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writes:okay, back with my bf. he seems to be pretty honest, but he works at a fast food place (cuz hes 16. im 14-he dated a variety of ages so dont lecture meee please) well for someone who works 4-9 how could he be on myspace at 7?? i dont understand this. hes been honest with me so far but why would be lead me to believe he works a certain shift when clearly hes not?. Should I just get passed this and forget it or should I bring it to his attention he lied?. confused and dont want this to mess upxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): And I would like to further Happytochat, that being shown that he's online, doesn't necessarily mean he's actually doing anything online.
Example, at work, I go to Facebook. It says I am online. Then I have other tabs opened for my development work. I may be 'online' on Facebook, but it doesn't mean I'm not working, and it doesn't mean that I am really on Facebook.
Regardless, like Tux had mentioned, you should bring this up with him. Two words: OPEN COMMUNICATION leads to trust and growth.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (26 October 2007):
As a regular user of myspace myself, I can tell you that myspace is VERY unreliable. Quite often it tells you certain people are online when they arent. Myspace stuffs up alot. Also maybe your bf goes on myspace before he starts work but then forgets to log out? So it still says hes online. He may not be lieing...but then again he could be. Next time you see him, say something like 'i was on myspace the other day at around 7pm and it said you were online, which i thought was weird cause dont you usualy work 4-9?'. Dont accuse him of lieing because you dont know for sure ifh e is. Give him a chance to explian it. Watch his body language and pay attention to his reaction, as this may give you an idea as to whether or not hes lieing with his response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): well if you seen him on my space ask him about and if he seems like he is lying just break up say he is an worthy to be your boyfriend cuz no girl needs to be lied to
yea it might hurt but you would want to get even more hurt by him if he is lying
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reader, gayguy16  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 well it might not have bben him actually on myspace,,maybe he forgot to turn the computer off, or maybe a relative of his knows his username and passwoed, i'm not trying to take side in defendeing him bbut you may have mistakin him for being on the computer,,
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 hi Soft ball player,
I agree with tux, this problem is bothering you so much, when you see your boy friend next you should have a quit word with him, and ask what is going on, maybe your server is acting up but what ever the reason, for your own peace of mind you really need to know what is going on,if anything, dont assume the worst just ask then you will now.
good luck.
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reader, tux +, writes (26 October 2007):
 I know you do not want this to be messed up, but if you feel he is lying to you, you do need to talk to him about this. I don't know why he is online while at work, but he may be on his break and checking his email or it may be a glitch on the site's server and with the site you are talking about I would not be surprised. But in anywhich way, you need to talk to him and see where it goes from there. There are plenty of explanations out there and the only way to figure which one is right is by talking to him personally about it. Don't be too afraid that it'll cause a breakup because trust me that it's no fun being in a relationship with a constant liar. I am not saying he's a constant liar, that is for you to figure out along the way. This being online may be a honest thing or it could be a major thing. I cannot tell you which. he has to.
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