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No replies yet... 1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...
CatFish, and tips to keep you safe
No replies yet... 10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know ..CATFISH....is a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...
Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle
No replies yet... 22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...
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My Bf has suddenly started acting distant. He confessed he has started talking to his ex again. What should I do?
Q. So where to start... my boyfriend and i had the perfect loving relationship until maybe a week ago, when he suddenly started acting distant and stopped being as affectionate and was not saying he loved me as much. I noticed something was re...
A. 16 February 2013: I know is must be very difficult dealing with this situation at the moment and you are very understanding of your boyfriend and this is good .I think this may be for you a waiting game and hope that your boyfriend may tire of contacting his ... (read in full...)
Should I look to date someone? Should I avoid it? Am I going about this all wrong?
Q. My last relationship ended 3 years ago. It's been kind of tough on me and despite seeing a few girls between now and then there weren't any that I even considered wanting to make my girlfriend. About a week after my ex and I broke up she started ...
A. 12 February 2013: First of all you are doing nothing wrong you are just being human. In saying that no one is prefect please try and not be so hard on yourself right now .Give the dating scene a break for awhile and allow youself some space .Perhaps as you stated it ... (read in full...)
How can I be more patient waiting for him to propose? Why is he taking so long to take the next step?
Q. I have been with my SO for 4 years. I am in my mid 20s and am fully ready to start a family. My SO is almost 30 and says he wants he same thing. I genuinely believe him, but he's been saying this for the past three years, and I cannot help but ...
A. 11 February 2013: Yes i see where your coming from re your problem with your boyfriend .At this stage of the relationship I would have a long indept chat with your boyfriend and ask him excaly what the situation is for both of your futures.Just SIMPLE PLAIN ANSWERS ... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 11 February 2013: Yes send Valentines cards to the 2 girls why not. Valentines Day is a very romantic day enjoy and have fun.Would suggest you post cards.Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous or get used to the relationship that my B/f has with his ex?
Q. Hello everyone, I am with my bf about 18 months, I really love him and I can see he loves me,we plan living together etc..Everything would be ok, if he wasn´t still friends with his ex..I mean very good friends. They´ve been in one group of friends ...
A. 11 February 2013: Yes i can understand the difficult situation you are in .its not going to be easy but i would accept your relationship as it is and that your boyfriend loves only you. With love there must be trust untill he gives you REASON not to trust him.GIVE IT ... (read in full...)
I thought the break-up had no effect on me. Except I've changed in ways that scare me. What's happened to me?
Q. I was with my ex for 3 years, we broke up around 4 months ago. I loved him so much, at the time he was everything to me! My best friend, my entire world. We broke up because he moved away, and I think some time before that I had subconsc...
A. 10 February 2013: You are Numb over a lost love and untill you are able to cry you will continue to remain numb. Yes you are confused and hurt. I would suggest that you would see a counsellor to help you at this time .Having sex is not the answer and will only ... (read in full...)
How can I ever learn to trust guys again? And find a Genuine guy? My last Bf was a liar and a cheat.
Q. My most recent ex boyfriend was a liar and a cheater. He was super good looking and charming so I always fell for whatever he said and couldn't tell what was really going on. I am only just now starting to see what really happened. It's b...
A. 10 February 2013: Right now you are feeling hurt but this will pass just give it a little time. With your past experience you will be more careful and choose more careful. Hopefully you will meet that special man .Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
He's 12 years older and divorced. He was my lecturer. Could we make this work?
Q. Hi, thanks for those who answer my question in advance. Following is the brief intro about the man with whom i have affair. currently i am doing MBA. i met this guy during my year, because he is my lecturer.he taught me one subject,and i ...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi i do understand your situation. But i feel within your own question you have a answer. Re those 5 questions you asked . First i want you to answer those questions iin an OBYJECTIVE way , THEN ask those same questions of your boyfriend,Best Luck ... (read in full...)
I seem to be angry about something that was an issue a year ago!
Q. Hi. I am 29, and this is my third year with my boyfriend, who is 7 years older and divorced 4 years before we met, he has 1 child. When we met we just had a good connection in terms of interests, personality, company, chemistry, everyting was there. ...
A. 9 February 2013: I woud like you to ask yourself ONE question that is IS the magic gone from your relationship. When you answer this question then i feel it will be easier to sort out the other problems.Best WISHES .NORA B.... (read in full...)
I hate the guy who will be the best man at our wedding! How do I deal with this?
Q. Ok so I've been with my partner for 8 years, just recently got engaged. His best friend used to make my life hell but I dealt with it. His previous girlfriend would flaunt herself all over my boyfriend and I would spend night after night crying bec...
A. 9 February 2013: This is a dreadful situation for you to be put in for what should be the happiest day of your life.[Your wedding day].Take a stand on this and discuss this with the man you hope to marry.He must respect your feelings first and not those of his ... (read in full...)
How does a teacher ask out a single parent?
Q. I am a teacher in a primary school, and one of the single mothers has caught my attention for a long time, I do not teach her son and won’t be teaching him. She has a great personality what I like about her is that she talks to anyone and everyone; ...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi to the shy Teacher. Well you sound charming as they say nothing venture nothing win. After some small talk with this lady just ask if she was interest in films etc. and just ask her out no big deal. WISHING YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, NORA B.... (read in full...)
We tried to move past his cheating but I'm recently starting to resent him for many things, how do I approach this situation?
Q. I don't even know where to start with this be here goes. So I have been in a 3 and half yeah relationship with my boyfriend. He cheated on me but we decided to move on together and move past the situation. We have gone on to have a little boy and...
A. 6 February 2013: I do understand how difficult is must be for you right now.It is never easy to forgive CHEATING and unless the trust is built up again there is problems and trust takes time .You have 2 children and all the housekeeping to deal with and this is a 24 ... (read in full...)
How can I move on without him?
Q. My bf and I broke up last year and I still can't get over him. Our relationship was very complicated and we both had issues. Still I go to bed every night wishing he would call/text or email me something. I have never felt this way. I feel alone ...
A. 28 January 2013: Your a warm loving woman and when their is a break-up its very very difficult. Any chance that you might join a mixed club, start a new interest.go on a holiday.It will take time to heal the hurt your feeling.But believe me it will pass and you will ... (read in full...)
Backed away while he's healing; worried he won't want to try again when he's better
Q. I was dating someone for just under 3 months then he developed depression from witnessing a traumatic event. I also identified in the short time of dating he can be paranoid and i suspected trust issues undealt with. He had a girlfriend in past ...
A. 28 January 2013: Ido understand how you feel and its very difficult to deal with your boyfriends depression. I would advise you to find out all you need to know about this depression and paranoid and how he deals with it.You doing your best have given him space to ... (read in full...)
He was excited about the pregnancy at first but now he has asked me to move out! What should I do?
Q. Hi i am in a very hard situation at the minute, i was with a man i liked for years and he liked me. i think i may now be pregnant and i have told him this, he was really pleased at first as he has wanted a child. i have a 3 year old daughter who he ...
A. 28 January 2013: First of all i would find out for sure if you are pregnant because your health is most important right now. ONE WAY OR ANOTHER i would move out with your little girl and find a place to live.It would seems pointless to try and make work with this ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband watch one particular part of my body during sex?
Q. Hi, I am really embarrassed but here it goes: sex with my husband is over the top. I mean, since I've been with him I finally understood what "to make love" means: he's caring and sentimental in the bedroom and outside the bedroom too. When he is ...
A. 24 January 2013: He seems to be a loving caring husband in the bed and out of the bed. I would suggest that you have a long in depth chat with him about this situation and find out the way he thinks on this particular sexual level. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
Some of my husband's actions are making me uncomfortable. He says there's nothing to it. What do I do?
Q. I'm four months pregnant with my first child. Overall, things have been going well in my relationship with my husband. My sex life isn't quite what it used to be, but it's not like we don't have sex at all. (And not because I don't want to!) Over...
A. 24 January 2013: As you stated you are now loosing sleep and that is not good at all when you're pregnant. Because of your condition. I would suggest to go to you doctor first and talk things out with him/her. Maybe s/he might advise that you and your husband attend ... (read in full...)
My relationships end so terribly that I really get affected. I am done with love!
Q. In all the relationships ive had not one has ended without me being affected i become so depressed i even stop eating and eventually lose weight,the problem is i love too much without even leaving room for dissappointment.i dont think i will ever ...
A. 24 January 2013: You are a warm loving woman and when you fall in love you fall in love deeply and also get hurt in a very in depth way. Right now I would advise you to make new mixed friends, maybe join a club, take up a new interest, join a book club, etc. It will ... (read in full...)
Should my friend tell her husband that she used to have a crush on his brother?
Q. my friend used to have a pshychological crush on a person and a few people knew it. and then an arranged marriage landed her with his brother.. she really loves her husband and his brother means nothing to her now... but should she tell this to her ...
A. 23 January 2013: Your friend loves and is happy with her husband and that is all that counts. NO POINT AT ALL in telling her husband that she had a crush on his brother. I would serve no useful prospose Best Luck. Nora B.... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is moving away and I'm heartbroken because I still love him. Help!
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 1.5 months ago and we weren't really in much contact. However, we decided to meet up and today he told me that he is going to be moving back home in a month, which is halfway across the country. I was already ...
A. 23 January 2013: When you're still in love with a man, Breaking up is hard to do and will take time to heal. But maybe the fact that he is moving away is just another way he has of saying 'It's Over' and he wants a fresh start. Long term this will be the best for... (read in full...)
How do I get my partner to do more foreplay, and have sex more often?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles just a quick question. What do you do when you have a partner that wont do much or any foreplay. He will not do oral sex at all, not even once a year, he will kiss me before and during sex, I do have to intiate it most of the ...
A. 22 January 2013: I'm sure it must be very upsetting for you on a sexual level .But i don't think there is any point in trying to get him to do what he does not WANT to do. There is a possibe that he is tired from work or he may have a low sex drive or he may need a ... (read in full...)
I'm having a very hard time dealing with this break up even though, logically, we are not suited....
Q. My long distance boyfriend and I broke up in November 2012. We had been together for 4 years. We broke up 2 years into our relationship but got back together 3 months later. To begin with the feelings were mutual and we both agreed a break u...
A. 21 January 2013: You are quiet right when you say you are confused and i can understand why. When confused do NOTHING but give yourself time and space to heal. Between your parents split up and a hurtful relationship no wonder you are depressed. Please remember when ... (read in full...)
He lies about still contacting his ex-wife
Q. I recently looked at my boyfriend of 3 months text messages and he texted his ex-wife asking to take her out on a date. However she declined his offer. Now I have asked him if he has any feeling for her and is telling me no he doesn't! I know he is ...
A. 20 January 2013: This man is still involved with his ex WIFE and is totally out of Order to text her in front of you. Move on and find someone that will love and respect you and that you are the Only woman in his life. Best Luck Nora B, ... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to delay things more? I wanted something more permanent. He's got excuses ready (for why not) and I'm sick of it.
Q. My boyfriend is 49 and I am 43. We have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We have for the last several months spoken a little bit about getting married. We each have houses about 40 miles from each other, dogs, kids, jobs, the usual. It is ofte...
A. 20 January 2013: I can understand your sadness and frustration with this man and how depressed you might get. Ask him out in Blunt fashion the REASON WHY YOU HAVE TO WAIT 2 YEAR if you are not happy with his answers MOVE ON because from your letter this man does not ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he's so hard to get!
Q. Hi, I need some advise. I am very confused. There is this guy, which I really like. I moved to London in September and I met so many guys, but this guy I like is the only guy I have liked now in England. He is so different then the other guys, b...
A. 18 January 2013: Young love is never easy just chill out and stop trying so hard to get ths guy. Give him space and time and remember if he is into boxing he is not that shy. For a change you play to get and let him be the ONE to contact you .If he does not let it ... (read in full...)
What are the right and wrong things to say to a friend who is depressed?
Q. I live in a place where there are some small private hospitals and that is where my friend is now. My friend is getting wonderful support from her Doctor so I know she is in good hands. We have been friends since school and I have supported her many ...
A. 18 January 2013: Your friend is really blessed to have such a sincere and true friend as you. WOULD BE IF THE WORLD HAD MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU. You're there for her all the time and help her every way you can. You could not do any more and you are doing Everything ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? I don't know where I stand in his life just now.
Q. I met a guy in November and we got together. It was getting quite serious and we felt the same way about each other. He recently had some life-changing news (ex-girlfriend is pregnant with his baby) and he is finding it extremely difficult to deal ...
A. 17 January 2013: Right now i can understand how upset you must be feeling and since he is not contacting its more upsetting.But he is after a big shock that will last a lifetime.The best thing to do is let him have all the space he needs to sort out his head which ... (read in full...)
He stopped replying to my messages what should I do?
Q. Hey guys,,so i met this guy in our new neighbourhood and he seemed very nice! He's so cute and i began taking interest. So i friended him on facebook and we began talking but after a while,he stopped replying my inboxes! I sent like 4 to him and ...
A. 17 January 2013: Its difficult when you fancy someone and you dont get a reply.My advise to you is do Nothing wait and see if he will contact you again if he dose not.Just let it go.Make lots of new friends. Best Luck. Nora B.... (read in full...)
He lied to me, I told him to never talk to me again. Is it over?
Q. I am 25 and was dating this guy since 2.5 years, we already had had a break up after a year of our relationship and we were not in contact for 5 months but again he came back to me and apologized and wanted to be with me as much as i had never moved ...
A. 15 January 2013: As he has never committed to you by asking you to marry him and he continues to tell you lies and take you for granted.I think you should forget him and move on with your life. There is no point in wasting anymore time with him.As you say by Indian ... (read in full...)
He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, but I want to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea?
Q. I met this guy about a year ago and recently, in September, we began to hang out and we became "close" like intimate. I liked him and I still do. The problem is that he has a girlfriend now. For about two months, we fell off because of a conflict ...
A. 14 January 2013: If he wont listen to what you have to say it means he does not want to know what you have to say. Leave well alone as it would be to hurtful to be rejected. If he wants you he knows where to find you. Time will sort all out. Best Wishes Nora B.... (read in full...)
Is he still my guy? Or is the new girl in his sights?
Q. my guy and I were doing nicely. he is 4 years older than me. we work at same office, travel by the same bus. i met him 6 months ago. Soon we were so close(went for shopping,movie, beach and restaurant together even made love). He had even told ...
A. 12 January 2013: I know that you must be hurting when you are so in love with this man. But it is not wise to be sending lots of texts this will only annoy him. Try and be calm within and let him have his Space and wait and see what happens Remember if a man wants ... (read in full...)
He wont move out of his mother's house despite being in his mid 30's, is this a subtle message telling me I'm not enough for him?
Q. In a long distance relationship. My love is in his mid 30s. Due to a family tragedy, he has had to live with his mother. Problem is, it's now a couple of years after the tragedy and still lives with mom. I want him to be with me so we can start ...
A. 11 January 2013: There is no point in wasting more time or thinking what the reason might be .As you both love each other sit down and and have an indept chat with him about your situation.Ask him out sraight are you both going to have a future.Dont take half ... (read in full...)
My mother has become so distant. Is it possible she is cheating?
Q. Hi, I would not Like to think this but My mother has been really distant lately. And she has been worrying me lately. Well Ill start off by saying that my grandmother has been getting real sick, and she stays the night over there alot But she has ...
A. 10 January 2013: Don't waste any more time Worrying about your mum. Just ask her to have a chat with you and tell her that her behaviour is causing you stress. Be gentle but firm and ask if you can help her in anyway. Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
Why is he hot and cold? He just disappears with no word/ Should I stay or move on?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for five months now and I have met his family and his son and he has met my kids and we have spent holidays with him and his family Yet every time it's going good he just ups and disappears he stops talking to me for a...
A. 9 January 2013: Sounds like he is living a double life style and getting away with it at the moment. Ask him straight out for answers and be quiet firm him. His behaviour is quiet odd and very unfair.If he refuses to answer you do consider saying goodbye to him.You ... (read in full...)
It's complicated. He will visit me. But often pushes for more physical content than I want. But he discourages me visiting him. Why?
Q. Have been into a relationship with a guy for more than 4 years now we both love each other. He calls me and he pays me a visit. I need a new jobc so that occupies my time, but I'm less busy in weekends. Each time i pay him visit he kisses me on...
A. 9 January 2013: I think he is the confused One and certainly nor treating you with the respect ypu deserve.Say and firm goodbe to him and start living life for you. Meet new mixed company and find some man that will treat you with Truth ,respect and love .Best Luck ... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me?
Q. *I see him where he works often and he'll walk around and talk to me for an hour sometimes 2. *He'll tease me about things. *He walks me to my car, in which we talk for another 10 minutes outside. *Texts me at least every other day seeing...
A. 8 January 2013: Enjoy his company.Dont pressure him.When he is ready he will ask you out on a date .He seems to like you a lot.Have fun Best Luck Nora B.... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend has any problem, he goes to his best friend (a girl) and not me!
Q. Hey everyone,I'v been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years,my boyfriend has this best friend who is a girl and they have been friends since kindergarden and over the years I'v become friends with her too,we hang out together..BUT I really feel bad ...
A. 8 January 2013: Yes ask him to sit down that you want a quiet chat with with .Explain to him how you feel left out and dont understand why he goes to his best friend and not you.This has to be discuss otherwise it will effect your relationship with him .Its ok for ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling self conscious about my chest size?
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little self conscious about my chest size. I'm an A75/34AA, which is pretty flat. I always thought they'd grow a cup bigger but sadly that has been my bra size since I was 13. My boyfriend doesn't mind my chest size, but I ...
A. 8 January 2013: You sound a very nice person and have a nice figure and your boyfriend is quiet happy with you We hear so much about larger breasts that it has become boring. I know its difficult if you are self conscious .Would you consider a padded bra this might ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went off of her medication and changed. Now I feel needy like I need medication!
Q. I was introduced to this woman 4 months ago and we instantly hit it off. Our conversations were long and in depth. There was a connection I have never felt with anyone before.. physically, spiritually, emotionally and we both made a comment that it ...
A. 7 January 2013: Hello SBD.She is still the wonderfuly woman that you have fallen for.But she has stopped taking her medication,this is having some effect on her. Try and be calm within yourself and not stress youself out ,Because this will not help either of ... (read in full...)
What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?
Q. They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? I...
A. 7 January 2013: Knowing yourself first this is not an easy task.Because as we get older we are changing all the time Know yourself first and in so doing you will find peace and happiness within .We must love ourselves First then we can decide what makes us ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my ex of 2 yrs. It was 2 months ago but I don't feel I'm moving on. Is that normal?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up. I guess it's not really recently its been since Thanksgiving. She has a new boyfriend and I have new girlfriend who I like a lot don't get me wrong, but I can't seem to shake off my past girlfrie...
A. 6 January 2013: To be in love with your ex-girl for 2 years was wonderful.There is no way you can move on after only 2 months this is not possible.You need time and a lot of space to yourself to move on Not always wise to go into another relationship so soon .Take ... (read in full...)
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