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writes: Well,Me and this guy have been through so much together. We've been out twice and even when we wern't going out we were still close friends. The first time we went out he dumped me but the second time i ended it.And yeah i regret it.I still love him, and i know i shouldnt because i know how much of a dick he is and i know i hated the way he treated me, but in despite of all that i can't help the feelings i have for him.We have talked about 'us' many a times and about 3 weeks ago we had a huge discussion on the matter, the fact of it is that we both told each other we still love each other.Our feelings haven't changed for each other from the 1st time we went out. So, i suggested giving it another go. But he said he cant do it, he cant go out with me again because he knows he will hurt me and he cant do it to me again.I thought fair enough thats sweet we can still be good friends, and we have been. That was about 3 weeks ago and since then we've been talking loads and meeting up and tonight we went to the cinema. It was a good night and i enjoyed it.I love the way we can still be best mates and hang out and be comfotable around each other but it KILLS ME the way that thats all it is. And thats all it ever will be.I know for sure now that US wont happen again. But just because i know that doesnt mean i can stop those feelings for him.Im fed of having feelings with him, ive even been out with other guys and what i feel for them is nothing compared to what i feel for that special guy.I NEED to get over him, this is unhealthy.Any help people? Reply to this Question
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reader, elliebellie  +, writes (30 December 2007):
hi hun.
first of all have this *virtual hug*. this must be so hard for both of you. this guy sounds really sweet when he says that he knows hell hurt you again if you go out. in a way sometimes friendship can be stronger than love. ive ruined many friendships with boys because i wanted more than friends. you are lucky that you two are still best friends. you obviously both have a strong connection and bond that keeps you two strong. i would stand by him as a friend so he knows you'll be there. im afraid for now you'll just have to have those feelings for him. it will be hard. but he has told you he doesnt want anything more than friends. keep it that way.
hope this helps
please feel free to mail me about anything else you want to talk about.
lol
ellie
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