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Will he react the same as before?
Q. I'm pregnant. He is not my boyfriend, we used to date, he is 29 yrs older than me. He got me pregnant before and he convinced me to have an abortion, he said we could have probably babies in the future but not at that time. I haven't told him yet ...
A. 13 March 2008: Hi,
I'm so sorry, here comes a virtual *hug*. Is there any councellor at the clinic who you can talk to about how you feel?
Don't feel guilty, you have given this a lot of thoughts and came to the conclusion this is what was best for you and... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 16 February 2008: I'm sorry it didn't turn out the way you wished. But at least now you got an explanation and know it is not because of you but because of recent problems in his past.
It seems to me that either he really does like you a lot or he just want the... (read in full...)
I don't want to break her heart, how do I let her down gently?
Q. What do I say when a girl says that she likes me but I like someone else? I don't want to break her heart. What should I do?...
A. 2 February 2008: You tell her that she is a good girl but you are already fallen in love with someone else. If she really likes you a lot she might be sad for some time, that's part of life, but I doubt that you will brake her heart. Not if you haven't dated for ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 20 January 2008: I understand you must feel somewhat confused now. After what you’ve written I would definitely say you are right at least in your interpretation nr 1, he really does seem to like your company a lot and miss you when you’re gone. I would also have ... (read in full...)
How early can I take a pregnancy test? Do I HAVE to wait until my next period?
Q. Hi. On Friday night I had unprotected sex, which I know was stupid and everything, but now I'm worried I could be pregnant. I was just wondering whats the earliest I could possibly take the test?? I'd only just come off my period when we did it, ...
A. 15 January 2008: Just wanted to say, since it came up in a previous answer, that the morning after pill is not aborting. It postpones the ovulation and thus works to prevent the pregnancy, not to terminate it. If you are pregnant when you take the pill, it won't ... (read in full...)
How early can I take a pregnancy test? Do I HAVE to wait until my next period?
Q. Hi. On Friday night I had unprotected sex, which I know was stupid and everything, but now I'm worried I could be pregnant. I was just wondering whats the earliest I could possibly take the test?? I'd only just come off my period when we did it, ...
A. 14 January 2008: Yes, you have to wait until your next period is supposed to come for the home tests to work. Or at least to give a reliable answer. If you take it now and it says you are not pregnant you can still be, so it won't ease your worries one bit anyway, ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregant even though the tests come back negative??
Q. I think that i'm pregnant. I have all the symptoms my period is almost 3 and half months late a had a few drops of blood one day but not enough to be a period. In the morning i am so nauseous i cant even look at food i used to love because it makes...
A. 13 January 2008: If a test says you ARE pregnant, then you are; if it says you're not, there is always a chance it is not showing right. The worries you have can cause and increase the symptoms you have, but this is too serious to not go back again to the doctor's ... (read in full...)
How do you go from having a great relationship to backing off??
Q. So to make this question short enough that people won't stop reading, I'll start like this. I've met this wonderful girl who I'm falling in love with. We have a great deal in common and find that everyday, we find something new in common. Heck, ou...
A. 13 January 2008: I think that at first these jokes were only just jokes to her, now she has realized you actually mean it and it has only gone 7 weeks. I think you are right that she needs some space now to think what she wants. If things go too fast in the ... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 10 January 2008: Well, if all she enjoys in sex is the penis and penetration she might think so, but in such a case it sounds like she is not having much fun anyway. I can of course not speak for all girls here, but I would say that there are too many other ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 10 January 2008: After knowing each others for such long time I think you have the right to demand a proper answer from him about the baby, why he doesn't want it. You shouldn't have to guess here. It would be interesting to know if he ever wants a child or if it is ... (read in full...)
Will he react the same as before?
Q. I'm pregnant. He is not my boyfriend, we used to date, he is 29 yrs older than me. He got me pregnant before and he convinced me to have an abortion, he said we could have probably babies in the future but not at that time. I haven't told him yet ...
A. 6 January 2008: I think you should do what YOU feel like and not what he says you should or shouldn't do. I think you deserve a much better man in your life, but if you want to keep this baby, then you should. I think Laurzie gave an excellent advice to talk to a ... (read in full...)
This girl is notorious on chasing after other girls boyfriends, and now she is after mine! What do I do to make her back off?
Q. I have some friends that I've had since elementary school (we are all in our 2nd year of university now). One of them has over the years turned into a bit of a party girl, and she's notorious for sleeping with other girls boyfriends. I'll call her ...
A. 6 January 2008: This girl is probably feeling really bad, she doesn't have any real self-respect as it seems, and probably she has gone through some really bad things. I don't think it is possible for you to get through to her and make her back off. She will only ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 6 January 2008: It is not necessarily true it is your last chance, but more important, what do YOU feel about all this? Do you feel happy being pregnant? Do you want to keep the baby even if your boyfriend doesn't want it? If you do, then keep it, but let it be ... (read in full...)
Is my g/f's job a potential problem for our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend has started working at a nightclub (as an assistant manager.) Not a stripclub, but a dance club. She's a recording artist and is well known in the entertainment scene here. I'm really not interested in dating a woman who is at the ...
A. 6 January 2008: Ok, I understand how you think, she asked you to quit and then she should do the same for you. Somehow that would seem fair, I suppose. But it seems as if she has now changed her mind and want to do this after all, and then I think there is not much ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 yrs don't want his father to know we are dating! How can I make him relax about this so that we don't have to hide??
Q. I've been going out with the same guy for 3 years. He's very commitment-phobic, and likes to keep his distance so he doesn't feel too tied down, but I know he still loves me. We'll see eachother maybe 3 times in a month, which is fine for me because ...
A. 6 January 2008: I'm sorry to be harsch now, but I think your boyfriend is acting like a coward. How old is he? Why can't he stand upp for himself to his dad? If you have been together 3 years then you are having something serious and you have the right to be part ... (read in full...)
I feel low, and hurt, and very very lonely. And I don't know what to do to get out this rut. Help me..
Q. My boyfriend has just dumped me after several months of treating me like dirt on his shoe, this is only my own conclusion after a lot of talking to friends, until now I believed greatly the whole problems in the relationship, and the reason for the ...
A. 6 January 2008: Hi again, you sound much better now, good to hear. It is good you stood up for yourself telling him that you didn’t appreciate the way he treated you. It feels much better when being able to do that and it will make the healing process much easier. ... (read in full...)
Is my g/f's job a potential problem for our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend has started working at a nightclub (as an assistant manager.) Not a stripclub, but a dance club. She's a recording artist and is well known in the entertainment scene here. I'm really not interested in dating a woman who is at the ...
A. 6 January 2008: I don't think you should try and stop her from working at the club. If you can't stand her choice of profession I think you must leave the relationship. Imagine you would ask her to quit and she does because she loves you now, how do you think she ... (read in full...)
Is this long distance relationship worth persuing?
Q. I have a male friend, we've been friends for about almost 2 years now, we get on really well, but I wouldnt say we are super close - defo a good friendship there tho. When we meet up we just have such a laugh, he always asks me how things are going ...
A. 6 January 2008: I think you should continue being his friend but if things get hotter, make sure he is not only going through a crisis with his girlfriend and is (sub?)consciously using you as a temopary getaway. If he is having a troublesome relationship right now ... (read in full...)
We both said, "I love you". Now I am confused.
Q. hi, i am 15 years old and me and this boy we're almost there..i mean we were very close to being boyfriend and girlfriend but we only knew each other for 3 months.One day he told me that he loved me and i asked him how could you love someone that ...
A. 6 January 2008: He sounds like a very serious guy and I don't doubt for a second that he really likes you a lot. He might have felt a little stupid and disappointed when realizing things weren't so clear as he thought about you two and therefor now he is ... (read in full...)
Is this guy really sincere? He has not text me in months.
Q. Ages ago, I met a guy. We met at an after party and really hit it off. Lots of chemistry and sparks. He bought me a drink, and we had a nice chat together. He had a smashing sense of humour, not to mention completeply gorgeous. Forgot to get ...
A. 6 January 2008: If you like him, give him a chance. I agree though that the first thing you should do before deciding what you want is to get an explanation on why he just disappeared before. You can ask in a casual way if you don't feel like being accusive. Tell ... (read in full...)
I can't find an opportunity to buy condoms as our parents are restrictive, and I am also afraid they will not accept my bf of different race!
Q. ok so it is not that we are embarrassed to buy condoms it is that every were we go our parents are there so we don't get the time to buy them and when we are alone we are not in a store to buy them.what should i do because if i tell my dad that i ...
A. 6 January 2008: I don't know how the medical care system works where you are, but if they have a special unit for teenagers, go there. They are under secrecy and will not tell your parents, and they can provide you with condoms as well as good advice on sex and ... (read in full...)
I feel low, and hurt, and very very lonely. And I don't know what to do to get out this rut. Help me..
Q. My boyfriend has just dumped me after several months of treating me like dirt on his shoe, this is only my own conclusion after a lot of talking to friends, until now I believed greatly the whole problems in the relationship, and the reason for the ...
A. 6 January 2008: Hi,
It is awful your boyfriends have said such terrible things to you, even if they thought so they shouldn’t have said this. No good man would treat you like that. You are not a pathetic wreck, you are a good, passionate person who wants to be love... (read in full...)
I was so afraid of being hurt again I decided to live with someone I didn't love. Now I no longer think this is right and I want to end it but I don't know how?
Q. I have been with my partner for 11years. He is 15 years older than me (im 32)We got together when I had a bad split from my ex - I knew at the time it was a rebound thing and even told him this, but we got on well and even though there was no ...
A. 5 January 2008: I think you should tell him about how you feel. I understand very well when you say you just want to be happy and have a loving relationship and this is what HE wants too. I do understand how your previous hurt could cause you to make this decision ... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: You say that ”…if more people received general knowledge in a simple form not based on a particular religion but based on "Gods Word" as it states in the original Bible then the true meaning of "God" would be exposed.” But isn’t this just an example ... (read in full...)
I want to end this relationship but I feel guilty about it because it will mean she has to quit a good job and move back to her hometown, what can I do?
Q. Hi, im stuck in a realy big muddle. ive been seeing this girl for 4 1/2 years and we live together. she moved away from her home town and settled 130 miles away with me and got a good job which she loves. i work away lots of the time so dont get to ...
A. 3 January 2008: Why does she have to quit her job? Isn't it possible she could get a place around there on her own?
I know exactly what you are feeling though, since I had a guy moving very far, abroad even, to live with me once. After a while it didn't feel as ... (read in full...)
He broke up as I did not respect my promise of visiting dating sites. Now he avoids me, what should I do?
Q. Has anyone got any ideas how to get out of this sticky situation? After making a promise not to go on dating sites again,my boyfriend showed up suddenly whilst i was in a dating chatroom. He has caught me for the sixth time. He just walked out ...
A. 3 January 2008: Hi,
Are you addicted to dating sites? I'm asking because you were in a committed relationship, you say you love the man, your details says you are 30-35 years old, and you repeatedly break a promise to your boyfriend not to go on dating sites? Also... (read in full...)
The boy I like didn't want to date me, his silence makes me very self-conscious about my appearance!
Q. Well i guess that proves im ugly........this guy that i really really like moved to bainville and he was supposed to answer my question about goin back out with me........and he didnt tell me anything about him moving!!!! And what i dont get is that ...
A. 2 January 2008: Oh, I'm sorry, you really sound very sad! But you know what, it doesn't at all prove that you are ugly. It seems as if this had something to do only with him and nothing at all with you. Do you know why he had to move away on his own?
I know thi... (read in full...)
Should I be offended by what she said to me?
Q. ok recently i was on my myspace and on one of my pics a girl in my year put "wow you look great not like you usally do " we have had arguments before but should i be offended by this comment?...
A. 2 January 2008: It might have been her purpose to offend you but it doesn't mean you have to give her the pleasure of success.
Decide to take the good part of it, I'm sure she was honest about you looking great on the picture.
So, no, don't waste any more e... (read in full...)
Does he fancy my friend, who's just been dumped? He said he meant to comfort her by this allusion at my expense.
Q. I've been seeing my new boyfriend for a month and up until now, things were perfect, until last night. We went out for a few drinks, then bumped into a friend of mine who has just been dumped, and my b/f was like, "Oh, whoever dumped you must be mad ...
A. 2 January 2008: It sounds like it could very well be as he says, that he just wanted to be nice and cheer her up. Also he didn't necessarily say she was better than you, he said that if he had met her before you, then he would have thought wow of her, he didn't say ... (read in full...)
We had one great night. We've lost all contact. Now I plan to go to her house to talk to her...
Q. Hi everyone. Here goes; It's the last day of a crummy year, and I'm laying it all on the line... As some of you know, a 3 weeks back (in fact, the 14th of December), I met a girl while out drinking with friends. At the end of the night, me and he...
A. 31 December 2007: You are a very brave and cool guy!! :)... (read in full...)
How long do I wait after my recent break up before accepting a date? I've received an invitation but I'm worried about my... public image.
Q. i have just broken up with my bf of 3 years, i knew it was coming long before it did - but this really nice guy now is asking me to go on a date with him, i'm not sure: is it to soon, will i make myself out to be bitch, i really need help plz, i ...
A. 31 December 2007: Hi again, just wanted to add to my previous answer about discretion and going somewhere you usually don't go. Just remember to tell at least one good friend, or a family member, where you are and with whom, just to be safe.
Best wishes!
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How long do I wait after my recent break up before accepting a date? I've received an invitation but I'm worried about my... public image.
Q. i have just broken up with my bf of 3 years, i knew it was coming long before it did - but this really nice guy now is asking me to go on a date with him, i'm not sure: is it to soon, will i make myself out to be bitch, i really need help plz, i ...
A. 31 December 2007: I don't think it would do any harm to go on a date. You broke up because you weren't happy as it was and wanted something else. What if this guy is what you are looking for, then you don't want to miss out on him, or at least you don't want to sit ... (read in full...)
We just broke up. If you don't talk for a few months will he forget you?
Q. My boyfriend just recently broke up with me. Is it better to not talk for a few months, until I am over him? Do feelings just disappear or if its a real connection will they still be there? Or is it better to occasionally talk so he doesn't ...
A. 31 December 2007: I think it is better not to talk for a while. My experience says that when taking contact when still very sad, it usually doesn't end up very good and afterwards everything feels even worse. If it is a real connection and it is supposed to be, the ... (read in full...)
Does avoiding my ex make me a coward??
Q. Am I a coward? I'm avoiding contact with my ex-girlfriend, and so I'm avoiding MSN messenger all together. I've tried to be her friend after the break up, but I get too upset to keep doing it. It's been months since she broke up with me, and I just ...
A. 30 December 2007: No, it doesn't at all make you a coward! She broke up with you and you still feel hurt, and as long as talking to her only makes you feel bad, then I would say better for you to avoid her. There is no need for you to torment yourself with talking to ... (read in full...)
He knows how I feel about him, but how can I tell if he feels the same about me?
Q. I've worked with this guy for about 2 months now, and i've liked him for quite a while. The more i try to get mad at him, or try to find a flaw or a fault. I seem to get drawn in to him even more. But, me so scared to tell him how i feel, I'm being ...
A. 28 December 2007: I think you should definitely go with them to the club on saturday. Were there more people than just you and him out to the movie? If it was, then ask him out again to go only the two of you.
And don't be afraid to tell him that you like him. If ... (read in full...)
I was alone this Christmas... She wasn't, and it's hard for me to accept. How can I ease the pain?
Q. I've just spent my first christmas alone in 3 years. Worse yet, my ex has gone into a relationship in the past couple of months. I'm lonely, and now she has somebody. I tried not to let it ruin the holiday for me, but knowing that she has somebody ...
A. 28 December 2007: Hi,
Don't think your happiest days are over, they haven't even started yet! Your happiest days are still to come and this other guy can't be as good as you anyway, complete cock or not. There will be a day when you meet someone much better t... (read in full...)
How do I forgive myself?
Q. I LIED. How do I live with myself? I live with my boyfriend and a male roommate. My roommate recently rekindled a relationship with an ex-fiance, while hiding it from his current girlfriend. The current girlfriend showed up unnannounced and I ...
A. 28 December 2007: Hi,
I agree with Peoriaman, it was a quick decision that was made and in this situation many other people would have done the same thing. Forgive yourself because it was not you that was cheating on her, it was him and it isn't really your job... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me but it didn't hurt. Does that mean I am still a Virgin?
Q. I don't know what happened here. My boyfriend and I were making out when he removed my clothes and told put his penis down there, he said he wouldn't penetrate that we are just playing. Before I knew it he was using force though I didn't feel any ...
A. 27 December 2007: Hi,
Whether you are still a virgin or not is impossible for anyone else here to tell. Some would say that you can do all sorts of sexual things and unless you penetrate you are still a virgin. Others would say that since sex is so much more tha... (read in full...)
How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?
Q. Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...
A. 20 December 2007: Good work!
:)... (read in full...)
Missed a call the other day and was wondering if it might be my ex.
Q. Hey all ! Me and my ex have been split up since may this year, we slept together until september, but this didnt work for me so i decided to try and forget about him. My ex hasnt called or text me in 3 months, he said he hated me and didnt want a...
A. 18 December 2007: The exact thing happened to me last week, I’m not kidding. I had 5 missed calls at 2 o’clock in the night from a hidden id-caller and it almost drove me nuts to not know who it was and I was convinced it was my ex. After a few days though, I started ... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly being like this?
Q. I am really sad..........i was hangin out with my bf on friday and he was actin just fine.....he was flirtin with me and everything!!!!!!!!!! But then i went free-line skating with my friend and all of the sudden one of his friends come up to me and ...
A. 17 December 2007: I'm sorry, I understand you must be very sad and it is always good to get an explanation, some sort of closure, to be able to move on. In this case I think you can get all the closure you need only by thinking of what he called you, and he didn't ... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly being like this?
Q. I am really sad..........i was hangin out with my bf on friday and he was actin just fine.....he was flirtin with me and everything!!!!!!!!!! But then i went free-line skating with my friend and all of the sudden one of his friends come up to me and ...
A. 17 December 2007: What a twat not telling you himself! Not a good sign in a guy, whatever reason he might have for breaking up, to not tell you in person. My advice to you would be to be corageous and walk up to him and tell him face to face what his friend said to ... (read in full...)
How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?
Q. Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...
A. 16 December 2007: So it goes when you're out snogging girls, Andy!! ;) ;)
Lots of hot drinks, lots of antiseptic drugs from pharmacy and stay at home watching all your favourite tv-series. And don't talk more than necessarily.
You have 4 days to go, you will mak... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me but it didn't hurt. Does that mean I am still a Virgin?
Q. I don't know what happened here. My boyfriend and I were making out when he removed my clothes and told put his penis down there, he said he wouldn't penetrate that we are just playing. Before I knew it he was using force though I didn't feel any ...
A. 15 December 2007: It looks to me as if you are not a virgin anymore. I would be very concerned about seeing this boyfriend again, penetrating you by force is not a loving, caring act of a boyfriend and looks more like a rape to me. Be careful with this guy and think ... (read in full...)
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