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writes:Dear CupidI believe my bf of 3 years lost interest in me. He is not calling/picking up calls when he is away. Not spending any time with me even @ home. Always fighting.I'm not nagging, I don't fight, literally do everything he ask for.What should I do now, how to rekindle his interest. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): The best way to rekindle a mans interest is to give him space, ignore him, stay busy and go out and be fabulous. I was actually watching a movie about prince William and Kate and apparently the same thing happened to them. At times he had lost interest in her and did the exact same thing to her as your boyfriend is doing. And being in the same predicament as you she stayed strong (didnt chase him), would go out with her friends, work on herself, her career, always looked fabulous, until he was raging with jealousy and would run back begging to be with her. Look at them now, theyre married. Sometimes thats what you gotta do. Men are weird creatures. They always want what they cant have. So start being more unattainable. Stay busy and dont be available for him. Give him space. Be strong and confident in the meantime and work on you. Dont beg or plead, no way, give him a taste of his own medicine. Trust me it works like a charm.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (30 April 2013):
 Hi
Have you ever gone off something, say a pair of shoes or a band who's music you loved for ages?
Well that's where he is at by the sounds of it. He has lost interest, if he hadn't he would be with you, phoning you, taking your calls. To him its the end of an era.
Next time you date a guy *don't* do everything they ask, be independent, busy with a full life. Make them part of it not ALL of it.
Now,start as you mean to go on, don't contact him, show him you can survive without him, because you can. He may drift back but if he doesn't well there's not much you can do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2013):
 you can't make him love you.... (it's an old Bonnie Raitt song)
If he's not calling you or asking to see you then it's probably the end of the relationship...
I would not call him.
I would not sit home waiting for him
go out with your girlfriends, have fun...
MEET NEW people... when he does finally call and asks how you are you can be full of new interesting people and events you've been meeting and doing... that may rekindle his interest for a brief time... but hopefully you will meet new folks to help you forget about him.
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