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writes:I'm a 13 year old girl who has her eye on some guys in her class. I'm around 4'9, I'm a 30A, and I'm decent looking. My sense of humor is like a guy's, I don't freak out when I see a bug, I like dirty jokes, I'm girly enough, but not very girly. I wear dresses and skirts, but I don't like too much pink or pastel colors...I'm flamboyant. I'm artistic and I love writing. I have strong views on politics, but I have an open mind. I have long, brown hair and I'm pretty confident and outgoing in school. I'm shy when it comes to guys, and I don't flirt, though I want to. I have a pretty good booty and I don't think I'm that unattractive, although I don't think I'm a hottie either. Guys have had crushes on me in the past, but for the last two years or so I don't think any guy has really liked me. Are my qualities appealing to guys my age or do they like more "bimbo" like girls who flip their hair and are tall and have a big chest?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 November 2008):
You are great just the way you are. Dont let anyone think you should change unless what you are doing is hurting someone else or yourself, then maybe you should consider making changes.
Just because not many boys are askign you out, does not mean you arent attractive too them. At 13, boys are inexperienced, not very confident, and just as shy as you are around the opposite sex. So alot of them could be too shy to ask girls out. And in particular, they might see you as the type of girl who is 'above them'. They might not think they are good enough for you, so they dont ask you out. You might also give off the wrong signals to these guys. Since you said you are shy around them, they make take your shyness as a sign yo udont like them, when really you do.
So it probably has nothing to do with who you are, but rather shyness and miscommuniation.
Also, when you were talking about yourself, you focused alot on wht you look like. Wht you look like doesnt really matter. Its who you are, not what you look like that matters. Trust me, you could be the prettiest girl in the whole entire world, but if as a person you arent attractive, then you will probably be single. At the very least you would fine a guy who just wants to use you.
So just focus on who you are, and how you treat others. Not what you look like and im sure u'll do great :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): I am sorry to say you might have the best of qualities but putting down your competition by calling them bimbos isn't going to earn brownie points with guys.Guys like confident girls who are not spiteful.Its very easy to call someone else names.It takes character to be patient.If you don't hurt anyone there comes a glow at the end of the day that's angelic.Practice it for a month and you'll see what I mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): I really don't think at 13, you have to be worrying about boys and the way you look. Please you got the rest of your life to worry about that! enjoy being a kid, I did!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 November 2008):
Well since you are not getting asked out then the evidence suggests that no you do not have qualities that most 13 year old boys like.
So you have a choice.
You can try and change and act and dress like a brainless bimbo that you say these boys like.
OR
You can keep your dignity, stay true to yourself and wait for these boys to mature enough to look past hair flipping.
Are their really any boys in your school who you WANT to like you?
I used to have the same problem as you but luckily I thought 99% of boys were idiots if they were stupid enough to only like stupid girls.
Once I hit uni and found guys with brains who wanted to date a girl with brains then nothing could stop me!
Good Luck!! xx
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