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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Why would you want to marry a man you know is cheating on you, not once more many times? You deserve so much better. He will never marry you and even if he did, I don't think he's capable of being faithful. He may be a sex addict. Please find the strength to leave him, otherwise you're life will just be more of the same.
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (29 April 2009):
You have just agreed to a completely open relationship. He knows you will stay with him, and let him date this other woman. He gets the best of both worlds. Two women who know about each other and accept it. Why would he marry you and mess up the great deal you've given him. There's no need. He has it all. Sorry. If you really want to be married in the traditional sense you need to find a guy who is "marriage material", and you have to establish early on that you are marriage material.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (28 April 2009):
 He won't marry you because he doesn't have to...you stay with him no matter how badly he behaves so his life is sweet just as things are. People are treated the way they let others treat them! It doesn't matter how many times he cheats or sleeps with other women, he knows you are still there for him in the background. He sounds like a walking STD waiting to happen to be honest. I don't understand why you would want to marry a serial cheat. Don't imagine that a wedding ring will make him stop cheating - once a cheat...always a cheat. Surely being single has got to be easier than sharing this waste of space with other women?
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You are a door mat and you need a serious wake up call. It may be hard but leave him! There are so many lovely men out there! Even on dating websites! Take the plunge and do it! X
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (28 April 2009):
 wow, I know this topic like the back of my hand. Girlie, a serial cheater will NEVER stop. STOP letting him do this to you, wanna know how? LEAVE THE SITUATION!!!
I know its hard because you want to fight the other women. Do you realize this is EXACTLY what he likes? You are playing right along with the game he has set up. I once asked why of my ex and he said flat out "I felt like I was the greatest thing with all these women that wanted me". It makes them feel like superman. Take away the attention you are giving him and the wasted energy in fighting off other women and put it to something good...YOURSELF!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You should've told her that she could have him completely. You basically told her you'd share him with her. You deserve so much better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): i know you wont like this - but he isnt into you in so many ways - i would dump him and find someone who is - you deserve better, someone who is honest and will love you back rather than use you as a hotel....
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): i think you answered your own question in your title "Why won't this serial cheater marry me?" If he cheats he obviously can't keep a commitment to a monogamous relationship, and do you really want to be married to a person who has repeatedly cheated in the past?
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reader, cramp +, writes (28 April 2009):
The truth is you have put up with the cheating for a longtime, so he treats you like a doormat.
If you had dumped him when you first found out about the cheating he may have changed. If he can have it all his way why should he change?
You need to dump this guy once and for all.
It's not easy, but that's all there is to it.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 He wants to keep playing you and you're letting him. You should find a man who treats you right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just wanted to add that i know for a fact that he is still seeing this other woman...it's pretty much like he never stopped...and some of the information that she knew i know only he could have told her...
im so disappointed in him...i told her she can have him part time but i have him full time...but deep inside im really not satisfied with that...and he just continues to see her...sometimes i wonder does he even care how he's cheating hurts me...
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