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... Send *lliebellie a private message | | | *lliebellie's profile:hi im ellie and im a typical girl in her mid-teens. Although i have no qualifications when it comes to helping people, i love to give advice and use my mistakes to set other people on the right paths. So giving advice is one of the things i use this place for but i also ask my own questions on here- and every reply to my question is met with a grateful thank you. I have many mottos in life so i'll share a couple with you.
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What do I get my boyfriend for Valentines Day?
Q. little bit early,but i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for valentines day! we have been dating for over 6 months now,will be 7 months by valentines day,do you think i should get him something romantic, or something else like ..dvds or cds? eee ...
A. 15 January 2008: hi hun!
well my bf is like my best friend and weve been going out for about 4 months. he told me that giving chocolates as a gift is a gift you give someone you dont know that well. im not saying you shouldnt give him chocolates, but im sayi... (read in full...)
MArriage troublesI I need love 'preserver' to stay afloat, Please help
Q. I've been with my wife from the time I graduated high school and I am turning 25 in April. We used to be the couple that everyone spoke about, we were both in great shape, we were very intimate and wild. Over the 7 years we have been together my ...
A. 15 January 2008: it sounds like your wife has depression. the more she leaves herself in this state, the worse shell get. pardon this image, but imagine your wife is a pan of hot water with a lid on. the more the pan is heated (the more your wife goes through ... (read in full...)
I'm going mad! I love this other woman and I love my wife...help me!
Q. Help Im going crazy Im a 47 year old married man with 4 kids. About 6 months ago I meet a lady shes 35 years old 3 kids I meet her at work her husband had just walked out on her and I was concerned about her there was nothing sexual about it I was ...
A. 15 January 2008: first of all. if i was your wife and found you had been calling this other woman you met at work, at night for one or two hours, i would be seriously suspicious. i would wonder what else would be going on.
walk away. if she says she loves you ... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 15 January 2008: depression and an eating disorders are a lethal combination. the person suffereing can go through unrecognisable and uncontrollable mood swings. their moods swings are like yoyos. they go up really quickly and come down just as fast. your sister ... (read in full...)
Do boyfriends discuss their relationships in their friends' circle, as girls do? What about?
Q. hi this is for guys about 13-20 with girlfriends. do you discuss your girlfriends with your mates? i know girls talk about their boyfriends, how much they like them and stuff. but do boys do the same? and do boys comment on their mates girl...
A. 14 January 2008: hiya people! thanks for all your lovely tips and advice!! love you all thanks again lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
I feel so alone, and like nobody pays attention to me. I can't stop crying. What can I do?
Q. Recently, I've started feeling depressed quite a lot. Just a few nights ago, I couldn't stop crying, and I didn't see the point in my life. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy, but when we argue, or something comes between us, then I j...
A. 10 January 2008: hi hun!
*virtual hug*
i know exactly what youre going through. ive been through it for two years. now im finally free.
please talk to me
ask me for my msn
lol
ellie
xxx... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are in love?
Q. hiya! i was just wondering: how do you know if you are really in love? cus the guy im with well i dunno if i love him. ive been with him for about 6 months. i dont really feel i have opened up but i want to know if theres a point in a rela...
A. 8 January 2008: hi guys!
thanks so much
so even a little gesture can make you aware? never knew that
thanks guys
luv u all
lol
ellie
xxx... (read in full...)
I thought we were both virgins, but she isnt , can we still have a future?
Q. I am just about to get married, and I am still a virgin. I just found out my future wife has had sex with a couple guys before me. I was hurt when i found this out...and still am...because I was expecting her to be a virgin too... I love her very ...
A. 7 January 2008: hi
first of all you need to remember that you love her.
i think you will have to let go of the fact that she isnt a virgin. i understand that you would feel hurt because she lied to you.
everyone is entitled to someone they love. some people ... (read in full...)
I have no friends, I'm so unhappy
Q. I'm only 13 years old(girl) and I wanna run away because I can't take my life anymore. I'm really young and I feel like I have no friends. I'm sometimes alone at school. What do I do?...
A. 7 January 2008: hun
please mail me
or mail me and ask for my msn
ive been through what your going through
i no how u feel
xxxx... (read in full...)
Am I being to foward? Is there any other way to be with him?
Q. Alright, Tuesday, I'm to see my crush I'm fairly sure he likes me. I've talked to him before, but I need a way to really get to know him. He always looks me in the eyes for what seems like forever any time we even see each other. I've talked to his ...
A. 7 January 2008: hi hun!
this sounds just like me!
well i think its less nerve racking if you go with your friends.
my bf was suddenly really himself when his mate and my mate came to the cinema with us.
we sat together at the cinema and found it easier to cuddle... (read in full...)
He sold me his phone and we kind of 'clicked'. Why haven't I heard from him in two days?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I have been single for a year now. The other day I called my friend to see a phone that she had for sale. She told me that a friend of a freind had the phone, but that he would call me and meet me with the phone. He did call me a...
A. 7 January 2008: hi hun!
dw when i first went out with my bf i never heard from him. he was too shy to text me he sed later. which now i know is true.
2 days is fine for him not contacing you. maybe you should ask to meet up.
hope this helps
please feel f... (read in full...)
I got overly-anxious over a rape scene I saw in a movie! Why did I feel that way?
Q. I currently watched the movie Rob Zombies Halloween. I'm not very good with horror movies, but this one did not bother me as much, although the only thing that did make me feel like screaming gave me anxiety, was the rape scene. I am ver...
A. 7 January 2008: hi hun!
i think some things mentally touch people. if that makes sense.
when i watched pan's labryinth this guy took a hammer and broke this guys fingers. i felt really upset for quite a long time. you have to remember that it is only a movie. ... (read in full...)
How can I get to be more confident?
Q. hi, ive been going out with this really nice, really good looking girl for around a month now, and ive tried to step the relationship up, but i find myself to nervous to kiss her and so all we ever do is hold hands etc... is there any advice...
A. 6 January 2008: hi hun!
im 13 too and have just started going out so i no how ur feeling.
hav u tried kissing her on the cheek? i find thats quite nice. at the end of the date hug each other, say bye and while you're hugging give her a kiss on the cheek. ... (read in full...)
Anyone got any experiences to share?
Q. hiya! im just kinda interested and i was wondering if people could share their experiences with me. their experiences with their first bfs. how did you meet? what age? how long did it last? were your parents ok with it? and finally.......what...
A. 5 January 2008: hiya! thanks for all ur advice. yeah im 13 just got my first bf been going out for about 4/5 months. he's kind and respective and loads of other great things lol but anyway thanks lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
At what stage in our relationship should we be more comfortable around each other?
Q. hi! well my bf and i went our on 3rd date coupld of days ago and it was still kind of awkward. we didnt talk much and it was kind of embarasing. i dont know if it should still be like this. please help thanks ellie xxx...
A. 5 January 2008: hiya people!
thanks for all your answers.
actaully i went out with him and some of his and my mates and it was less awkard so well probably do that.
Crisy: I think ill try and think of some questions to aks him like football and stuff so tha... (read in full...)
What could be making my daughter so miserable? How do I through the parent/child barrier?
Q. Dear cupid, My daughter is 13 years old and for the past couple of months she seems to be really miserable, i've tried talking to her, i've even asked what is wrong but she always says nothing, my husband tried to find out why she is so miserbale ...
A. 4 January 2008: hi im a 13 year old girl. and some of the time my mum asks me that question. why whats wrong? she always asks. i just say nothing or i dont know. sometimes even i cant explain whats wrong or i dont even know why im feeling miserable. i guess ... (read in full...)
13, I really like a girl, but I can never control my nerves when I talk to her! What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I really like this girl, we are friendly and see eachother quite often. When she talks to me I know what to say but I just cant get it out. This is strange because I am normally bola around girls but in this case its the other way ...
A. 1 January 2008: hiya! well how did you two meet? and are you two actually 'going out'? what kind of music do you like? maybe you could discuss films/music and stuff that you might have in common. feel free to mail me if you want to talk further. lol ellie xx... (read in full...)
Are these extreme yoyo moods normal or is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi. this is quite an odd question i suppose and i dont know how many people will be able to answer it but her goes: im 13 years old and this really weird thing happens. one second im feeling so happy, like im on top of the world and nothing can ...
A. 31 December 2007: hi guys!
thanks for answering.
LouLee: im glad you get this kind of thing even though you get hyper :P Sometimes my mood changes because of what i think but its never what anyone says to me.
Happy Feet: thanks loads i think i might mail you for... (read in full...)
My wife says I neglect her and that God wants to end the marriage.
Q. My wife over the last two years says I did not show her any affection. We have two children and after a days work and looking after the kids when I get home I am so tired that I have obviously overlooked her needs. She later confessed to having a 5 ...
A. 30 December 2007: hi hun.
*virtual hug*
it sounds like your wife just wants some attention.
maybe you should surprise her one night and take her out to a restaurant and then go back to the bedroom :P
you should also talk to her and tell her how much you love he... (read in full...)
My friends keep telling me to get over him but I just can't.
Q. I had fancied this guy for about a year before he asked me out. We live a long way apart and met on two other previous holidays. We had talked by text and msn. And we met the weekend before he asked me out. When he asked me out i was so happy. I...
A. 30 December 2007: hi hun.
first of all i hope you start feeling better. *virtual hug*
im afraid you're going to have to listen to your friend. you're goign to have to get over him. have one night where you just sit and cry over him. but then after that go out a... (read in full...)
Should I smile because we are friends or cry because that's all we are??
Q. Well, Me and this guy have been through so much together. We've been out twice and even when we wern't going out we were still close friends. The first time we went out he dumped me but the second time i ended it. And yeah i regret it. I still lov...
A. 30 December 2007: hi hun.
first of all have this *virtual hug*. this must be so hard for both of you. this guy sounds really sweet when he says that he knows hell hurt you again if you go out. in a way sometimes friendship can be stronger than love. ive ruin... (read in full...)
We have been together five years...but I rarely orgasm.
Q. Hey, I asked a question before about my boyfriend and I. But now, even thowe the question is still revolving around the two of us, I was wondering something about...sex. Okay, we have been making love for quite sometime now... But, I was wonde...
A. 30 December 2007: hi hun!
first of all please dont be embarassed. :) its fine. a lot of people have the same problem. i dont have that much experience about it but i have read that it does help if you self pleasure. there is a very good website called www.... (read in full...)
Torn between two brilliant online girls who I both care for but I know I have to pick one.
Q. I have met two incredible girls online and have met one of them but with the one i haven't met yet we have already arranged to go away in March for her birthday. I am having to talk to the one i haven't met yet online because i am currently on ...
A. 30 December 2007: hi hun!
ah this is a really complicated situation.
you have to sit down and ask yourself who you like better.
which girl have you talked most about future life with?
you will have to pick one of them.
think about which girl would be better for ... (read in full...)
What would you do about this situation?
Q. what would you do if your husband befriend an unmarried woman and he feels that he "must babysit" her because she is far away from her family? what would you do if your husband invite this woman over to stay at your house because she feels "lonel...
A. 29 December 2007: hi hun im sorry to be blunt but this man sounds pathetic. i know you must be lonely but you need to explain that he has a wife and you're not a child. you dont need to be babysat. im sorry but you have to walk away. feel free to mail me if y... (read in full...)
I will see my crush on new year's eve and I'm thinking of pulling him aside and ask him how he feels about me, it's just that I don't know how to ask?
Q. Dear Cupid, Several times now, I've written to you asking for help concerning my crush, Ethan. Well, I've found myself needing advice about him yet again, and I thought that maybe someone here could help me out, as they have done brilliantly i...
A. 27 December 2007: hi hun!
first of all from what ive heard guys get scared when you straight out say do u like me i like you kind of thing. i would gently ask him how he is and act differently around him that with anyoneelse. so he can see that you like him. hav... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend that I slept in the same bed as another guy, even though it was platonic?
Q. I went out with my friends a few days before xmas, and it got quite late, so i stayed at a friends house. There were only two double beds, and four of us. The couple got one, and i was left to the other one, having to share with my male friend who i ...
A. 27 December 2007: hi hun!
this exact same thing happened to me. i was at a sleepover party and there were a couple of guys there. most of them were bf and left b4 the sleepover but there was this one guy a sister of my friend. everyone had plaes to sleep and i ha... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but what does he mean?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. This boy flirts with me.One time I was walking in the hallway and he was just saying like hey and stuff and he looked shy and nervous. When he found out a guy liked me and he thought I was going out with the guy, He was like ...
A. 27 December 2007: hiya hun.
well i think this guy does love you and he's trying to get you to notice him!! thats why he says hi to you in the hallway. you need to remember that some guys are really shy about expressing their feelings to girls and they can find... (read in full...)
I have had my period twice in one month and am worried something is wrong with me...please help.
Q. hi! I need some help and advice please. this time is is not about boys! *surprise surpries* lol. Well i had my period right at the start of the month about 3rd or 4th of decemeber that was expected and fine etc. But today i had my period again,...
A. 25 December 2007: hi! thanks for all your answers. i was wondering...does this mean i wont have my period next month then? or i will have it? lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
13. I've been with my girlfriend for a month. I want to kiss her, but I'm too shy! Can you help me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 13 year old male and I have been going out with a girl I really like for just over a month now. We have so much in common and I think it'll work really well. Theres just one problem. I am shy to kiss her. I have hugged her!...
A. 17 December 2007: hiya!
well my bf quites shy but we have hugged. no the first date when we were walk ed home i was like well im going now and he gave me a hug and while he was hugging me he kissed my cheek. it just went on form there. i gave him a kiss back... (read in full...)
Is it possible for young boys to get an erection even by looking at a girl they like?
Q. hiya! this question is kind of aimed at guys who are 13-15 but anyone if free to answer. basically, is it possible for a guy to get an erection even if they are looking at a girl they like. cus my bf, sometimes when he looks up across at me he...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya guys!
thanks everyone sooo much for writing in.
Uncle Phil: thanks, your advice is always great :)
Jamer70: thanks also for your advice
Anonymous: thanks for your advice. dont worry, im not remotely interested in sex, but maybe... (read in full...)
She completely bowled me over, how do I ask out my dream girl??
Q. Yesterday i had one of them all over spray tans done, because it was our Christmas party yesterday and i wanted that sun kissed look. Anyway the girl that did the tanning completely bowled me over. She was like my perfect girl, i mean if i could ...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya!
good for you! its not often that we find our perfect guy/girl, when we go and get a spray tan!!
i would ask her the usual stuff first. she might have a bf but be a bit of a flirt. you dont want to rush straight into things by asking h... (read in full...)
Me and my best friend fell in love, now he has backed out saying he doesn't want "us" anymore, he wants a girlfriend but still wants us to remain friends, how do I deal with this hurt?
Q. Over the past three and half years, my best friend and I slowly feel in love-both of us scared to death of our feelings; we both didn't consider ourselves gay. After the first year, we slowly became intimate. For the year, we have both dealt with ...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya!
*virtual hug*
this is so hard for you and probably a bit for him.
friendship in some cases is stronger and lasts longer than love. it is also a lot more predictable. the main thing it to say ok fine you can go out with girls etc. but le... (read in full...)
My landlord complains about my dog. Nothing was said about this when moving in and now I'm panicking, what to do??
Q. My question isn't relevant to love but I don't really know where else to turn for advice. I moved out on my own 6 months ago. You could say I've led a sheltered life and am perhaps a bit naive. I'm 22 and this is my first time living alone, an...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya!
i would keep the dog until your landlord tells you otherwise. he said ok, so that wasnt a no.
hope this helps
please feel free to mail me about anything else you wanna talk about.
lol
ellie
xxx... (read in full...)
Does need a break means I will leave you?
Q. my boyfriend has recently told me he needs a break. Does this mean he is goin to leave me?...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya!
*virtual hug* aww hun! in most situations, when a guy says that to a girl he means he doesnt want to go out anymore.
have you recently had a fight or summing?
maybe he does want a break and time to think. ask him what he means. just... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with him anymore, what do I do?
Q. How do I tell my partner that I no longer want us to be together? My partner and I had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split up in February. He then kept texting me and desperately wanted to give our relationship another go. ...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya!
first of all ill give you one of these
*virtual hug* :)
you need to get across to him, in a kind, caring way how you really feel. just tell him you just dont feel any romantic feelings for him like you did before. if he says ooo you need... (read in full...)
This girl persists that she thinks I'm a gay, but I like her female friend and I don't want girls to be getting gay vibes from me. Do you think she is serious or only messing with me??
Q. OK, so I'm not sure if this girl was serious or if she was just messing with me, but it's bugging me quite the bit. Last night I was with my friend and two girls, I hooked up with one of them a few times, but her friend kept on saying how she t...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya! well to be honest i think gay guys rock! lol but it must be bad if you want girls to be interested in you and they keep thinking you're gay. dont worry hun :) if this girl likes you, then she obviously doesnt think you're gay. if you tel... (read in full...)
My mom read my diary and now I feel all traumatized! What to do about her??
Q. My Mom read my diary this morning, I'm traumatised. She knows my sex life in huge, digusting detail, she knows that I'm a good child brought up very well and I never wanted that to change. I'm a 14 year old female who initiated sex with my ...
A. 16 December 2007: hiya. did your mum say i read your diary what's this i hear about such and such etc? if your mum hasnt said anything, it means that she probably doesnt want to say anything. shell probably h ave a silent opinion of you. now shes read what you go... (read in full...)
I love him so much, but don't really miss him when he's away, is what I feel normal?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend nearly a year. We live together and have been friends for 10 years. He works away for a few weeks at a time. While I do miss him (sometimes very much, sometimes not bery much, depending on how busy I am etc) sometime...
A. 15 December 2007: hiya!
im 13 and ive been going out with my bf for about 3/4 months. if hes away for maybe 1 or 2 days then i feel a bit sad but i just get on with it. when he comes back then i feel like you said love and strong feelings. i suppose it is quit... (read in full...)
My friend is in a very abusive relationship, how do I handle it?
Q. My friend is in a relationship which is emotionally and physically abusive. Her boyfriend takes drugs. I've known her boyfriend longer than she has, he's a nice guy on the cover, but deep down very paranoid and insecure. He's had a strange ...
A. 15 December 2007: hiya.
im so sorry for your friend.
a lot of people ask each other why abused women go back to their partners when they get hit so often. the answer is that the partner is very controlling.
your friend needs to get some help. counselling.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my TA and he seems to reciprocate them, but he is in a relationship
Q. First of all, he's my TA. We are both in our early to mid 20s, so age isn't too much of a factor. I've also been getting very high A's in the class, so grades don't make a difference either. I've always thought he was cute, but didn't start getting ...
A. 15 December 2007: hiya!
im afraid that if he's off limits then you cant do anything.
the only way to find out is actually ask him.
or even say do you wanna go out sometime. then you'll find out two things. is he single? and is he truthful?
if hes single then grea... (read in full...)
His ex can't let go of him, I can't stop checking up on him and her
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. We had alot of hassle from his ex int he beginning, who even after 7 months of being broken up, could't let him go. He gives me open access to everything, emails, phone bill, etc. I trust him that he ...
A. 15 December 2007: hiya!
this may sound really hard but the best thing for you to do is just let go of her. forget about her. remember your boyfriend left his old girlfriend to be with you. he wants you!! he doesnt want anyone like his old gf.
your bf is obvio... (read in full...)
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