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writes:I just want to know if he's just trying to be friendly.There's this guy at work, he's a bit older than myself. I've noticed him around the office but never thought much of it. He sits a few rows in front now and everytime he goes back to his seat, I have realised he makes a point to look in my direction. I'm extremely shy so I just bow my head.If I see him around, I look the other way though. Maybe I'm making a deal out of nothing. I was in the canteen, and he walked past but before turning the corner, he made a point of looking back. I was the only person there. And recently... he walked by my desk, I felt brave so I looked up, and he held my gaze and made a point of smiling. I looked away lol...What do you think? Is he just trying to be nice?
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reader, Keeley345 +, writes (6 May 2013):
He likes you...definitely! Frequent looks/stares and them smiling are positive signs that he likes you. Just because he's older, doesn't mean he's different to any other guy. I've dated older guys before and found they're pretty obvious and straightforward when it comes to showing their interest in a girl. But they get fed up quickly if you don't respond. Why? Because they've done the whole mind game thing with women before you so won't put up with it. If you like him too, you'll have to amke the effort. If he smiles, smile back. Working together means they're lots of opportunities to get to know him and ask him out. You'll know when the right opportunity comes along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right, I will at least smile. It could be nothing but I'll never know if I don't try to make an effort.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (27 April 2013):
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Just look up and say 'Hi' and smile, it opens the way for more conversation, he may like you yes, but until you get to know him you won't know.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (27 April 2013):
 Maybe he does like you. Or maybe he's like that with everyone, but you don't notice because you're always looking at the floor. If you are attracted to him and think you would like to get to know him, the only way to do that is to stop looking away all the time. If you do that he will think you are not interested and sooner or later he'll stop looking your way because you'll come across as standoffish.
I'm shy, too, and I know it's hard, but next time you see him, look back at him, smile and say hello. Confident people will think that's nothing, but for shy people that can be a huge thing, so take one step at a time. Hopefully he will take the initiative from there and start a conversation.
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