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anonymous
writes:Why do the girls at the clubs dress like sluts?? We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. One had a dress on so short that her ass was showing and she bent over a few times. Do they really need that much attention? Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (7 February 2014):
Dear OP,
My guess is that not all the girls in all the clubs "dress like sluts" these days, but that you focus on some particular girls who are dressed too provocatively for your taste.
I sometimes like to dress quite sexy (with my ass still covered, though) for a few reasons:
- attention (yes, I think wanting attention is a very natural desire and I'm not a saint)
- contrast to my everyday life, where I have to walk around in rather dull/neutral clothing and being professional and all
- dressing according to dress code in club
- feeling sexy and showing my interest in flirting
I admit that some women go very, very far in their choice of clothes.. but then again, why do you bother? If this is not your style, then don't imitate them and let nobody pressure you into wearing things you don't like.
Find your own club-wear style and wear it with pride.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): To answer your question, it's because they can wear whatever they want and that's what they choose to wear. Obviously, all women(and men) have their own specific reasons for deciding what to wear on any given day.I'm more curious about why you're so concerned with what other people are wearing. Why don't you so harshly judge people who wear other things in other situations?"Why do women dress so prudish at the library? We went to huge library last week and so many women were covering as much of their body as possible. There was this one woman who had long baggy pants, a huge sweater that looked like it had at least one shirt underneath it, no makeup whatsoever, and I don't even think her nails were polished! Are they really that shy?"Can you imagine somebody asking that here? It's no more ridiculous that your question. People can wear whatever they want, especially in night clubs. A difference in style from yours is no reason to view them so negatively.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (7 February 2014):
 Please excuse my really bad spelling on the word provocatively...this is the result of typing too fast on a phone with small letters, and no spectacles:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): It's not even necessarily for attention. Perhaps it's to feel sexy within themselves. Because they can. Because their friends wear them. Because they have "grungy" jobs and want to pull out all the glitzy, impractical stuff on the weekends to feel feminine and decorative (that last one would be me). Because they know they'll get old eventually, and they want to experience things to the fullest before they do. Because they grew up conservatively, and the dresses are like a big middle finger to those who tried to control them.
I dunno, I've always thought it unwise to assume.
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (6 February 2014):
I love dressing provatively, even when I'm not clubbing. I'll exercise restraint while at the office, but I love to show off my curves, skin and cleavage. Call me a slut if you want. I really don't care. A provative style of dressing makes me feel sexy, vivacious and alive. I tried to change my dress code when I was younger, but I realized that being conservative stifles my spirit. To each his own, and you should not judge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): Looking good in those places is an arms-race. The kind of dressing that is pretty attention-getting in regular life is hardly even enough to rate as interesting in places like that.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 February 2014):
 This is not something new - I worked as a bartender (at a night club) almost 20 years ago and you would have the jeans and t-shirt girls and the super-short skirt/bra-type top/high heals. 90% of the last group were girls who could really have dressed in a nuns outfit and still gotten attention, but they CHOSE to flaunt what they got.
It IS about attention, but I also think it's about them feeling "sexy" with less clothes on.
It's not really like it's inappropriate dressing like that in a night club.
Look at media, look at music industry. How many of the "hot young females" wear a lot of clothes when "selling" their music?( and their image)
I have to agree with Auntie Cindy. The nightclubs is a WAY better place to dress like this then elsewhere.
Personally, I don't care what other people wear. I have seem a 300 lbs girls in low-rise jeans and her g-string sticking out top and thought good for you !
Don't worry about what other people do/wear - do what feels right for you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 February 2014):
 Because that's the dress code in clubs now, I guess ( shrug). They would draw even more attention to themselves if they showed up in pin striped tailored suit and low heeled pumps !
I agree that there may be a fine line between sexy or provocative ,and downright trashy, and for some girls it get very blurred.. then again every location has a dress code that is appropriate for that specific place and not others. Here most beaches are topless and it causes no fuss at all- show up bare breasted in a bank or restaurant, and you 'll get yourself arrested at once.
I guess the whole idea of clubs is based on strutting your stuff and " if you've got it flaunt it ", for many girls, even those who are not out just to score, that's exactly part of the fun :being allowed to dress up and glamourize themselves in a way that it would not be normally acceptable in their daily life,at their work or school .
I don't think it is a big deal, and nothing to be shocked or surprised about. At least until slutty dressing stays confined in clubs, i.e. a proper venue for slutty dressing.
If you want to see something REALLY objectionable, then come over here , and watch the tourists ( mostly American , I have to say.... ) showing up to visit the Uffizi Museum wearing a fishnet top over a tiny bra , or sprawled on the steps of an ancient cathedral, suntanning in cropped tank top and short shorts. Now, THAT's something that rises MY heckles - but clubs... ?
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reader, llifton +, writes (6 February 2014):
 The answer to your question is yes. they do need that attention.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (6 February 2014):
 Its part of culture you want to attract the best mate with the most money and body parts with language normally will get this. Some women like to be provactive more than others especially during certains seasons. Some women go out trying to get laid like men so they dress to catch the eye. Nine times out of ten some just do it for attention and just want to be seen and look good its fun its jazzy and thats the sport life and socialite life it may not be for you. When I was 16 i thought like that until I moved to a international city and saw how fun it could be and really learned why different women do dress provactive.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 February 2014):
Because that's how you dress at clubs...call me a big ol' slut, but the tighter and the shorter the dress, the better. I haven't been to a club in a few years, but that's because I prefer comfort...and I feel too old now.
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (6 February 2014):
 When I was younger, I used to be a quite unemotional guy about women until the days I had to do my military service. Being surrounded by men only for months, women steadily began to lack in the landscape up to the point they where hoped to appear like a bright and blue sky after a too long rain. That was sort of a eye opener for me, to find women were as needed as green trees and fresh air. Strange - but pleasurable - feeling I must confess. Nothing sexual, just aesthetic consideration inside.Women who dress themselves in a so provocative way are often or super-peacocky (because they are undeniably superb) or insecure and are dying to be told they are highly desirable. It may happen their impudence, their shamelessness hurt some sensibilities, but what the world would be without these girls ? Beauty (even beauty in ugliness, well known in science and in photo) is essential and no one should ever throw away any color that rejoys our reality.That said, while not being gay, I'm not attired by that sort of girl as I belong to that king of guys who like to talk with girls (who are not just pretty bodies) and consequently, what they have in mind is as interesting as the rest. If it's not your style to wear provocative clothes, very well, you will be able to meet serious partners. But just consider these girls like birds and bees, flowers and clouds. They do what they have to: they bring some colors, some fun, some entertainment to a normally quite sad world (just look at how some pleasureless countries can be to understand what I mean).
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): They do it to get attention; and because guys love it! Unless they are gay, they probably aren't concerned about the opinions of females they don't know.
They like making other females jealous, and cling to their boyfriends.
Because provocative clothing is appropriate for nightclubs!
If you've got it, flaunt it! There is a reason for spending hours in a gym. You wear a dress or an outfit that flatters the form. They're young and carefree. It's an ego-boost to show off.
If you find it offensive, maybe you might find guy-watching more your speed.
Don't hate, girlfriend!
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (6 February 2014):
Most men and women go to clubs to hopefully pull a partner.Dressing provocatively gets you noticed quicker but you might get the wrong type of attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): Because they're not stuck up, joyless prudes. The whole idea of clubs is to display yourself to potential mates, dance, have fun, get drunk, get high and let loose.
They do it because they enjoy it and it's appropriate dress for the occasion. Probably better off sticking church tea parties or something. Better not go near a beach either, all those people including the children are showing lots of skin, the filthy sluts!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): If you've got it! don't waste it I say, it's called choice. I enjoy people, Sorry Sheeple, calling me a slutty dresser when I sometimes wear less. That is because I CAN do it (if I want)this is my choice, yet the next day I may look like a nun and have the self same people treat me ok. I laugh at all the judgmental looks and hear the verbal abuse and listen to the 'holy than thou' hypocritical jealous, pompous,good for nothing words....who are these sheeple,to judge another, simply oby their dress sense and what gave them the right to say what they consider acceptable to wear. I dress to please me, not the likes of you and your kind.Think before you judge others or learn to control your envy and simply get on with enjoying your own night out and enjoy what you decide to dress YOUR body in.It's not all about 'attention'.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 February 2014):
 My guess is that they dress that way because they can. Now if I were to try it I'd get busted for committing a crime against nature.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 February 2014):
 Miley Cyrus is laughing all the way to the bank with her attire and postures.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (5 February 2014):
 Yes, some women do seem to want that sort of attention, whether for validation or to pull a guy (or both). I think it's a bit degrading, though I wouldn't call such women sluts, but each to their own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): Yes they do want attention because they lack attention. So what they do is wear a slutty dress and walk around clubs almost half naked. sad to say, it is what it is. or maybe those are lady boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): I suppose they like the attention. I personally don't like bars and clubs. Never have.
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