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Back before the internet, here were your options:
-Friends and family
-Your women or men's magazine
-The weekly Ask Amy column in the newspaper
-A school counselor
-Encyclopedia
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Here was the problem. You were receiving advice from single, subjective source.
The beauty here is you can receive advice from multiple people of different gender, ethnicity and experience.
I know the internet is something to fear, but it can also be beautiful.
It's Pandoras Box. Sure, bad things surface from the internet, i.e. stalking, cyberbullying, procrastination, etc, however think of the HOPE you receive from it. You can see that there are people out there genuinely trying to give good advice. You're able to learn new recipes for your spouse with just a click of the mouse. Seeing pictures of different countries can inspire you to actually go. |
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I was wondering if you guys/girls think I could become pregnant.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pickle. We had sex and he finished inside of me. BUT some factors will affect this. This was on 3/1/12. Today is 3/3/12. 1. I am on birth control, the pill Ortho-Tricyclen. But on 2/29/12 I couldnt take my pill. ...
A. 3 March 2012: It's very unlikely that you are pregnant from this accident. On the warning labels on your birth control packets, they say that if you missed a pill, you take it as soon as you remember and you should be okay. If you miss it 2-3 days in a row, you ... (read in full...)
Just started getting close to my best friend but I think I just stuck my foot in it!
Q. I've just started getting close to my best friend again but already I feel like I've stuck my foot in it. We were hanging out and he was telling me about this girl that he'd fooled around with while he was drunk and that he felt really guilty about ...
A. 3 March 2012: Wow, this guy doesn't respect women. He's trying to get with a girl even though he originally "regretted it?" Yeah right. Let's make this clear, you were trying to look after him, but his reaction was to flip out and start an argument.
How i... (read in full...)
This kind sweet man is a cheater!
Q. Hi All! I am in a relationship with my colleague since a year. I'm 23 years old while he is 41 years old. He is separated (they used to have a lot of arguments) and has two kids who he meets regularly. He is a really nice guy. Friendly, helpf...
A. 3 March 2012: You need to stick to your beliefs and your morals. You say it yourself, you cannot stand cheating, so why should this be any different?
He sounds like he is one smooth operator, honestly. Just because he's super nice to everyone in the office i... (read in full...)
Just being a perv or does he like me?
Q. What does this mean? he like me or just being a perv?? there's a cleaner at work he's only covering the full time cleaner who off sick.. every time i walk past he will suck his teeth and go " hmmm... oh yh" or mainly stop, stand still, st...
A. 3 March 2012: He's not so much a perv, just looking at your like you're a piece of eye candy and thinking it out loud.
If we could hear every man's thoughts, we would think all of them are pervs.
Don't go for him, obviously he doesn't know how to treat a l... (read in full...)
Is this domestic abuse? Is it safe to stay with my father after his behavior towards my mom and me?
Q. Really important- please read. I'm writing regarding an issue I feel it's really serious. I live with my mother and father; whilst I adore her, I never bonded with my father. He is essentially an extremely narcissistic person, who's the center...
A. 2 March 2012: There's definitely a lot of psychological issues going on with your father; he seems to be miserable and angry, and he's taking it out on you and your mother. A lot of these issues could be coming from the fact that he's disabled and is not working- ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to date but wants to "hang out" should I?
Q. I was seeing this guy for almost two months. Everything was going great but he told me he wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment and wants to see other people but he still wants us to hang out. Should i continue to be friends with him or just ...
A. 2 March 2012: Save yourself the trouble, it's going to be hard maintaining a friendship when you like him but he doesn't like you back the way you want.
It's best you stop talking to him, he's made it very clear that he is not interested in dating you, and... (read in full...)
Sexless marriage and no reason for husband's ED. I'm too young to go without sex!
Q. So, my husband has erectile dysfunction the last cople years. It developed very suddenly, but it never improved from any action. Like vacations, romantic nights etc. He had a very extensive medical investigation , and they found nothing wrong ...
A. 2 March 2012: My first thought was diabetes (it causes erectile dysfunction if you've had it for a while) but you said that he had an extensive workup.
My second thought- It's a crass question, but have you noticed if he's still waking up in the morning ... (read in full...)
Feelings of insecurity that b/f will leave me is causing trouble in our relationship
Q. i have been in a happy stable relationship for over half a year now and things are still okay despite the odd hiccup however im starting to become very insecure about losing him.. i constantly have thoughts that he will get bored of me and just lea...
A. 2 March 2012: If you two are in a happy, stable relationship, then why all of a sudden do you have this fear of losing him?
You think he's getting bored? Spice things up a little. Be spontaneous, do something different that's not part of the routine.
Also... (read in full...)
I tell my b/f that I trust him but I really don't. He cheated!
Q. my bf cheated on me 6 months ago with his best girl mate who he promised me it nothing ever like that between them. he told me half an hour after it happened and said it happened for literally half a minute, when he realized what he was doing he ...
A. 2 March 2012: You need to fix a few things here. First of all, you are telling your boyfriend that you trust him when you do not. I think that's the very most important thing you need to be addressing it right now. You need to make it clear that you love him, you ... (read in full...)
I feel like damaged goods because I won't be able to have children and haven't talked with him about it!
Q. well i do love my boyfriend just a few things on my mind and i need some advice. Firstly, christmas time i bought him a ear ring and hes only worn it a handful of times do i ask if he liked it? its niggling at me a bit More importantly on numer...
A. 1 March 2012: Don't bug him about the earrings. Even if you do ask, he'll probably just say that he likes them to make you feel better. It's called a white lie. Anyway- How can you spend your life with someone if you can't talk to that person about seriou... (read in full...)
Does temperature affect the size of your fingers?
Q. Just a quick little question thing. I tried on my mates ring because he told me it was too big for his middle finger which is the one it was meant for so he wore it on his thumb and he told me to put it on to prove a point that it was just too big ...
A. 1 March 2012: An odd but amusing question.
In general, you're body swells up if you have a high intake of sodium... it can cause your fingers to swell up and feel fat.
Your body temp can have a certain affect, but it's very limited. When you are warm, yo... (read in full...)
I'm so shy, I don't think that I will be able to start talking to him and I also have a feeling like he is also too shy.
Q. It a very long story but I'll try to make it as short as I can. There is this guy in my college that I really like. He already knows it because my friend asked him on facebook what he thinks of me and he said he thinks i'm nice but he doesn't know ...
A. 1 March 2012: Okay, so you both are shy, and the most interaction between the two of you has been smiling and him opening the door for you. You're not going to get very far at this rate. If you both are shy, then nothing is going to happen. Someone has to ... (read in full...)
I feel love for my dad's cousin!
Q. What do i should if I feel love for my dad`s cousin and she is eight years older than me?...
A. 1 March 2012: Respect your father. Your father does not want his very own son dating his very own cousin that is 8 years older.
This isn't the kind of territory you want to be walking in. You're young, and it's probably just a crush that will pass in time. It... (read in full...)
Should I stick with him or let him go and sort my head out?
Q. I don't know what to do.. I think my ex has messed up my head. I can't feel feelings and sometimes they're the opposite feeling I am supposed to have. I've had 3 family members die in 3 months and I've hardly cried and when I told friends they've ...
A. 1 March 2012: No, you can't stick with him to see how it pans out. It's NOT fair to him at all that you are just stringing him along. It sounds like you're dating him to be nice and you're scared of hurting his feelings.
It really doesn't sound like your int... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so upset about this?
Q. Me and this guy friend (at least i thought he was) were FWB for a while, which ended badly for me. I really did like him and i've never been into the whole FWB thing but i just went along with it. After a while i realised who he really was, which ...
A. 1 March 2012: You're upset because you liked him and he never liked you back as anything more than a FWB. You're upset because you feel like you've been taken advantage of. He's a player, and he played you. You have a right to feel upset about it.
Just ... (read in full...)
How should I cut her out of my life without falling out?
Q. I feel like one of my good friends does not make an effort to be my friend and Im thinking about burning bridges with her. Weve been friends a while now, about 7 years. To be fair to her, she does work full time and have 2 kids to bring up and is ...
A. 29 February 2012: The only way you will not have a fall out is if you just simply stop talking.
Don't tell her "Hey, I'm not going to talk to you anymore" because that really ignites some tension and drama. Just don't make an effort to talk to her.
If she ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid this model-gorgeous girl will steal my thunder at my wedding!
Q. Hi everyone! I know this is gonna sound childish and all but here's the thing: I'm getting married in a few months. It's gonna be a very intimate ceremony with just my fiancé and I plus the witnesses and a bunch of friends. Problem is, my fiancé's ...
A. 29 February 2012: It's your wedding, all eyes will be on you! Don't worry about it!
It's proper etiquette that everyone dresses down to emphasize the bride. If she doesn't dress down, she looks like an attention whore, so really, don't worry about it :)... (read in full...)
Two years on and things are a lot less physical
Q. Hello everyone.. :) Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years over. Our relationship are great. He is caring, lovely and responsible. But lately I realise that we have less physic contact, he sure hug and kiss me a lot, but he seldom go ...
A. 29 February 2012: It kind of happens. The intensity fizzles out, but just as long as the romance and attraction continues, you have nothing to fear.
Spice things up a little. Surprise him. Just as the male poster below said, it was getting old so she tried somethin... (read in full...)
Why does my male friend avoid me?
Q. Why does my male friend avoid me? We are both 21 and final year university students, 2 years ago our friends tried setting us up - (which we objected to)... and ever since then its like our friendship has been destroyed! He can't stand to be...
A. 29 February 2012: You say "we objected to it" when your friends set you up. Are you sure it was "we" or just you? He might have felt rejected when your response to the set up was to object it. You might need to consider that. If you guys like each other in a gf/bf... (read in full...)
I have no idea if he likes me or not!
Q. Hello! I have a question about wether a guy likes me or not. We are in the same grade and have most of our lessons together. He is fairly tall, like me and we are both thin and have several things in common. My friends keep on telling me what a ...
A. 28 February 2012: I just shared the same suggestion to another young-ling, but here goes:
Sounds like he likes you. I think you need to be the daredevil. If you're too shy to talk to him about it, then do the next obvious thing. Are you on a hugging basis? Next tim... (read in full...)
Really like this boy, but don't know if he likes me back!
Q. I really like this boy but I don't know if he likes me back. I only have one lesson with him and at the beginning of the year I sat near him ( there was a seat inbetween us and only one other person on our table) and we talked and the next week he ...
A. 28 February 2012: Well kid, it certainly sounds like he has a big smile for you. It sounds like he likes you, but the problem is, he isn't sure if YOU like him. Sometimes guys need a little nudge to know they are going in the right direction.
But just to be sure,... (read in full...)
So what is a good way to meet someone as it seems like I have tried everything?
Q. So I have been single for years and really need to meet someone soon, I feel overwhelmed with loneliness. I should have no problems meeting someone because I'm attractive, educated, intelligent, and I have my crap together. My problem seems to be ...
A. 28 February 2012: I can understand your frustration. Is there some cute waiter somewhere at a restaurant or coffee shop you can start a conversation with? I don't want to sound rude, but I have to say, you're slowly treading into deep, dark waters. You are getting ... (read in full...)
Online dating dilemma!
Q. I have recently met a man online. Initially we emailed each other for about three weeks and each time he responded timely and clearly put a lot of effort in his responses. After nearly three weeks of it, I casually suggested that maybe we could ...
A. 28 February 2012: It sounds like he checked out. If he was busy, he would say he's busy but mention that he can't wait to see you. If he remained interested, he would be trying to talk to you and see you. It's possible he's met someone else online.
Just carry on... (read in full...)
I feel like an outsider after our discussion about wills and money!
Q. HI guys. I have posted questions on here before and had some really good advice so hope you can help. To cut a long story short, I have been with my partner almost four years and we are reasonably happy. It started out long distant but i mo...
A. 28 February 2012: I don't know how I can explain this with out being offensive, but he's at the age where he's been divorced and to him, the only thing that is permanent is his kids. I think divorce can really shake your foundations, and I'm sure he loves you very ... (read in full...)
I told my best friend that I like him and now he won't talk to me
Q. Hello, I told my best guy friend of 6 years that I liked him. He is shy as am I so I told him by txt. His reply was 'really? how long have you felt this way?' I told him about a year and now it has been nearly 3 weeks and he has not called,fb or...
A. 28 February 2012: Well if you want my opinion, it sounds like you deserve an answer and he owes you one. You poured out your feelings to him and you told him how you feel. And then he ignores you. You're absolutely right, you deserve an answer to move on and that's ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend taking so long to reply to my texts?
Q. my boyfriend used to text me back instantly after i text him then over time it started taking him longer and longer to reply even after school now it takes him between thirty minutes to an hour to reply to each text it really bugs me because we are ...
A. 28 February 2012: There's a few things to consider here, are you two texting when he's busy? Is he working, for example? He might not be able to text at certain times. It's possible he was replying back instantly at the beginning because he was still in the pha... (read in full...)
I'm scared that things are going to change when my boyfriend goes to college, or he'll fall for some college girl, or his feelings will change
Q. So, I'm now 17, and my boyfriend is 18. As everyone should know, school will be coming to an end soon, and he will go to college. The thing is he will be going to college out of the city, (155mi away). I know it's not a big number, but I don't know ...
A. 28 February 2012: I'm sorry I'm not the type to be able to hug you and tell you "everything is going to be okay, if you love each other, you will find a way to make it work." Statistically speaking, long distance relationships do not pan out. The distance is real... (read in full...)
Will he lose interest? Did we move too fast?
Q. I got drunk 2 nights ago and went to a guys place. He's someone I liked, and have met a few times, hes come over, and we've talked before and flirted. He asked me over and we kissed, he rrespectd me and we didn't do anything that night except ...
A. 28 February 2012: If you're moving at the rate you're going, he's going to lose interest.
I might be old fashioned, but you are moving way too fast.
Guys like to do the chasing. If they conquer what they wanted easily, they lose interest. The whole chasing th... (read in full...)
He has a female friend who I feel is inappropriate.
Q. My and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and have lived together for a year. He is currently in Afghanistan with the military. He has a female friend who I feel is inappropriate. She often sends him pictures to his phone of lit...
A. 28 February 2012: I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but all of sudden, multiple red flags go up to show that your boyfriend isn't that trustworthy after all. That is extremely inappropriate behavior on both their ends. I was actually disgusted reading it, beca... (read in full...)
Is it a myth or truth that you see loved ones before you pass away?
Q. My uncle was recently diagnosed with bowel cancer after prolonged suffering brushing the problem under the carpet hoping it would go away he is 70 yrs old and had always lead an active life style he had surgery last week to remove it tonight i ...
A. 28 February 2012: I think that has more to do with religion and whether you think religion as whole, or a specific religion, is a myth or not. ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up my bondage fetish?
Q. I have a soft bondage fetish, nothing extreme. I have read around on the subject of bringing it up and I realise that I have to start with fuzzy handcuffs etc. until she's ready. However, how should I bring up the conversation? I have been with m...
A. 28 February 2012: You've been dating for 2 months, you list yourself as the age of 18-21 so I imagine she's around that age as well. So I'm going to say it's too soon. Don't bring it up yet, you're going to scare her.
That is unless of course, she seems like a d... (read in full...)
Can a woman propose to her boyfriend?
Q. In this day and age, is it completely out of line for a woman to propose to a man?...
A. 28 February 2012: I don't think it's out of line, but I like the more traditional role of the man asking the woman. I say that because of this- it might offend your man that you are the one playing the male role and he might feel emasculated. He has to tell his ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he just being nice?
Q. So there's this guy at my school. He's a Senior and I'm a Freshman. Every time I see him, he's usually looking at me. A couple days ago, we were both in our separate group of friends next to each other. My sister Kayla knows that I have a crush on ...
A. 17 February 2012: It means he didn't know you are 14. Even though he likes you, he might feel uncomfortable dating some one younger than him. Good luck, I hope it works out. ... (read in full...)
This man just can't take no for an answer
Q. I am divorced. I have put my house up for sale. My realtor came up a few weeks ago. He caught me off guard and stated that he was getting a divorce. On Valentines day he sent me flowers. I wrote him a email and stated I do not date married men (fyi ...
A. 16 February 2012: You did the right thing. You made it very clear that you do not date married men and you did not write back to him.
You can't change creepy people, they will always be creepy. So continue on with your plan of letting this go and find another ... (read in full...)
He pushed me down. Its just not like him.
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half. We've known each other for nearly 7 years...it just took a while to make it official. Once official, things went fast. Within 2 months we were (practically) living together...within 6 ...
A. 16 February 2012: You started it, he reacted the same way you did. Monkey see, monkey do. He's heart broken over it, he didn't wish to do it, and as you've said, he's never done anything like that to you before. YOU'RE the one, on the other hand, who has done it ... (read in full...)
He didn't give me any reason for breakup...
Q. Dear cupid My bf broke up with me yesterday. We had our share of ups and downs. I wanted to make the relationship work, but he doesn't want to. He did'nt give me any reason for breakup, he just said that he doesn't want to see my face or h...
A. 16 February 2012: Well sweetie, even though you say "he didn't even give me any reason for breaking up," it certainly sounds like he did. It was very cruel, but he told you that you are annoying and he doesn't like your looks.
So with those reasons, why would yo... (read in full...)
My parents want me to break up with my boyfriend..
Q. First, i am 15 and he is 16. anyway, my parents have been talking to me lately about breaking up with my boyfriend. we've been dating for over a year! they want me to start dating other people because they think that's its unhealthy for someone my ...
A. 16 February 2012: First, why do your parents think he treats you poorly? What has he done?
Why do you say he's sweet 9/10 times?
Can you explain this to us? That make give us better insight as to why they do not want you dating him.
... (read in full...)
I am confused in this beautiful relationship we have..Please advisee
Q. I am 29 years old and in beautiful relationship with this girl (30 years old) I met her 14 months ago and like her so much and she is such a beautiful person and very supportive. She has done a a lot for me, we also have a healthy relationship. ...
A. 16 February 2012: Why should it bug you that she was in a relationship with another guy? That's all in the past. Why are you so bothered that she doesn't talk about it? That's a good thing!
Look, you describe her to be this beautiful, caring person. That's all that... (read in full...)
How can I start to talk to her?
Q. Hello there~ So.. Since December my mother and I have been working out things for me to start Online classes. We went to the place where I'll be picking up my work online every week once a week. And it's about 2hrs-3hrs away since I take abou...
A. 15 February 2012: Good luck to you! ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone ever like me?
Q. Okay so valentines this year has me thinking. I never had a boyfriend ever. The guys I always like never like me they always see me as their bestfriend. I am a smart girl, I'm chubby but I look good, I sing,have a nice personality,nice style I'm ...
A. 14 February 2012: Don't worry about it, dating in high school isn't that much fun anyway. You're going to love college, and you're going to meet many mature men focusing on the same major of yours. Things always fall in place! Just keep your head up!... (read in full...)
Risk it all and ask him out?
Q. Hello Cupids EVery day for the last 5 months, I have wanted to tell my best friend of 4 years that I like him more than an friend. However, he is so shy when it comes to dating and love. I have felt strongly towards him for a while, but I don’t kn...
A. 14 February 2012: Well are you two going to remain friends in this awkward situation? How are you supposed to remain as casual friends with all these mixed, frustrating emotions that have been building up?
You have two options at this point:
-Continue to ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he just being nice?
Q. So there's this guy at my school. He's a Senior and I'm a Freshman. Every time I see him, he's usually looking at me. A couple days ago, we were both in our separate group of friends next to each other. My sister Kayla knows that I have a crush on ...
A. 14 February 2012: Considering he smiles and looks at you all the time, and he looked for you on facebook, it means he is interested in you.
Now "interested" can go both ways. He is either interested in you as a person, or he is interested in you to get into you... (read in full...)
How can I start to talk to her?
Q. Hello there~ So.. Since December my mother and I have been working out things for me to start Online classes. We went to the place where I'll be picking up my work online every week once a week. And it's about 2hrs-3hrs away since I take abou...
A. 10 February 2012: Simple. Just talk. So you're new around there? Fantastic. Introduce yourself and ask if she can show you around or give you any sort of advice. That gets the ball rolling to ask "so how long have you been here?" "what do you do?" etc. Once you've ... (read in full...)
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