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... Send *lliebellie a private message | | | *lliebellie's profile:hi im ellie and im a typical girl in her mid-teens. Although i have no qualifications when it comes to helping people, i love to give advice and use my mistakes to set other people on the right paths. So giving advice is one of the things i use this place for but i also ask my own questions on here- and every reply to my question is met with a grateful thank you. I have many mottos in life so i'll share a couple with you.
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His ex can't let go of him, I can't stop checking up on him and her
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. We had alot of hassle from his ex int he beginning, who even after 7 months of being broken up, could't let him go. He gives me open access to everything, emails, phone bill, etc. I trust him that he ...
A. 15 December 2007: hiya!
this may sound really hard but the best thing for you to do is just let go of her. forget about her. remember your boyfriend left his old girlfriend to be with you. he wants you!! he doesnt want anyone like his old gf.
your bf is obvio... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about girls and it is affecting my concentration!
Q. I'm 15 and I can't stop thinking about girls help me please because I can't concentrate on my work......
A. 12 December 2007: hiya!
its normal for guys your age to think about girls. is there one girl you cant stop thinking about? if not then maybe you need to get a girlfriend and you might be able to think about your school work.
hope this helped.
please feel free to... (read in full...)
Can a penis be too big to fit in?
Q. is there a possibility that the penis doesnt fit in a girl's vagina because its too big??...
A. 11 December 2007: hiya well yes, i suppose there is a possibility that a peni can be too big to fit in a girls vagina. please feel free to mail me about anything else you want to talk about. lol ellie xxx ... (read in full...)
I have been rejected by my friends and feel awful! How do I cope and get through my degree coursework without them bothering me?
Q. I have been in my degree about 2 months. I made a small group of friends, who seemed ok at the start, we went on a night out with the uni, i enjoyed their company, but slowly due to illness I had a few days off here and there, and they began to make ...
A. 11 December 2007: hiya! well first of all i think you might want one of these *virtual hug* :) feel better please. last year at school (which i know is very different to uni) i felt exactly the same as you. i wasnt at school for a bit and when i got back everyone... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm still in public school. Some of my friends think this guy likes me. I'm not gonna say his name. On the first day of school he winked at me. One time in gym class I was just standing in the middle of the gym and he ...
A. 11 December 2007: hiya! i dunno about this guy. he sounds like hes a bit of a player and ladies man. he might be using you or he might just really like you. apart from the physical contact you two seem to have, have you two sat down and had a normal conversation? ... (read in full...)
How do people tend to get boyfriends and girlfriends?
Q. Hey i'm just wondering here how do peole tend to get boyfriends and girlfriends? Like how do they do it and what do they do? I'm just curious...
A. 11 December 2007: hiya! well i guess if you see someone you like and have a crush on. maybe a mates friend. you start talking or you tell your mate you fancy their mate. the rest just happens naturally. my bf is my mates best mate, and i told my mates i fancied ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to be more physical? Any tips?
Q. hey! ive been going out with this guy for about two months and we havent really become physicaly close. i mean we're only 13 so im not looking for full on sex just a cuddle or kiss. hes given me a peck on the cheeck once but were going to the cine...
A. 11 December 2007: hahahahh hiya guys! thanks for all your answers! to the anomamous: i wasnt thinking about full on snogging, or sex! just holding hands and hugging and if it does get onto kissig then a peck on the cheek. lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum?
Q. I am 13 and i think i may be getting my period i have learned about it a school and my mom gave me a book but i just dont know how to tell her i got my period (if it is on the way) How do i tell her?...
A. 7 December 2007: hiya!!
dont worry i started my perionds when i was 12 and i was soo ambarassed. i didnt think i could tell my mum. but dont worry your mum is probably waiting for you to tell her. itd perfectly normal and i mean she probably had to tell her mum.... (read in full...)
Does he lie about other things?
Q. Yesterday my bf was on his psp, and i asked him if he was looking at porn. (I know he does, he says he doesn't) anyways.. he told me no. So today i was going to use his psp for the internet because the net on my computer wasn't working right. And ...
A. 6 December 2007: hiya! first of all i would be angry too if this happened so i know how you're feeling. maybe your bf was too embarassed to tel you he was looking at porn. does he know you look at porn too? first confront him and tell him you know. see his ... (read in full...)
I say "no" when asked out cos I don't know how to snog!
Q. hey im 14 years old girl lot of lads keep askin me out n i keep sayin no just because i dont know how to snog..... im realy need a help with this........
A. 6 December 2007: hiya! going out doesnt mean snogging. i mean if you really like a guy then youll take things slowly. its not like your going to be snogging on your first date. lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
He said it wasn't working and I want to talk but he won't...any suggestions??
Q. Help. My new boyfriend txt me last nite and said it won't work and that we should be mates. We've not had sex so in a way im glad i did not get that close but i really want to talk to him about things. The thing is he wont talk and txt me back beca...
A. 5 December 2007: hiya!! ok first of all how much time is new? i mean how long have you known him for? if its like only a week or 2 then just leave it. its not worth it. if its a couple of months then i would call him. if you drive round to his house it could be ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl out face-to-face??
Q. If i ask out a girl face to face tell her everything how do i? After i tell her i like her, ask her out? We're both 17. Should i expect a reply? If she needs time how do i give her time? Won't it be awkward until i get the answer? Lol easiest ...
A. 3 December 2007: hiya! wel first thing u need to think about is what youre going to do when you go out. so start a normal conversation then say oh u know that movie at the cinema thats just come out *give title* do u wanna go see that? then if she says yes then... (read in full...)
My guy never tells me he loves me and misses me and I feel like he doesn't like me anymore.
Q. hey! Basically i like this guy and weve been out twice. I see him everyday and hes reallt nice etc. The only thing is that: my friend likes this guy but they're not as close as me and my guy are but they still tell each other how much they like eac...
A. 2 December 2007: thank you all so much :) i guess my guy is much shyer than my friends guy and i suppose i need to get to know him a bit better. thanks all of you lol ellie xxx... (read in full...)
Sometimes I cry for almost no reason. Help please.
Q. hey! help really needed. sometimes i just cry almost for no reason. sometimes there are reasons but it feels like everything is piled up on me and i just cry. Please help. whats wrong with me? lol ellie xxx...
A. 2 December 2007: hey guys! thank you all so much for your answers :) by the way to the guy who replied.....i dont really mind which gender replies any replies are really good for me so thank you for sharing your story for me even if it was hard for you. thanks... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex 9 days ago, my period was due 6 days ago. Is it too soon for a pregnancy test?
Q. 9 days ago I had unprotected sex...(ther only time i'm ever had unprotected before)..my period was due 6 days ago...it STILL hasnt come on...I'm really worried as i've never been late before. I want to take a test on monday but will it be soo soon ...
A. 1 December 2007: well ive been really late before i mean like a week but i hadnt had sex. i would wait a couple of days and then take a pregnancy test. if you are really worried then you should go and see your gp.
please feel free to mail me if you have anyt... (read in full...)
I really like my friend but am worried my sexual inexperience will ruin it.
Q. I think i'm starting to fall for my (guy)friend. We've been friends for a year maybe but we just started to get a lot closer in the last few months, and we spend a lot of time together just the two of us (as opposed to with our group of friends ...
A. 1 December 2007: hiya! i had a guy friend and i fell for him. but he didnt feel the same way as i did and he wasnt ready so i kind of rushed into it and yh....lets just say we not really friends anymore.
i would just see what happens. stay yourself and let natu... (read in full...)
My gf will only watch girl on girl porn, does this mean shes bi??
Q. My girlfriend and i watch porn about once every three months, however she will only watch all girl on girl she gets very hot horny and we have the best sex so im not complaning. Does this mean shes bi? She said shes not. ...
A. 1 December 2007: if shes says shes not then shes probably not.
some women get horny watching girl on girl but it doesnt mean theyre lesbian or bi.
the main thing is she loves you and i guess you get great sex!!
please feel free to mail me if you have anythin... (read in full...)
One day she refuses my invitation, next he kisses me. What should I do?
Q. I am a 13 and i love this girl but when i asked her out she said no and i felt like i wonted to die but today in the hall she KISSED me and now i am all confused what should i do? ...
A. 1 December 2007: thanks for replying.
if you have know her for 3 years then its different.
some people can suddenly develope crushes on people and you never know this girl might feel a bit awkard around you now (in a good way). i would just talk to her. find out... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so overprotective??
Q. My girl says i'm too overprotective of her, can my condition be corrected?...
A. 29 November 2007: im sorry if this sounds stupid but is 'my girl' your daughter of girlfriend/wife?
lol
ellie
xxx... (read in full...)
One day she refuses my invitation, next he kisses me. What should I do?
Q. I am a 13 and i love this girl but when i asked her out she said no and i felt like i wonted to die but today in the hall she KISSED me and now i am all confused what should i do? ...
A. 29 November 2007: hiya!! i wouldnt worry! im 13 and some girls are pretty shy when it comes to guys. maybe her feeling were a bit confused when you asked her out and she wanted to make it up to you by kissing you :) you never know. why dont you talk to her and get ... (read in full...)
Worried about the values I transmit to my daugther. Dating several men, having sex. Friends say it's normal after my divorce?
Q. i'm a 43 years old mother of 2, i just had a divorce after 19 years of marriage. it took me a while to get back to dating again and when i did the problem started. i have sex a lot and with more than just one guy. my friends told me that it'...
A. 29 November 2007: i agree with the person below dont expose your daughters i suppose it is quite normal because you have just split from someone that you thought you loved but found out you did not really. are you feeling scared almost to get into a long term rela... (read in full...)
I would not like my partner to feel pressurised if I (curiously) ask him about wanting a baby!
Q. hey guys, Right here is goes, how can you tell if your boyfriend wants a baby?. my boyfriend is 18, far tooo young i know but i keep gettin the feeling that he wants us to have a baby. can men get broody too? is it normal at this age? i dont rea...
A. 29 November 2007: hiya! to the person below.......this girls b/f could be different. all guys are different and you might be surprised once you talk to him....you never know....ask him how he feels and you could even tell him that you dont want to pressurise him and ... (read in full...)
Guys, can you be normal friends with a girl you find attractive, even though a relationship would not be possible?
Q. Guys: Can you be normal friends with a girl you find hot and wish you could sleep with, but know nothing can happen? Would you hang around and continue being 'friends', even though you never saw eachother out and only got on really well when...
A. 29 November 2007: hey! well im not a guy but this has happened to me before with a guy. first of all its good to stay friends. i mean its good to have someone else there if you fall out with your bf/gf. i would just be a friend and try not to be anything else ... (read in full...)
I think I may be pregnant. When I have my period it is barely even a full day. Help, please.
Q. i still have a feeling im pregnant. and when i have my period its barely even a full day. i havnt taken a pregnancy test yet. and i was hinting to my mom about pregnancy and she told me if i was pregnant she would kill me.. hm. this time my n...
A. 29 November 2007: hey! ok first of all calm down. the more het up you get the worse it will be. first of all you know when youre pregnant because you dont get any blood at all. at least you are getting something. go out and buy a pregnancy test or even 2 just to ... (read in full...)
A good place for your "first time" ? Suggestions, please.
Q. Where would you say is a good place to have sex for the first time for both you and your partner? and who esle would be around you? e.g. in a house parents etc.Suggestions, please....
A. 29 November 2007: hiya! i would say somewhere that is familar and comfortable for both of you. like his bedroom or your bedroom. i would try and arrange a time when your parents are going to be out for quite a long time. i dont think anyone else really needs to be ... (read in full...)
He said he wished I was near him, when I suggested visiting he avoided the subject however. What is going on?
Q. Hey Ive been with my boyfriend for a couple of months, I never fall badly with guys as i have trust issues from previous stuff. But when i met him i fell completely in love with him. I can think of no one else, In fact i know no one else in this...
A. 25 November 2007: u r probably not like this, but is sounds like you are being quite clingy. this guy is giving you mixed signals. if hes saying he wants u to be with him at 3 am then he must like you. ask him wats up.
lol
ellie
xxx... (read in full...)
At the end of my second date with a boy, he kissed my cheek. Could he have been upset that I didn't do it back?
Q. hey guys!! today i had my second date with this guy. it all went good until we walked home. basically hes quite shy and weve done dares where we kiss each other etc but it wasnt serious. so i was like i need to go now and he was like same so i ...
A. 25 November 2007: hey guys!! just want to say thanks for all your great answers. kaleigh: i just wanna say thanks for the advice but i am ready to kiss him maybe not snog him , but i just wasnt really expecting him to do at the time. lol and love-him: thanks a... (read in full...)
This isn't a little relationship, and life is too short. How can I save this romance?
Q. My boyfriend is from the UK He is 12, I am 11 I am a dwarf, but he is regular size. I sent him some pics(appropriate, like me and my family) and he just saw how small I was. I'm afraid he's going to freak out, and dump me. Is there anyway...
A. 12 November 2007: awww!! this is so sweet. but anyway if you love each other enough he wont care about how you look or what size you are. if he loves you properly he will look at your personality and look past your size. hope this helps sweety. good luck lol e... (read in full...)
Should I consider breast implants?
Q. i am 17 years old and i have very very small breast. i think I'm a double AA or something. the thing is i'm not the skinniest person, so it look really weird when i am naked. i am thinking about getting breast implants. but honestly, i am paranoid. ...
A. 12 November 2007: guys and breasts are like girls with penises. on the outside when theyre with all their mates theyll talk about big boobed girls and everything. its all just fantasies. when it comes down to it guys are more ineterested in a girl personality than ... (read in full...)
Should I give him a nice surprise on his 18th birthday?
Q. Hi, I love your site and need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We are both seniors in high school. I am 19 years old and my boyfriend will soon turn 18. We are both virgins. We have talked about sex but ha...
A. 12 November 2007: wow!! loads of questions...im not that experienced in the sex department but i know a lot of it happens naturally. so thats all the sex questions answered. just go with the flow. to hint at your boyfriend......when everyone starts leaving and he ... (read in full...)
Why do I still have a baby face?
Q. ok i am about a same hight as a adult but i still have a baby face why do i still have my baby face i want my adult face i am 14 ?...
A. 12 November 2007: i kinda have the same problem. im 13 and im tall but my face is quite pale and young looking. what i do which helps is put a pit of bronzer along my cheeckbones. i think eyeliner and mascara really help make me look older. try it out!
lol
ellie... (read in full...)
He's not the type to express his emotions and he's touchy feely only when he's had a drink. What do you think?
Q. i've liked this guy for quite a while now and i think i'm falling for him. The only thing is he's really hard to understand and i don't know whether he's playing hard to get or just isn't interested. He hasn't had many girlfriends and he's the kind ...
A. 11 November 2007: hey!! this is quite simple. some guys are hard to read but to see if he likes you then youve got to start talking!! ask him what films or music he likes etc. but some guys are shy and you know...if they like someone they might not show it. until ... (read in full...)
Has my ignorance in bases and pulling made me look stupid enough for my interest to lose interest??
Q. ahahah please help i have messed up so badly. basically its a long story. theres this guy hu went to my old primary school. we used to fancy each other like mad. now i finally found him online and we have started talking online. everything was ...
A. 4 November 2007: thanks to all. actuallly anom, this guy well he used my ignorance of sex generally against me and was really rude and horrible to me (you can see my question on should i block him) so we both went our separate ways. i go to a girls school too ... (read in full...)
What's the next step with my crush?
Q. hi. i managed to get my crushes number. we get on well together and i was wondering what the next step would be for me to make. any help much appreciated....
A. 3 November 2007: ask her out!! lol thats thenext step i think...good luck and god bless...let us no how it goes
lol
ellie... (read in full...)
Should I block him?
Q. this guy ive known since joinor school, well ive got in touch with him. everything was going ok till yesterday. his mate was round his house and we were talking on msn. all of a sudden he was like oi f***er, you are ugly as hell, i dont want to ...
A. 3 November 2007: thanks anom....ive just left him now....
lol
ellie... (read in full...)
Small pain in back, does anyone know what it is?
Q. dear cupid, i have a serious pain at the small of my back everytime especially when i get up from my seat. please tell me what the problem is and its solution?...
A. 3 November 2007: omg i had this quite a long time ago and i went to to a physio about it. she said it was my posture and i should try and stand up straighter and that would gradually help my back. it worked and my backs fine now :) lol ellie... (read in full...)
Should I block him?
Q. this guy ive known since joinor school, well ive got in touch with him. everything was going ok till yesterday. his mate was round his house and we were talking on msn. all of a sudden he was like oi f***er, you are ugly as hell, i dont want to ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey thanks everyone. anon: well i think its the 3rd option, unfortunately he blocked my today and then unblocked me so.... yeh i dunno i wanna say one last thing to him though....just summing to finish it all off so yeh thanks to everyone else as ... (read in full...)
What does he want from our relationship?
Q. my dilemma is i'm in a long distance relationship. when my boyfriend proposed to me, i refused as it was just not possible but he was too adamant and persistent. after much persuasion, i finally accepted his proposal and we went steady for 2 years. ...
A. 3 November 2007: this guy was one the one who propsed so he should be giving a lot to the relationship. i would ask him why he is being like this. i think you two should be meeting up, talking about your future life, you know that kind of thing. do you only talk ... (read in full...)
I love him but he abuses me and drains my confidence.
Q. I am 19 year old girl in love with a 25 year old guy. Its become almost more than 1 year that we are together. He stays with me with my family and even works in the same office. We are very close to each other and even physically involved. He ...
A. 2 November 2007: please leave him. he is mentally abusing you instead of pyhsically absuing you. which person tells the love of their life that he ashamed to go out with them. please you seem so nice. leave him
lol
ellie... (read in full...)
How do I get him out of my head.
Q. i dont know how to start this i was in a very unhappy relationship and i own my own buisness as a cleaner, i had just broke up with my guy and then this guy asked if i could clean for him . at the time when i was hurting i poured out my troubles to ...
A. 2 November 2007: aww!! i had the same thing as u almost.. i told this guy i fancied him and then he laughed it off. then i found out he was just too shy to say he fancied me back ;) anyway this guy says hes not interested then thats fine leave it. the good thing ... (read in full...)
I hope this doesn't cause us to break up.
Q. My boyfriend and I got into a fight over the phone last night about the fact that I was uncomfortable with him going to the movies with a bunch of girls from college. He told I don't have anything to worry about. I just don't know what to think. He ...
A. 2 November 2007: hmmm i dunno bout this one. it dusnt really help the situation that you dont see him very much, but trust is a real key to this relationship. does he have a reputation of being quite a ladies man in past or anything lilke that? if not then i think ... (read in full...)
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