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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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My first partner didn't enjoy the sex -- how can I compete with experienced guys?
Q. I've been a relationship with a woman I met online for more than a year. We live thousands of miles apart but we've had two visits. The first visit, we weren't sure where we were going with our relationship, but we ended up having sex the first day ...
A. 27 February 2013: Hi. Perhaps when you first had sex together, it was a thrill to actually be together, after having chatted online for quite a while.
So there was the excitement of the first time, seeing each other, which made it more fun.
And there were some ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things? How can I get things back to the way we were at the start, flirting and saying nice things to me?
Q. Dating advice needed! Recently my school talent show was on and I took part in it! I became really close to this boy, the DJ, and I slowly started to love him. We got so close at the show and I was disappointed when it was over because I thought we ...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi there. In a disco type environment where there is a lot of dancy type music, it's very easy to be flirtatious in that environment.
It sounds like you may have scared him off when you asked him directly, if he liked you as much as you liked hi... (read in full...)
My first partner didn't enjoy the sex -- how can I compete with experienced guys?
Q. I've been a relationship with a woman I met online for more than a year. We live thousands of miles apart but we've had two visits. The first visit, we weren't sure where we were going with our relationship, but we ended up having sex the first day ...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi there. As with everything, practice makes perfect.
It's just another life skill like anything else.
None of us are experts at making love in the very first few experiences.
With each new relationship we have, we learn new skills from th... (read in full...)
Is it bad to want to be alone ALL the time?
Q. I have always been very shy and quiet and only had a small handful of friends (2-3). I don't like being friends with someone I cannot be really close with. I feel those relationships are just a total waste of time and completely fake. It takes me ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi there. It's not really a case of is it normal or is it not.
It really only depends on if you are happy with the way things are.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be on your own.
You seem to know what you like and don't like.
... (read in full...)
I thought we had a good time, he said he'd call but he didn't. Why?
Q. I have been casually dating this guy for a couple of weeks, we met on a dating site so I know he wants a relationship. Our dates have been great (at least I think so) consisting of dinner, drinks, and cuddling or making out while watching movies. I ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi. I think you would be wise to NOT contact him at all before you go away with your friends.
Believe me, if he really wants to see you again, he will keep on calling you until he finally gets you on the phone.
And if he happens to call ... (read in full...)
I thought we had a good time, he said he'd call but he didn't. Why?
Q. I have been casually dating this guy for a couple of weeks, we met on a dating site so I know he wants a relationship. Our dates have been great (at least I think so) consisting of dinner, drinks, and cuddling or making out while watching movies. I ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi there. It's wise not to call him.
After all, he did say he would call you, didn't he?
So for now, leave it that way.
Even though he didn't call you when you expected him to, he could still do so, so be patient with him.
It's a very... (read in full...)
What is the right age to get engaged?
Q. I know my question seems a little bland and broad, so let me try to rephrase... How old should a couple be when they get engaged for the first time? I am 18, currently and proudly dating a soon-to-be Marine. He hasn't been home for a few months. ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi there. There is no right or wrong when it comes to when to get engaged.
It really only matters about how you both feel towards each other.
It does sound like you are fairly happy, so that's a good thing.
Because he is in the marines, I ... (read in full...)
Makimg out w/his new gf while standing right next to me: not classy!
Q. I became romantically involved with a friend I've known for close to 20 years at a time when we were both available and really lonely. We had a ton of fun, shared a very close emotional and physical bond, but since I wanted a boyfriend and he...
A. 15 February 2013: Hi there. It was very inconsiderate of him, to not think about how you might feel if he did that.
He clearly gave it no thought whatsoever, did he?
It sounds like this could happen again in future, both going to the same venue to see some muso... (read in full...)
Orgasm troubles!
Q. Helloo, I'm having trouble orgasming. Before I feel I might orgasm, my body tenses a lot, I get a bit of a headache and can't breathe. It gets too much too handle to relax and i have to stop. What can i do? Thankk youu...
A. 15 February 2013: Hi there. As the body gets close to orgasm, it does tense up in several muscle areas, so that is perfectly normal.
So the headache could be caused by tension in your neck and shoulders, perhaps.
And the breathlessness, may be that you tend to... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: Hi there. Was this dinner date at your house, or at a restaurant?
You didn't say this, so I'm wondering.
When he's on a date with you - regardless of whether it's at your place or a restaurant - he is with YOU.
And therefore, he ought to b... (read in full...)
Am I sending out the wrong signals in regards to dating?
Q. I'm a college student and hardly have any time to date. However, I'm getting to an age where all my friends are meeting great guys out of the blue and getting into serious relationships. So, needless to say, it gets frustrating and lonely not having ...
A. 13 February 2013: Hi there. You need to stop beating yourself up about what you think could be wrong with you, when it comes to guys liking you.
There is NOTHING wrong with you, you are perfect just the way you are.
And it's not necessary to be flirtatious with... (read in full...)
I'm shy and he's not giving much away as far as plans.What's going on ? Is he interested or not?
Q. I've been talking to this guy whose in my class (3x a week) for a few weeks now who I'm starting to really like! We went for coffee about a week ago and it was awkward because I was shy. Anyway, all our other interactions after that have been r...
A. 11 February 2013: Hi there. It might have something to do with having drunken sex with him at the party.
The situation made it very easy for him to get what he wanted, and he may have lost some respect for you since then.
It could even come down to trust is... (read in full...)
Why is my husband acting like a tease? He comes on to me, gets me interested. Then he changes his mind? Why? It's frustrating.
Q. Recently my husband has been doing this thing where several times through out the day he gets me really excited. He will touch me in just the right places or whisper naughty things in my ear, and i love it. But just when i think it is or want it ...
A. 11 February 2013: Hi there. Even though you have tried to talk to him about it, you need to try again.
Perhaps the very next time this happens - and he doesn't follow through with making love - just say to him - "why do you text me throughout the day every da... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi. That is a good thing you don't pick at your acne pimples, because that very often makes them much worse and inflames them, making them look much redder.
So that is a very positive thing.
It's most likely that it (the depressive sympt... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi. As you have said here, everything all changed once you reached puberty, and so it does seem to point towards hormones playing a key role, doesn't it?
But don't worry, you are still that same person, it's just that the hormones are affectin... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi. Sometimes clinical depression can kick in at around late teens or even early teens.
I am not sure that it is necessarily depression, so much as a lack of confidence, generally.
Around the age of 15, teenagers can start to doubt themselves... (read in full...)
I'm really disappointed in myself. How can I motivate myself?
Q. So lately i have been feeling like a nobody. I dont have a job, i dropped out of school back in 2008, havent been able to get my g.e.d and have been a house wife ever since my son was born in 2009. Ive had two jobs between 2009 thru now but didnt ...
A. 7 February 2013: Hi there. It sounds like you are in a bit of a rut.
Perhaps it's not so much that you feel you should be out working, but more that you don't give yourself enough time to simply enjoy life.
You have the support of your husband, and so ... (read in full...)
After five months he broke up with me, for doing all the things I thought made me a perfect girl friend. What did I do wrong?
Q. Basically ever since I was younger I've always had this preconception of guys as hard and unfeeling and only wanting sex. So when I picked a boyfriend, I picked one who wouldn't be emotional or sensitive or want me to open myself up, nor one that...
A. 7 February 2013: Hi there. It is best to relax and be yourself, and don't hold back from just being you.
In many ways being friends with a guy is similar to being friends with a girl.
In the beginning, you need to be friends and get to know each other, to s... (read in full...)
Can someone explain why a man would still want to be your friend after you have dumped them by email?
Q. I need to help with my situation Can someone explain why a man would still want to be your friend after you have dumped them by email? My ex doesn't resent me or anything, I don't understand. It makes me feel like he felt nothing for me. How can...
A. 7 February 2013: Hi there. Perhaps he still wants to be friends with you, because he might be hoping that you change your mind and want to go back with him again.
It kind of makes sense, I guess.
You would naturally expect that he would be a little hurt abou... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 7 February 2013: Hi. You can like someone just by liking the look of them.
It all starts with the initial physical attraction, after all.
Just think of it like this.
When you go out and socialize and you see a pretty girl across the room, there is something... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi. when one person likes another person of the opposite sex - but they are a little shy to do anything about it - it can sometimes come across to the other person, as being unfriendly.
She might not be smiling just yet, because she doesn't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi. Your doctor could have a very good point here, because your ex has breached the doctor patient confidentiality.
Even though she may not have told anyone else about what she found in your records, still, she had no right to access your med... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi there. People usually look and turn away, because of shyness.
Especially, when they really like someone.
So it's most likely that she does like you also.
And it's because of shyness that she turns away after.
Don't be offended by th... (read in full...)
First date and I got really nervous. Should I skip class so I don't have to see the guy?
Q. So I've been (sort of) talking to this guy whose in one of my classes a little bit and recently we had our first 'official' coffee date after already having made out/ hung out at a couple of parties before and having class together. Weeelll, ...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi there. All is not lost.
It was only your first date.
Most people are pretty nervous on a first date with someone they really like, it's perfectly normal.
I'm quite sure he could see that for himself.
It's certainly not a reason a... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out? What do I do?
Q. There is this girl that I have been friends with since the beginning of the school year. I really like her but she is towered the higher end of popularity. I want to ask her out because she is funny, very sweet and cute. Yet, I feel too intimidated ...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi there. Well, you already know that you get on really well with each other, so you know what to say sometimes, don't you?
You said here that she is funny, very sweet and cute, and you get along great.
So for you to say that, it means you hav... (read in full...)
I feel very self conscious about sex and don't want it to become a big problem that could potentially ruin our relationship...
Q. My husband and I usually really great sex, but usually he's the one taking the lead. I've felt bad several times because I still feel shy and embarrassed to even talk about how I feel. I had hoped he was okay with that because in a way, I'm too ...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi there. You just need to be honest with him about how you feel, and that you don't feel confident to take the lead right now.
As you are so young, it's likely that you haven't had a lot of experience anyway, so that's quite understa... (read in full...)
Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed?
Q. Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed? We hung out a little bit as friends. We went to see Les Miserable where we held hands. Since then we have been together a couple of times, holding hands an...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi there. You said that you first hung out as friends.
Were you in that situation for very long - was it a couple of years, or was it months or weeks?
And was this situation of being friends, as a part of a group at the time?
It may ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi there. Is he applying for many jobs?
To really give himself more of a chance in getting job offers, it would be useful for him to be applying for something like 10-20 jobs each day.
And also, to apply for jobs he definitely DOES have the sk... (read in full...)
Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Q. I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi there. I honestly believe even though you let him know of this event over a month ago, it is unfortunate that it was on a Sunday, which as you already know he works at his office getting ready for court the next day.
There is a lot of work and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 29 January 2013: Hi. It just sounds like bullying to me, the threatening text messages.
She might be just feeling bitter that it's all over, etc.
You are wise in changing your phone number.... (read in full...)
Confused. I don't know if he's cheating, or is going to leave me, and why has he now stopped communicating?
Q. Confused: I'll begin by saying I've been with my man for 7/years he recently came home from prison almost 2/years ago, 3/13 will be 2/years! I cheated while he was in prison w/ another man for like 3/months! That fling was over in oct/2010! Ever s...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi. As you have said here, if it is meant to be, well then it will be - in time.
I'm glad he has forgiven you, and so now it's a case of him accepting that he will never forget, but that's natural for anyone.
And then choosing to move on regar... (read in full...)
Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% of his attention
Q. Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% attention ? I see a bunch of couples that are our friends and they seem to have a cute relationship, they actually touch and kiss one another more than maybe once a day or ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi there. when you say - "I know my bf is not in love with me yet," I am guessing that this is a fairly new relationship - like, less than 6 months perhaps?
It can take a few months at first, to know whether you are in love or not, so it wouldn't... (read in full...)
What can our recurring dreams mean?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and both us have been having reacquiring nightmares. His is that i leave him for someone else and mine is that i fall in a hole and he sees me fall and says he is going ot help me get out but ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi there. Yes, I agree with "Fatherly Advice," that dreams very often do have some matching up of circumstances in our daily lives.
Perhaps with your boyfriend's dream, it could be a direct matching up of some lingering doubts he has about yo... (read in full...)
First he hates me, now he's friendly - how should I understand it?
Q. I’m a young gay guy and a student. One of my coursemates is a really sexy guy, unfortunately straight. Although even if he would be gay, I would have no chance, because he’s really hot, like a film star. The bad thing is that he’s apparently a ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi there. I am guessing that he has some feelings towards you, and isn't quite sure where to go with it.
And when he used to poke fun at you in classes before, it could have been his way of hiding the fact he has some attraction towards you, jus... (read in full...)
Confused. I don't know if he's cheating, or is going to leave me, and why has he now stopped communicating?
Q. Confused: I'll begin by saying I've been with my man for 7/years he recently came home from prison almost 2/years ago, 3/13 will be 2/years! I cheated while he was in prison w/ another man for like 3/months! That fling was over in oct/2010! Ever s...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi there. Is it possible that he has found out that you cheated on him while he was in prison?
He might know, and just is not saying anything.
Is it possible he could even find out that information from someone else?
And this man you chea... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. Yes, it probably is your best course of action now - to give him some space - as it seems like some kind of stage he is going through.
Perhaps he is taking these drugs to handle the stress of studying, and it helps him to chill out.
... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
If you have any more problems, please let me know here.
Or you could always write to my private mailbox - then I won't miss seeing it, if it was a completely new posting.
Thanks.... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. So are you saying that his ex, got remarried to this other man?
And the three of them have remained friends?
Well anyway, that is good news, the baby isn't his.
Thanks for clarifying that, because it changes things a lot to what I f... (read in full...)
How can I get everyone in the house to help? Not just me?
Q. Hi, My mom has long run a busy household which was always full. All my life my mom only ever let me Hoover or dust and that was when I asked to do it. If you ever offered to do dishes or washing she would tell you " you won't do it properly" No...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi. High blood pressure which is untreated - because she doesn't like taking tablets - is potentially a life threatening situation.
Stroke being one of those consequences.
Possibly also heart attack and kidney problems.
Perhaps she isn... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hello again. It does seem that things have changed for him in a short time, doesn't it?
So it's possible that things might have started to change for him during the holidays between semesters, do you think?
And so it's nothing you have done wr... (read in full...)
How important is a "spark" on the first date?
Q. This afternoon I went on my first date with this guy I met online about a week ago. He seems like a really good person, we have some important things in common and physically I think he's good-looking (though the latter is least important to me....
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. You met this guy online one week ago, but did you chat online with him for one week every day before you went out on your first date?
There is always a certain perception of mystery when you only talk to someone without seeing them fac... (read in full...)
My ex will not see me and is using her mother as a shield
Q. Dear cupids My heart is breaking because the girl I love (Caroline) is refusing to speak to me. Caroline has ended our relationship on a weekly basis pretty much for the whole of the last year. But we truly love each other and we both know we are m...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I guess the on again and off again type situation, really depends on what it is that happens right before she decides to call it off.
Like, is it some kind of misunderstanding between you, for instance?
Has she been married before? ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. The very first concern of yours now, is that his ex is pregnant.
And it's all the more of an issue, because he was hanging out again with his ex recently - before you and he got together as a couple - which I'm guessing is when she fell... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I am getting mixed messages from you here, regards the status of your relationship.
And by that, I mean, you are or were in contact quite a lot by Facebook, talking to each other.
And then you only sometimes seem to be actually seei... (read in full...)
How can I get everyone in the house to help? Not just me?
Q. Hi, My mom has long run a busy household which was always full. All my life my mom only ever let me Hoover or dust and that was when I asked to do it. If you ever offered to do dishes or washing she would tell you " you won't do it properly" No...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. This is the problem with being a perfectionist - your mother, I mean.
She believes no-one else can do as good a job as she can, with everything that needs to be done.
Unfortunately, with this way of thinking, it just makes more work ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I totally agree with you about formally pressing charges against your ex girlfriend.
It seems that, as you said yourself here, she is simply trying to get you back for the photos she saw, of you kissing some other girl, and has told the... (read in full...)
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