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writes:I am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found a book of hers. when i told her that i lied to her and that i was interested in her she got upset and now she ignores my messages. please help me!! tell me what should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThings have gotten worse. She's currently seeing someone else. She told me to move on. I don't want to! I love her too much. I'll literally die without her. I'm gonna wait for her. Thought it may hurt, it is worth it. Thank you every one for your help. Please give me some advise that'll reduce the pain
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 I agree with quiet-echo. She should have been flattered. It was quite a compliment that you would try to seek her out and your lie was harmless. She over-reacted.
Her loss. ;-)
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (29 October 2009):
ok this is wut u shud do. let go of all ur male instincts and beg for mercy. don't sound pathetic though. simply write her a letter and say "look I really wanted to talk to but I coudnt figure out how to go about it". don't say anything like "i won't ever lie to again" cause really she doesn't know this. then its time to show a little confidence which is wut u shud have done from the get go. simply say "i think if u got to know me WE could really have a good time". she will most certainly be interested to know why you are so sure. don't make it about you though. remember a womans favorite subject is usually herself so start talking about her. u get her mouth movin about herself she will feel on top of ur world. good luck man
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (29 October 2009):
You can't make her talk to you... Your best course of action might be to write a letter to her (note, I said LETTER, not Text, not email)- set yourself apart, and explain that you made up the story because you were impressed by her and simply wanted to get to know her. Explain that you don't normally lie to girls to get them to talk to you, but the story came out without you thinking that it might upset her.
Here's a life lesson: Women value trust a LOT, once you violate their trust you may be done. Women are not guys, they don't play by our rules... learn this lesson now...
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reader, openmind +, writes (29 October 2009):
In my opinion you probably scared her when you told her you lied about the book thing, no offense it does seem a little stalkerish. Simply try and tell her that your intentions are noble and that you just want to get to know her offer her the chance to go out to lunch with you AND your friend who gave you the contact info to give her a chance to get a sense of trust with you and then see where thing go from there hope this helps!
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