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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Why do I seem to attract military guys?!
Q. What kind of girl is the military guy typically attracted to? Is there a type they usually go after? I ask this because most of the guys (and I do mean the majority) who have been interested in me have been military guys. I dont live anywhere near a ...
A. 24 October 2011: Well I hate to generalize men in the military--after all, they do serve our country and I am grateful to them for that.
However, as far as their love life is concerned. A LOT of the time they're young guys that party too much and want to get as m... (read in full...)
Why do I seem to attract military guys?!
Q. What kind of girl is the military guy typically attracted to? Is there a type they usually go after? I ask this because most of the guys (and I do mean the majority) who have been interested in me have been military guys. I dont live anywhere near a ...
A. 23 October 2011: Well I live near two military bases, Navy and Marine and they tend to like anything with a pulse.... (read in full...)
Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?
Q. ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...
A. 23 October 2011: If you're not concerned that he won't leave his wife then why does it matter if he loves you or not?
When my cousin was married and her husband was cheating on her with all sorts of women, he told them all sorts of untrue stories about her. Li... (read in full...)
How does a female know what's a good odor or bad?
Q. My sisters say their vagina's has a certain odor. One says hers smell like chlorine. The other says it smells like a rubber condom. Is that normal? They both haven't been sexually active for over a year. And their last pap smear was fine. Now they ...
A. 23 October 2011: Sometimes there's an imbalance in the vagina and if there's not the right balance of bacteria and yeast--you can end up with a yeast infection or not smelling so "fresh" because of bacteria. I just found all this out at my last pap appointment.
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Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?
Q. ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...
A. 22 October 2011: So you know what you're doing is wrong because you don't want "disrespectful comments" from married women. Well I'm not married but you probably won't like some of my comments.
If you had high self esteem like you say you do, then you wouldn't... (read in full...)
Why did this player start laughing so loud after we had sex?
Q. hi, I was having sex with this player..we enjoy the chemistry between us and he just cannot commit. Anyhow, my question is not about commitment but about sex. We've had sex several times over the years..Usually it is sensual and soooo much chemi...
A. 21 October 2011: How did you play hard-to-get for over six months when you've had sex over the years? If he's hit it once, then there's not much for him to get.
Personally, I would think the way you described him laughing sounds a bit weird. I think you're w... (read in full...)
What is a "success profile" for a job interview?
Q. This isnt a love or sex question, i have a job interview, and the lady told me to come in before my interview to do a success proflie, the only problem, i have no idea what that is, and can i do it the same day of my interview just earlier??? Please ...
A. 19 October 2011: I've never heard of that either. If she told you to come earlier to do a success profile then I'm guessing it's some sort of paperwork that you need to fill out before your interview, kind of like an application.
If you don't receive the answ... (read in full...)
Does being turned on more by girls make me lesbian???
Q. So I'm a girl and I hang out with guys all day so they got me to watch porn and then I started to watch lesbian porn. It turns me on more to see a girl naked then seeing a guy. but I don't want to be lesbian. what does this mean if I get turned on ...
A. 17 October 2011: I think it's pretty normal. I've always gotten more turned on by lesbian porn than male/female porn. Also, a lot of the men they put in porn aren't exactly the most attractive--I mean seriously, why would I want to watch Ron Jeremy have sex? ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby
Q. I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My ...
A. 16 October 2011: OP, there's a lot of aunts on here that tried to help you as to why you're feeling this way.
This is also an ADVICE website, not a "psychologically evaluate me by untrained psychologists" website.... (read in full...)
Should I take a stand? It seems like she overreacted.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for three-years. Although about three-months ago, she had to move to Salt Lake City for her family (her mom is sick and she needed to be there for her). I was fine with it, even though I live in Portland ...
A. 14 October 2011: She's probably really disappointed and I do think she responded wrongly towards you. I mean, I've had tonsilitis before and that knocks you on your behind!
My guess is she's also letting insecurities also get the best of her and might also be ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, single and unemployed but I want a baby
Q. I have posted a question on here before and received good advice, therefore I wanted to ask for opinions on something that has been puzzling me for some time. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 20, despite my young age, I am desperate for a child. My ...
A. 13 October 2011: I think that you're a woman and you want a baby--just how it is. I want one too, but I'm in no position to have one, so I don't.
Just know when the time is right for you and your boyfriend (or whoever it may be) you'll both want to bring a ... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 12 October 2011: I'm also having touble understanding how you wouldn't have a period during your "off" week if you won't be having any sort of hormonal pill in your bloodstream? From what I understand, unless you're on the pill that you never have an off week or ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and my girlfriend's 25. Is that a big difference?
Q. Is this weird? My girlfriend is 3 years older than me. I'm 22 and she's 25. Is that a big difference or no? We have a good relationship and all (sex is great :P) but compared to all of my friends in relationships, the guy is older than the girl. ...
A. 12 October 2011: Not always, and I don't think it's that big of a deal...just women tend to mature faster than men. However, my parents were married for 27-years and my dad is 7-years younger than my mom. He was 23 and she was 30 when they met.... (read in full...)
To Text or not to Text? Does it work for all or only for some?
Q. Hi All. I was wondering what you think is an acceptable amount to text your partner? See, I was once in a long term relationship with a girl who would always send a text each day with 'Good Morning' and then 'Good Night' later on, as well a...
A. 11 October 2011: Well is your girlfriend in the same age range as you? I'm not trying to say you are "old" because I don't think you are, but I think people of a certain generation just don't really seem to like to text. Obvously, you're an exception, but I'm just ... (read in full...)
I'm hurting from the breakup, I texted her boss and she broke it off!
Q. I looked in my girlfriends phone and found a text from her boss and started returning the texts as if i was her telling him that I love my partner This has made it hard at work for her I also lied to her and said i didnt do but the told her...
A. 11 October 2011: It depends on what the text from her boss said in the first place that caused you to start texting him back?... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 11 October 2011: You're not the only person in the world this happens to. It has happened to me, it's happened to my friends, and numerous people on here. Women aren't dating all over the world and finding their true love all the time. This sort of thing happens! ... (read in full...)
Do I have right to start something with his best friend who seems like a good guy and likes me?
Q. i had this kind of relationship with a man for 10 months, seeing him once in 2 weeks... I was totally faithful and loyal to him. (he has several children from other women from before) He was not good to me and I fell in lve with his best friend, ...
A. 10 October 2011: Well he wasn't your boyfriend and you weren't his girlfriend. He sounds like a jerk, so who cares if you date his best friend? The only person that should worry then is his best friend and whether or not you're worth possibly ending their ... (read in full...)
I need advice on letting go of how my ex wronged me!
Q. It has been three months since my breakup of 2 1/2 years to my first boyfriend that i moved in with after 6 months. We are both 23. We had a decent relationship where we were inlove and talking about the future. He became cold and I became insecure ...
A. 10 October 2011: Okay, so in all honesty what you're going through is normal. It's only been 3-months. You don't get over someone you love in that amount of time. I know it's painful right now, but you WILL get over it.
Just let him go--in another 3-months... (read in full...)
My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!
Q. So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" ...
A. 10 October 2011: Haha...you're joking, right? Wow.... (read in full...)
Ex has new gf but is still contacting me
Q. Hey, I need some help with my ex... We'd been together 3 years and split up a month ago. Since then he has been in regular contact with me (several times a week) just to see how I am and if I'm getting on etc. He also kept asking to meet up, which I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Sounds like he's on the rebound. He's moving really fast with this other girl but it will probably die out quickly.
Was the breakup a mutual breakup? Or did he or you decide to call it quits and why?
Obviously, he's not handling the bre... (read in full...)
Am I shrinking or is she getting loose?
Q. so the other day me and my girlfriend was having sex.. it seems as thought she is getting really loose now.. i gotta admit im a pretty small guy and i am pretty small down there, but now it seems like i can't really feel her as much as i use to..and ...
A. 9 October 2011: I'm sure you have some intuition into this--she may not be enjoying it that much--as others have said, it's time for more exploration. In my opinion, a blank stare means she's bored.
Again, she's not getting loose and you're not shrinkin... (read in full...)
My mom thinks my BF is abusive, but he's not!
Q. I have been dating my bf for about 8 months now.My parents don't really like him because when he was 17 he and a bunch of friends broke into a cottage, threw a party and the place got trashed. He got house arrest and had to do community service. My ...
A. 9 October 2011: Regardless if you're an adult, your mom is going to worry about you, you're her child.
However, some people get a little rough during sex and some people bruise easily. My friend is into that stuff--so I know it's a possibility.
I think you s... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: Well how long did it take him to contact you the first time? If it took him a couple days, then it will probably take a couple days again.
Men like to play it cool too, so he could wait a couple days so that he doesn't come across as anxious.... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 9 October 2011: They don't win because he'll continue to be a jerk and wind up alone and in the long run you'll find someone great that will give you what you do deserve. Trust me, you're probably not the only girl he's been a complete a-hole to.
I say, you got ... (read in full...)
My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!
Q. So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" ...
A. 9 October 2011: Yes, she's just playing games. I don't think that she doesn't "like" you in some way, but she likes having power over you. She's getting off on driving you crazy and that's not cool. It would be different if she kept her clothes on, but she is ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or an STD?
Q. About a week ago I had sex with this boy called shane that I Am seeing ( it was my first time) we both really like each other but the next time he came round we wanted to do it again . While rubbing his penis I felt further up and felt a few lumps I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Well you could have a UTI---hence why you have to pee every few minutes and it stings.
Is there a possibility that you could be pregnant? Yes. Is there a possibility that you could have contracted an STI? Yes. But there's no way to know unt... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get too? I want more from her. But she's always 'too busy'
Q. Time is my worst enemy. I have a friend who I think I am really in love with. The problem is, there is no time! Anytime I ask her to hang out, or even chat, she tells me that she doesn't have time. She is contantly busy with homework, etc... ...
A. 8 October 2011: If she's too busy for you all the time, she's not interested. If I like a guy and even if I am busy, I'll meet up with him when I'm not busy. No one is busy 24 hours out of the day, every day.... (read in full...)
Women: How important is sex to you?
Q. WOMEN ONLY QUESTION............how important to you is sex? 1. I could take it or leave it 2. I love it 3. I only have sex as my partner wants to or 4. I hate it...
A. 6 October 2011: I'm not married.
It depends on who I'm having sex with:
There's times when I can take it or leave it when I feel the sex isn't that great.
If it's with someone that I have a lot of chemistry with and the sex is really good--then I love... (read in full...)
I'm worried about inviting my old FWB to my wedding.
Q. I've been dating my wonderful boyfriend for over 2 years now. He just asked me to marry him next spring and I said yes. So now we're engaged. Problem is, I have this 'guy' friend that I've known and been friends with about 6 years or so. My fiance...
A. 6 October 2011: I think the info about 'XYZ' is better left alone. You still hang out with him and being FWB was 4-years ago. That was a long time ago! I do think it is a little strange that you and your fiance hang out with him though...were they friends ... (read in full...)
Is it common for guys to take pictures of a girl during intimate moments?
Q. This is pretty humiliating but i'd like to know peoples opinions. Me and a guy i was seeing were having sex then (without asking) he starts taking pictures of me! I was lying on the bed and he was standing and just started taking pictures while he...
A. 6 October 2011: No, not normal and I've had my fair share of casual relationships. Not one of them have ever busted out a camera and started taking photos while in the moment.
That's weird and totally creepy! Good for you for making him delete them and tell... (read in full...)
Am I just another good-hearted loser in this world?
Q. Hey Everyone, When it comes down to dating, sex, and the opposite sex I'm a very confused man.I have had at least 7+ females tell me in a blunt, sincere, and point blank manor that they find me to be physically attrracive and claim that they rea...
A. 4 October 2011: You are anything but a loser! If you're around girls your age or younger, they don't really know what a good decent guy is yet...not all, but most.
Just a question, do you take charge when you do ask a girl out/take her out? I know you've s... (read in full...)
Gyno thinks the pill is a good idea, but I don't want to tell my mom I'm sexually active
Q. So today i went to the gynecologist and she said that the only thing that would help with the issue i have is birth control. My mom does not know that i am sexually active and isnt sure about the idea... I on the other hand want to go on the pill ...
A. 4 October 2011: Well would you rather tell your mom or have a baby? Accidents do happen, no matter how careful you try to be.
I know it's scary telling your mom, but a lot of us had to at one time. I know I had to!
I would also go with the irregular period... (read in full...)
What do you do when a man confronts you for "talking" to his girl?
Q. Let's say you meet a girl by herself who's nice and attractive. You approach her and strike up a conversation with her. Everything seems to be moving along fine.... Five minutes later, her boyfriend shows up all annoyed and angry, says something l...
A. 3 October 2011: Umm I think it's time for you to try and meet women elsewhere. Not that a bar is a bad place to meet women, but the bars you're going to...you need to find a place with people that aren't crazy.
A simple, "Sorry, I didn't know," should work and... (read in full...)
I'm tired of everyone talking bad about my boyfriend!
Q. okay so ive been dating my bf for 4 months now, hes 18 and im 17. before we started dating people kept telling me how bad of a player he is and that all he wanted from me was sex, at the time i met him i was still a virgin. i knew he had a bad ...
A. 3 October 2011: It's a lot different when you're actually IN the relationship. When you're with someone especially when it's new (yes, 4-months is new) you think they're great, wonderful, amazing, and even perfect like you've said.
However, what people see one ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for an ex to contact you after a break up?
Q. Not sure if I posted this question already, because I don't see it in the approval process .. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because I found out he has a LDR (long distance relationship) with another girl. He denied it of course. But now...
A. 3 October 2011: There's no known answer because everyone is different. I've had ex's contact me days, weeks, and months after (as long as 4-months).
Why do you want to talk to him anyway? I know you miss him, but you caught him cheating on you. You're w... (read in full...)
I thought having a boyfriend meant I didn't need friends!
Q. Hi all, I'm 27 and I have a really big problem with my mood. I didn't stay in contact with my school friends when I went to uni. I went to an inner city comp and most of them went on to get pregnant at a young age whereas I went on to become ...
A. 2 October 2011: Friends are BIG! Especially because as you've come to find out, relationships don't always last. My parents were married for 27-years and split up last year...all they had was each other and felt like they didn't need any friends. Now they're ... (read in full...)
It's been a week now. I don't know how to proceed with her. Should I tell her '' No''? or say more?
Q. So I have this friend I have known for two years now. Several months after meeting she confessed that she liked me as "more than a friend", thought I was sexy, smart, wonderful and said she wanted to date me. I was very flattered but am not ...
A. 28 September 2011: I say don't talk to her for now and when you hang out with friends, just act normal...although, that may be a little difficult at first. She is probably super embarrassed and knows she acted inappropriately. Don't bring it up, let her bring it up ... (read in full...)
He seemed like such a gentleman, and I don't know what I did to make him stop contact!
Q. I'm very confused here, this guy I met last monday we got along so well and both seemed really interested in each other. It was nice to just talk to a guy and properly get to know them, without them slyly trying to creep on! Well, we ended...
A. 27 September 2011: Like Ciar said, if you didn't suggest another time to go out, then he might have just assumed that you're not interested. He might have taken it as rejection rather than you weren't ready to go out at the last minute.... (read in full...)
My friend's date decided she like me instead
Q. My friend has met a girl on a dating website, they went on two dates and invited me along to the third...I was ment to have a blind date with her mate. As soon as I seen them both I knew I didnt like the blind date so I just enjoyed he night and the ...
A. 27 September 2011: It's wrong to your friend for sure. Second, she's a ho. I had a friend like this and she would do crap like that all the time, she probably "likes" you and 5 other guys. Don't risk your friendship and save yourself an STD.... (read in full...)
I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!
Q. Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...
A. 27 September 2011: Be patient, you tried calling and you texted him...don't panic again if you don't hear from him soon (in other words, don't try contacting him again). If he seriously never talks to you again over this (which I think is fairly minor; a little ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't lasting like he used to, is he cheating?
Q. Me and my bf used 2 have great sex but recently he's only lasting like not even a minute? He never used 2 b like this and am scared that he's cheating on me?...
A. 27 September 2011: So your question should be, "My boyfriend doesn't seem to be into having sex with me or care to satisfy me in bed anymore. Could he be cheating?" That makes more sense than him lasting a fraction of the time than before.
If what I put is more ... (read in full...)
Ever since the first date, it's been nothing but a headache trying to set up the next!
Q. I met a man a couple of weeks ago and had a great first date together. He's a true gentleman and I was excited to have met him. But now ever since the first date,it has been nothing but a headache trying to set up a second date. HE was the one who ...
A. 26 September 2011: Just a guess: maybe he's too nice and doesn't have the guts to just blow you off and/or tell you he doesn't really want to go on another date?
I've done that to guys that I thought were nice and all...but I felt rude just ignoring them but don'... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't lasting like he used to, is he cheating?
Q. Me and my bf used 2 have great sex but recently he's only lasting like not even a minute? He never used 2 b like this and am scared that he's cheating on me?...
A. 26 September 2011: Umm no, if he lasts longer than usual you might have to worry. Lasting a minute would probably indicate that he does not have enough sex...... (read in full...)
I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!
Q. Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...
A. 26 September 2011: Well you kind of left him like a one-night-stand. Although I do think he's acting a bit "womanly" about it, I think he has a legit reason to be upset; however, this could actually be a blessing in disguise.
Personally, I think most guys wou... (read in full...)
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