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writes:I'm 34 weeks pregnant. My baby's dad and I just got back together today.. We've been apart officially for only 3 weeks. In that time, he hung with an ex girlfriend, took her on a boat and beach, and to a theme park. They kissed but claimed he didn't do anything else. Today we were texting, and we were sending naughty pics and videos, and he sent me a link and said "send a video like this"... I don't know what to think of it. I felt very insecure.. Especially with the way things have been.. Am I going crazy? Should I embrace that he wanted that type of video from me?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (18 July 2016):
No, why would you want to send him explicit videos/pictures? This guy doesnt respect you. Tell him to grow up and prepare for fatherhood
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 July 2016):
 Sweetie are you sure that this relationship is strong at the moment, I feel sorry for you because you are heavily pregnant and he was out on dates with his ex as if he did not have a care in the world, now he is asking you to send naughty pictures/ videos. If you are not comfortable then no do not send it, tell him you are not comfortable, if he loved you then he would respect that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (10 July 2016):
 To be honest, I don't think you should have anything more than a civil friendship with this guy, after what he did with leaving you and his baby, dating again within 3 weeks, then trying to get sexts and videos from you.
If you don't leave him and stop the sexting, I think you'll get hurt and potentially your baby too because there will be more sourness between their mum and dad.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 July 2016):
 Are you worried he will leave again and that is why he wants naughty pictures? And why you are giving in?
I'd say no on naughty pictures, because he can SEE you in person and be "naughty" in person.
And I think YOU should reconsider this guy in your life, whether he is the baby-daddy or not. Someone who leaves his preggo GF and go out dating after LESS than a 3 weeks of a "break up"/"break"... is not someone who is REALLY ready to be a father.
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reader, Roses2016 +, writes (9 July 2016):
Roses2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I get them from him too.. And I never put my face in the videos or pictures. I felt weird how he sent me a link on how he wanted it.. I felt like maybe I was overreacting. Thank you all so far for your answers.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (9 July 2016):
 Boat,beach, theme park and a pash with an ex-and no sex? i'd be doing an STI test before anything else. Should you embrace his request, no too many victims of revenge porn.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (9 July 2016):
 I think you are old enough to realise what happens to 'Naughty pics and videos'. You release private pictures of yourself which are open to exploitation now, or in some uncertain future. Keep it safe keep it private is the best advice I can give.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (9 July 2016):
You only just got back together and have pretended nothing happened, so no. Besides, this relationship doesn't seem very strong, so even pictures seem like a bad idea - do you get them from him too?
OP, I think you should refuse and both of you should work on the problems that caused you to break up, of it'll happen over and over.
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