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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!
Q. Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...
A. 27 September 2011: Be patient, you tried calling and you texted him...don't panic again if you don't hear from him soon (in other words, don't try contacting him again). If he seriously never talks to you again over this (which I think is fairly minor; a little ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't lasting like he used to, is he cheating?
Q. Me and my bf used 2 have great sex but recently he's only lasting like not even a minute? He never used 2 b like this and am scared that he's cheating on me?...
A. 27 September 2011: So your question should be, "My boyfriend doesn't seem to be into having sex with me or care to satisfy me in bed anymore. Could he be cheating?" That makes more sense than him lasting a fraction of the time than before.
If what I put is more ... (read in full...)
Ever since the first date, it's been nothing but a headache trying to set up the next!
Q. I met a man a couple of weeks ago and had a great first date together. He's a true gentleman and I was excited to have met him. But now ever since the first date,it has been nothing but a headache trying to set up a second date. HE was the one who ...
A. 26 September 2011: Just a guess: maybe he's too nice and doesn't have the guts to just blow you off and/or tell you he doesn't really want to go on another date?
I've done that to guys that I thought were nice and all...but I felt rude just ignoring them but don'... (read in full...)
He's turned it around to try to make me the guilty one!
Q. Here's the thing. I had my boyfriend of nine months. Well about 2 months ago I started noticing little things/clues that were telling me that he was talking to another girl, like a text every so often and he would say it was this app that he has ...
A. 26 September 2011: When my ex cheated on me...totally turned it around on me. I hadn't found out yet but I was being blamed for cheating from whatever he was pulling out of thin air. I thought he was crazy, but turns out he was the cheater.
What your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't lasting like he used to, is he cheating?
Q. Me and my bf used 2 have great sex but recently he's only lasting like not even a minute? He never used 2 b like this and am scared that he's cheating on me?...
A. 26 September 2011: Umm no, if he lasts longer than usual you might have to worry. Lasting a minute would probably indicate that he does not have enough sex...... (read in full...)
I'm worried that no woman will ever be interested in me because of my financial problems
Q. I need some encouragment. I am 26 years old and just going to college. I am having some money problems with school loans so I may have to drop out, but I will pursue my education none the less. I am worried that no quality woman I would want to be ...
A. 26 September 2011: I think you should work on your issues before you date someone.
I'm not trying to say that all women are shallow, but I think that most women like a man that has some sense of security or has his life somewhat settled.
I think a lot of w... (read in full...)
I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!
Q. Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...
A. 26 September 2011: Well you kind of left him like a one-night-stand. Although I do think he's acting a bit "womanly" about it, I think he has a legit reason to be upset; however, this could actually be a blessing in disguise.
Personally, I think most guys wou... (read in full...)
Is my husband just joking when he says he wants threesomes?
Q. so i(23) been married to my husband(31) for 7 months now, when we went to a club and partied with friends, my husband (drunk) jokingly said "did you find someone to have a threesome with yet?" im like "haha no" ( im drunk ).. as he said that, i ...
A. 26 September 2011: Okay, I would be seriously embarrassed too if my husband said something like that in front of other people! He's 31? That's a bit immature/childish of him, not to mention a bit inappropriate.
Like others have posted, you should ask him why he k... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...
A. 26 September 2011: How do you know this guy? I don't think your parents would be to keen about you hanging out with a 20-year old guy. It is illegal and he is a man and you are still just a young girl.
To answer your question, no, it's not okay. You like him now,... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 25 September 2011: I am so glad to see your update! See, you deserved WAY better and that's what you got. Hopefully your ex got his issues sorted out...but if not, who really cares, right? Good for you!... (read in full...)
How can I get enough protein on a vegetarian diet?
Q. I'm a strict vegetarian (been brought up this way) so I don't eat fish, eggs or anything animal based. Anyways I really really need protein in my diet! But I can't think of what foods to have as I'm really limited for choice... I can have dairy but ...
A. 18 April 2011: Tofu and beans.... (read in full...)
Teacher student relationship gone bad
Q. I'm a sophomore in high school this year, and I have a major problem. One day after school I had to make up a AP history test.(My AP teacher is young and good looking) I went to make up the test and I stayed in his room just talking about random ...
A. 24 February 2011: He's the adult, not you. Sorry, hun, be he lead you on. Obviously he had some sort of inappropriate interest in you and he allowed it to get out of hand. He should have never allowed the conversations to go where they went and he shouldn't have ... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about and texting my ex-boyfriend??
Q. I'm becoming really obsessed with ex boyfriend. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm still in love with him. I've texted him almost everyday since we broke up telling him how much I miss him, how I want him back and apologizing for the mean ...
A. 24 February 2011: Psychotic would mean that you're living in your own reality. I think you're in touch with reality and know that it's over and he doesn't want to talk to you; hence, not responding to your texts.
Seriously, sit and think about how you feel rig... (read in full...)
Should I keep contact with my emotionally abusive ex?
Q. Can someone please give me advice on whether or not to keep in touch with my ex? We dated for 5 years he is 30 i am 25. Most say it was emotionally abusive from his part(calling me fat, no good, yelling) et but there were good times. He ended the ...
A. 24 February 2011: I think you know that keeping any contact with him is a bad, bad idea! It really is. Don't even consider it. You're headed in a new direction in your life, which should be positive and better for yourself. No one deserves to be emotionally ... (read in full...)
He won't even look at me now that he has a girlfriend!
Q. Ok let's see if y'all can help me..Ok me and this guy only went out for a few days but before that we talked and flirted with each other and even after that we flirted and talked and texted and IMed on Facebook,and like whenever he had a girlfriend ...
A. 20 February 2011: Well honestly, when you're younger you think you know what love is, and you don't. So I think teenagers may mistake a crush or caring about someone for love. And he may love you...but as a friend. ... (read in full...)
He won't even look at me now that he has a girlfriend!
Q. Ok let's see if y'all can help me..Ok me and this guy only went out for a few days but before that we talked and flirted with each other and even after that we flirted and talked and texted and IMed on Facebook,and like whenever he had a girlfriend ...
A. 19 February 2011: You may care about him, but you just like the attention. Apparently he has the typical track record of dating in high school and doesn't date anyone longer than probably a month, but then again, he must really like her if he completely cut off ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my job that I need time off for my wedding?
Q. Hi...... so I'm getting married in about three months I just got hired at a new job and I don't know how to tell them that I will be needing time off for my wedding because of the 90 day probation ????...
A. 13 February 2011: Trust me, your boss will probably work with you on it, so don't stress about it. It's your wedding. You might not get paid, but usually they understand that you have other things going on in your life other than work. You should let him/her know ... (read in full...)
Am I needy or is my boyfriend a prick?
Q. I need help deciding whether my anger at my boyfriend is justified. I live in Florida. He lives in Texas. I go visit him about once a month. In November he and I agreed that next weekend, Feb. 11 and 12, I would visit. I bought the plane ticket...
A. 7 February 2011: I don't necessarilly think that you're "needy" for feeling this way or that you're wrong, I think anyone would feel the way that you're feeling--maybe along the lines of disappointment? However, the fraternity thing is kind of an obligation that he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he doesn't know why this dating website sends him emails
Q. Hi all! Some of you posters have been really helpful with my last situation... so I'm hoping you can help me with this one! I recently found e-mails (for updates, it seems) from Lavalife in my boyfriend's inbox. Normally that kind of stuff wouldn'...
A. 7 February 2011: It depends what the emails are...sometimes I get offers from dating sites that I've never used. Some places sell your email address to other companies or they're somehow affiliated so you wind up getting emails from them.
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He's confusing me, agreeing to dates then cancels. What's he up to?
Q. A while ago I was at a house warming party and I met a guy there. We didn't talk much that night but we exchanged information. We talked for months on gchat before meeting for coffee. We ended up talking for about an hour and a half and it went ...
A. 6 February 2011: I agree, he is confusing. Why bother wasting his time and your time asking you out or writing you if he's just not interested? There must be some interest; otherwise, I would assume he wouldn't bother asking you out or talking to you.
It's ... (read in full...)
Anal sex and anal bleach?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and i want to try anal but im scared. The area around my ass hole and vagina is quite dark, does this honestly matter? im worried that when it comes rouund to it he may be put off. Also, i know this may so...
A. 6 February 2011: Everyone's anus is pigmented darker. Because it's a muscle the contracts and retracts, the skin is thicker there and therefore, darker pigmented. So don't worry about bleaching your anus; seriously, it's just another reason why porn makes normal ... (read in full...)
I found out she's a loose easy fluzzie.She's not wife material.
Q. Evening everyone. I'm in need of suggestions on how to break it off with a woman I've been seeing since this past August. I want to do in a way that won't insult her or cause her self esteem to go down. For the most part we've got on pretty well and ...
A. 6 February 2011: I can see why she didn't tell you and I can see why you wouldn't want to be with her. Sure it's judgemental, but some things about a person's past you can't really get over. If I met what I thought to be a really nice guy and turns out he used to ... (read in full...)
When I get nervous I get gas and stomach noises. How can I quell it?
Q. One time at school I was taking a test and the classroom was quiet and my stomach mad a loud growling sound and it was so embarrassing. Now I can't even come to class without getting nervous and worrying about my stomach making noises. I can't even ...
A. 6 February 2011: I think it's something you might just have to wait and grow out of. When I was younger I would get so nervous about certain things that I would get the runs! Go see a doctor if you feel that it's affecting your life that negatively, he may be able ... (read in full...)
Should I let 19 years of marriage go?
Q. should I let 19 years of marriage go..My husband told me soon after my daughter from a previous marriage was married and hand a beautiful son that he didnt love me anymore and that he was not old enough to be called papaw. I am 9 years older than ...
A. 5 February 2011: Definitely sounds like your husband is going through some sort of midlife crisis. I think it hurts more to stay with someone who has told you that they no longer love you than to end the relationship. Unfortunately, these things happen even after ... (read in full...)
I dumped her, yet I'm turning into a wuss over her. What's a good action plan to get me coping again?
Q. What is wrong with me? I broke up with a woman 16 months back but I'm obsessed with keeping tabs on what she doing. My obsession is taking over my life. I hardly eat, my condo's filthy, I don't go out. I feel like I'm married to my laptop and b...
A. 2 February 2011: The ending of a relationship is hard on anyone. But maybe it has to do with what you mentioned in your question. Perhaps you thought that you were going to be better off without her and you'd move on with your life and it would be better than ... (read in full...)
Dating site guy turns out to be someone I already know!
Q. I am in a bit of a sticky situation. I recently signed up to an online dating site, having been single for too long. Now, I messaged a guy, as he was local, works in the same profession as me and looked nice. BUT I have just realised, I do...
A. 29 January 2011: If you're so worried about it then don't do it. You care too much about what other people think and you think they're going to react in a way that won't even happen.... (read in full...)
Dating site guy turns out to be someone I already know!
Q. I am in a bit of a sticky situation. I recently signed up to an online dating site, having been single for too long. Now, I messaged a guy, as he was local, works in the same profession as me and looked nice. BUT I have just realised, I do...
A. 28 January 2011: Well he's on the dating site too, right? So I highly doubt that he's going to go around the office telling every person he comes into contact with, "Guess what happened?!? So-and-so wrote me on this dating site that I'm on! We know some of the ... (read in full...)
I need help to stop chasing men!
Q. Hello, I have a problem chasing men. Somehow I find myself being a bit of a doormat, waiting for calls and text messages all day. I have wasted years of my life doing this only to not have been in a real relationship since I was 23. I am 28. T...
A. 27 January 2011: I know it's easier said than done I suppose to get your life back--but it mainly has to do with self control. If you want to stop chasing men, then don't chase them. Don't call them, don't text them, don't ask them out--let them do all that. It ... (read in full...)
Does talking about a relationship a lot help or hurt it?
Q. Hi All, This girl I had something of a relationship with and I used to talk about our relationship every so often near the end. Really, she had no interest; it was basically me initiating the conversations. I felt at the time it was helpful to t...
A. 27 January 2011: I think communication is always best for a relationship. I think since you even tried communicating and the relationship still ended, it probably just wasn't meant to be and you and your girlfriend weren't on the same page.
However, I do think if... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a girlfriend, a FWB or just casual sex with a girl?
Q. ok for you man out there , what is the difference between a girlfriend, friends with benefits or just casual sex with a girl? How do you treat a girl in each of these? I'm asking this because Im a little bit confused about my current relati...
A. 24 January 2011: Sorry Cerberus, but I kind of have to disagree with you. I've dated quite a few guys and it doesn't matter if he wants "me" time even after just seeing you. If a guy is really into you, he'll text/call a girl even if he wants "me" time. He may ... (read in full...)
Should I do something for him for Valentine's day, or will it just make me look desperate?
Q. Im 18 years old i went out with this guy for a bit over the summer i liked him a hell of a lot but he ended what we had just before we both went back to the same college, i still really really like him but im not sure if he still likes me because we ...
A. 24 January 2011: No, don't do anything for him. Look at it this way: does he deserve it? Sounds like a "no" to me.
Valentine's Day, in my opinion, is for us girls anyway. Sure, some guys are romantic and like getting some fuzzy stuffed animal and chocolat... (read in full...)
Was she out of line?
Q. okay today my friend went completely mad and started shouting at this girl and calling her a slut. so basically the girl walks home with the guy my friend likes and another guy but the other guy wasn't there so it was only the two of them. on the ...
A. 24 January 2011: Yes your friend was out of line. I know you guys are young, but it's very immature of her.
She just likes the other guy and he's not her boyfriend--so she has no business calling the other girl names out of jealousy.
Another thing she should... (read in full...)
He's cheating on me. Should I tell the others?
Q. I'm sure this question has been asked and answered a hundred times, but I have to ask. I've been dating a man for three years. I thought our relationship was exclusive. We had the talk. We agreed. Time and time again I had suspicions but e...
A. 24 January 2011: Wow! I think even if you were mad, she has a right to know. I would think she'd be appreciative if you told her that besides him having what you thought to be a relationshp with you, he's also been sleepig with prostitutes and shemales! The dude ... (read in full...)
Would this gesture of mine seem romantic or creepy?
Q. Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make ...
A. 24 January 2011: No...don't do any sort of ring. You're asking her to be your girlfriend; not your wife. But that's sweet of you to think about how to ask her. Maybe take her to a nice dinner (if you have the money) and ask her.... (read in full...)
Now I've got doubts about moving in with him. Can I trust him?
Q. My boyfriend has just been telling me about some of his usual behavior in relationships, and I'm not sure what to make of it. He said he's had one relationship that lasted over 3 months and all the rest he gets bored with and wants change, so sudd...
A. 19 January 2011: Hmmm...well just some stuff I've read before, if the person you're dating has a string of short-term relationships in the past, it could mean they're a commitmentphobe.
I guess it's good he got it out there in the open, but what I question... (read in full...)
Am I just a friend with benefits or are we moving slowly towards a relationship?
Q. I started hanging out with a guy I know. I love spending time with him. I would love very much to be in a relationship with him. I thought that was the way he was headed too. After hanging out for a while we slept together. We text every day (or at ...
A. 19 January 2011: Even after all the disappointment, you must feel at least a little smidge better. You're not guessing how he feels and you're not wondering if you're not showing enough interest and that he's just not getting it. It's out there in the open: he ... (read in full...)
I definitely think she is "the one"...but I still really want to cheat on her
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and we were best friends for almost 3 years. I am madly in love with her and I am pretty sure she is madly in love with me. I definitely think she is "the one"... However, recently...
A. 18 January 2011: If you really thought she was "the one" you wouldn't want to cheat on her. You even brought up her looks...which kind of says to me that you're looking for someone more attractive. Of course looks aren't everything, but she's cheated on you, ... (read in full...)
Should I bring new boyfriend (gay) to straight friend's birthday dinner?
Q. I've got a group of friends I've been hanging out with for a few years and I like them a lot. It's three couples, and me (a guy). Not only am I the only single one, I'm also the only gay one. We do not talk about my being gay, although I have ...
A. 18 January 2011: I definitely think you're overthinking things. Obviously, they think you're a great friend and invited you to a birthday dinner and being that they know you're gay...if you did bring someone they would probably expect you to bring your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
Why do many women have the chance to marry more than once in their lives when other none?
Q. What does it takes for someone (mostly women) who had a divorce or went through a bad experience to get several chances in their lives and marry once, twice or more and happened to find people who want to marry them. There are others who never find ...
A. 17 January 2011: I think a lot of the time it has to do with who the women are choosing as well. Truth is, people are shallow (both men and women) so I think a lot of it has to do with getting over looks and a man's paycheck.
A lot of good looking, smart, c... (read in full...)
Am I just a friend with benefits or are we moving slowly towards a relationship?
Q. I started hanging out with a guy I know. I love spending time with him. I would love very much to be in a relationship with him. I thought that was the way he was headed too. After hanging out for a while we slept together. We text every day (or at ...
A. 14 January 2011: This is what I did...given one drunken night I texted him (after another boring date with someone else and meeting up with friends) telling him that I liked him. His lame response the next day was, "Hey I got your message." I freaked out, felt ... (read in full...)
He cheated, she had baby...do we have rights?
Q. My fience of almost 8 yrs cheated w/ my now ex best friend. She had his daughter just over a week ago. I have decided to forgive him and make our realtionship work but it has deffinitly been the biggest challenge of my life. The worst part is she ...
A. 13 January 2011: Yes, as a father, he has rights. Laws vary by state, but he definitely needs to go to court if he wants to have a relationship with his daughter and she won't let him see her.... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much to be texted at least once a day by a guy who's supposed to be my boyfriend?
Q. My problem is with my boyfriend (at least I think he's my boyfriend). We met on an online dating site and hit it off very well. We texted every day and he even called me just to say hi. We went on a few dates and he asked to be exclusive, I said yes ...
A. 13 January 2011: Okay, you're worrying about the wrong thing here. Yes, texting or calling you once a day is part of the problem, but I think you have an idea that it goes deeper than that. Don't let this guy play you for a fool. He asked to be exclusive, yet he ... (read in full...)
S it healthy for a man to masturbate even if his girlfriend will give it to him whenever he wants?
Q. Is it healthy for a man to masturbate even if his live in girlfriend will give it to him whenever he wants? Do I have a right to be upset if he rejects having sex with me time to time yet masturbates instead..keep in mind, two days in a row wihtout ...
A. 13 January 2011: Yes, it's healthy for a man to masturbate even if he has a girlfriend that will give it to him whenever. However, it's not healthy for the relationship if he's replacing having sex with you with masturbation. I think you have a right to be upset ... (read in full...)
Am I just a friend with benefits or are we moving slowly towards a relationship?
Q. I started hanging out with a guy I know. I love spending time with him. I would love very much to be in a relationship with him. I thought that was the way he was headed too. After hanging out for a while we slept together. We text every day (or at ...
A. 13 January 2011: You're friends with benefits. If he's not initiating getting together, you're right, he wants you to do it so that he doesn't come off like a jerk. Just because you are friends with benefits doesn't mean he has to treat you like garbage, but I can ... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 11 January 2010: Okay, cheaters are usually liars. I HIGHLY doubt that he suddenly found out the other girl was married. I think either he knew ahead of time or that's his story to you to make her look like the bad guy and like he's the victim in all this and ... (read in full...)
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