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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale.
Q. I don't know if I should worry or not. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10months. He is 20 almost 21 years old. And well... My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale. The other day I found out that he's on craigslist looking to have sex...
A. 15 May 2012: Sorry, dear. But you're already trying to make excuses for him, you don't know anything for a fact unless you're with him 24/7. Just because you're at his house, doesn't mean he's not at someone else's house when he's supposed to be at work. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale.
Q. I don't know if I should worry or not. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10months. He is 20 almost 21 years old. And well... My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale. The other day I found out that he's on craigslist looking to have sex...
A. 15 May 2012: Hello! He's looking to cheat on you regardless if you want him to or not. How do you know that he hasn't already? The kid obviously is in the closet, either for being homosexual or bisexual. You need to confront him and probably dump him before ... (read in full...)
Why do men marry women that aren't anything like what they look at in porn?
Q. Well i have been confused about this for years. My husband dose this and other guys do this and i believe other girls do this. I have put on some weight through the years after i have had my kids and even before then i wasn't skinny but i was mu...
A. 12 May 2012: There's a show on vh1 called "Tough Love." There's a girl on there that basically tries to fit the porn star stereotype. She has long blonde hair, overdone makeup, lip injections, fake boobs...any guy that was even somewhat interested in her said, ... (read in full...)
Best friend hitting on my g/f. Now that she's told me she doesn't want me to confront him
Q. Hi Guys,i am 24 years old and my girlfriend she is 22. My girlfriend of 3 years told me that my best friend lets call him J(who is also a very close friend to my girlfriend,the 3 of us have been friends since we were kids) has been hitting on her,b...
A. 10 May 2012: I don't think it's necessarily immature if you confront him, but your girlfriend probably doesn't want it to turn into some dramatic scene since she took care of it herself and he apologized.
I think you confronting him wouldn't really solve an... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable Cervix! Any ideas?
Q. Hello lovely aunts and uncles. I have something rather unusual happening regarding my reproductive organs. The last week, my vagina has been feeling more sensitive than usual when having sex, kind of like it's tighter in a squishier way but n...
A. 8 May 2012: ...and again, sorry. I keep forgetting to acknowledge the being on the pill thing, but I notice mine changes and I'm on the pill. Just like there are times when I'm on the pill and have a higher sex drive during certain times:
http:... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable Cervix! Any ideas?
Q. Hello lovely aunts and uncles. I have something rather unusual happening regarding my reproductive organs. The last week, my vagina has been feeling more sensitive than usual when having sex, kind of like it's tighter in a squishier way but n...
A. 8 May 2012: I actually got the positioning mixed up, it's higher when ovulating, lower and closed when you're not.
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/preconception/suspectingaproblem/checkcervixexpert/... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable Cervix! Any ideas?
Q. Hello lovely aunts and uncles. I have something rather unusual happening regarding my reproductive organs. The last week, my vagina has been feeling more sensitive than usual when having sex, kind of like it's tighter in a squishier way but n...
A. 8 May 2012: During your cycle your cervix tends to be higher or lower. Usually when you're ovulating, your cervix will drop, that way it is easier to get your partner's little spermies up into the uterus. When you are not ovulating, usually your cervix will ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend way horny when I am on my period?
Q. I was just wondering why my boyfriend is always really horny when I am on my period. When I'm not on my period, I am super horny and he isn't. But when I am on my period he is the one who is horny. I feel nasty having sex on my period though, unless ...
A. 8 May 2012: Hang on...I need to find my crystal ball first.
Okay, my guess: you notice him being "more horny" when you're on your period because you're not into having sex and he wants it more because you don't want to have sex. Then you have been wanting ... (read in full...)
Need to know what to do about boyfriend who reads porn?
Q. Ok and boyfriend have been together for about 3 years now. I knew he read dirty stories, he never got into the porn pics. I was ok but for the last few months It has started to annoy me. He does it mostly because 1. I will not give into him. I r...
A. 8 May 2012: Sounds like you need to figure out the deal with your sex drive and that you two need a date night. Will this ultimately end his wanting to read porn stories? Probably not. But at least it will give him less of an excuse. Also, at least he's ... (read in full...)
I want my dad to come to my graduation but not his wife and kids
Q. So first thing, I haven't spoken to my father or that side of my family for almost 8 years now, after my dad kicked me out of his house when I was 14 (I lived with my mother after that - they were divorced). I'm graduating this Saturday from co...
A. 7 May 2012: Well first, they aren't Cheryl's children. They're your half siblings. Call it what you want, but they're your brothers/sisters.
Second, it was 8-years ago. I'm sure it was all very painful and you felt left out and that both Cheryl and your... (read in full...)
Is hanging out with his friends so important, that my boyfriend cant even call me immediately when I'm crying?
Q. Dear Cupid i had problem with office collegues on friday. I felt so depressed hence felt like talking to my bf. When i called him and after hearing his office, i couldnt control myself, hence kind of cried and sobbed and told my problem. I wa...
A. 7 May 2012: Why are you so upset over work that you're crying? I understand everyone has bad days, but I work with a workplace cry baby and after the more than handful of times of her crying over nothing, I don't even care anymore.
If it happens a lot, the... (read in full...)
I need the followup text to the girl I met! Help!
Q. Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started ...
A. 7 May 2012: Meh, I disagree about night club relationships not happening. I've met past boyfriends out at clubs and the guy I'm seeing now, I met him at a club 3-years ago.
I think you should take it easy with the first text. Maybe like, "Hey it's so-and-s... (read in full...)
It hurts me so much that we can be together and then she does these things behind my back!
Q. My girlfriend for a month so far we (dated for 3 years she left me for another man back together after a year) keeps on talking too other men dirty and has cheated on me with one in the last month. And swears she will change and i forgive like ...
A. 7 May 2012: She's not going to change and has no respect for you. Dump her.... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my coworker?
Q. Hi I'm in a predicament. She's my office girl that does all my payroll stuff, and ever since she started working with us, she has always made a habit to bug me. And knowing that she is bugging me when she had a boyfriend at the time, I'd just give ...
A. 7 May 2012: Do they not have sexual harassment policies in Canada?!
1. The staring at your ass comment-is weird and unprofessional.
2. Your boss...YOUR BOSS saying that she has the hots for you and wants a drink...then tries to toy with you about the ph... (read in full...)
Is moaning during kissing normal?
Q. Just a simple question..... i was going out with this guy and well he took me to the movies and dinner but then when he drove me home we started kissing and well as were maaking out he was moaning i thought it was wierd. We had only been tpgether ...
A. 7 May 2012: iAmHere:in in a lot of states, you can get your driver's license at 16.
OP, I wouldn't say it's "normal" but I've kissed maybe 1 or 2 guys that have. It's not that big of deal. This new guy may or may not. But also, if you go out with making o... (read in full...)
Why are girls wearing clothes you can see their butts in?
Q. It is starting to get warm out now and why do a lot of the girls wear their shorts so short? I have seen sport shorts and cutoffs and they all seem to be extemely short, to the point that their cheeks are hanging out. I have also seen dresses that ...
A. 5 May 2012: I saw this girl probably about a month ago, she was probably 12 or 13. Her shorts were so short, her buttcheeks were literally hanging out. I don't know what her parents were thinking! She is my cousin's next door neighbor and she'll come over to ... (read in full...)
I'm on birth control, but I don't know why I haven't beaten the odds
Q. Im almost 17, And i cant stop thinking about being pregnant... I know this is odd, and i'm not crazy, its just, okay, Im faithful with my birth control pills, and me and my boyfriend do have sex a lot, and im just curious on how i'm not pregnant? t...
A. 1 May 2012: I've somewhat questioned my fertility while being on the pill, especially for so long. I was never truly worried like you seem to be though.
I've been on birth control for 12 years now. I've never gotten pregnant while on the pill, I've eve... (read in full...)
Is it true men love stockings and suspenders?
Q. Hi everyone I just need to ask a quick question I am planning on surprising my boyfriend. Is it true that men love stockings and suspenders? I just need some answers as I am unsure whether he would like it or not thank you ...
A. 1 May 2012: I agree, I think just the effort will be enough for him. He's not going to say, "Sweetie, I don't like what you're wearing. I'm turned off." I'm sure he'll like it either way and afterward, it might get you to be able to discuss if he liked it or ... (read in full...)
I tried shaving private area with a razor but it grows back too fast. What else can I try?
Q. i feel really self conscious when it comes to shaving down there. i love it to be completely smooth so use a razor, but after a day or 2 it starts to grow back and feels really prickley. however its not long enough to shave without hurting and ...
A. 28 April 2012: If you want it to be smooth for days then the razor is not the way to go. I finally gave up shaving because I couldn't stand the knicks, the itchiness, razor burn, and the stubble. So I started sugaring.
It's an alternative to wax. Wax can ... (read in full...)
Girls would you be OK with this? Guys how do you feel about men having strippers at a bachelor's party?
Q. I am just asking this question out of curiousity. It is for both men and women. How do you feel about men having strippers at a bachelor's party? Maybe it is because I have low self-esteem but if my fiance was enjoying that kind of show, I woul...
A. 28 April 2012: I've been to a bachelor party with strippers. I was one of two girls there and really, it is kind of gross. It's a lapdance free for all...I didn't see anything "wrong" happen, but I'm sure in some instances they go too far.
As far as being "o... (read in full...)
I am separating, but my male friend is dating someone else. Why won't he wait for me?
Q. Here is my story. I am in the process of separating from my husband. The separation is in the beginning stages. We are going forward with it but are in the process of selling our home. Hubby works in another city and is rarely home which makes it ...
A. 26 April 2012: Well, you're not divorcing. So to some people separating (legal separation or not) is still being married to some people.
Sure, he may like you and think you're great. But why wait around for something that you don't know is even a sure thing? ... (read in full...)
B/f didn't watch porn before he met me. Why does he watch it now?
Q. My boyfriend didnt watch porn before he met me. I've been together for 3 years. However, I discovered that a few months ago, he watched porn and looked at sexual parts on naked women bodies to get arousal and to masturbated.We have sex regularly and ...
A. 23 April 2012: First, he probably did watch porn before he met you.
Second, don't be insecure over it. Although, I get why it makes women insecure, (when I was younger I used to feel that way) I honestly don't think your boyfriend is wishing you were a porn sta... (read in full...)
What are the top reasons for cheating?
Q. hello, thanks for ansewering me... i appreciate all advices. one question. Why girls/woman cheat? What are top reasons? Thank you....
A. 23 April 2012: I cheated one time when I was 19 and it was on my first boyfriend. Some may not consider it cheating because I guess the term "cheating" is subjective, but I consider it cheating. But, I was hanging out with another guy I had met at work outside ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 23 April 2012: I love argumentative posters that try to get technical. Okay, here, I'll give you what you want to hear:
Yes, what you're doing is perfectly fine; don't listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. If porn fulfills your sexual needs, then go for i... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: OP, if you think what you're doing is perfectly fine, normal, and you can live a fulfilling life without a relationship; then why are you even bothering asking about it? Obviously, there's a part of you that thinks that the way you feel may not be ... (read in full...)
Why did my fiance's cousin act so disrespectful in front of me?
Q. Yesterday me and my fiance went to a gathering with her family members. While there I was introduced to one of her cousins who looked at my fiance like he had not seen her in a while. He shook my hand and looked back at her and asked me if I minded ...
A. 22 April 2012: Maybe he was drunk, on drugs, or into incest?! I have a lot of male cousins (I have a large family) and NONE of them would ever want to touch my butt or do any of those things. That's gross! Did you talk to your fiance about it at all? Is he ... (read in full...)
If he's not interested then why did he text me?
Q. So im an 18year old, and haven't been in any relationships. Not a single bf, not cause im not a attractive, but im waiting for that challenging guy that blows off my mind. Two weeks a go 3 weeks ago i went to this library with my friend and saw this ...
A. 22 April 2012: Given some of what he said like, "I forgot how attractive you are" and "Movie at my place" means he wants to hook up; not take you on a date. He's interested in having sex with you but probably not much more since he's not going out of his way to ... (read in full...)
What does "you looked fine" tonight mean when a guy says it?
Q. What does a guy mean when he says "you were looking quite fine to me last night" ? Like where does it rate know the scale it of cute and pretty and all that. ? and why would a guy say that rather then just say cute or pretty or hot whatever. So ...
A. 22 April 2012: You're seriously over-analyzing like waaay too much. It means you looked really nice, on the nicer end of the spectrum.
It also depends on the context. Did he say it out of the blue? Or were you asking, "How drunk did I look last night?" ... (read in full...)
If you invite your date to your house is that signaling you want sex?
Q. does inviting your date into your house after the date mean you want to have sex? we meant on line, had 2 dates, where I met him there. i said he could pick me up for hte 3rd date. he seems kind of cheap and i suspect he may be dating other peo...
A. 22 April 2012: Yes, it does. Even if in your mind it doesn't, for whatever reason to men, it means you might want to have some "fun." I had to learn the hard way and had a couple guys get mad at me when I rejected them after they came into my place after a date. ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: Put it this way, if you knew someone that didn't want friends because they were perfectly content with watching episodes of "Friends" because it made them feel emotionally warm and happy and like they were their own friends, wouldn't you think it's ... (read in full...)
Why would she say my ignoring her isn't going to work to get her back?
Q. I'm in grad school, at the beginning of the year, I asked out a classmate. Great first date, second date was not that good, mostly my fault, I had an off day, nerves and the like. She lost interest apparently, but then two weeks later she invites me ...
A. 17 April 2012: She likes to play games and apparently thinks you're playing them too.
I don't necessarily think she doesn't like you; otherwise, she would just ignore you and not care, but she may have unfriended you and everything else before because maybe sh... (read in full...)
Condom question, is this normal?
Q. I have a condom question.... I was having sex with my boyfriend, and I noticed that when he had pulled out, there was semen both in the end of the condom, but also some had appear to move down the shaft towards the base of the condom. None ...
A. 17 April 2012: The problem could be, is he's not leaving room at the tip, resulting in his semen to drip toward the base. When a man puts on a condom, when he starts at the tip of the penis, he is supposed to pinch the tip of the condom to remove air, then roll ... (read in full...)
My g/f wants me to quit my job and move to another country. I don't want to!
Q. Well, My girlfriend and I just had the discussion about where we want to go with our lives, and it was rough, we've both been thru lots in our lives, however she still is a wonderful woman, But recently we've tryed to figure out what we want fro...
A. 15 April 2012: No, you're not in the wrong for not wanting to move. You're happy where you're at and there's nothing wrong with that. Being someone who lives in California, near L.A., it's not easy. It's very expensive and California has a high unemployment ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that being drunk led to fooling around?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 plus years. He's so great we have the best times. We obviously fight and have our ups and downs but we always get thru them. I'm 24 he's 36. I'm a flight attendant and I don't usually go out and party...
A. 15 April 2012: While alcohol does impair your judgement, it doesn't make you stupid. C'mon, you obviously wanted to hook up with this pilot. I've been drunk without previous boyfriends around with guys wanting to fool around and I never did anything. How is he ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm the doormat and the only one fighting for our relationship
Q. Hey guys.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Im 27 and hes 34. During the first 3 months everything was fine and it was great. He was caring, sweet, passionate, romantic, he listened to my needs and understood me. We’ve been fighting si...
A. 14 April 2012: It sounds like communication problems. You look for a solution but he doesn't want to talk about it or claims to not know what a solution would be. He gets angry all the time over stupid things. When you talked about him having extreme mood ... (read in full...)
I got rejected by a guy after just one date!
Q. I met this guy a week ago at a party and we made out. He asked for my number and I got all excited about going on a date with him. We finally met up last night - though I was really, really tired - for an hour or so. He was really affectionate and I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Don't take it personally. And really, you may not have really "kinda liked" him, you might have just enjoyed the attention he was giving you, you hardly knew the guy.
At least he gave you the courtesy and didn't just blow you off (which has happ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm the doormat and the only one fighting for our relationship
Q. Hey guys.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Im 27 and hes 34. During the first 3 months everything was fine and it was great. He was caring, sweet, passionate, romantic, he listened to my needs and understood me. We’ve been fighting si...
A. 14 April 2012: I know this isn't the advice you want, but after 4-months together and you're fighting incessantly--you're just not right for each other.
You can make excuses for him and excuses for yourself, but sometimes two people just don't work. ... (read in full...)
Is my dad right in telling me I let my social life get in the way of more important things?
Q. This is probably going to sound really petty, but I need some advice. My dad is kinda dictating what my life should be like. I have arranged spend the day and watch a movie tomorrow with my best friend, whom lives in a different city than I. We ...
A. 14 April 2012: I think if you called in sick to spend time with your friend, then that would be irresponsible. But your employer called last minute and wants you to work all night. And how are they able to get away with paying you for 4-hours when you're working ... (read in full...)
I told I'm pregnant, he said "I'll talk to you tomorrow, I don't want to say the wrong thing right now" what does that mean?
Q. Hello, Men! I need your advice, ladies your welcome to opinions as well. I've been dating a man long distance, known him for a year, dating for 5 months, we are not in a committed relationship but we do go and visit each other every 2 months, we ...
A. 14 April 2012: Hmmm I know you wanted a man's perspective. But out of what you said in the last paragraph about him questioning when it was and it being "one time," I'm going to guess he was going to be accusing you of sleeping with someone else and claim that it ... (read in full...)
I'm talking to a guy online and using a fake photo of me! Will he be mad when he finds out?
Q. I created a fake profile while pretending to be this really gorgeous girl. Basically I took her photos off online because she has a beauty blog and videos etc so they were very easy to get. I feel bad because there is a cute guy that I talk to all ...
A. 13 April 2012: Well you're basically lying to him, so expect him to be upset. He thinks he's talking to this "really gorgeous" girl.
Unfortunately, most people are pretty shallow (men and women) and he may not want to talk to you anymore if you ever decide t... (read in full...)
He's leaving me to stay with his ex and his children!
Q. I'm having a very hard time...just yesterday, the guy I've been in a relationship with for a year told me he couldn't do it anymore because he hurt too much from not seeing his children. We've been living together for a while now, he recently told ...
A. 13 April 2012: My bestfriend went through this EXACT situation a few years ago. He loved her, but didn't love his wife but he couldn't do it because he couldn't deal with not being able to see his kids everyday.
Well probably within about a year they ended up... (read in full...)
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