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writes: Hey the other day me and my GF were watching tele and she turned and said to me "our relationship is getting boring feels like we've been married and had kids and stuff" i do not know what she means. yes i'm bored too, but i thought this was what it was like can some1 please help :( Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
The best thing to do here is ask her what a INTERESTING relationship to her would be like. Ask her what would make it more interesting for her. And work on those ideas. At the same time, tell her what you want out of the relationship. Its important to both talk openly and in a non judegmental environment about what you want.
Yet its importnat that she realises that thats life, life isn't like the movies. So if she has a unrealistic view of what life is like, maybe she will need a bit of a reality check.
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reader, MagicEd +, writes (7 March 2006):
MagicEd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionahhh i see now thank you sooo much Irish49 , yea i was worrying lol but after reading that i dont need to worry as much :D:D:D thankyou :D:D:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): Believe me...you guys have no clue what it's like being married and having kids! It's anything but boring (Ask your parents!) :) But seriously now- I think I know what she was really trying to say and you may be taking it too much to heart. All love relationships have boring, mundane moments. She was just being open with her thoughts. It certainly doesn't mean she's ready to ditch this relationship. It sounds like she was just making a 'passing, bland comment' about feeling bored. Maybe it was an attempt to be funny. Only she knows for sure. She didn't say this because she wants anything in particular from you, but she said it because she cares for you, she's herself totally and probably feels connected to you. And...she likely WAS really bored at that moment. But I would let this pass and not worry about it, overly much. Relationships take a ton of work. If you guys do feel bored, get up off the couch and go do something, you both enjoy...something fun and new. But if she keeps saying this, open it up to a mature, caring discussion. The best way to find out what she wants, is to ask her the next time you are together. Brainstorm some ideas together. This is what couples do..they get through the challenging times and work together as a team to keeping the love ongoing. Good luck
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reader, MagicEd +, writes (7 March 2006):
MagicEd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea good point but the bad thing is shes still at school and im at college so shes like always studying and im like always skint lol
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Yeah well lets be honest, watching TV isnt very exciting is it? Havent you got any hobbies you can do? Go to the pub, the cinema, dancing, bowling, snooker, go out for dinner once in a while... Use your imagination
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reader, MagicEd +, writes (7 March 2006):
MagicEd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i completly aggree with you lol :D:D but the problem is i do not know what to do for exitement :( what things would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): i think you's need to bring some excitement back into your relationship before its too late.
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