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writes:When I was young I was abused by my older brother, he told me that it was all ok and it's a game that older men play. This happend on many different occasions. Im a male, 20 years of age and ashamed and scared of life. I cant get a girl friend and if i get close to a girl I find it difficult to meet too her needs. I can't get myself to leave the house to meet new people, and I hold a lot of anger for my brother. I would beg for any advice good or bad on how you feel or if you have been in the same situation before.Thank You
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reader, gabberjackranch  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 I'm so sorry love...This must be so hard on you. Please know that I am praying for you. You may try to find a therapist who will come to your home and help you through these awful feeling you are carring around. Please know that my heart is going out to you.
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reader, O Connor  + ♥, writes (6 July 2008):
 oh sweetheart im so sorry for wat he put you through, i cant imagine how difficult it is for you to deal with. my advice is to go to counselling and seek professional help. you need to talk about this and deal with it and hopefully move on. i think that if you become used to being more open about wat happened (which is wat you will learn in counselling), it will be easier for you to be open in other aspects of your life i.e new ppl and potential girlfriends.
the reason why your finding it hard to meet new ppl and have a relationship is probably because you are afraid that getting close to someone will eventually result in getting hurt or betraying you again.
i hope some of this has helped hun, please email me if you wanna talk or anything, good luck xxx
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Brother or no brother, if you were sexually abused go to the police and report it. It's still a crime no matter who the perpetrator is.
I know - it's easier said than done but it's probably the only way you'll be able to put it all behind you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I don't think many people would've been in a similar situation, partly due to the seriousness of it.
You might not want to, and its becoming more of my trademark answer, AND is a lot easier said than done, but I recommend consuelling. It really, really does help. Not necessarily with getting a girlfriend, but using it to rebuild your life!
I guarantee one day you will get married. Obviously you do hold anger for your brother. He abused you. He destroyed your trust. Hes effectivley destroyed the first part of your life.
But you have things going for you. This is your prime. Don't waste any more time, seek professional help and they may be able to change your life forever. That way, you can live the normal life you deserve.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 I read this any my heart really went out to you.
I haven't been in this situation and wouldn't even know where to begin with what to say to make you feel even remotely better...I hope you have local support groups you can go to, or people you can speak to...If not, feel free to message me, even just to get a load off your chest...xx
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