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writes:can our relationship be saved? my boyfriend begun to allow his female friends in our relationship. i will explain. he is allowing girls that are interested in him to hang out with us, when i told him how unhappy that makes me, now he hangs out with them without me. he says he is not into them, just like to have many female companionships. now, i started to do the same. i am meeting guys who are different and like one of them most. it's a huge mess, i know. i also want to add that we are meeting all this people through facebook. i asked him and he says he hasn't cheated and that i shouldn't be so jealous. i haven't cheated either but i am tempted to. can our relationship be saved? we love each other very much.
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reader, Jade Heart Johnson  +, writes (28 November 2010):
I think you guys are "bored" maybe not with each other but the relationship....spice things up together..Love can get boring at times...if your tempted to cheat thats an indication u wanna do something risky...catch my drift?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Get out now. If you're tempted to cheat already, then that's the end. There can only ever be two in a healthy relationship!
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reader, cls1990  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 If you want your relationship to be 'saved' but are tempted to cheat i would cut contact with the guy your tempted to stray with. That's what I would do. There's nothing wrong with either of you having platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex, it's upto both of you to trust each other to not cheat.
Good luck x
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 If you two love each other very much then why is there a need for him to have female companionship when he has you? And why did you reciprocate his behavior and start adding people (guys) on your facebook as well?
For me, Facebook and Myspace and all those websites are relationship killers. My bf had so many girls on his (exes as well) that I got fed up with it and told him that I"m deleting mine and if he doesn't do the same then we are done.
Your bf hanging out with these girls without you concerns me. IF he isn't interested in any of them, then why does he HAVE to hang out with them? What is so damn important or special about them that he can't just not be friends with them?
I think your relationship can be saved if you delete temptation and your facebooks. Or at least the males/females that are interested in each of you.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (28 November 2010):
 I'm sorry to say this, but your relationship is in serious trouble. You said, "I told him how unhappy that makes me, now he hangs out with them without me." Obviously, his female friends are more important then you. I wouldn't be surprised if he is interested in some of these women. If that weren't the case, he wouldn't ignore your concerns.
You would be wise to get rid of him and move on. Then you can explore your feelings for this new guy you like.
Let us know what happens! Good luck!
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