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Q. My boyfriend and I got into a fight over the phone last night about the fact that I was uncomfortable with him going to the movies with a bunch of girls from college. He told I don't have anything to worry about. I just don't know what to think. He ...
A. 2 November 2007: hmmm i dunno bout this one. it dusnt really help the situation that you dont see him very much, but trust is a real key to this relationship. does he have a reputation of being quite a ladies man in past or anything lilke that? if not then i think ... (read in full...)
I'm short of money - how do I move to Sweden?
Q. I want to go abroad to live ,just as Sweden,but I donot have enough money,the most importance is I am afraid to go to a place without friends! If any body can tell me how to do?...
A. 2 November 2007: yh i know who you feel. you want to be able to do things ur friends do by yourself and not have your parents always holding ur hands. ur completely right. im still not that clear, but did u say that you had two years to plan? in two years you ... (read in full...)
Are the guys that are my friends odd? Or is it just me?
Q. is is normal for guys my age 13-15 to just be interested in whos pulling who and which base theyve got to. most of the guys i know are constantly talking about it and although i find it ok, sometimes it makes me feel like any relationship im going ...
A. 2 November 2007: thanks people!! dont worry most of my friends are very nice and are girls so bases and pulling arent mentioned. its just a couple of boys i speak to occasioanly who all of a sudden seem to be like this. and there is one guy who is very respectful ... (read in full...)
I'm short of money - how do I move to Sweden?
Q. I want to go abroad to live ,just as Sweden,but I donot have enough money,the most importance is I am afraid to go to a place without friends! If any body can tell me how to do?...
A. 2 November 2007: ok do u have family? how much money do you need? if you have a close family then you could ask them if you could borrow some money and thn pay them back. how much do you need? if u only need a little money then you could get a part time job. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my best friend I really like her?
Q. I have a crush on my best friend. I have been friends for a long time. She doesn't know that I have feelings for her. What do I do??????...
A. 2 November 2007: aww! talking at this point is the best way of letting her know how you feel. if you are best friends then you should be able to tell her anything. i would just let her know how you feel about her. even a couple of subtle hints. be prepared ... (read in full...)
Can you fall pregnant while on your period?
Q. Hey... I have a question, I'm having a halloween party this weekend and I've been with this guy for a while, I'm staying at his after the party but it's that time of the month, just wondering if it's messy if you have sex? Also I heard you can't ...
A. 2 November 2007: you can get pregnant when it's that time of the month and it's very messy. ellie... (read in full...)
I want to feel loved and appreciated and at the moment I don't!
Q. Hi I'm a 28 year old male living with my partner for 1 year. I have a few problems I guess, I feel she doesn't care about my needs. Firstly she is very fatalistic/depressed: I hate myself, I'm ugly, fat etc... all the time even though I have ...
A. 2 November 2007: i agree with waterloo. i think she needs help with her depression. i think when you have an illness like this you tend to be oblivious at to how everyone around you is feeling. so the first thing you should do is get her some help. then see how ... (read in full...)
Just met a guy in a club, he wants me to go to his house this Saturday. What should I do?
Q. ive been out with a guy that i met in a club, our date was good. now he wants me to go to his house on saturday. what should i do?...
A. 1 November 2007: i think you are taking this too quickly.. slow down before you get hurt. why dont you suggest that instead of going to his house you would prefer to go out for meal or movie. if he gets annoyed than you know hes a bit of a creep......
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ellie... (read in full...)
What kind of reactions should I get if he's interested?
Q. I want to approach an attractive guy who I know from school. I'm not sure how to get his attention. We know each other from our business program, but I want us to be more than acquaintances. I don't want to ask him out right away, so what should I ...
A. 31 October 2007: well if he likes you he should be quite happy to see you. i wouldnt rush into things first. take it slow. start talking to him and if he seems interested then ask him if he wants to go out for a drink maybe. if you ask him to go out after a ... (read in full...)
They're all calling me fat but I know I'm not. How can I get this through to them?
Q. My mother is constantly calling me fat, and her and her friends have a nickname for me 'fatso'. Im 140lbs and 5'7'', and her constant putting down of my weight and bodyshape is really annoying me. When she was my age she had a very kate moss ...
A. 30 October 2007: dont worry. if ur a teenager youll get a bit of that, i mean my mum says u shud do a bit more excersise. but she dusnt keep on saying im fat and i need to lose weight. i think you shud talk to your mum and tell her you find it upsetting when she ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about his internet activities?
Q. Is he lying? Yesterday I was looking in the computer's history. It was not where you put in the web addresses, it was under the favorited websites, I guess there is an area that you can look at the history and I didn't know that. Anyway...
A. 30 October 2007: you should tell him that theres no point in lying. theres the history of what hes been looking at. theres no need to end your relationship over this but just tell him that youde prefer him to be honest.
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ellie... (read in full...)
Overnight tips on getting rid of spots!
Q. Hi, I have a day tomorrow, and my face just exploded with zits! OMG! Does anyone have some quick tips that I could use to get rid of them, or at least hide them?...
A. 30 October 2007: thank you guys!! to the anom who quite rightly pointed out that i sed i have a day tomorrow...i did mean date!! lol thanks for the advice!! in the end i used cover up and my date went ok. thankeee
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I am bi-sexual. Should I tell my friend I fancy her?
Q. I have known my best friend for about two years now. She knows im bisexual and she doesnt act weird about it. I am single and so is she. I fancy her. I have fanceied her for around about four months. I have tried to give her bits of hints but ...
A. 29 October 2007: bcus ur still quite young i would wait a bit longer cus u dont want to ruin your friendship. she may be uncomfortablt with the fact that u fancy her. hope this helps lol ellie ... (read in full...)
I desperately want her back - what do I need to do?
Q. Hi, my gf decided to end our 4 yr relationship about 5 weeks ago. it was a complete shock for me. things were not going that well for past month or so. but then she was acting normal before the break up. i wanted to spend weekend with her to get t...
A. 29 October 2007: hi again! kk well the gud thing is that you have talked. but i think you just need to let go now. i think for a relationship to work both people need to be happy. if one persons happy and the other isnt it aint gunna work. so shes not happy and ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?
Q. Hiyah, well this is probably gonna be reali confusin n long and you're all gonna think omg when you read it but its worth a go.. I'm 13 and I got with my bf in feb.. at the beginning everything was fine.. I trusted him round other girls and when ...
A. 29 October 2007: omg!! lol yup its long! im 13 as well so we have summing on common. i think you shud just get rid of him. im sorry if that sounds really mean but hes causing you all of this heartache and you sed u were up all night once. let everyone c him as a ... (read in full...)
I can't trust him to tell the truth. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi - I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years (the last 6 months he has been living abroad). He told me only last week (during an argument on the phone when I shouted he had been selfish leaving me alone like this) that he had actually delayed ...
A. 29 October 2007: this is my personal opinion but leave him. hes not worth it. you gone out your way to help him and there are loads more nicer guys out there willing to be with you. he obviously really hurt you and saying he did it for the relationship is a load ... (read in full...)
Her lack of communication is killing me - what can I do to get through to her?
Q. I have been (living) with my current girlfriend for 10 years this coming xmas, and last year we finally bought some property together. It seems though, that ever since this happened, her attitude to me has changed. She has become colder, never re...
A. 29 October 2007: gosh! this is difficult. in a relationship it takes 2 people to make it work. it seems that you are almost doing her bit for the relationship as well. it doesnt look like ur doing anything wrong at all. she obviously cant be bothered to commit ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along?
Q. dear aunt, iam 20 and have been dating my boyfriend for 9months. he seems to love me just the same way that i do. but the problem here is that he has a baby with someone else but told me he's gonna part ways with her soon. he told me he only wants ...
A. 29 October 2007: i think this guy has to make a difficult decision. he needs to be there for his baby but at the same time he also needs to be there for you. i definetly understand that your confused. he keeps telling you to be patient. i would talk to him and ... (read in full...)
How can I get to know him more?
Q. I like this guy, we are not going out yet. I think he might like me but he wont admit it. What can i do to get to know him more or him to ask me out...
A. 29 October 2007: wow!! a couple of months i was in exactly the same position as you are now!! the main thing is that you two talk. i really liked this guy but i wasnt sure if he liked me until we got talking. do your friends know this guy or do his friends know ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend get together with her crush?
Q. My friend is in depression and needs help. I am the ONLY person that knows all of her secrets. We both struggle with some of the same problems, and this is why we are so close. She has a crush on this guy in my class, J, and wants to go out with ...
A. 28 October 2007: i dont want to be mean to your friend or you but the only way you friend will be happier is when she starts talking to j. j isnt going to know how your friend feels about him unless they both start talking. you shudnt ask j to ask your friend out ... (read in full...)
She says she likes me as a friend, but she's not continuing that relationship
Q. Hi, I met this girl who is a orpan,adopted by a holland couple when she was a yr old.She was adopted from bombay(india).She had come to India for around 14 dayz.When we had gone out for the 1st time we talked a lot about our cultures and stuff li...
A. 28 October 2007: i would stay friends cus u still want to keep in contact. has the girl left india? if she hasnt then you shud ask her if u want to meet up sometime. but dont be too pushy and immediatly think after she says one thing that she wants sex. y dont u ... (read in full...)
I still have strong feelings for him, but don't know what to do.
Q. I lost my virginity to a guy i was dating nearly two years ago..he ended things quite soon after because he got back with his ex....so i never really got over him but carried on with things as normal. Completly out of the blue i got an email fr...
A. 28 October 2007: i would put yourself in his pregnant girlfriends position. how would you feel if your bf suddenly went off with someone who hed met a couple of years ago. i would try and forget about him. tell him he needs to be there for the baby. imagaine if ... (read in full...)
I moved to a friend's house so that my ex who abused me wouldn't find me. Now my friend is acting controlling, how to I save our friendship?
Q. i dont know where to start with my problem i was abused by my partner six weeks ago and the police were called. i havent seen my ex partner since that day and dont intend to again the problem is i was scared to be on my own and moved out to a male ...
A. 28 October 2007: you have just escaped from a man who abused you. i think you would feel safer with a group of girls. they might be easier to discuss your feeling with. at the moment you just need to care and friendly love and i dont think this guy realises that. ... (read in full...)
He's left me in the lurch - what do I do now?
Q. my boyfriend friends convinced him that i've been cheating on him he has been suspicious ever since and accused me of many things that I wasn't doing at all. i never cheated on my boyfriend but he doesn't belive me. i'm now 7 weeks pregnant he left ...
A. 28 October 2007: this guy sounds like a right t**t. you must be feeling pretty alone right now. you need someone to talk to and that someone is not your boyfriend. i would leave him alone because wudnt it be better when your baby is born not to have a father than ... (read in full...)
I am so depressed when I'm not with him - please help me
Q. Me and my boyfriend ryan are 15 and we have been on and off goin out with each other for about two and a half years. I have tried going out with other lads but i end up finishing with them because i like ryan too much. Just recently i went ...
A. 28 October 2007: it harsh but you should dump him. you say he blanked you......please he obviously has no respect for you and you deserve a lot better. if he felt the same way about you then it would work but ending and starting a relationship will make the ... (read in full...)
We have oral sex but she doesn't want a relationship. What should I do?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me 1month ago.she say's she is not happy and I am not the one. we have been talking on the phone 3 times a week. We decided to go out we went shopping then dinner then to my house we had oral sex. But she still says ...
A. 28 October 2007: it sounds like this girl is just using you. if she says shes not happy and youre not the one then you should just leave it. im sorry to day it but having sex is not going to change her feelings about and it sounds like shes almost using you for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an environmental nut - how can I make my own decisions about my lifestyle without annoying him?
Q. My boyfriend is a French environmentalist and I'm american. Lately I've been asking myself the question if my relationship is worth the compromise I have to do. Basically, I'm not as much as an environmentalist as he is and when it comes to ...
A. 28 October 2007: this man sounds very controlling and it seems like he is controlling you. you need to tell him that you agree with some things that he says. you and him are different and have different feeling about the environment. you obviously care about the ... (read in full...)
I desperately want her back - what do I need to do?
Q. Hi, my gf decided to end our 4 yr relationship about 5 weeks ago. it was a complete shock for me. things were not going that well for past month or so. but then she was acting normal before the break up. i wanted to spend weekend with her to get t...
A. 28 October 2007: phhhewwwww this is a really hard one. first of all i think you two need to meet for a long chat if u cant meet then write her a letter/email. firstly ask her why the sudden loss of love and break up. why does she feel she has to suddenly break up ... (read in full...)
Everywhere we go there are girls who instantly like him and try to flirt with him even though I'm there, this upsets me. What do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been having a relationship for two years, and I find myself in a very difficult position. My boyfriend, who is not only good looking but smart and charismatic is being stalked by all these ex-girlfriends, who leave him flowers ...
A. 28 October 2007: i think you shud just tell him that it makes u feel very uncomfortable the way all these girls behaave around him. only mention it once and quite casually otherwise he may think u are very jealous. hope this helps.
ellie... (read in full...)
My crush has a gf, who I think doesn't deserves him! Should I forget him or wait?
Q. MY friend has a question, and doens't have an acconnt, soo she is using mine: So i like a Guy, He's everything that i've always wanted in a guy, hes Sweet, Funny, Outgoing, fun, and just someone to talk to, hes my One of my bestfriends. we've ...
A. 28 October 2007: ok this is one of those really tough things that come up in life. yes its hard seeing that guy you really like going around with someone who he really doesnt deserve. i think theres only one thing you can do at the moment and thats be there for ... (read in full...)
How do I focus on my marriage, when I still think about the man I couldn't date as he was my brother's best friend?
Q. I have beening carrying a flame for my brother best friend for a long time, I was his 1st but we never dated because of my brother, we had a fling for a while without him know and hooked up again, I am now married for one year, but I think of him a ...
A. 27 October 2007: it might be diificult to do but you chose to marry your husband so you must stay focused on him. think of reasons why you married him. you will have to let go of your brothers best friend and it will be hard but your marriage is a lot more precious ... (read in full...)
How can I get to meet him?
Q. ive been talking to this guy on AIM for over 3 months now. we seem to click realy well and usualy end up chatting for about half an hour too an hour most days. its usualy him that starts the conversation. the thing is he hasnt never asked to see ...
A. 27 October 2007: i agree with wat the person above sed... say summing like weve been speaking for so loong y dont we meet up. when u do meet up with him though make sure u have a friend there even if he cant see her/him make sure a friend is there watching u in case ... (read in full...)
The best approach to ask a girl for her phone number?
Q. hi, i want to ask a girl for her phone number. we have spoken to each other for a while now and we are lab partners at uni. can anyone tell me what the best approach would be??...
A. 27 October 2007: hey i have two things which might work or might not. first u could do a two in one thing. start a casual conversation and then say sumthing like oh have you seen such and such at the cinema yet? it looks really funny, maybe we could watch it this ... (read in full...)
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