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writes:Hi everyone,I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, and we've of course had our rough patches, but mainly caused by some girl who used to be his best friend and ex, but eventually my boyfriend saw that she was wrecking our relationship and told her he wanted nothing more to do with her as it was distressing me too much. She was basically just wanted us to break up as I was getting all the attention and not her.So they didn't speak for months, but last month she randomly texted him saying "Dude I miss you! Wuu2 tonight wanna go to our hill?" or something like that, it just seemed very random. My boyfriend just ignored it, until the following week she then texted him again saying near enough the same thing, again my boyfriend just ignored it, and this went on for weeks until he got the same text again asking if he wanted to meet up and he just said "no,hungover and with gf" and she just responded with "Kk" and nothing was said for a couple of weeks until the week my boyfriend stopped over a mine and rang him asking to meet him and he just responded with "At the gfs" and that was that.Again, nothing was said for a while, until she then rang him AGAIN but just ignored it as he recognised the number from last time (he doesn't have her in his phone contacts).The final straw however was a few weeks ago when she added him on Facebook, wrote on his wall asking to meet up, he again ignored it until she then sent my boyfriend a message on Facebook trying to guilt trip him (I don't know what the full message was my boyfriend just told me the main bits).He didn't respond to it, and then the following night she texted him again saying pratically the same stuff, he very nearly went along with it and asked me if it was okay if he met up with her to shut her up, I just said he could if he wanted to I would be bothered but its up to him, but he thought about it he nearly did until she said "Me or your girlfriend? I'd choose you over my boyfriend" and my boyfriend just told her to leave him alone for good as he'd choose me over her any day.It was fine after that and didn't speak, until tonight when to my absolute shock, my boyfriend then told me she'd rang him but he didn't pick up, she rang him again he picked up and told him she'd had an argument with her boyfriend and wanted someone to speak to, which I thought was pretty odd. He didn't say anything and the conversation was over.What can I do to get her to leave him alone? It's really annoying to both of us. It's pretty much obvious to everyone he doesn't want anything to do with her, except her! Even though he's told her time and time again he doesn't want her back in his life.What can I do?!Thanks for reading x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for responding!
My boyfriend changed his number a while back and never gave it her, and creepily, she managed to get hold of his number and that's when the texting began so unfortunatley I don't think changing his number or making a new facebook will help seeing as she always somehow manages to find a way to get in contact with him despite him telling her over and over again he doesn't want anything more to do with her.
I don't really want to say anything to her myself as I think this girl will get a kick out of it knowing she's annoying me.
This girl is very immature and ALWAYS cheats on her boyfriends so it's apparent she still needs to grow up. There's no way we can get rid of her, it's just plain creepy and borderline stalkerish!
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Change his number? Delete his current Facebook and make a new one to where no one can add him unless he approves them?
Most girls around that age are pretty obsessive and don't know when to quit, so your bf needs to tell her in plain English that if she doesn't leave him alone and stop trying to get into contact with him, then the authorities will be involved.
Most of the time that will work. And if not, then I strongly suggest changing his number and Facebook to where he has to approve the people who want to add him as his friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): he needs to text her saying that if she does not leave him alone, he is going to the cops for harassment: because dude, that is psycho. since he just said don't call or text me and she keeps at it, she must have something wrong with her. She needs to respect his boundaries and since she does not, either she is still acting childish and doesn't understand because she hasn't grown up from the whole "bff" thing, or she has serious adult boundary issues that sounds like a mental problem. I have been in that boat with my best friend in an entirely different sense and situation, but sometimes it hurts and it takes awhile for something to really hit us. If he is really serious, he should be able to tell her that they can't be friends anymore, not just assume that she knows, so that is good that he told her.
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