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writes:Hi,I need help with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend have been going out now for 10 months, i know she loves me dearly as do i. Now the problem is that around 2 weeks into our relationship ( yes 2 weeks its been going on that long) i made comments about certain girls that we both know, saying she is hot and she is gorgeous. I know that saying that is really disrespectful to my girlfriend and i have apologiesed 1000 times!! Still too this day she constantly brings it up and has a emotional outburst about it around once a month where she goes mental and im screaming im sorry to her. She tells me that it always makes her feel bad about herself to the point shes convicned that i have a thing for all blonde girls (both the girls i commneted on were blondes). She says stuff like im not your type and all that sort of thing....she says she dosent find other guys attrattive and it kills her that i think that of those girls. I love her so much more than i did now than 2 weeks into our relationship and im honest when i say i have eyes only for her and would enver touch a girl, what do i say to my girlfriend to make her beilve me when i say i dont find them attrattive and i love her and her only, im desperate here because it is putting our relationship in a inevitable break up when we both love eachother so much, she just cant get over it. She tells me she knows i love her and that she trusts me not to cheat she just cant handle what ive said even though it was 9 and a half months ago,help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): hi i wrote the qesution, she dosent accept any of my compliments because of it, i have sat her down and attemped to assure her that she is the only one, she tells me she knows she is and i wont cheat but its the fact that i think they r attractive. what do i say to that? when i have said i dont think they r anymore because of how mich more i love you from then to now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Your girl seems to have a bit of an inferiority complex...so maybe you can reassure her by complimenting her on a regular basis. Nothing too sleazy or fake...but do compliment her on a regular basis so that she feels you think she's attractive.
Plus you did make a big mistake, looking at other girls when u r with ur gf is a big NO-no. Making comments is even worse. she probable feels very insecure...
So talk to her and find out why she feels insecure...assure her that she's the only one...
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 You def should not have made those type of comments, of course you already know that, but she needs to learn how to let go.
Sit her down and tell her, "I love you. I made those immature comments early on in our relationship to make you jealous. I wouldn't change anything about you. You are so beautiful to me."
She also needs to forgive you, really forgive you and move on. You can't go forward if you are stuck on pause.
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