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writes:I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We got along great but I wasn’t in love with her. I broke the news without warning and she is devastated. She doesn’t have many friends locally and her family lives a state away.She feels she doesn’t have anyone to talk to and she needs someone around her to function. She made our relationship the center of her life and she feels her life is over. My worst fear is that she might do something to harm herself or turn into a different person from this experience. I found out after we broke up about the abuse she’s had from previous relationships and it made my heart sick to hear about her pain. She claims I’m the best thing that’s happened to her and she’s lost faith in future relationships. She doesn’t like her job, her life or her situation. I feel I’m responsible in some way. I’m also sad from the breakup, but I didn’t want to fake being in love. Is the pain I’m feeling a sign that I was wrong to break up? I asked her for a long break and we'll be getting back for friendship after a few months.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 the pain you are feeling for her is a sign that you do have strong feelings for her! maybe not love but its strong enough! is there no way tht you would give it another go??? offer to be her friend, tell her that you arent getting with anyone else in the near future and there will always be time for her. the thing she needs most is company and reassurance, i know its hard as you have just broke up but you need to be there for her, even if its just as friends! x
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