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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up five months ago and I just can't get over him. I have known him for about a year and we were good friends for most of that time. We would go on dates whenever he came to town because it was long distance and we would talk on the phone about twice a week. It went on like this for months. Then we started getting more serious and he had me meet all of his family and most of his friends. He started to distance himself a little after that and when we hungout a few weeks later he told me he didn't want to hurt me and that was why he hadn't talked to me for a few weeks. Then he moved to the same town I live in and we hooked up and were official. We hungout almost every day and everything was good between us for a few weeks. I ended up loosing my virginity to him and a few days later we broke up and he moved back home. He told me that we was just going to hurt me and that it was for the best. He does have a drug problem and when I first met him he was on probation and quit for a while. Then the drug problem kept getting worse. Before I met him I had a dream about him and when we met I felt like I had always known him. I thought he was my soulmate and that I must have had a dream about him for a reason. I have thought about him every day since we broke up and can't get over him. I just can't seem to give up on him and keep hoping that he will overcome his drug addiction and things will work out between us. I have tried to move on and am dating someone else, but all I want is for my ex to get better and for us to work out. I just don't know how to get over my ex and need some advice on how to move on. I think I would be able to if I knew he was happy, but I know he isn't and if I knew he didn't love me or want me. Also why would I have a dream about my ex before we met if we aren't meant to be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Look. It is my belief, and no one has been able to disprove this, that dreams are simply your mind's way of keeping you entertained whilst the body is busy making repairs and doing general maintenance on itself.
It just takes unrelated images and feelings and events and mixes them together and the result is the wackyness that is your dream.
Nothing more.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 Dreams are simply the mind figuring out problems.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (23 December 2009):
 I believe in dreams like that. I don't think you are ready to be in a serious relationship with anyone else since you still feel this way about your first. Just try to be supportive while he battles against his addiction. You were probably right to break off a love relationship while he is going through this. He has to love himself enough to win out over his inner demons. That is the only way he can truly love you as well. Keep in contact with him if you can, and his family too if that is possible. Try to be positive and encouraging. Have faith within yourself. I hope that you both will be happy together soon!
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