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I have fallen for a guy at work, he's married, now I'm being transferred, should I tell him how I feel?

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Question - (6 July 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 14 July 2008)
A female Canada age 36-40, *idi88 writes:

a few months ago i started falling for a guy at work.i haven't stopped thinking bout him since. when i was around him it felt like the whole world melted away, leaving just us.i knw i'm only young but no guy has ever made me feel as special.

but he was married, still is, so i never told him how i felt and he never declared anything. now im being transferred so i wont be seeing him for a very long time.i will probably never know if he felt the same.i wish i could dismiss this as a phase but everyday without him is tearing me apart. i cant enjoy anything completely .i cant forget the little things. how do i let it go?

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A female reader, didi88 Canada +, writes (14 July 2008):

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Well, it's been a couple of weeks since i've seen him. i've been trying to go out and spend time with friends and family as much as possible. but when everyone's gone and it's just me and the silence i feel like my head's going to explode. one day i even found myself standing in front of my old workplace. i don't know what i was expecting. i mean, i've never been 'in love'- is it normal to feel so much for someone when you have hardly any proof of their feelings? most people i've talked to say the only way to forget him is to find someone else (who actually returns my feelings). but i've never been the type of person who can just go up to a guy and start a relationship. i guess i always hoped for the fairytale- 'the spark'- and being with him, it was the first and only time i felt it. i realise there is an enormous number of "i's" in this question but please, if anyone has any advice on moving on, please help me out!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008):

Read this page and thank your stars you haven't gone further:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-w-a-married-man-how-do-i-cope-w-break-up.html

Start reading the answers from the bottom...

Good luck and stay strong.

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A female reader, didi88 Canada +, writes (7 July 2008):

didi88 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for the feedback.

No, I would never break up a relationship. I just need some advice on how to move on. I know they say time heals all, but every day without him seems to be more difficult than the last.

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A female reader, O Connor Ireland +, writes (6 July 2008):

O Connor agony auntwell hun you have to think about the woman he married - how would she feel if she knew that you were willing to break up their marriage? i know its hard to keep it to yourself but you have to also think that your not the only one that could potentially get hurt in this.

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A female reader, starfairy United Kingdom +, writes (6 July 2008):

starfairy agony auntDepends what you want to get out of it...Married man and a collegue, sounds like playing with fire...And what would you do if he turned around and said he wanted an affair? And you move away...It would open a whole can of worms, and mess about with both of your heads...Just think carefully :o)

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