past few years so there is nothing wrong with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno him n i both r vergins... we dont dont really go anything bad...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): It's not a big deal. You guys aren't biologically related.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): If you really want to have a relationship with him, then have a relationship with him. I don't see anything wrong here.
I wouldn't tell your parents though. They probably wouldn't permit the relationship, even if they did sympathize - Americans are just too puritanical.
However, the notion that the relationship would destroy your family if it were discovered is definitely an exaggeration. First, having sex with a step-sibling really isn't a big deal - I mean, I don't think it's even a taboo. You guys aren't biologically related, after all. Secondly, even if your parents do make a fuss, I highly doubt their fussiness would have serious consequences. They aren't going to get divorced to keep you two apart, they aren't going to kill you guys to preserve the family's honor, etc. You'd probably just get something like: "Okay kids, stop the sex...the neighbors may find out!"
I'd go for it. Don't let the naysayers discourage you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): I dont see the problem.you arent blood related so no one should be against it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 June 2011):
 it makes sense your mother likes your stepfather so it would be logical for you to like his son....but i think your way to young for the whole love thing and the relationship is to close to home your bound to get into a fight and break up... But unlike a traditional relationship you cant ignore him and avoid him at school etc you will be seeing him every morning for breakfast and then again at the dinner table..personally i wouldnt let my kids date or have so called romantic relationships untill there out of my house and i dont have to deal with all the problems that come with it.. your just caught up not in love... but if you insist i suggest you tell your parents before the other kids blow your cover family game night will never be the same.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Is there a female family friend you trust that you can talk to?
Dear, you are so young and while he is not your flesh relative; he is your brother by marriage.
If having a romance would destroy your family-and you care about your family...then stop putting yourself in situations that would hurt them!
Your siblings already know and could tell on you for ANY REASON. Best if the truth comes from the both of you. GO talk to your parents that you have feelings for eachother.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Oh God, that's a really complicated one...
I think you should try to stay away from him, as much as it's possible, since you live with him. Try to focus on other things and try not to think about your stepbrother in that way. It is unbelievably hard, I know, but it doesn't hurt to try.
If that doesn't work, you MUST tell your dad. Or your stepmother, if you trust her more.
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