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writes:Hi Aunts. It his isn't a love question as such but it does relate to my low self esteem, . I have suffered with acne for ten plus years of my life. It's always had a huge impact on my confidence and I've often skipped going out or seeing people based on my acne. I wear make up each day , which makes me attractive. But without it I am one of the ugliest people out there, I'd happily wear a bag over my head everyday. I have pigmentation damage , luckily no scarring though yet. Lately the acne has gotten worse to the point I have large swollen lumps all over the sides of my cheeks . These hurt a lot. I have a long term boyfriend who says he doesn't mind my spots but wants me to sort them before they scar, but I fear that if someone with a beautiful complexion came along, surely touching her face and kissing her would be nicer for him, , ,? He met me when my acne wasn't as bad (aged 17). I worry that this has gotten worse with age, I have tried every single acne cream on the shop shelves, I've tried diets, different washes, even natural remedies, even contraceptive pill , I was on anti biotics for three months which cleared them right up and I got my confidence back I felt beautiful , and all of a sudden they all came back worse than ever . Does anyone else here suffer from adult acne? and please how can I get people to see past this acne to the girl underneath. If I never find a cure for this, how can I get my confidence boosted to make me feel like holding my head up. It is so embarrassing working in a highly professional job with this acne too , who wants a spotty young lady telling them what to do... Thanks for taking the time to read this, I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about this, I keep this covered for everyone but my boyfriend,
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (6 August 2014):
I feel really bad for you because I did suffer with acne for a few years although not for as long as you have had. Have you seen a dermatologist? I was referred to one and he put me on yasmin and it cleared it up. He also prescribed differin for it. I was 17 that time, I had acne since I was 14/15 and now the only time I get it is when I have my period. Please see a dermatologist as they must have something which can help. Im sorry that you feel bad :(
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 PS. I first asked my doctor about this and all she could offer me was another acne cream that only works on light pimples. Doctors are different depending on what country you are in, as well as from doctor to doctor. But I went to a private dermatologist rather than being referred through my doctor, because a private dermatologist will get the job done way faster. Had I gone through my GP I would have first had to try all the different creams she had to offer, before I could get a reference to a dermatologist, then wait in line for an appointment to said dermatologist. My friend did that, and had several appointments at the doctor and at a referred dermatologist (looong waiting lines), she tried birth control pills etc, yet in the end just went to the private dermatologist and got it fixed. So that's why I skipped the GP too and went straight to the private one.
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reader, Kathypops +, writes (5 August 2014):
 Hi,
I am the original poster, thanks for the comments, isotretionin (sorry for spelling) sounds good, I may ask about this. My life's got serious , I'm getting into a good position career wise I just don't want my skin confidence to hold me back from achieving my goals. I have an appointment tomorrow and I'm going to make sure they listen to me :)
Thanks again,
Kath
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reader, devont +, writes (5 August 2014):
 I can also vouch for isotretinoin (marketed as Roaccutane, as I took it) - it cannot just be prescribed by your GP, you need to be referred to a dermatologist as the others have said.
It takes a while, but it works, without fail. There are possible side effects though, including very dry skin and depression, and when my girlfriend took it, she had to take a pregnancy test every time she went to see the dermatologist because it causes severe birth defects.
Google it, it is the most effective solution, but you need to weigh up the pros and cons with your dermatologist.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (5 August 2014):
Go see a dermatologist. Acne creams are just fake crap, they dont work. If you have adult acne, you need to see a dermatologist to sort it out. Me and my best friend were put on Isotretinoin, and its worked miracles. Acne free for 4 years now! Its a relief to be able to walk out the door with no make-up on! Even though the treatment is expensive, it is so worth it. And Im saving money by not buying so much make-up or wasting it on creams that dont work. Absolutely go see a dermatologist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): If antibiotics for 3 months worked, then this means something actually does have an effect. Go back to your doctor and tell them how badly this is affecting you. Sometimes with doctors you yourself have to 'direct' your healthcare a bit, so if they are hesitant about what to do, ask to see a dermatologist.
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reader, 1989mrz  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 i have once been in your situation,at the age of 17 till 21 iwas having acne all over my face ,even hate to see myself on mirror refrain from shootin pictures,alwys feel embarrased,i even tried many different lotions but all of em never worked, i can advice you to even check the soap you are using you may find that is not good for you,for me i finally changed the soap iwas using then suddenly they all disappeared till to this day am ok ...and it is only a matter of time you will find that they can dissapear on their own
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reader, oldbag +, writes (5 August 2014):
 Go and see your GP and be clear you want this acne sorted. Its affecting your well-being and they may/should be able to refer you to a dermatologist.
I have a family member who suffered with acne, stress made it worse, so did alcohol.
Don't give up, see your GP - good luck
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