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20 November 2008: I received this story from a friend. I found it too funny not to share it with you! :) INSTALLING A HUSBAND Dear Tech Support, Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slowdown in overall system pe...
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I gave my NOT gay best friend head and now he is being funny with me.
Q. ugh!!!....u may have read my other plee for help...well to break it down I love my not gay best friend and he sayd he's not gay...well the new story is that he asked me to give him head...and he sayd it wouldn't change anything at all so I was ...
A. 18 August 2007: Well, he asked you to do it and probably knows how you feel about him. He also told you beforehand that it wouldn't change anything. Regardless if he is being confused about his own sexuality, just being curious or whatever; what he did to you was ... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with someone i have not met.
Q. In the past few months I've come across the same problem I've faced three times already now. I'm in love with somebody I don't even know yet. I know that for most people you will believe it's impossible to fall in love with someone you don't know, ...
A. 18 August 2007: I believe it is most possible to fall in love with people you don't even know yet. Happens to me all the time. Maybe it is even easier because you can somehow create an illusion about them, how they are all perfect for you and all. I think it is ... (read in full...)
I have done everything wrong I could ever do and I want to fix it before I lose her... !
Q. I need help on fixing my relationship with my gf. To start she is always perfect she has never done anything wrong. I am a very emotional, jelous, and insecure guy and while im being emotional, jelous, or insecure i say very mean things to her and ...
A. 18 August 2007: First I think you must stop seeing her as perfect. She is not. Thinking that will only make you feel worse off and her feeling frustrated. Nobody wants to be looked upon as all perfect. She wants you to love her with all her possible flaws.
Then ... (read in full...)
He still wants to be friends, but I want more
Q. i was with my boyfriend for 6 weeks. we were madly in love. i thought he was the one. i still do. he was kind of off with me for a few days. then he said he thought he was ready for a relationship, but he wasn't. he said he has too much baggage from ...
A. 18 August 2007: These things hurt. It doesn't matter whether it has been weeks or months; if you have fallen for him it will be painful anyhow. I'm sorry to say though, that I don't think he loves you as much as you love him. And baggages from ex:s can be really ... (read in full...)
I think he is going to move near me but i'm not interested.
Q. Dear Cupid, I find myself with a dilemma. A friend of mine tried to hook me up with her uncle who lives in another state. We started talking online, but I wasn't really interested in him as a potential partner. I continued to talk to him though si...
A. 18 August 2007: How did you talk to him? If you give it an honest thought, how could he have interpreted what you said to him? I'm not asking this to implie that you deceived him any way, but the answer to this is a clue to how to act now. If you did speak in a ... (read in full...)
Amusement rides in pregnancy.
Q. Hi guys, I was hoping for a bit of advice for a friend really (yes a friend). She is off to Florida in December and is at the moment trying for a baby and the thing that concerns her is that she will be pregnant when she is over there and does n...
A. 18 August 2007: I think that first thing she should ask her doctor for advice. I suppose it depends on how she feels then, pregnancies could differ a lot from one another and the doctor will be able to tell about her sitaution. It might be safe for one but not for ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. Any help?
Q. I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. My girlfriend and I seperated in February. We had been together for four years and lived together for two. Those four years are the happiest I have ever been. She was completely devoted to me an...
A. 13 August 2007: I think you must stop seeing her at all. At least for some months until you get her out of your system. It doesn't look like she has any good feelings for you anymore, and if she does, she is anyway more interested in others. And why is she slagging ... (read in full...)
How can I get that close relationship back again?
Q. I have just came out of a very emotionaly abusive relationship. Before the relationship started I had a really close male friend, who was the best. Very supporting and we just 'cicked'. We were realy close. My abusive bf however saw him as a threat ...
A. 12 August 2007: I think you shouldn't give up just yet on approaching your friend. It could be that he is a little angry with you but if you explain to him that your ex boyfriend was very abusive to you he should understand. If you used to be very close friends, ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 7 August 2007: To me his behavior sounds very much like he wants to control you. He made his choice to do what his parents told him to do, but now he doesn’t want to accept the choice he made, he can’t come to terms with it and he doesn’t want to let you go. ... (read in full...)
Can anybody help me get over this?
Q. Hi everybody. *If you don't know my situation yet, consult my profile; I've written everything in the "about me" section* Today, I'm just wondering if there is anyway/anything that can help me start accepting that things are over? Because I really...
A. 6 August 2007: Hi Andy, I so wish there was a way to speed these things along, some magical spell that would make the pain just stop. When I get dumped I can't do anything at all at first time, I don't even want to move because it hurts so much. Especial... (read in full...)
He blocked my car, threw my purse and phone on the floor and slammed doors... is my fiancee abusive?
Q. Is my fiance abusive? Last night I was cooking fries in a oil pot thing and my friend called to give me directions to her house. So, I had taken half of the fries out, and left the others in but unplugged it. Well my fiance came in livid because the ...
A. 5 August 2007: To me he sounds pretty abusive. If all this happened due to fries, then yes, I believe he has a big problem. It is definitely not you. Actually, not even a real serious situation should trigger this behavior. That he told you he regards ruined ... (read in full...)
He put money in my card, when i had already told him what i wanted.
Q. should i be upset when my fiance ,who was told 3 months ago what i would like, doesn't get me a birthday gift and pops the money inside my card to buy something myself? i'm feeling justified in being incredibly disappointed and upset am i wrong?...
A. 5 August 2007: I understand that you feel a little disappointed, I would too. I too want to feel I'm given a little special attention when it's my birthday. It could very well be though, that he just felt a little insecure about getting it right and that he'd ... (read in full...)
Need perspective on what to do about this other long distance girl I still like.
Q. Hello everyone. Things finally seem to be settling down a little, at long last. It's been over a month since my long distance girlfriend of 2 years split with me, and I feel a little easier about the situation right now. We are still in cont...
A. 2 August 2007: I think it is good to see this other girl. If you feel that it is too soon to start a new relationship, which it most probably is right now, then tell her this if you notice that she wants more than friendship from you. If you like her and take it a ... (read in full...)
I am confortable being frumpy, but want to be attractive
Q. I feel a bit Bridget Jones writing this but I am truly feeling like life is passing by. I'm 35 and have one failed marriage of 13 years behind me - no children. I am comfortable in my own company but I feel like I am stuck between wanting to find ...
A. 31 July 2007: If you have been married for 13 years it is not at all strange that you have this feeling of wanting to be independant and have fun. You married young and now is the time for you to feel free and lose. But yes, I know, this DARN bio clock, you ... (read in full...)
I live with my fairy tale boyfriend, but he has a wife!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together and living together for a year and a half now. He is truely the most amazing person I've ever met! Our relationship is almost perfect. We spend every day together and every second is REALLY like a fairy tale. I ...
A. 31 July 2007: If his wife asked for a divorce and he moved out, then it seems to me that they actually broke up. How would the actual formal divorce be of any more impact on his children than the separation, the moving out? I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds ... (read in full...)
I emailed him a song to tell him I fancied him. Now he's put it up publicly! What does this mean?
Q. I sent this guy im intrested in a song online and made it very clear that I'm crushing on him. I was unaware the song would go public (on his page where all his friends can view it)......hes been online and has seen the song and i sent a message ...
A. 31 July 2007: Hi again,
Didn't see your update until after posting my previous answer.
Do I get it right if I guess you sended it to a page where it automatically goes public and you just didn't know?
I think that since he knows you didn't intend it to be ... (read in full...)
I emailed him a song to tell him I fancied him. Now he's put it up publicly! What does this mean?
Q. I sent this guy im intrested in a song online and made it very clear that I'm crushing on him. I was unaware the song would go public (on his page where all his friends can view it)......hes been online and has seen the song and i sent a message ...
A. 31 July 2007: I think writing a song was a very cool and nice way of letting him know you like him. Sad only if he doesn’t appreciate it, but then it is his loss. He should have been more sensitive to your feelings no matter whether he likes you or not.
M... (read in full...)
Thoughts on Love...
Q. 22/07/07 Dear Friends, Today I woke up with an empty sensation that cut through my soul and drained the life out of me. I felt exhausted and drained had to stop and think. What have I done lately for happiness, what have I done just b...
A. 28 July 2007: Hi, This is a beautiful poem. You are very talented. I might misunderstand the meanings of it, but it sounds to me that you quite recently have met someone very special and just found out how much in love you are? It is very beautifully written,... (read in full...)
He has a lot on his plate and says he can't date at the moment but I really like him
Q. Hi How can I tell if a guy is still interested in me ? I went on a couple of dates with a really nice guy, on the 1st date he bought me a present, which was lovely. The next day he said he could'nt see me anymore and left it at that. The next day ...
A. 28 July 2007: It could be just as he says, that he really likes you but right now found himself overwhelmed with lots of other troubles. It could also be that he has some baggage from previous and when starting dating a new woman old things within him come to ... (read in full...)
I like my sister's roommate but I'm afraid of spoiling their relationship if something goes wrong bewteen her and I
Q. What should I do: Date my sisters roommate/best friend or forget about it and find someone else. I really like this girl but I am afraid of ruining my sisters friendship with her if something were to go wrong. ...
A. 28 July 2007: If she likes you too I think you should date her. It's good of you that you think about your sister's feelings in this and if things were to get wrong, just make sure you also have other friends to talk it through with, so you don't put your sister ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 27 July 2007: I'm afraid I can't tell any good advice on this, but I still felt I had to write something to you, I felt touched by your situation. I must ask how come his parents can have such power over your life, over your marriage. Is there some specific ... (read in full...)
He wants to stop using protection. Does that mean he wants a baby?
Q. The other night me and my guy for about 2 yrs had unprotected sex and he always use to want to use protection because he said he didnt want to have another kid right now. Now he is saying if it happens it happens we will deal with it. What should I ...
A. 27 July 2007: It seems likely that he might want to have another kid. It sounds from your post that he already has at least one so probably he knows what he is doing and is obviously willing to take a chance here.
First thing though, and most importan... (read in full...)
After a week of no contact she texted me! Now I feel I have a little control, but how do I handle it?
Q. Hi, only me again. Just wanted to repost my recent update as a question, because there has been some development with my situation: (Also, quickly for those of you who don't know me: I was in a long distance relationship of 240 miles for 2 ...
A. 27 July 2007: I'm so sorry to hear what happened, that you must feel so much pain again. I feel so much for you, what you are going through. Don't worry about having set-backs, there will be hard times. And this was a tough one for you; her describing her dress ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a relationship I dont want as I was afraid to say no!!!
Q. Heylo. I really need advice about a relationship that I was forced into...sort of. Theirs this girl who I like. She's nice and everything, however I don't see her as being my girlfriend, and I'm not very attracted to her at all. Her friend ...
A. 27 July 2007: Well, you will just have to toughen up a little. Tell her what you told us here, that you think she is nice and everything but that you don't feel enough for her to want her as your girlfriend. It is not really nice or kind to lead her on like this. ... (read in full...)
Hes cheating with me, but wants to wait for his relationship to end naturally, How can I feel more at ease about this ??
Q. About three months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up, and a man that I had known and loved for five years (but never pursued it or said anything to anyone as he is attached and 18 years older) kissed me. Since then we have been seeing each othe...
A. 27 July 2007: I don’t understand, what is a natural end to a relationship? Did he explain to you what that means? I’m curious to know more about that!
I don’t doubt for a second that he fancies you but I don’t think he will break up with his girlfriend for you.... (read in full...)
How do I break up with someone I care about?
Q. Is there any advise out there on how to breakup with someone? I know that i should break up with a person i've been dating for quite sometime, but i still really care for her and the idea of hurting her pains me. Of course i'm sure we'll both ...
A. 27 July 2007: Hi,
I’m newly dumped by a guy who I think could have asked himself the exact same question like yours before breaking up with me. This is my advice on how I would have wanted to be treated.
Whatever reason you have for not wanting to be wi... (read in full...)
Do I ignore what the world thinks and do what my heart says?
Q. I recently ran into my ex. We hit it off, and we started hangin out again. I strongly believe that she is an amazing person, but my family and friends think otherwise because we had a rough going of separate ways. The world truly is against us ...
A. 27 July 2007: I think you must follow your own heart, what do you really want? If it feels right now for both of you, then give it a try. You survived last time and will survive again. And you seem to have good, caring family and friends, I agree with Tellulah, ... (read in full...)
How do I fill the void after being dumped?
Q. What does someone do to fill the void after being left,I don't want to fall into the addiction trap and where besides a bar can someone meet refreshing happy people? This must sound so lame but I feel completely lost....
A. 26 July 2007: Tell all your friends that you need to meet new people. I did that after my ex-ex and I was amazed how understanding and inventive my friends were, I had no idea. And none of them made anything out of it to embarrass me or make the situations feel ... (read in full...)
I hate my GF's past, Im feeling I should do similarly bad things so I'm not so superior to her, will this work!?
Q. My current girlfriend and I are both college graduates and young professionals in our mid-twenties. We have been together for just over six months. Our romance was nearly perfect for the first two and a half months and I was convinced that "she was ...
A. 26 July 2007: I get a little worried over the word “superior” here. This word does not fit in with healthy relationships. You are supposed to be equals (which not means you must do the same things she did). Can you love someone deeply and at the same time feel ... (read in full...)
I've messed up big time and get sick thinking about what I've done. Now my husband despises me. Help!
Q. I am a woman aged 45. I have been married for 25 yrs and I have done a really really stupid thing. I was in my local watering hole recently (my husband had gone home)I was annoyed with him and I was also menstral,hated the world etc. I got so drunk ...
A. 26 July 2007: I understand your embarrassment, it sounds like you live in a place where people put lots of moral pressure on behaviors, and feelings of having broken societal rules can be very shameful, we are made that way. But, like many others have said here, ... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 25 July 2007: Oh, I know, it’s like you are stuck and every move you make put everything at risk and push her even further away. At the same time, if you stand still and don’t do anything you fear you’ll lose her just for doing nothing. It’s like a physical law ... (read in full...)
We met up and became intimate, then a few months later, he called it off; what's going on?
Q. I met a man a little more than half a year ago. We live very far from each others, but he was very keen on getting to know me and would call me every day. After a month he traveled to see me again for about a week. During this week we became closer ...
A. 25 July 2007: Thank you, Danielepew. It is a hurtful thought that he might not have wanting anything serious not even to start with. Living, burning hell is exactly what it feels like, you couldn't describe it better. In a weird way it is also a soothing thought. ... (read in full...)
We met up and became intimate, then a few months later, he called it off; what's going on?
Q. I met a man a little more than half a year ago. We live very far from each others, but he was very keen on getting to know me and would call me every day. After a month he traveled to see me again for about a week. During this week we became closer ...
A. 24 July 2007: Thank you for helpful answers. Yes Danielepew, I had fallen for him, but can’t say it was yet love, what I referred to being on my mind was the leading-on thing. What was the point in upholding such frequent contact for such a long time to end it ... (read in full...)
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