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30-35,
*rystina
writes:Here's the thing I want to have sex and there's this specific guy in mind. I told him already and he's cool with it. He's a friend of mine and sexy as ever. But here's the things I don't want a relationship and he has a girlfriend. Is is right for me to loose my virginity to a guy that has a girlfriend and i don't want just because i'm curious? I mean my family and basically everyone believes i should be in love but i've never liked a guy for more than a month much less love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): I think you should wait untill you find a guy that really likes you and you like him too .when you are still avrign its always abig sept to have sex for the first time but before doing it you should realy fist think about it
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reader, artistchick  +, writes (16 February 2008):
yikes, I think you should wait to find a guy that really cares about you b4 loosing your virginity to just some guy thats sexy!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 February 2008):
 In my opinion, you should have a lot of strong feelings for the man you chose to share this extreme intimacy. You are apparently of age to decide, but don't you think this should be shared with someone who really loves you (or at least at the time)? Love at the age of about 19 years old is really a silly notion to older folks, but I understand that it seems real when you are at that age.
Secondly, a man who is quite experienced with women is most likely to take the care and time to introduce you to your future life of sexuality than most guys in your age group. Most of the guys under about 25 or 30 are basically "stick it in and pump" types who know little about pleasing a woman or delicately introducing a young lady to her sexuality.
Some other advisors here may differ, but I still think you should hold out for meeting someone very special, not some other girl's boyfriend with whom you do not even want a relationship, as you stated.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Very very bad idea, don't do it. It will seriously strain your relationship with him, and if you know his girlfriend she will hate you after this. U basically you are giving you virginity to someone who is already taken. Save it for someone you really love, you may not think you will find anyone like that, but you will eventually.Just dont go giving yourself away. And looks are not just what matters. Do you like the guy for more then looks, or do you just find him attractive and want to have sex finally????In any case you shouldn't do it...
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reader, polarkite +, writes (16 February 2008):
 That doesn't sound so cool. Is she cool with it? If not, you are most likely going to mess up your relationship with your friend if you do it. He will feel guilty afterward and it will taint your relationship with him. He will have to choose a side, and it will probably be hers.
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