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writes:Would a shy guy ask a girl out? Or is he the type that just waits for the girl to come to him?
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reader, 2Good4U  +, writes (30 March 2011):
Depends on how shy he is. If he is REALLY shy, he will probably wait for a girl to ask him out. If he's a not-too-shy sort of guy, nine times out of ten he will ask the girl out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): im a shy guy myself im 15 and have never had a girlfriend and it is because i have never made a move on any girl because im am just really shy. There is actually a girl at my school that i go to that i am very attracted to but do not have the guts to ask her out. But to answer your question in my case i would just wait for the girl to ask me out.
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reader, myothernamewastaken  +, writes (14 August 2010):
I know it has been 4 years since the last response but if someone could help me out it would be much appreciated.
I am a shy guy and i see that people are recommending that women just make it very obvious by sending clear signals. Well, i like someone and they seem to send signals that are clear but i notice that she acts like this around all guys so im kind of in the dark. i don't know if she is trying to send me signals or if that's just her.
i would just ask her out anyways but we are friends and if i am wrong im afraid i may lose a friend or make things very awkward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Like what others have said, A shy guy might as a girl out, but that will only be done under conditions that would not risk, embarrasment, unwanted verbal response or even endanger current neutral relationship. He will ask a girl out if and only if he has a sense of protection against the unwanted. Try in various ways to make him have d idea that u could be his secret bag. And dat u won't or don't relate with like just any other person he comes in contact with. You may share personal experiences with him, this would help to begin to lower his defence wall and try to be available as much as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): maybe it all depends on how he rolls. If hes really shy and has never had a girlfriend before them you might want to be the ne to make the first move but maybe not you just have to get to know him and again see how he rolls. I hope everything works out1!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): i think if you do make the first move of askin him out, you might have to make the first move for everything else if u do end up in a relationship with the guy. jus makin it obvvious to him, and let someone close to him kno it too, he shoudl b able to make the move, if not then it's his lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): i am a shy guy, i think its great when girls make the first move. It saves me from having to do it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): Believe it or not, I'm a very shy person when it comes to going after someone I am attracted to. However, I would have the 'guts' to go ask her out, but the thing is, I have never asked anyone out on a date before. I don't like to proclaim something specifically - it makes everything feel premeditated or not natural enough.
I guess I'm the type of person who isn't afraid of losing someone due to my inability to attract her back. [ponders] For some reason, this makes me think of war games.
Helpful_Girl, Yos, and Happytochat has hit the spot on the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): It depends on the guy. I'm a shy guy myself, and even though I had a huge crush on a girl (and am positive she had a crush on me), I waited for her and she never came. That was really disappointing and really hurt. To any other shy guys out there, take my advice - be brave and make a move. It'll be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): A shy guy myself, I would like it if a girl would ask me out. But if you're old fashioned and want him to ask you out, try and get him alone with you and just start flirting. Hang off him, hug him if basic flirting isn't working. Make it blatently obvious that you want to date him because if there is even a slight bit of doubt in his mind he won't ask you. Unless he just eventually get up the guts and it comes out of no where...
I can not ask a girl out around other people. I don't know why. I suppose it is my bad luck, but oh well.
Oh, and if you do go out with him...don't tell him you just want to be friends...stuff could get wierd, I beg you, at first he'll be alright, but once alone he'll blame himself and become even shyer.
I got told that last night and I'm considering giving up for a year or so, I'm 19, great guy, mmm I think to sum up myself would be chivalrous. I have only gone on one real date, she wasn't ready for a boyfriend apparently. I suppose seeming fine is shock. So yeah unless a girl makes it blatently obvious for me I don't want the let down again for atleast like 6 months...
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 July 2006):
 Well, a shy guy might make the move, but he'll only do it in a situation that he's comfortable with. Give him clear signals that you like him, and then try to create situations where the two of you are together and he has the opportunity to ask you. Just give him some time, and see this as an opportunity to get to know each other better and become more comfortable with each other. You can drop hints by complementing him.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (13 July 2006):
Typically speaking I would have to guess that he would wait for the girl to make the move.
So if you do like a shy guy, save him the trouble and make the first move! I can guarentee he will be so happy that you made the first move and saved him having to work up the guts to make a move.
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