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I wonder what it was like before everyone had the internet- how did girls get advice without having to confide in her parents? How did husband get advice without having to receive biased opinions from mutual friends?

Back before the internet, here were your options:

-Friends and family

-Your women or men's magazine

-The weekly Ask Amy column in the newspaper

-A school counselor

-Encyclopedia

-Talk shows

Here was the problem. You were receiving advice from single, subjective source.

The beauty here is you can receive advice from multiple people of different gender, ethnicity and experience.

I know the internet is something to fear, but it can also be beautiful.

It's Pandoras Box. Sure, bad things surface from the internet, i.e. stalking, cyberbullying, procrastination, etc, however think of the HOPE you receive from it. You can see that there are people out there genuinely trying to give good advice. You're able to learn new recipes for your spouse with just a click of the mouse. Seeing pictures of different countries can inspire you to actually go.

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Does he like me or is he just being nice?

Q.   So there's this guy at my school. He's a Senior and I'm a Freshman. Every time I see him, he's usually looking at me. A couple days ago, we were both in our separate group of friends next to each other. My sister Kayla knows that I have a crush on ...

A.   17 February 2012: It means he didn't know you are 14. Even though he likes you, he might feel uncomfortable dating some one younger than him. Good luck, I hope it works out. ... (read in full...)

Risk it all and ask him out?

Q.   Hello Cupids EVery day for the last 5 months, I have wanted to tell my best friend of 4 years that I like him more than an friend. However, he is so shy when it comes to dating and love. I have felt strongly towards him for a while, but I don’t kn...

A.   14 February 2012: Well are you two going to remain friends in this awkward situation? How are you supposed to remain as casual friends with all these mixed, frustrating emotions that have been building up? You have two options at this point: -Continue to ... (read in full...)

The ex texted me and now I'm really confused

Q.   My ex texted me for the first time in weeks!! It didnt end well since my ex's sister broke the news that he found someone else to me. I'd cried for him for days and had started councilling because was so upset. Today he sent me a silly valentine ...

A.   14 February 2012: Don't start another relationship, don't talk to him, just ignore him. Remember, you had to hear it from his sister that he met someone else! Why would you want to get back together with someone who ignored you and got with another girl? As if yo... (read in full...)

How to figure out if my online crush is taken?

Q.   I really like this guy but I can't tell if he is taken or not. I know it's just online and I shouldn't get so involved but I sort of have a crush on him. He is friends with this other girl and they joke or say that they are 'engaged'. I kno...

A.   14 February 2012: I'm happy to hear that!... (read in full...)

I rejected him because I was I wasn't sure what sort of relationship I wanted with him

Q.   Dear agony aunts, it's valentine's day today and I gave a valentine to the guy that I rejected a few months back but really liked a lot(the thing is, I don't know what kind of way I like him!) . And he was astoundingly cold to me, as though I was ...

A.   14 February 2012: You are somewhat selfish to think that you can reject this guy and then come up to him months later with a valentines day card, and expect him to be super happy about it. You don't seem to know what you want from him, and it's not fair to string h... (read in full...)

Should I leave my boyfriend for a guy who I still have feelings for but it never worked out in the past?

Q.   Hello:) I'm having trouble with relationships. I was going out with this guy a few years ago, lets call him 'Mat' then I started hanging round with a new friendship group and pretty much fell in love with someone in the group. I didn't do anyth...

A.   14 February 2012: Are you seriously going to throw out your relationship with Alex, one as you describe being an amazing person over some spark you feel with your ex? You said it yourself that it didn't work out because it felt like you two were just friends ... (read in full...)

I'm usually shy, but with her I feel just fine. Should I go for it?

Q.   Alright guys, so I'm a freshman at my school, and I was at a cross country meet, I'm not the fastest but oh well. Anyways, The fastest girl in my school saw the place I got and was being nice and this happened a couple of times. Then I starte...

A.   14 February 2012: Dude, if you guys are talking and she seems to enjoy talking to you, ask her out! It means she likes you! It's a tad late to ask her out for Valentine's day, so try this: Get her a valentine's day card and give it to her before going to class or... (read in full...)

How can I know my ex is ok?

Q.   I dated a guy for 5 months in the time I got to know him he put himself down a lot. He would say things like "nobody really crares about me" He was very clingy and afton asked what he could do to seem more attractive to me. He has admited to ...

A.   14 February 2012: It's sweet that you want to check up on him, but you probably shouldn't. You've clearly stated that you don't want to get back together with him. Initiating contact and checking on him gives him the impression you're still interested in him- ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or is he just being nice?

Q.   So there's this guy at my school. He's a Senior and I'm a Freshman. Every time I see him, he's usually looking at me. A couple days ago, we were both in our separate group of friends next to each other. My sister Kayla knows that I have a crush on ...

A.   14 February 2012: Considering he smiles and looks at you all the time, and he looked for you on facebook, it means he is interested in you. Now "interested" can go both ways. He is either interested in you as a person, or he is interested in you to get into you... (read in full...)

Why do some guys behave like this?

Q.   Dear friends, i am a bit perplexed with regard to the behaviour of some guys who i think like getting satisfaction from humiliating others. I met this guy three months ago, we enxanged phone numbers and he asked me to call him (so as not distu...

A.   14 February 2012: I don't know why guys behave like this, I would like to know myself. But I do know that every girl should stay away from a a guy so unreliable such as this one!... (read in full...)

Am I insecure or is he fooling me?

Q.   Ok so my boyfriend of two years is very nice. Hes kind to me but he knows i have issues with him having female friends (diff story-he cheated once before etc) . Hes very considerate about everyone so much so it kind of annoys me. Hes nice about ...

A.   14 February 2012: It would be difficult to confront him about this considering you were the one snooping in on his emails and discovered the interaction between the two. He will use that against you if you decide to confront him. I see a few red flags reading th... (read in full...)

Just met his ex and she's clearly not over him but he can't see it

Q.   What would you do in this scenario? I met his exGF of 12 years - they lived together all that time, no kids. I went with him to meet her. She is constantly wanting to see him and I've told him I'm not comfortable with that. Well she keeps asking ...

A.   14 February 2012: OP, state to your man exactly what you stated here. -You tried to converse with her and tried to be cordial, but she did not reciprocate. -Really emphasize that your uncomfortable with it once again, and this time, ask what he would do if the ... (read in full...)

My biological clock is ticking loudly, but after ten years he's still "not ready"

Q.   I desperately need some advice and would love to hear from others who have been in my situation. I've been with my partner for 10 years. I love him with all my heart. He's sweet, kind, patient, extremely intelligent and I know he'll make a bri...

A.   14 February 2012: I see a red flag go up: You two are not married. Yes you love him, and none of that matters, you've never pressured him, and even though you live together and have been together for 10 years, you are not married. Have you ever thought to yourself... (read in full...)

Shy and new to dating

Q.   Hello everyone, I really need your help, I am new to dating and everything and therefore I can be quite shy and not very relaxed when I go out with a boy. I went on a date last week and it was a little awkward at times, a few silences, I was ...

A.   14 February 2012: It's impossible to fill an entire date with conversation... not feeling the need to talk all the time shows that you are a confident person. As for conversation starters, think: Movies, TV shows, recent news, hobbies. Also, show that you ar... (read in full...)

How to figure out if my online crush is taken?

Q.   I really like this guy but I can't tell if he is taken or not. I know it's just online and I shouldn't get so involved but I sort of have a crush on him. He is friends with this other girl and they joke or say that they are 'engaged'. I kno...

A.   14 February 2012: I would take it as a sign that this guy doesn't want a serious relationship when he can't put a serious indication to what his status is. Forget him.... (read in full...)

She seemed interested, but hasn't called back

Q.   hey guys not been here in years but maybe you can help I'm 20 now and met a stunnin irish girl on friday night and she asked me out on saturday night unfortunatly I was at a restaurant with my parents so couldnt meet up so I flirted with text that ...

A.   14 February 2012: Well, her last message to you indicates her departure from the conversation when she ends it with "good luck!" She was probably busy after that point. Try again tomorrow. ... (read in full...)

My ex left me for his former ex. Now he wants me back. Can I trust him?

Q.   I met this guy and it didn't take long for me to fall for him. He was honestly everything I'd been searching for in a guy. He was also in the army, but that didn't bother me because I was still planning on sticking with him. Anyway, he was so...

A.   13 February 2012: It's only natural that you harbor feelings of mistrust, he left you for his ex and now he wants you back. Just like strongfb mentioned, it really does strike me as well that he wants things to work. If you think about it, he was always honest t... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt my friend and like this boy

Q.   my friend was seeing this boy about a year ago and they were very close and pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend but they weren't actually going out. after about half a year this 'relationship' broke off, but they are still very good friends,...

A.   13 February 2012: Girls and guys have this code- you don't touch your best friend's exes. You have broken this code, and it appears as though your friend has forgiven you. You can't afford to do this again if your friendship means anything to you. If you do it aga... (read in full...)

Why is this woman appearing and disappearing from his facebook page?

Q.   I'm not really worried about this, but i'm curious about it. I have been dating someone for a few weeks now. After the night we first met, we kept intouch on facebook. I noticed that a woman had left a comment on his page saying " Hey, still on ...

A.   13 February 2012: You don't have to ask him about it, you two have just started dating. It seems like he is over this woman but she is not over him. It appears as though he ignored her and removed her from his friend's list to avoid her posting any more personal... (read in full...)

What do you write in a valentine card to a boy?

Q.   hi. well, valentines is tommorrow. i have made a card and its all ready to go except for one small thing... I Dont Know What To Write In It!!!! My name is Becky and I'm 14 and he is Rhys and he's 15. Well, he's in year 11 anyway and I'm only year...

A.   13 February 2012: "wishing you lots of laughs and smiles. -Your name" There. Not sappy, but cute. Maybe even draw a smiley after you've signed your name. It shows you were thoughtful, and it shows you are not rushing into making this serious or some sort of adu... (read in full...)

Long story about a crush that lasted longer than I thought

Q.   Thank you for reading this even after the title. I've been having a crush on this guy for over a year. Shortly after we met he started sending me frequent texts, asking me out, telling me everything about him, etc. Everything that made me think he...

A.   13 February 2012: You should move on. Any chance of it working out is now lost. He's going to leave to study abroad. It doesn't seem like he was that into you anyway, otherwise he would have pursued a relationship with you. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to like her but I don't want to hate her either!

Q.   There's this girl. My boyfriend used to really like her, before he met me. I started their school in September, and I met my boyfriend. We got together, and everything was fine. Then she started sending me these texts: ""WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF...

A.   13 February 2012: Sounds like she's jealous and is trying to ruin your relationship. Do not talk to her or reply to her stupid text messages to you, you will only fuel the flame to her immaturity. She's a young girl, if she starts spreading rumors, go tell ... (read in full...)

Is it safe to say that I'm probably not his type?

Q.   does it sound like this guy would honestly be interested in me or that I'm his type? his last gf jokes around a lot, talks about things like farting and being fat. She isn't fat but jokes about it. She is quite outgoing and outspoken. He also has a ...

A.   13 February 2012: Why are you trying to justify this? If you're not his type, so what? Why does it have to be about what HE likes out of a girl? Carry on with your life, focus on school and if a good guy likes you, he will let you know. ... (read in full...)

How can I explain to my parents that I am planning to move interstate with my 26 year old boyfriend?

Q.   My boyfriend (26yrs old) and I have been living together for a year and are planning to move interstate within the next couple of months. I have not told my parents yet. The problem is my boyfriend works with my father. I cannot tell my father ...

A.   13 February 2012: I'm always weary of these situations where a girl is preparing herself to move away from family for the sake of a boyfriend. It's one thing to move away for your husband, but to tag along with your boyfriend? I don't think a woman should make def... (read in full...)

Why is he threatening to break up if I refuse to delete pictures from my FaceBook?

Q.   My boyfriend of two months just started saying that it's bothering him that i have a few pictures of my ex on my facebook profile. The pictures are just of prom posses which shouldn't bother him. (it wouldn't bother me at least) and there are a few ...

A.   13 February 2012: If this is how he's reacting about a boy from the past, how is he going to react to you casually talking to a male coworker? Or male friend? He really seems insecure, and he doesn't have to drag you down because of it. ... (read in full...)

Is she just being nice?

Q.   I dated this girl like a year ago. Actually we had dated a year before that but I blew her off becuase I didn't know what I wanted at the time.(I know I was an idiot.) Next year we started dating again but like 6 months ago she told me she was not ...

A.   13 February 2012: She texted you out of the blue to say Hi. She's giving you the green lights to open contact and communication. Girls like to be chased after, so since she initiated contact, it means she gave you the go ahead to pursue her. Just know what you want... (read in full...)

How can I pursue this relationship without going over the top and pushing the girl away?

Q.   I find myself becoming obsessed with certain women I date and I feel it always messes up anything that could be. I am in this situation right now again. I am 32 and a good looking guy. When I meet someone I am extremely attracted to I tend to ...

A.   13 February 2012: Watch the show Friends. Watch the show when Ross is madly in love with Rachael. Don't do what Ross does. Ross is insanely clingy.... (read in full...)

Why did he regret kissing me? Why is he behaving in this manner?

Q.   Hello:) I've got a few questions, but first, here's a quick overview. Basically i'm almost 16 and i had my first kiss last weekend. It was at a party but the guy and i had been talking for about 3 hours, during which time i had tested...

A.   13 February 2012: You being clever is a negative thing in his opinion? I doubt his FB was hacked, especially when it goes along with him saying that he was annoyed with himself after kissing you. Let's make this perfectly clear. This kid is not mature. Do yours... (read in full...)

Why should I feel guilty over leaving him for a guy that loves and respects me?

Q.   Okay, so first a little background story. I met this guy through my sister, and all she did was speak great things about him. He had wanted to go out with her when he met her but she didn't like him, she liked his friend. So when I went to visit her ...

A.   13 February 2012: Let's go back to what you titled this post. You titled it "Why should I feel guilty over leaving him for a guy that loves and respects me?" Let's analyze this. You're leaving this guy, who tried to pressure you into having sex. You want to be ... (read in full...)

Is it reasonable to be angry about this behaviour from the baby-father?

Q.   Okay so I have a one month old baby. Me and the father were debating on getting back together and becoming a family when out of nowhere he texts me and says my son is about to have a little sister. The other woman only has 4 months to go until ...

A.   13 February 2012: You should be angry and terribly hurt by this. And no you are not over reacting. He lied to you saying that he was simply a sperm donor and he is blaming you saying that the reason he went astray was because you were being mean, moody and pushing ... (read in full...)

Why is my B/f trying to make me feel guilty when he is the one at fault?

Q.   About 5 days ago,I hung up on my boyfriend due to his behavior.He was intoxicated, not nice with his comments etccc...He hurt my feelings by the way he was acting so I hung up on him. 2 days ago,I had cooled off and felt guilty to hang up on him so ...

A.   13 February 2012: He has been distant, not calling you when he said he would... see where this is going? And for one thing, he should be apologizing as well. You've done your part apologizing for hanging up, but where was his apology about acting like a drunken ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to spend $5 at the school cafeteria to send an anonymous gift to my crush?

Q.   There's this thing going on at my school where if you have a crush on someone, you could spend five dollars at the cafeteria to send them an anonymous gift. I'm thinking about doing this for the guy I have a crush on but I'm not so sure, I mean ...

A.   13 February 2012: Don't do it unless you plan on following up on it. It would be pointless to spend your money and send him a gift when 1. he doesn't know who it's from and 2. you don't plan on doing anything about it.... (read in full...)

Is my ex jealous that I have met someone else?

Q.   Is my ex boyfriend jealous that i have met someone else?. The guy i am currently dating is a lot older than me, but me ex is a bit younger than me. My ex sent me a text message saying " The old dirty b*****d can have you. I wash my hands of you ", ...

A.   13 February 2012: He's your ex, why should you care if he's jealous? Enjoy your new relationship. I know you guys dated for 6 years on and off, that's a long time, but you don't owe him anything. Things didn't work out and obviously you're moving on in your lif... (read in full...)

I want to break up with my b/f and get back the money he owes me!

Q.   I gave my boyfriend about US$3,600 when it was equivalent to GBP £2,000 few yrs ago. He abused me a lot verbally and mentally so I am thinking to break up with him. I want that money back but should I ask him in dollar or in pound? Coz if he ...

A.   13 February 2012: If he's abusive to you mentally, it almost seems as though he used you as well, he asked to borrow a lot of money from you. You might just have to take the loss and leave him. It doesn't sound like you would have an easy time getting the money ba... (read in full...)

Boyfriend having a hard time staying erect.

Q.   I have been seeing a guy for a couple months now. Everything is great and we have a great time together,he's very sweet and thoughtful. But there seems to be a problem in the sex department,which I have just recently found out. We were not se...

A.   13 February 2012: Being a medical professional, my first thought was- is he diabetic? Diabetes and diabetes medication can cause a certain side effect in men- erectile dysfunction. Otherwise it's about time you two discuss the issue, and have a real talk about it... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is leaving for the Navy

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We are both in our early 20's and in a very serious relationship. He just joined the Navy a couple of months ago and is leaving for boot camp in August. I know that he will be assigned to a ...

A.   13 February 2012: He hasn't committed to marrying you, has he? You haven't mentioned that you are engaged or married. So why should you commit to moving? He's in the Navy, it's possible that he might be moving a lot. It's one thing to move for your husband, but it's ... (read in full...)

My life feels out of control so am I controlling the only thing I can..my emotions for my boyfriend?

Q.   I need help pleeeease =/ Me and my bf of 1.5 years have been having a few issues, mainly with him saying that he thought I was cheating on him because of a certain misunderstanding. Either way we somewhat started to move on and yet I wasn't really h...

A.   10 February 2012: You believe you have depression but you haven't gone to a doc yet? Maybe it's time you do. Talk to your school counselor, your parents, perhaps attend some therapy sessions, see a doctor. You need help getting a handle on controlling your emotions... (read in full...)

B/f dumped me out of the blue and now he wants to be friends. I don't know what to do here!

Q.   heyy guys okay soo my boyfriend just dumped me..not really giving me a legit reason..things were PERFECT then one day he lied to me and said that he was grounded and he couldnt see me but he ended up hanging out with another girl and her ...

A.   10 February 2012: So CheerWhore23, He's letting you down as easy as possible. He's already lied to you saying he was grounded when instead he was hanging out with other girls. And then he goes to tell you that you're the best girlfriend he's ever had but he can't... (read in full...)

Having doubts about my relationship! Help!!

Q.   hi, ill try and keep this short.. ive been having doubts about being with my boyfriend.. we've been together 5 months.. we were friends long before that and we were kinda together before this, but unoffically as i was living far away. im home now ...

A.   10 February 2012: Have you talked to him about sharing the household responsibilities? You guys are going to move in together in a few months, is he still living with his parents for the time being? Once upon a time I received excellent advice from an older w... (read in full...)

My friend has messages on her phone from the guy that I like that say "I love you". She says its just a joke. Should I believe it?

Q.   hi!just want to ask for some piece of advice..the situation goes like this: I have a guy friend let's just call him RC and a girl friend by the name of MAE. the three of us are very close friends.we use to hang-out during our free time or after our ...

A.   10 February 2012: I don't think you should believe Mae. How can "Hon" and "I love you" can simply be an inside joke between them? It doesn't seem like you have an honest friend. ... (read in full...)

Should I contact my ex? I still miss him and can't get closure

Q.   Should I call or send a text to my ex bf. I miss Him so much. He ended it almost 3 months ago and I still don't know y. He said I was being to needy bt I was js showing concern for him and his family. I cry all the time cz I really love him. I want ...

A.   10 February 2012: No, you should not contact him. He ended it 3 months ago. And he told you the reason why, that you were being needy. Isn't that closure enough? He gave you a reason! And considering that you guys have not spoken in 3 months, it would be very rud... (read in full...)

Why does this guy act like he likes me when he has a girlfriend?

Q.   I have a guy friend and we joke around but I like him as a friend. He teases and makes jokes about me. The other night I think he'd been drinking. He came up to me and was trying to get my attention. I asked him what he wanted and he said he wanted ...

A.   10 February 2012: Sounds he like used the excuse of him being drunk to get the truth out of you. If he was in fact testing you, then all he got out of it was "you're being weird and a bit ridiculous." Remain his friend and keep it as simple as that. Don't give him... (read in full...)

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