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The ex: should I be concerned that I have been told that I am not "good in bed" ?

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Question - (21 September 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 22 September 2014)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear Aunts, My worst fear has come true. I was told I was bad in bed he said I'm not freaky enough. I like romantic slow passionte sex he likes rough play. I feel like I cant do the things he wants so the connection is fading away in other dept as well so I told him and he got rude saying he wanted out weeks ago he continues to call

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 September 2014):

Honeypie agony auntUm, why bother talking to him? You two weren't a good match in or out of bed.

WHO THE F cares what he thinks? Maybe HE is the one who is a bad lay? Have you considered that?

BLOCK his number, block him on social sites and MOVE on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2014):

It's just his opinion not a fact and he sounds like a total jerk so tell him that and then quickly forget about him.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (21 September 2014):

oldbag agony auntDelete him, his number and forget his stupid comments. He is just trying to pressure you into doing sex his way.

Your not a porn star, your a woman who wants to be made love to by her man.

In short not compatible with him.

Next..............

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntYeah, so what if you're not good in bed, who cares?Millionsof your peers would fit into that catagory so forget it. Ain't no big thing.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (21 September 2014):

CindyCares agony aunt Then don't take his calls ! don't answer. Apparently, you may be " not good in bed " but you aren't totally bad if he is sniffing around you for more. That's his problem, though. Your problem is , WAS in fact, that you two are not sexually compatible, that you can't give each other what each one wants, and that the physical distance has eventually eroded feelings of intimacy and closeness ( as it often happens ). So, why pining for him or rehashing the past ?. He is just not a right match for you. Next, please !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2014):

Forget what he said, it's an opinion, if he doesn't like your sex then that's his problem, there will be someone that loves making love to you.

Everyone has an opinion and everyone's opinion is right to them, you might think he's not good in bed but in his mind he might practically be a porn star.

You don't have to be 'freaky' in bed, just do your own thing and enjoy it, don't listen to him.

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