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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for two years.We share a computer, and whilst looking through chat logs to find a phone number, I stumbled across some rather shocking information.I found a conversation between him and a guy, 7 months ago, showing me that they had had sex.The guy said 'I know it's bad but I really like you, but I don't expect anything more after last night because of your girlfriend' and my boyfriend replied 'Yeah, but I don't regret it' and then it goes on discussing what had happened the previous night in much detail, with flirting and them accepting cams to eachother.I'm shaking writing this... The thought of him cheating makes me sick, but I have the evidence right infront of me. I can't even act like it's a misunderstanding.I confronted my boyfriend and he denied it all... I told him it was pointless to deny it because I've seen the whole conversation but he still insists I'm wrong and thats all he will say.I know I can't trust him now. I'm just so confused. I told him I want to talk about it and I'm not going to pressure him, but I can't help look at him differently now
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): My boyfriend has had other homosexual experiences in the past and considered himself bisexual at the time.
I'e questioned him about it now and he told me he wanted to be 'friends with a group of people and had to act like that to be friends with them' I said to him, so you didn't consider my feelings? and he said 'No, I wanted to be friends with these people its the only way I could get into their little group'
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reader, pursued  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Satin desire below obviously has been heartbroken many of times sad to say it, but she knows as well as i do if you love someone your not gonna "dump" him or her just as easy as said. She would not do what she tells you to do if in the same position hell no. Love is not easy it has to be fought and earned for. There is a reason why he did it, its sad that living conditions and sanity of the relationship was so harsh for him that he was driven to homosexuality. And get this, have no regrets of it O.O Please go check your role in this matter.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (1 May 2009):
 You have proof. Solid, concrete proof. If he had owned up to his mistake, there would have been hope in my eyes, for you two...but the fact of the matter is, you saw it with your own eyes and he lied to you bald-faced about it.
You're completely right in saying you have no reason to trust him anymore. Get yourself down to the clinic and get a full-spectrum workup for STDs including AIDs and hepatitis, and dump him quick.
You're better off without him sweetheart.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
 It's bad enough when they cheat on you with other women but a guy?
I would be concerned how long has he been hiding his sexual preferences from you and you will need to get health checks done too.
I don't think this is as easy to get over had it been a woman and it looks like he cant even be honest with you and will lie through his teeth to save his face!
You have to think about your future here your very young and do not deserve this sort of crap from any guy move on and leave the two of them to it, you can do so much better.
Gina
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (30 April 2009):
 End the relationship, the trust is gone forever now!!! Even if you manage to talk about it and patch things up this issue will still be brought up in arguements for years to come. The best thing to do is to walk away from this situation whilst you still have dignity! Staying with him and muddling along loses your dignity and he won't respect you as he'll think he can walk all over you! X
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