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male
age
30-35,
*ute Nony
writes:Plz i need a help...how can i avoid my slf from being distracted by gurls? Wenever i try reading or doin an important something that wil help me and sudenly remember my romantic past with some gurls,my dreams,work or idea of what am doing wil just fade away..am handsome and have tried my best to avoid asking women out but when i try hard 2 avoid them,dey come more closer to me and the worst part of it is that they don't stick to me,they flirt and wen asked wil alwayz tel me dat me 2 flirt datd they can't say that they are my only gurl. They are alwayz askn 4 fun play,sex mostly..i tried scarn dm but even wen we stop dating,they will come to me for sex. I am damn tired of it cos am alwayz sexually actv and hu tried vry hard 2 control my self but to no avail..plz what do i do?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 July 2012):
Hi there. The wisest thing you could do, is to start saying "no" to them when they ask to see you - just for sex.
It sounds like they are only using you, and don't want the commitment of a relationship.
Perhaps when you do date girls, you give them the impression that sex is all you want.
You could be giving off the wrong kind of vibes, and so they think you don't want anything more serious, yourself.
It really comes down to what you want from girls in the first place, doesn't it?
(1) Casual sex, and no strings attached.
Or, (2) a real girlfriend who wants to be with only you, and to enjoy your company, and who you want to be with as well because they make you happy, and to look towards a future with them.
So, it really depends on what your intentions are, each time you do start dating someone.
If you are not clear on that, well then it sends them a message, that you don't want to get seriously involved with anyone.
And perhaps that is what is happening, and you are not fully aware of it.
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